Az\u0259rbaycanda bo\u015fanan qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r daha \u00e7ox 5 il\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r davam ed\u0259n ail\u0259lik h\u0259yat\u0131ndan sonra ayr\u0131lma\u011fa q\u0259rar verirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n
\u00d6t\u0259n il \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 14 514 bo\u015fanma hal\u0131 olub ki, onlar\u0131n da \u00e7oxunun nikah\u0131n\u0131n davametm\u0259 m\u00fcdd\u0259ti 5 il\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r olub. Bo\u015fananlar aras\u0131nda nikahlar\u0131 9 il\u0259d\u0259k davam ed\u0259nl\u0259rin say\u0131 nisb\u0259t\u0259n azd\u0131r.<\/p>\n
\u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, evliliyin ilk 6 ay\u0131, 5 ili v\u0259 15-ci ili b\u00f6hranl\u0131 ill\u0259r hesab olunur. Bu ill\u0259ri nec\u0259 ke\u00e7m\u0259li oldu\u011funu bilm\u0259y\u0259n b\u0259zi evli c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r bo\u015fanman\u0131 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f yolu kimi se\u00e7ir. B\u00f6hran d\u00f6n\u0259ml\u0259rind\u0259 nec\u0259 davranmal\u0131 oldu\u011funu bil\u0259n c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r is\u0259 u\u011furlu evlilik h\u0259yat\u0131na davam ed\u0259 bilir.<\/p>\n
Aralar\u0131nda sevgi ba\u011f\u0131 olmayan c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin bir evliliyi xo\u015fb\u0259xt ya\u015famas\u0131 imkans\u0131zd\u0131r<\/strong><\/p>\n ARANTV.AZ<\/strong>\u00a0 bildirir ki, t\u00fcrkiy\u0259li psixoloq Ahmet Tu\u011frul D\u0259mirin bu bar\u0259d\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n t\u00f6vsiy\u0259l\u0259ri var. Onun fikrinc\u0259, h\u0259r evlilikd\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259nil\u0259 bil\u0259n b\u00f6hran d\u00f6n\u0259ml\u0259rini sa\u011fl\u0131ql\u0131 \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ke\u00e7m\u0259k, evliliyin xo\u015fb\u0259xt v\u0259 h\u00fczurlu bir \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 davam etm\u0259sin\u0259 imkan yarad\u0131r:<\/p>\n “Evlilikd\u0259 probleml\u0259rin \u00e7ox ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 ill\u0259r \u00e7\u0259tin olsa da, b\u00f6hran zamanlar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fczg\u00fcn ke\u00e7dikd\u0259n sonra probleml\u0259ri h\u0259ll etm\u0259k asanla\u015f\u0131r. Evlilik q\u0259rar\u0131 ver\u0259n c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r biri-birind\u0259n sevgi, h\u00f6rm\u0259t, s\u0259daq\u0259t, m\u00fcnasib\u0259t m\u00f6vzusunda n\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259dikl\u0259rini yax\u015f\u0131 bilm\u0259lidir. Bu m\u00f6vzularda raz\u0131l\u0131\u011fa g\u0259lm\u0259dikd\u0259 evliliyin ilk ill\u0259rind\u0259 probleml\u0259r ba\u015flayacaq. Aralar\u0131nda sevgi ba\u011f\u0131 olmayan c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin bir evliliyi xo\u015fb\u0259xt ya\u015famas\u0131 imkans\u0131zd\u0131r”.<\/p>\n Psixoloq hesab edir ki, evl\u0259n\u0259n c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin ilk alt\u0131 ay\u0131na baxd\u0131qda, onlar\u0131n evlilik h\u0259yat\u0131na yeni al\u0131\u015fma\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u0259rik. Bu d\u00f6n\u0259md\u0259ki \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck risk arvad\u0131n valideynl\u0259rind\u0259n he\u00e7 c\u00fcr qopa bilm\u0259m\u0259sidir. \u00d6zl\u0259rini h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 ana v\u0259 atas\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 hiss ed\u0259n c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r yeni bir ail\u0259 qurduqlar\u0131n\u0131n f\u0259rqind\u0259 deyill\u0259r. Bu durum probleml\u0259r yarad\u0131r: “H\u0259l\u0259 valideynl\u0259r d\u0259 \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n yaxas\u0131n\u0131 buraxmay\u0131b daim qar\u0131\u015farlarsa, probleml\u0259rin i\u00e7ind\u0259n \u00e7\u0131x\u0131lmaz bir hal yaran\u0131r. T\u0259bii ki, ilk 6 ayda, arvadlar\u0131n ke\u00e7mi\u015fd\u0259ki ya\u015fam t\u0259rzl\u0259rind\u0259n yan ke\u00e7\u0259 bilm\u0259m\u0259k inad\u0131 da t\u0259sirlidir. Nec\u0259 ki, ki\u015fil\u0259r d\u0259 \u00f6z dostlar\u0131 il\u0259 gec\u0259l\u0259r y\u0131\u011f\u0131\u015f\u0131b harasa ged\u0259r\u0259k h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 ihmal edirl\u0259r. Bu d\u00f6n\u0259mi u\u011furlu ke\u00e7m\u0259yin yolu evliliy\u0259 valideynl\u0259ri qar\u0131\u015fd\u0131rmamaq, \u0259r-arvad\u0131n \u00f6z aralar\u0131nda m\u00fctl\u0259q yax\u015f\u0131 \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t qurmas\u0131 v\u0259 \u0259lb\u0259tt\u0259, “M\u0259n art\u0131q evliy\u0259m” fikrini a\u011f\u0131llar\u0131na yerl\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259sidir”.<\/p>\n \u018fn a\u011fr\u0131l\u0131 m\u00fcdd\u0259t is\u0259 evliliyin ilk 2-3 ilin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr<\/strong><\/p>\n Psixoloq deyir ki, evliliyin birinci ili evlilik h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n m\u0259suliyy\u0259tinin yava\u015f-yava\u015f hiss etdirdiyi d\u00f6n\u0259mdir: “Evli olmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn evl\u0259n\u0259nl\u0259rin \u0259n \u00e7\u0259tin ke\u00e7irdiyi d\u00f6n\u0259mdir. Ke\u00e7mi\u015f \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn insan dar\u0131xar, m\u0259hdudiyy\u0259tl\u0259r insan\u0131 bo\u011far. H\u0259l\u0259 u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259yini g\u00f6zl\u0259yirl\u0259rs\u0259, qad\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131nda h\u0259r \u015fey qar\u0131\u015fa bil\u0259r. Dig\u0259r \u00f6n\u0259mli bir problem bu d\u00f6n\u0259md\u0259 c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin evlilikd\u0259 \u00f6z rahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131na \u00f6n\u0259m verm\u0259sidir. Evliliyin \u0259n a\u011fr\u0131l\u0131 oldu\u011fu v\u0259 c\u00fctl\u0259r aras\u0131nda probleml\u0259rin oldu\u011fu d\u00f6n\u0259m evliliyin ilk 2-3 ilin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. Bu, x\u00fcsusil\u0259, u\u015faql\u0131 c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin b\u00f6hran d\u00f6n\u0259midir. Yeni qurulan ail\u0259d\u0259 k\u00f6rp\u0259 d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259lir v\u0259 t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r biri-birin\u0259 vaxt ay\u0131ra bilmirl\u0259r. \u015e\u0259xsi h\u0259yatlar\u0131 s\u0131f\u0131rdad\u0131r. Harasa getm\u0259l\u0259ri m\u00fcmk\u00fcn deyil. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259si il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 aralar\u0131nda m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259r ya\u015fan\u0131r. Bu d\u00f6n\u0259md\u0259 ki\u015fi evd\u0259n bir q\u0259d\u0259r uzaq durur. Qad\u0131n is\u0259 u\u015fa\u011fa baxd\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn buna f\u00fcrs\u0259t tapa bilmir. Bu d\u00f6n\u0259mi ke\u00e7m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 b\u00f6y\u00fck faktordur. Ancaq bizim evli c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r\u0259 t\u00f6vsiy\u0259miz odur ki, siz\u0259 problem yaradan u\u015faq bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t sonra evinizin dad\u0131, duzu, \u0259v\u0259zolunmaz\u0131 olacaq. Biri-biriniz\u0259 \u0259n \u00e7ox anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 bu d\u00f6n\u0259md\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259lisiz”.<\/p>\n A.T.D\u0259mir d\u0259 evliliyin be\u015finci ilini \u00e7ox b\u00f6hranl\u0131 hesab edir. Onun s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, bu d\u00f6n\u0259m dan\u0131\u015f\u0131lmam\u0131\u015f, a\u00e7\u0131lmam\u0131\u015f probleml\u0259rin g\u00fcn \u00fcz\u00fcn\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xd\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00f6n\u0259mdir. \u018fr-arvad\u0131n biri-birini g\u00fcnahland\u0131rma\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 v\u0259 cavabdeh axtarma\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu d\u00f6n\u0259md\u0259, s\u0259daq\u0259tsizlik d\u0259 ortaya \u00e7\u0131xar. X\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 s\u00fcr\u00fckl\u0259y\u0259n \u015fey d\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131lmam\u0131\u015f probleml\u0259r, r\u0259ngsiz \u015f\u0259xsi h\u0259yatd\u0131r. Bu d\u00f6n\u0259mi ke\u00e7m\u0259yin yolu c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin xatir\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259ki anlard\u0131r. Bo\u015fanmaq asan yoldur. Amma itir\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259riniz \u00e7oxdur. Birlikd\u0259 t\u0259til\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xmaq v\u0259 yeni anlar\u0131 xatir\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 buraxmaq \u0259n m\u00fcsb\u0259t se\u00e7imdir.<\/p>\n Onun s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rd\u0259 biri-birin\u0259 uy\u011funla\u015fman\u0131n son n\u00f6qt\u0259si evliliyin 15-ci ilidir: “\u018fg\u0259r 15 il boyu probleml\u0259r h\u0259ll olunmam\u0131\u015f v\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcm\u00fc\u015fs\u0259, bu m\u00fcdd\u0259t boyunca biri-birin\u0259 birt\u0259h\u0259r d\u00f6zm\u0259li olan c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r ayr\u0131lma\u011f\u0131 se\u00e7\u0259r.<\/p>\n \u00c7\u00fcnki art\u0131q u\u015faqlar\u0131 da b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcb v\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rini yaln\u0131z daha yax\u015f\u0131 hiss ed\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r. 15 ild\u0259n sonra qad\u0131nda menopauza, ki\u015fid\u0259 ya\u015f ke\u00e7idi ortaya \u00e7\u0131xar. Bunlar da b\u00f6hran\u0131 yaradan \u00fcns\u00fcrl\u0259rdir. Bu d\u00f6n\u0259mi ke\u00e7m\u0259yin yolu da art\u0131q h\u0259yat dostu oldu\u011funuzu unutmamaqd\u0131r. Sizi ondan yax\u015f\u0131 tan\u0131yan kims\u0259 yoxdur. Bunun qiym\u0259tini bilm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r”.Gencaile.az<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Az\u0259rbaycanda bo\u015fanan qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r daha \u00e7ox 5 il\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r davam ed\u0259n ail\u0259lik h\u0259yat\u0131ndan sonra ayr\u0131lma\u011fa q\u0259rar verirl\u0259r. \u00d6t\u0259n il \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 14 514 bo\u015fanma hal\u0131 olub ki, onlar\u0131n da \u00e7oxunun nikah\u0131n\u0131n davametm\u0259 m\u00fcdd\u0259ti 5 il\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r olub. Bo\u015fananlar aras\u0131nda nikahlar\u0131 9 il\u0259d\u0259k davam ed\u0259nl\u0259rin say\u0131 nisb\u0259t\u0259n azd\u0131r. \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, evliliyin ilk 6 ay\u0131, 5 ili v\u0259 15-ci ili b\u00f6hranl\u0131 ill\u0259r hesab olunur. Bu ill\u0259ri nec\u0259 ke\u00e7m\u0259li oldu\u011funu bilm\u0259y\u0259n b\u0259zi evli c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r bo\u015fanman\u0131 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f yolu kimi se\u00e7ir. B\u00f6hran d\u00f6n\u0259ml\u0259rind\u0259 nec\u0259 davranmal\u0131 oldu\u011funu bil\u0259n c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r is\u0259 u\u011furlu evlilik h\u0259yat\u0131na davam ed\u0259 bilir. Aralar\u0131nda…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":100227,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/bosanma_09.jpg",640,435,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/bosanma_09.jpg",640,435,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/bosanma_09.jpg",640,435,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/bosanma_09-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/bosanma_09-300x204.jpg",300,204,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/bosanma_09.jpg",640,435,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/bosanma_09.jpg",640,435,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/bosanma_09.jpg",640,435,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/bosanma_09-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/11\/bosanma_09.jpg",640,435,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"Az\u0259rbaycanda bo\u015fanan qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r daha \u00e7ox 5 il\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r davam ed\u0259n ail\u0259lik h\u0259yat\u0131ndan sonra ayr\u0131lma\u011fa q\u0259rar verirl\u0259r. \u00d6t\u0259n il \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 14 514 bo\u015fanma hal\u0131 olub ki, onlar\u0131n da \u00e7oxunun nikah\u0131n\u0131n davametm\u0259 m\u00fcdd\u0259ti 5 il\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r olub. Bo\u015fananlar aras\u0131nda nikahlar\u0131 9 il\u0259d\u0259k davam ed\u0259nl\u0259rin say\u0131 nisb\u0259t\u0259n azd\u0131r. \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, evliliyin ilk 6 ay\u0131, 5 ili v\u0259…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/100226"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=100226"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/100226\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/100227"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=100226"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=100226"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=100226"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}