Y\u0259qin ki, h\u0259r birimiz h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131zda bir d\u0259f\u0259 d\u0259 olsa bu \u0259zabl\u0131 q\u0131sqancl\u0131q hissini ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f\u0131q.<\/p>\n
Q\u0131sqancl\u0131q m\u00fcxt\u0259lif olur v\u0259 f\u0259rqli sah\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 yaran\u0131r: sevgid\u0259, dostluqda, \u00f6vlad-valideyn m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259. Q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011fa \u0259n \u00e7ox ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 rast g\u0259lm\u0259k olar. Bu hiss yava\u015f-yava\u015f t\u0259sir ed\u0259n z\u0259h\u0259r kimi vaxt ke\u00e7dikc\u0259 ail\u0259ni tamamil\u0259 da\u011f\u0131ltmaq iqtidar\u0131ndad\u0131. Ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri psixologiyas\u0131na \u0259sas\u0259n, q\u0131sqancl\u0131q ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n aras\u0131nda olan m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 yer alan \u015f\u00fcbh\u0259 hissidir.\u00a0Q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir ne\u00e7\u0259 tip\u0259 ay\u0131rmaq olar.<\/strong><\/p>\n 1.<\/strong>\u00a0Sevdiyi insana qar\u015f\u0131 m\u0259nims\u0259m\u0259 hissi. Bel\u0259 hallarda t\u0259bii ki, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f xeyli \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kir. Bu tip daha inadkar, \u00fcst\u00fcn olma\u011fa meyil edirl\u0259r. Onlar insana n\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t qoyma\u011f\u0131, n\u0259 ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama\u011f\u0131 bacar\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n 2.<\/strong>\u00a0\u00d6zg\u00fcv\u0259n \u0259ksikliyi n\u0259tic\u0259sind\u0259 \u0259m\u0259l\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n q\u0131sqancl\u0131q. Bu tip q\u0131sqancl\u0131q \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 \u0259min olmayan, h\u0259y\u0259canl\u0131 olan insanlarda yaran\u0131r. Onlarda ba\u015fqalar\u0131 il\u0259 m\u00fcqayis\u0259d\u0259 ikinci d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259li olmaq qorxusu. Bu tip q\u0131sqancl\u0131q qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n \u00e7ox, q\u0131sqanc olana \u0259ziyy\u0259t verir.<\/p>\n 3.<\/strong>\u00a0Q\u0131sqanc insan\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fc x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259nd\u0259. Bu halda \u0259ks t\u0259r\u0259f \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kir. Q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131n real yada ki, uydurulmu\u015f \u0259sas\u0131 h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 var. Real dey\u0259nd\u0259, y\u0259ni h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n f\u0259rqli, \u015f\u00fcbh\u0259 do\u011furan davran\u0131\u015f\u0131. Uydurulmu\u015f halda q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131n qayna\u011f\u0131 qorxudur, inams\u0131zl\u0131qd\u0131. Q\u0131sqancl\u0131q insan\u0131n cinsind\u0259n, xarakterind\u0259n, insan\u0131n \u015f\u0259xsi \u0259qid\u0259sind\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olaraq m\u00fcxt\u0259lif olur.<\/p>\n Q\u0131sqancl\u0131q \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc bir hissdir, lakin bu hissin m\u00fcsb\u0259t t\u0259r\u0259fi d\u0259 var. Q\u0131sqancl\u0131q q\u0259d\u0259rind\u0259 olanda bu sa\u011flam q\u0131sqancl\u0131qd\u0131, \u00e7\u00fcnki sevgini daha da g\u00fccl\u0259ndirir. Amma q\u0131sqancl\u0131q qeyri-sa\u011flam \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 olanda t\u0259bii ki, m\u0259nfi emosiyalara s\u0259b\u0259b olur. \u0130lk \u00f6nc\u0259 sevdiyi insana qar\u015f\u0131 yaranan inams\u0131zl\u0131q, g\u00fcv\u0259nsizlik. Sonra q\u0259z\u0259b, \u0259s\u0259bililik \u2013 hans\u0131lar\u0131n ki, n\u0259 \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xaranda, n\u0259 daxild\u0259 bo\u011fanda m\u00fcsb\u0259t n\u0259tic\u0259 vermir. Qorxular ortaya \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r: at\u0131lma, t\u0259nha qalma qorxusu. “Ham\u0131 bil\u0259nd\u0259 m\u0259nim haqq\u0131mda n\u0259 dan\u0131\u015facaqlar\u201d bu kimi fikirl\u0259r. Q\u0131sqancl\u0131q psixosomatik x\u0259st\u0259likl\u0259rl\u0259 d\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259ri var. Emosional stress qad\u0131nlarda birba\u015fa hormonal sistem\u0259 t\u0259sir edir. Ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259 is\u0259 xroniki yor\u011funluq sindromunun yaranmas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b olur.<\/p>\n Qeyd etdiyim kimi q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131n ail\u0259daxili m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 m\u0259nfi t\u0259siri \u00e7oxdu. \u018fn k\u0259d\u0259rlisi odur ki, bu q\u0131sqancl\u0131q \u201cs\u0259hn\u0259l\u0259ri\u201d \u00f6vladlar\u0131n g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcnd\u0259 ba\u015f verir. H\u0259r bir u\u015faq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ilk g\u00fcnd\u0259n valideynl\u0259ri yegan\u0259 sevimli modeldir. Ki\u00e7ik ya\u015flar\u0131nda h\u0259l\u0259 tam olanlar\u0131 kritik analiz ed\u0259 bilmirl\u0259r, lakin b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00f6rd\u00fckl\u0259ri \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131nda yer al\u0131r. V\u0259 t\u0259bii ki ill\u0259r ke\u00e7dikc\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n ya\u015fa \u00e7atanda, m\u00fcnasib\u0259t quranda \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131za \u00f6z m\u0259nfi t\u0259sirini g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259c\u0259k.<\/p>\n Ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131 f\u0259rqli olur. Ki\u015fil\u0259r h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n diqq\u0259tini yay\u0131nd\u0131ran h\u0259r k\u0259s\u0259 q\u0131sqan\u0131r, h\u0259tta \u00f6vladlar\u0131na, n\u0259v\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259. T\u0259bii ki, ba\u015fqa ki\u015fil\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259. Ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00f6z r\u0259qibi il\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rini m\u00fcqayis\u0259 etmirl\u0259r. Onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259sas q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131n fakt olaraq \u00f6z\u00fcd\u00fcr.<\/p>\n Qad\u0131nlar is\u0259 \u0259ksin\u0259 r\u0259qibi il\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rini m\u00fcqayis\u0259 edirl\u0259r. \u018fg\u0259r ki\u015finin x\u0259yan\u0259tind\u0259 ki\u015fi h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n ittiham edirs\u0259, qad\u0131nda \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcg\u00fcnahland\u0131rma hissi il\u0259 d\u0259 rast g\u0259lirik. H\u0259tta b\u0259zi xan\u0131mlar\u0131m\u0131z r\u0259qibl\u0259rin\u0259 ox\u015fama\u011fa can at\u0131rlar. Hesab edirl\u0259r ki, qad\u0131nlar ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n daha q\u0131sqancd\u0131, \u00e7\u00fcnki bu m\u00f6vzuda tez-tez dava sal\u0131rlar. Amma reall\u0131qda ba\u015fqa c\u00fcrd\u00fcr. Ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n f\u0259rqli olaraq qad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259 rastla\u015fanda \u00e7ox vaxt ba\u011f\u0131\u015flay\u0131rlar \u0259sas da \u00f6vladlar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259.<\/p>\n \u201cB\u0259s q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131 nec\u0259 aradan qald\u0131raq?\u201d sual\u0131 ortaya \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. H\u0259r bir insan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259r verm\u0259yi , \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcqiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259yi bacarmal\u0131d\u0131. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u0259 vaxt ay\u0131r\u0131n. Fikrinizi daha \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tli i\u015fl\u0259r\u0259 ay\u0131r\u0131n. Ba\u015f ver\u0259nl\u0259rd\u0259n daha s\u0259m\u0259r\u0259li n\u0259tic\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131n. H\u0259yat t\u0259rzini d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259y\u0259 c\u0259hd g\u00f6st\u0259rin. Q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131 anlamaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn onun s\u0259b\u0259bini bilm\u0259k g\u0259r\u0259k. S\u0259b\u0259bi is\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcqiym\u0259tl\u0259dirm\u0259nin a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 olmas\u0131d\u0131. H\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 q\u0131sqancl\u0131q hissi il\u0259 z\u0259h\u0259rl\u0259m\u0259yin. Sad\u0259c\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259r verin v\u0259 h\u0259yatda birlikd\u0259 oldu\u011funuz h\u0259r d\u0259qiq\u0259nizd\u0259n z\u00f6vq alma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n!<\/p>\n Ayg\u00fcn A\u011fabalayeva<\/p>\n Psixologiya v\u0259 Konsultasiya M\u0259rk\u0259zinin psixoloqu<\/p>\n Pcc.az<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Y\u0259qin ki, h\u0259r birimiz h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131zda bir d\u0259f\u0259 d\u0259 olsa bu \u0259zabl\u0131 q\u0131sqancl\u0131q hissini ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f\u0131q. Q\u0131sqancl\u0131q m\u00fcxt\u0259lif olur v\u0259 f\u0259rqli sah\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 yaran\u0131r: sevgid\u0259, dostluqda, \u00f6vlad-valideyn m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259. Q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011fa \u0259n \u00e7ox ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 rast g\u0259lm\u0259k olar. Bu hiss yava\u015f-yava\u015f t\u0259sir ed\u0259n z\u0259h\u0259r kimi vaxt ke\u00e7dikc\u0259 ail\u0259ni tamamil\u0259 da\u011f\u0131ltmaq iqtidar\u0131ndad\u0131. Ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri psixologiyas\u0131na \u0259sas\u0259n, q\u0131sqancl\u0131q ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n aras\u0131nda olan m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 yer alan \u015f\u00fcbh\u0259 hissidir.\u00a0Q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir ne\u00e7\u0259 tip\u0259 ay\u0131rmaq olar. 1.\u00a0Sevdiyi insana qar\u015f\u0131 m\u0259nims\u0259m\u0259 hissi. Bel\u0259 hallarda t\u0259bii ki, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f xeyli \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kir. Bu tip daha inadkar, \u00fcst\u00fcn olma\u011fa meyil edirl\u0259r. 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Q\u0131sqancl\u0131q m\u00fcxt\u0259lif olur v\u0259 f\u0259rqli sah\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 yaran\u0131r: sevgid\u0259, dostluqda, \u00f6vlad-valideyn m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259. Q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011fa \u0259n \u00e7ox ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 rast g\u0259lm\u0259k olar. Bu hiss yava\u015f-yava\u015f t\u0259sir ed\u0259n z\u0259h\u0259r kimi vaxt ke\u00e7dikc\u0259 ail\u0259ni tamamil\u0259 da\u011f\u0131ltmaq iqtidar\u0131ndad\u0131. Ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri psixologiyas\u0131na \u0259sas\u0259n, q\u0131sqancl\u0131q ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n aras\u0131nda…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112631"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=112631"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112631\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/112632"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=112631"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=112631"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=112631"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}