{"id":115531,"date":"2020-01-07T12:07:53","date_gmt":"2020-01-07T09:07:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=115531"},"modified":"2020-01-07T12:07:53","modified_gmt":"2020-01-07T09:07:53","slug":"kisil%c9%99r-aglamaz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=115531","title":{"rendered":"Ki\u015fil\u0259r a\u011flamaz?"},"content":{"rendered":"

D\u00f6vr\u00fcm\u00fczd\u0259 bel\u0259 bir q\u0259rib\u0259 tendensiya m\u00f6vcuddur.<\/p>\n

\u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc narahat ed\u0259n h\u0259r bir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bil\u0259 m\u0259yus olan o\u011flan u\u015faqlar\u0131na, \u201ca\u011flama, ki\u015fil\u0259r a\u011flamaz\u201d, \u201cm\u0259g\u0259r s\u0259n q\u0131zsan a\u011flay\u0131rsan?\u201d deyilir. O\u011flanlar bu k\u0259lim\u0259l\u0259ri gah anadan, gah atadan, gah n\u0259n\u0259-babadan, gah m\u00fc\u0259llim\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259n, gah da \u0259trafdak\u0131 tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131 v\u0259 tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131 insanlardan e\u015fidir v\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, \u0259g\u0259r bu q\u0259d\u0259r insan \u201cki\u015fi a\u011flamaz\u201d deyirs\u0259, dem\u0259li a\u011flamaz v\u0259 t\u0259dric\u0259n a\u011flama\u011f\u0131 t\u0259rgidir. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7in\u0259 y\u0131\u011f\u0131l\u0131b qalm\u0131\u015f m\u0259nfi hissl\u0259r bir \u00e7ox hallarda \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc aqressiya \u015f\u0259klind\u0259 b\u00fcruz\u0259 verir. Bu d\u0259f\u0259 d\u0259 u\u015faq \u201ct\u0259rslikd\u0259\u201d, \u201cdala\u015fqanl\u0131qda\u201d \u201cpis u\u015faq\u201d olmaqda g\u00fcnahland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r. N\u0259tic\u0259 etibaril\u0259 is\u0259 c\u0259zaland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r.\u00a0A\u011flamaqdan v\u0259 m\u0259nfi hissl\u0259rini b\u00fcruz\u0259 verm\u0259kd\u0259n tamamil\u0259 m\u0259hrum olmu\u015f o\u011flan u\u015faqlar\u0131 daim saatl\u0131 bomban\u0131 xat\u0131rlad\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Yeniyetm\u0259lik d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259 is\u0259 bu v\u0259ziyy\u0259t kulminativ n\u00f6qt\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7ata bil\u0259r. \u0130ll\u0259rl\u0259 hissl\u0259rini b\u00fcruz\u0259 verm\u0259diyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn daxilind\u0259 y\u0131\u011f\u0131l\u0131b qalm\u0131\u015f m\u0259nfi emosiyalar bu d\u0259f\u0259 d\u0259 \u201cyeniyetm\u0259lik b\u00f6hran\u0131\u201d \u015f\u0259klind\u0259 \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xa bil\u0259r. Lakin, bu halda v\u0259ziyy\u0259t daha da q\u0259lizl\u0259\u015fir. \u00c7\u00fcnki, yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259r art\u0131q \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc azad, m\u00fcst\u0259qil f\u0259rdl\u0259r hesab edir v\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 prosesi \u00e7\u0259tinl\u0259\u015fir. Ail\u0259d\u0259 he\u00e7 k\u0259sin onu ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259diyini fikirl\u0259\u015f\u0259n zavall\u0131 o\u011flanlar t\u0259bii \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 onu \u201cba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u0259n\u201d h\u0259mya\u015f\u0131dlar\u0131na meyl edir. Bir vaxtlar valideynl\u0259rini ideal hesab ed\u0259n u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 valideynl\u0259rin n\u00fcfuzu d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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Zamanla c\u0259miyy\u0259t anas\u0131n\u0131n v\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6z ya\u015flar\u0131na bigan\u0259 qalan ki\u015fil\u0259rl\u0259 dolma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r.<\/strong>\u00a0\u00c7\u00fcnki bir zaman onun da hissl\u0259rin\u0259 laqeydlik g\u00f6st\u0259rilmi\u015f, g\u00f6z ya\u015flar\u0131na v\u0259 onu incid\u0259n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r\u0259 s\u0259thi yana\u015f\u0131lm\u0131\u015f v\u0259 ona hissl\u0259rini a\u011flamaqla b\u00fcruz\u0259 verm\u0259yin yax\u015f\u0131 i\u015f olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 izah edilmi\u015fdi. H\u0259l\u0259 \u00fcst\u0259lik ona n\u00fcmun\u0259 olan babalar\u0131n\u0131n, atas\u0131n\u0131n, \u0259mil\u0259rinin v\u0259 day\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n a\u011flamas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u0259mi\u015fdi. G\u00f6rd\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u0259n o\u011flan ail\u0259 quracaq q\u0259d\u0259r yetkin ya\u015fa \u00e7atd\u0131qda bel\u0259 t\u0259qsirl\u0259ndirilm\u0259y\u0259 davam edir, onu \u00e7\u0259kinm\u0259d\u0259n soyuqluda, \u201cda\u015f \u00fcr\u0259klilikd\u0259\u201d, qad\u0131nlara qar\u015f\u0131 bigan\u0259 olmaqda g\u00fcnahland\u0131r\u0131rlar. H\u0259yat\u0131nda ba\u015f ver\u0259nl\u0259rin k\u00f6k\u00fcnd\u0259 n\u0259yin durdu\u011funu bilm\u0259y\u0259n o\u011flan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc problemli sayaraq \u0259n yax\u015f\u0131 halda, ya R\u0259bbin\u0259 \u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fc tutaraq \u201cAllah\u0131m m\u0259ni bu s\u0131x\u0131nt\u0131dan qurtar\u201d dey\u0259r\u0259k gizlin-gizlin g\u00f6z ya\u015f\u0131 t\u00f6k\u00fcr v\u0259 ya s\u0259b\u0259b olaraq onun psixoloji durumuna m\u00fcdaxil\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259k m\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssis\u0259 m\u00fcraci\u0259t edir v\u0259 ba\u015f\u0131na g\u0259l\u0259nl\u0259ri dan\u0131\u015fark\u0259n o ki var a\u011flay\u0131r. A\u011flad\u0131qca ill\u0259rdir i\u00e7in\u0259 y\u0131\u011f\u0131l\u0131b qalan m\u0259nfi emosiyalar bo\u015falma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. G\u0259ncin q\u0259lbi yum\u015fal\u0131r. Ona \u0259zab ver\u0259n hissl\u0259rd\u0259n qurtulduqca ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n hissl\u0259rin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 diqq\u0259tli olma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. Amma bunun \u0259slind\u0259 niy\u0259 ba\u015f verdiyind\u0259n x\u0259b\u0259rsiz olur. V\u0259 bir g\u00fcn onun o\u011flan \u00f6vlad\u0131 d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259lir. \u018ftrafdak\u0131lar\u0131n n\u0259 dediyini qavrama\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ilk g\u00fcnl\u0259rd\u0259n atas\u0131 ona ki\u015filiyin \u201cq\u0131z\u0131l qaydas\u0131n\u0131\u201d \u00f6yr\u0259dir: \u201cBax, o\u011flum, ki\u015fil\u0259r a\u011flamaz\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n

Qeyd:\u00a0B\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcb m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n ya\u015f h\u0259ddin\u0259 \u00e7atm\u0131\u015f o\u011flan u\u015faqlar\u0131na \u201cki\u015fil\u0259r a\u011flamaz\u201d prinsipinin a\u015f\u0131lanmas\u0131nda bir q\u0259bah\u0259t yoxdur. \u018fsas m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n a\u011flama\u011fa ehtiyac duydu\u011fu d\u00f6vrl\u0259rd\u0259 bunu m\u0259hdudla\u015fd\u0131rmamaqd\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n

M\u00fc\u0259llif:\u00a0<\/strong>Xumar \u018fr\u015fadl\u0131,
\nQordon Nyufeld \u0130nstitutunun t\u0259l\u0259b\u0259si<\/p>\n

Tebiivalideynlik.az<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

D\u00f6vr\u00fcm\u00fczd\u0259 bel\u0259 bir q\u0259rib\u0259 tendensiya m\u00f6vcuddur. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc narahat ed\u0259n h\u0259r bir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bil\u0259 m\u0259yus olan o\u011flan u\u015faqlar\u0131na, \u201ca\u011flama, ki\u015fil\u0259r a\u011flamaz\u201d, \u201cm\u0259g\u0259r s\u0259n q\u0131zsan a\u011flay\u0131rsan?\u201d deyilir. O\u011flanlar bu k\u0259lim\u0259l\u0259ri gah anadan, gah atadan, gah n\u0259n\u0259-babadan, gah m\u00fc\u0259llim\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259n, gah da \u0259trafdak\u0131 tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131 v\u0259 tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131 insanlardan e\u015fidir v\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, \u0259g\u0259r bu q\u0259d\u0259r insan \u201cki\u015fi a\u011flamaz\u201d deyirs\u0259, dem\u0259li a\u011flamaz v\u0259 t\u0259dric\u0259n a\u011flama\u011f\u0131 t\u0259rgidir. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7in\u0259 y\u0131\u011f\u0131l\u0131b qalm\u0131\u015f m\u0259nfi hissl\u0259r bir \u00e7ox hallarda \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc aqressiya \u015f\u0259klind\u0259 b\u00fcruz\u0259 verir. Bu d\u0259f\u0259 d\u0259 u\u015faq \u201ct\u0259rslikd\u0259\u201d, \u201cdala\u015fqanl\u0131qda\u201d \u201cpis u\u015faq\u201d olmaqda g\u00fcnahland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r. N\u0259tic\u0259 etibaril\u0259 is\u0259 c\u0259zaland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r.\u00a0A\u011flamaqdan v\u0259 m\u0259nfi…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":115532,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/kisiler-aglamaz.jpg",440,308,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/kisiler-aglamaz.jpg",440,308,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/kisiler-aglamaz.jpg",440,308,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/kisiler-aglamaz-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/kisiler-aglamaz-300x210.jpg",300,210,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/kisiler-aglamaz.jpg",440,308,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/kisiler-aglamaz.jpg",440,308,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/kisiler-aglamaz.jpg",440,308,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/kisiler-aglamaz-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/kisiler-aglamaz.jpg",440,308,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"D\u00f6vr\u00fcm\u00fczd\u0259 bel\u0259 bir q\u0259rib\u0259 tendensiya m\u00f6vcuddur. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc narahat ed\u0259n h\u0259r bir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bil\u0259 m\u0259yus olan o\u011flan u\u015faqlar\u0131na, \u201ca\u011flama, ki\u015fil\u0259r a\u011flamaz\u201d, \u201cm\u0259g\u0259r s\u0259n q\u0131zsan a\u011flay\u0131rsan?\u201d deyilir. O\u011flanlar bu k\u0259lim\u0259l\u0259ri gah anadan, gah atadan, gah n\u0259n\u0259-babadan, gah m\u00fc\u0259llim\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259n, gah da \u0259trafdak\u0131 tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131 v\u0259 tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131 insanlardan e\u015fidir v\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, \u0259g\u0259r bu q\u0259d\u0259r insan \u201cki\u015fi a\u011flamaz\u201d deyirs\u0259, dem\u0259li…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/115531"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=115531"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/115531\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/115532"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=115531"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=115531"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=115531"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}