{"id":10584,"date":"2018-09-01T10:29:53","date_gmt":"2018-09-01T07:29:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=10584"},"modified":"2018-09-01T10:29:53","modified_gmt":"2018-09-01T07:29:53","slug":"sevgi-dolu-intiharlar-kimdir-gunahkar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=10584","title":{"rendered":"Sevgi dolu… intiharlar. Kimdir g\u00fcnahkar?"},"content":{"rendered":"

ARANTV.AZ<\/strong> x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 daha iki sevgi na\u011f\u0131l\u0131 faci\u0259 il\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259nib. \u0130lk \u00f6l\u00fcm fakt\u0131 Q\u0259b\u0259l\u0259d\u0259 qeyd\u0259 al\u0131n\u0131b.<\/p>\n

Biri-birini sev\u0259n iki g\u0259nc intihar edib. Hadis\u0259 avqustun 28-d\u0259 ax\u015fam rad\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 ba\u015f verib. M\u0259lumat\u0131 ver\u0259n \u015f\u0259xsin s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, c\u00fctl\u00fck ail\u0259 qurmaq ist\u0259yib, amma o\u011flan evi buna qar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131b: “Sevgilil\u0259r as\u0131lm\u0131\u015f v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 tap\u0131l\u0131b. Q\u0131z ail\u0259 qurub ayr\u0131lm\u0131\u015fd\u0131. Bir u\u015faq anas\u0131d\u0131r. O\u011flan\u0131n 24 ya\u015f\u0131 var. Biri-birl\u0259rini sevirl\u0259rmi\u015f. O\u011flan q\u0131zla ail\u0259 qurmaq ist\u0259yib. Amma o\u011flan\u0131n ail\u0259si buna mane olub. Onlar da \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f yolunu intiharda g\u00f6r\u00fcbl\u0259r\u201d.<\/p>\n

Dig\u0259r \u00f6l\u00fcm hadis\u0259si is\u0259 Yasamal rayonu, Mir\u0259li Seyidov k\u00fc\u00e7\u0259sind\u0259 ba\u015f verib. Bak\u0131da sevgilil\u0259r qarajda bo\u011fularaq \u00f6l\u00fcb. \u00d6t\u0259n gec\u0259 be\u015fm\u0259rt\u0259bli binan\u0131n h\u0259y\u0259tind\u0259 yerl\u0259\u015f\u0259n qarajdak\u0131 “Nissan\u201d markal\u0131 avtomobild\u0259 1997-ci il t\u0259v\u0259ll\u00fcdl\u00fc K\u00f6n\u00fcl \u018fh\u0259dova v\u0259 1990-c\u0131 il t\u0259v\u0259ll\u00fcdl\u00fc Elvin Zeynalovun meyiti tap\u0131l\u0131b.
\nAvtomobil K.\u018fh\u0259dovaya m\u0259xsus olub. Meyitl\u0259r tap\u0131lark\u0259n avtomobilin kondisioneri i\u015fl\u0259k v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 olub, c\u00fctl\u00fck d\u0259 m\u0259hz ma\u015f\u0131n\u0131n qaz\u0131ndan \u00f6l\u00fcb.
\nHadis\u0259 yerin\u0259 Yasamal Rayon Prokurorlu\u011fu v\u0259 Yasamal Rayon Polis \u0130dar\u0259sinin \u0259m\u0259kda\u015flar\u0131 c\u0259lb edilib. Ehtimala g\u00f6r\u0259, onlar sevgili olub v\u0259 bo\u011fulma hadis\u0259si intim \u0259laq\u0259d\u0259n sonra ba\u015f verib. Faktla ba\u011fl\u0131 cinay\u0259t i\u015fi ba\u015flan\u0131l\u0131b.<\/p>\n

Qeyd ed\u0259k ki, Elvin Zeynalov ni\u015fanl\u0131 olsa da, uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t imi\u015f ki, K\u00f6n\u00fcl \u018fh\u0259dova il\u0259 sevgi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tind\u0259 olub. O, K\u00f6n\u00fcll\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurmaq ist\u0259s\u0259 d\u0259, o\u011flan\u0131n ail\u0259si buna qar\u015f\u0131 olub v\u0259 o\u011flunu ba\u015fqa bir q\u0131zla ni\u015fanlay\u0131blar. Hadis\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259n g\u00fcn Elvin Zeynalov K.\u018fh\u0259dovaya z\u0259ng ed\u0259r\u0259k sentyabr\u0131n 7-si toyu olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, son d\u0259f\u0259 onunla g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fm\u0259k ist\u0259diyini bildirib.<\/p>\n

Qeyd ed\u0259k ki, h\u0259r iki hadis\u0259nin motivl\u0259ri f\u0259rqli olsa da, sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259 istifad\u0259\u00e7il\u0259ri valideyn m\u00fcdaxil\u0259si ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda onlar\u0131n \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fc eynil\u0259\u015fdirib v\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259rini ittiham edib.<\/p>\n

T\u0259bii ki, b\u0259zi Az\u0259rbaycan ail\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 valideynl\u0259rin ail\u0259 qurmaq ist\u0259y\u0259n \u00f6vladlar \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259ki “h\u00f6kmranl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n\u201d ac\u0131 sonluqla bitm\u0259sin\u0259 dair faktlar\u0131n tez-tez \u015fahidi oluruq. Az qala b\u00fct\u00fcn bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n, ail\u0259daxili konfliktl\u0259rin arxas\u0131nda valideynl\u0259rin “\u0259l\u201di olur.<\/p>\n

M\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssisl\u0259rin “SOS\u201d dey\u0259 f\u0259ryad etm\u0259sin\u0259 baxmayaraq, b\u0259zil\u0259ri \u00fczl\u0259\u015fdiyimiz faci\u0259nin f\u0259rqind\u0259 deyil. \u018fks\u0259riyy\u0259t adamlar, “Biz atam\u0131zdan bel\u0259 g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f\u00fck, bel\u0259 d\u0259 olaca\u011f\u0131q!\u201d – sindromunu davam etdirir. Bu g\u00fcn c\u0259miyy\u0259timizd\u0259 ail\u0259 qurma\u011f\u0131n gerid\u0259 qalm\u0131\u015f \u00fcsullar\u0131ndan biri m\u0259hz q\u0131z\u0131n, yaxud o\u011flan\u0131n raz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 z\u0259rr\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r \u00f6n\u0259ms\u0259m\u0259d\u0259n, valideynl\u0259rin m\u0259cburi evlilik formala\u015fd\u0131rmas\u0131d\u0131r. Bu “\u00fcsul\u201dun t\u0259r\u0259fdarlar\u0131 hesab edirl\u0259r ki, dinimiz bel\u0259 buyurub, d\u0259d\u0259-babalar\u0131m\u0131z bel\u0259 olub, mentalitetimiz bel\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259b edir v\u0259 biz d\u0259 bel\u0259 olmal\u0131y\u0131q. Amma ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fcrl\u0259r ki, insan taleyi laborator m\u00fcayin\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259ssis\u0259si deyil v\u0259 valideynin g\u0259ncl\u0259r \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259ki “t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259si\u201d onlar\u0131 xo\u015fb\u0259xt etm\u0259k \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259, h\u0259yat\u0131n girdab\u0131na yuvarlay\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Psixoloq Azad \u0130sazad\u0259nin s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, h\u0259r iki evlilik ist\u0259yin\u0259 valideyn m\u00fcdaxil\u0259si olsa da, mahiyy\u0259t etibar\u0131 il\u0259 f\u0259rqli hadis\u0259l\u0259rdir. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, qarajda ba\u015f ver\u0259n \u00f6l\u00fcm fakt\u0131 il\u0259 Q\u0259b\u0259l\u0259d\u0259ki intihar\u0131 eynil\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259k d\u00fczg\u00fcn deyil: “Qarajda bo\u011fulan sevgilil\u0259rin \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc x\u0259yan\u0259t xarakterlidir. Bu \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259r intim \u0259laq\u0259 m\u0259qs\u0259dil\u0259 ma\u015f\u0131n\u0131 qarajda yand\u0131r\u0131blar v\u0259 kondisionerin uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t i\u015fl\u0259k v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 qalmas\u0131 qaz y\u0131\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b olub.<\/p>\n

Biz periodik olaraq bu c\u00fcr hadis\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 rast g\u0259lirik. Gizli e\u015fq ya\u015fayan sevgilil\u0259r qarajdan m\u0259nzil kimi istifad\u0259 edirl\u0259r. Dig\u0259r hadis\u0259d\u0259 is\u0259 biri-birini sev\u0259n g\u0259ncin evliliyin\u0259 valideynl\u0259r qar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131b, \u00e7\u00fcnki qad\u0131n bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f v\u0259 u\u015faql\u0131 olub\u201d.<\/p>\n

Valideynl\u0259rin \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k h\u0259yat\u0131na m\u00fcdaxil\u0259 etm\u0259si kimi faktlara tez-tez rast g\u0259lindiyini vur\u011fulayan psixoloq hesab edir ki, b\u0259z\u0259n bu m\u00fcdaxil\u0259l\u0259r \u0259sasl\u0131, b\u0259z\u0259n d\u0259 \u0259sass\u0131z olur: “\u015e\u00fcbh\u0259siz ki, ail\u0259 quran g\u0259ncl\u0259r bu add\u0131m\u0131 atmazdan \u0259vv\u0259l b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259ri il\u0259 m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259\u015fm\u0259lidir. Lakin valideynl\u0259r d\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurark\u0259n g\u0259ncl\u0259 \u0259mrl\u0259 dan\u0131\u015fmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Valideynl\u0259rin fikirl\u0259rind\u0259 pis bir \u015fey g\u00f6rm\u00fcr\u00fck. B\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259rin m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tini e\u015fitm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r, amma g\u0259ncl\u0259rin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259l\u0259rini d\u0259 dinl\u0259m\u0259k vacibdir. \u018fg\u0259r valideynl\u0259rl\u0259 g\u0259ncl\u0259r oturub m\u00fczakir\u0259 aparsa, raz\u0131l\u0131\u011fa g\u0259ls\u0259, bu c\u00fcr hadis\u0259l\u0259r ba\u015f verm\u0259zdi. B\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 valideynl\u0259r haql\u0131 olaraq bu izdivaca raz\u0131l\u0131q verm\u0259yib? Y\u0259qin ki, onlar\u0131n da \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri olub. Sad\u0259c\u0259 olaraq \u00f6z arqumentl\u0259rini d\u00fczg\u00fcn izah ed\u0259 bilm\u0259dikl\u0259ri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u0259ncl\u0259r d\u0259 bu c\u00fcr add\u0131ma \u0259l at\u0131b. Valideyn \u00f6vlad\u0131na ba\u015fa salmal\u0131d\u0131r ki, hans\u0131 s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n bu evlilik ola bilm\u0259z. “Biz raz\u0131 deyilik\u201d, “s\u0259n o qad\u0131nla evl\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259n, v\u0259ssalam!\u201d kimi \u0259mr \u015f\u0259killi ifad\u0259l\u0259r g\u0259ncl\u0259rd\u0259 daha da aqressiya do\u011furur. S\u00fcbutlar\u0131 v\u0259 faktlar\u0131 ortaya qoyub, \u00f6z m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259rini versinl\u0259r. Son q\u0259rar\u0131 qoy, g\u0259ncl\u0259r \u00f6zl\u0259ri versin. Ax\u0131 bu ail\u0259ni quran da, h\u0259yat\u0131 ya\u015fayan da o olacaq. Valideynl\u0259rin q\u0259bulolunmaz hesab etdiyi bir fakt evl\u0259nm\u0259k ist\u0259y\u0259n g\u0259ncin xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyin\u0259 mane deyils\u0259, niy\u0259 d\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259sin? Valideyn v\u0259 \u00f6vlad vahid bir fikr\u0259 g\u0259lm\u0259lidir. Bu g\u00fcn c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 \u0259sas problem insanlar\u0131n biri-birini dinl\u0259m\u0259k ist\u0259m\u0259m\u0259sidir\u201d.<\/p>\n

Subay o\u011flanla bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f qad\u0131n\u0131n evl\u0259nm\u0259si stereotipl\u0259rinin n\u0259 zaman q\u0131r\u0131laca\u011f\u0131na g\u0259ldikd\u0259 is\u0259 psixoloq deyib ki, bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259t bel\u0259 hallar\u0131 normal q\u0259bul etmir. Halbuki biz ham\u0131m\u0131z \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc m\u00fcs\u0259lman, M\u0259h\u0259mm\u0259d pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259ri is\u0259 m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259s hesab edirik. M\u0259g\u0259r pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259rimizin ilk h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck v\u0259 dul qad\u0131n olub. \u018fg\u0259r pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259r bunu \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 r\u0259va bilibs\u0259, bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f qad\u0131nla evl\u0259nm\u0259k ist\u0259y\u0259n subay o\u011flan\u0131 q\u0131nama\u011fa, ona t\u0259zyiq etm\u0259y\u0259 biz\u0259 kim icaz\u0259 verir?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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