“H\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 bel\u0259 edirs\u0259n”, “S\u0259n, onsuz da, bel\u0259s\u0259n”, “Diqq\u0259tsizs\u0259n” kimi fikirl\u0259rd\u0259n istifad\u0259 ed\u0259n v\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131nda bir c\u00fcr, sosial ortamlarda ba\u015fqa c\u00fcr davran\u0131\u015flar g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n d\u0259rdin\u0259 v\u0259 sevincin\u0259 ortaq olmayan, yalan s\u00f6yl\u0259y\u0259n, h\u0259r iki cins \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259 ke\u00e7\u0259rli olmaq \u00fczr\u0259 m\u0259hr\u0259m t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259ri cavabs\u0131z buraxan t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r bir-biril\u0259rin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 say\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da itirirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n
ARANTV.AZ<\/strong>\u00a0 bildirir ki, xo\u015fb\u0259xt evliliy\u0259 sahib olmaq h\u0259r k\u0259sin arzusudur. Bu da bir reall\u0131qd\u0131r ki, evind\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt ola bilm\u0259y\u0259n insan i\u015find\u0259, c\u0259miyy\u0259t aras\u0131nda da xo\u015fb\u0259xt ola bilm\u0259z. \u018fg\u0259r evind\u0259 bir nigaran\u00e7\u0131l\u0131q varsa, insan m\u00fctl\u0259q \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc i\u015fd\u0259, c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 d\u0259 narahat hiss ed\u0259c\u0259k. Amma evind\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt olan adam ist\u0259r i\u015fd\u0259, ist\u0259rs\u0259 d\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015fdiyi \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259ri d\u0259f etm\u0259yi bacar\u0131r. Bir atalar misal\u0131nda deyildiyi kimi, “\u0259vv\u0259l evin i\u00e7i, sonra \u00e7\u00f6l\u00fc”. Amma el\u0259 insanlar da var ki, el aras\u0131nda deyildiyi kimi, ev\u0259 getm\u0259k onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn s\u00f6z\u00fcn h\u0259qiqi m\u0259nas\u0131nda, \u0259zab-\u0259ziyy\u0259tdir. Bu v\u0259ziyy\u0259tin yaranmas\u0131nda onlar\u0131 q\u0131namaq da olar, q\u0131namamaq da. B\u0259s insanlar\u0131 ail\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259n uzaqla\u015fd\u0131ran s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r n\u0259l\u0259rdir?<\/p>\n Ara\u015fd\u0131rmalar g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki, bu probleml\u0259rin s\u0131ras\u0131nda diqq\u0259tsizlik x\u00fcsusi rol oynay\u0131r. Bu, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc birba\u015fa b\u00fcruz\u0259 verm\u0259s\u0259 d\u0259, t\u0259dric\u0259n, y\u0259ni m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 t\u0259sir g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259kl\u0259 \u0259hat\u0259 dair\u0259sini geni\u015fl\u0259ndirir. Nec\u0259 dey\u0259rl\u0259r, i\u015fd\u0259n ev\u0259 d\u00f6n\u0259n v\u0259 xo\u015f m\u00fcnasib\u0259t, \u00fczd\u0259 t\u0259b\u0259ss\u00fcm uman ki\u015fi v\u0259 ya xan\u0131m tam t\u0259rsi il\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131nca, evd\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259vi rahatl\u0131q tapa bilmir.<\/p>\n Bu probleml\u0259r s\u0131ras\u0131nda m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259ki anla\u015f\u0131lmazl\u0131q v\u0259 ya hans\u0131sa q\u0259rar q\u0259bul edil\u0259rk\u0259n ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n fikrinin n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 al\u0131nmamas\u0131 kimi s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r d\u0259 var. Bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259d\u0259 h\u0259m ki\u015finin, h\u0259m d\u0259 xan\u0131m\u0131n \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck m\u0259suliyy\u0259t d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr.<\/p>\n T\u00fcrkiy\u0259li psixoloq Cihad Kayan\u0131n s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, evl\u0259nm\u0259d\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n sevilm\u0259sin\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b olan m\u0259qamlar\u0131 evl\u0259ndikd\u0259n sonra unutmas\u0131, n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almamas\u0131 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n ondan soyumas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b olur.<\/p>\n Psixoloqun s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, b\u0259zi xan\u0131mlar\u0131n geyim-keciml\u0259rin\u0259, \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 fikir verm\u0259m\u0259l\u0259ri h\u0259ssas ki\u015fil\u0259ri h\u0259tta ail\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259n bel\u0259 soyuda bilir. Psixoloq: “H\u0259r bir xan\u0131m \u00f6z\u00fc-\u00f6zl\u00fcy\u00fcnd\u0259 bir n\u00f6v k\u00fcbar olmal\u0131d\u0131r. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, o \u0259g\u0259r evin b\u00fct\u00fcn i\u015fl\u0259rini yerin\u0259 yetirir \u0259sas diqq\u0259ti buna y\u00f6n\u0259ldirs\u0259, n\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc unudursa, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na onun ist\u0259diyi q\u0259d\u0259r diqq\u0259t ed\u0259 bilmirs\u0259, ki\u015fi evind\u0259n v\u0259 ail\u0259sind\u0259n uzaqla\u015f\u0131r. H\u0259tta uzaqla\u015fmasa bel\u0259, bir n\u00f6v soyuyur”.<\/p>\n “Biz sizi h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zla, analar\u0131n\u0131zla, atalar\u0131n\u0131zla, u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131zla, mallar\u0131n\u0131zla, canlar\u0131n\u0131zla imtahan ed\u0259rik” ay\u0259tini xat\u0131rladan m\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssis: “B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131 ger\u00e7\u0259kl\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259sin\u0259 v\u0259 ideal bir yolda\u015f olmas\u0131na r\u0259\u011fm\u0259n y\u00fczl\u0259rc\u0259 xan\u0131m\u0131n aldad\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 ger\u00e7\u0259yini d\u0259 g\u00f6z ard\u0131 etm\u0259m\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r”,- deyir.<\/p>\n Bu davran\u0131\u015flar evliliy\u0259 z\u0259r\u0259r verir!<\/strong><\/p>\n \u0130nadkar olmaq.<\/strong>\u00a0N\u0259 vaxtsa yerin\u0259 yetirilm\u0259y\u0259n t\u0259l\u0259bi, xahi\u015fi tez-tez g\u00fcnd\u0259m\u0259 g\u0259tirib ba\u015fa qax\u0131nc etm\u0259k evliliy\u0259 z\u0259r\u0259r g\u0259tirir.<\/p>\n Diqq\u0259tsizlik.<\/strong>\u00a0\u0130\u015fl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n xan\u0131mlar\u0131n h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n al\u0131\u015fqanl\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 v\u0259 xasiyy\u0259tl\u0259rini bildikl\u0259ri halda x\u0259st\u0259lik, gec\u0259 u\u015fa\u011fa baxmaq kimi s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri \u00e7\u0131xmaq \u015f\u0259rti il\u0259, ba\u015fqa vaxtda nahar haz\u0131rlamamalar\u0131, onlar\u0131 i\u015f\u0259 ged\u0259rk\u0259n qap\u0131dan yola salmamalar\u0131 da incikliy\u0259 v\u0259 narahatl\u0131\u011fa s\u0259b\u0259b ola bilir.<\/p>\n Bitm\u0259y\u0259n suallar.\u00a0<\/strong>Ki\u015fini i\u015f saatlar\u0131 i\u00e7ind\u0259 m\u0259cburi s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r xaricind\u0259 s\u0131x-s\u0131x arayaraq “hardasan”, “n\u0259 edirs\u0259n”, “yan\u0131nda kim var” suallar\u0131n\u0131 verm\u0259k.<\/p>\n G\u00fcv\u0259nm\u0259m\u0259k.<\/strong>\u00a0H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n mobil telefonunu tez-tez yoxlamaq, onu rahat buraxmamaq, h\u0259tta n\u0259qliyyatdak\u0131 probleml\u0259r s\u0259b\u0259bind\u0259n eve gec g\u0259ldiyi zaman \u00fcz-g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc tur\u015futmaq v\u0259 yersiz suallar verm\u0259k.<\/p>\n Ail\u0259 m\u0259hr\u0259miyy\u0259ti.<\/strong>\u00a0Ail\u0259d\u0259 bir problem ya\u015fanan kimi, valideynl\u0259ri v\u0259 ya qaynana-qaynatan\u0131 tap\u0131b v\u0259 ya onlara z\u0259ng vurub h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131 \u015fikay\u0259t etm\u0259k.<\/p>\n Sosial \u00e7evr\u0259y\u0259 m\u00fcdaxil\u0259.<\/strong>\u00a0Ki\u015fiy\u0259 onunla g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f, bununla g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fm\u0259 kimi t\u0259limatlar verm\u0259k.<\/p>\n Yersiz q\u0131sqancl\u0131q.\u00a0<\/strong>Ki\u015fini \u00f6z anas\u0131ndan q\u0131sqanmaq, ki\u015fiy\u0259 anas\u0131n\u0131 (qaynanas\u0131n\u0131) \u015fikay\u0259t etm\u0259k, dava-dala\u015f zaman\u0131 onun ail\u0259sini pisl\u0259m\u0259k.<\/p>\n M\u00fcqayis\u0259 etm\u0259k.<\/strong>\u00a0Ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131na ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 h\u0259diyy\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n dan\u0131\u015fmaq, m\u00fcqayis\u0259 etm\u0259k v\u0259 s.<\/p>\n M\u0259suliyy\u0259tl\u0259r.<\/strong>\u00a0Ki\u015fi qap\u0131dan gir\u0259r-girm\u0259z, ondan u\u015faqlarla maraqlanmas\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259l\u0259b etm\u0259k, “al bu u\u015faqlar\u0131, b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fcn m\u0259ni \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcbl\u0259r” kimi c\u00fcml\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131lamaq.<\/p>\n Pis \u015feyl\u0259ri unutmamaq.<\/strong>\u00a0Ke\u00e7mi\u015fd\u0259 olanlar\u0131 tez-tez xat\u0131rlay\u0131b, problem v\u0259 m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259r yaratmaq.Gencaile.az<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" “H\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 bel\u0259 edirs\u0259n”, “S\u0259n, onsuz da, bel\u0259s\u0259n”, “Diqq\u0259tsizs\u0259n” kimi fikirl\u0259rd\u0259n istifad\u0259 ed\u0259n v\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131nda bir c\u00fcr, sosial ortamlarda ba\u015fqa c\u00fcr davran\u0131\u015flar g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n d\u0259rdin\u0259 v\u0259 sevincin\u0259 ortaq olmayan, yalan s\u00f6yl\u0259y\u0259n, h\u0259r iki cins \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259 ke\u00e7\u0259rli olmaq \u00fczr\u0259 m\u0259hr\u0259m t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259ri cavabs\u0131z buraxan t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r bir-biril\u0259rin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 say\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da itirirl\u0259r. ARANTV.AZ\u00a0 bildirir ki, xo\u015fb\u0259xt evliliy\u0259 sahib olmaq h\u0259r k\u0259sin arzusudur. Bu da bir reall\u0131qd\u0131r ki, evind\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt ola bilm\u0259y\u0259n insan i\u015find\u0259, c\u0259miyy\u0259t aras\u0131nda da xo\u015fb\u0259xt ola bilm\u0259z. \u018fg\u0259r evind\u0259 bir nigaran\u00e7\u0131l\u0131q varsa, insan m\u00fctl\u0259q \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc i\u015fd\u0259, c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 d\u0259 narahat hiss…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":107235,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/aile_002.jpg",640,435,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/aile_002.jpg",640,435,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/aile_002.jpg",640,435,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/aile_002-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/aile_002-300x204.jpg",300,204,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/aile_002.jpg",640,435,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/aile_002.jpg",640,435,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/aile_002.jpg",640,435,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/aile_002-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/aile_002.jpg",640,435,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"“H\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 bel\u0259 edirs\u0259n”, “S\u0259n, onsuz da, bel\u0259s\u0259n”, “Diqq\u0259tsizs\u0259n” kimi fikirl\u0259rd\u0259n istifad\u0259 ed\u0259n v\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131nda bir c\u00fcr, sosial ortamlarda ba\u015fqa c\u00fcr davran\u0131\u015flar g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n d\u0259rdin\u0259 v\u0259 sevincin\u0259 ortaq olmayan, yalan s\u00f6yl\u0259y\u0259n, h\u0259r iki cins \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259 ke\u00e7\u0259rli olmaq \u00fczr\u0259 m\u0259hr\u0259m t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259ri cavabs\u0131z buraxan t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r bir-biril\u0259rin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 say\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da itirirl\u0259r. ARANTV.AZ\u00a0 bildirir ki, xo\u015fb\u0259xt evliliy\u0259…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/107234"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=107234"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/107234\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/107235"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=107234"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=107234"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=107234"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}