O\u011ful: – Bel\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259k olar? Sevgisiz, filans\u0131z… Ata: – Sonra sev\u0259rs\u0259n d\u0259.<\/p>\n
Bu dialoqu oxuyan kimi g\u00fcman ki, s\u00f6hb\u0259tin hans\u0131 filmd\u0259n getdiyini anlad\u0131n\u0131z. Do\u011frudur, m\u0259\u015fhur “\u018fhm\u0259d haradad\u0131r?\u201d b\u0259dii filmind\u0259 \u018fhm\u0259din atas\u0131 \u015eirin ki\u015fi il\u0259 s\u00f6hb\u0259tind\u0259ndir. Bu filmd\u0259n sitat g\u0259tirm\u0259yimiz he\u00e7 d\u0259 \u0259b\u0259s yer\u0259 deyil.<\/p>\n
B\u0259li, biz qad\u0131nlar xo\u015fb\u0259xt ail\u0259 qurmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn n\u0259l\u0259r etmirik ki?! Ana v\u0259 n\u0259n\u0259l\u0259rimizin m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 qulaq as\u0131b, \u0259m\u0259l edir, dadl\u0131 x\u00f6r\u0259kl\u0259r bi\u015firm\u0259yi \u00f6yr\u0259nir, ev i\u015fl\u0259rind\u0259 qabiliyy\u0259tli olma\u011fa can at\u0131r, bununla bel\u0259, moda al\u0259mind\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259n yenilikl\u0259ri qa\u00e7\u0131rm\u0131r, g\u00f6zqama\u015fd\u0131ran karyera qurma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r, h\u0259tta h\u0259ft\u0259nin 2-3 g\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fc idman zallar\u0131nda ke\u00e7iririk.<\/p>\n
Amma m\u0259lum olur ki, sevdiyimiz ki\u015finin evlilik t\u0259klf etm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn b\u00fct\u00fcn bu sadalananlar kifay\u0259t etmir. \u00c7\u00fcnki Az\u0259rbaycan c\u0259miyy\u0259ti ba\u015fqa n\u00fcanslar\u0131 diqt\u0259 edir.<\/p>\n
\u0130ndi Az\u0259rbaycanda ki\u015fil\u0259rin \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti evl\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 bir i\u015f, plan kimi yana\u015f\u0131r. Y\u0259ni m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n bir ya\u015fa \u00e7atanda \u2013 o\u011flan\u0131n evl\u0259nm\u0259k ya\u015f\u0131, h\u0259r bir ail\u0259y\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015fir – anas\u0131 v\u0259 bac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259kidi il\u0259, evl\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 q\u0131z axtar\u0131r.<\/p>\n
B\u0259z\u0259n bu i\u015fi d\u0259 o\u011flan\u0131n ana v\u0259 bac\u0131s\u0131 el\u0259 \u00f6z \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr, t\u0259z\u0259 b\u0259y namiz\u0259dini “\u0259ziyy\u0259t\u0259\u201d salmaq ist\u0259mirl\u0259r. Onlar qon\u015fuda, qohumlarda olan q\u0131zlara n\u0259z\u0259r yetirirl\u0259r. Burada diqq\u0259t \u00e7\u0259k\u0259n n\u00fcans is\u0259 q\u0131z\u0131n ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131n az, ail\u0259sinin is\u0259 imkanl\u0131 olmas\u0131d\u0131r. Y\u0259ni ana o\u011fluna h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 axtarark\u0259n, \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131, xo\u015f, firavan rifah hal\u0131n\u0131 da qarant alt\u0131na alma\u011fa s\u0259y g\u00f6st\u0259rir.<\/p>\n
Sa\u011flam bir ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 ya\u015faya bilm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ruh \u0259kizimizi, yar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 tapma\u011f\u0131m\u0131z olduqca \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tlidir. G\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131m\u0131zla ox\u015far z\u00f6vql\u0259r\u0259 sahib olmasaq, bu bizim ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131za da t\u0259sir ed\u0259c\u0259k. Zamanla ki\u00e7ik uy\u011funsuzluqlar b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259c\u0259k, ail\u0259d\u0259 naraz\u0131l\u0131qlar yaradacaq. Naraz\u0131l\u0131qlar is\u0259 getdikc\u0259 nifaq yaradacaq. Do\u011fru se\u00e7ilm\u0259y\u0259n h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 il\u0259 \u0259n sonunda yolumuz m\u0259hk\u0259m\u0259d\u0259 ayr\u0131lacaq.
\nAram\u0131zda el\u0259 insanlar var ki, evl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259 sevgi, e\u015fq, m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t kimi m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 evl\u0259nmir, sad\u0259c\u0259 “evl\u0259nm\u0259k xatirin\u0259\u201d ail\u0259 qururlar. B\u0259z\u0259n “m\u0259ntiq evliliyi\u201d dediyimiz evlilikl\u0259r d\u0259 m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. Bu zaman evl\u0259n\u0259nl\u0259r bir-birinin sosial v\u0259ziyy\u0259tin\u0259, oldu\u011fu m\u00f6vqey\u0259 v\u0259 yaxud da dig\u0259r g\u00f6st\u0259ricil\u0259r\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 evl\u0259nirl\u0259r<\/p>\n
G\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz \u00f6n\u00fcn\u0259 m\u0259ntiq evliliyi ed\u0259n bir c\u00fctl\u00fcy\u00fcn toy m\u0259rasimi g\u0259lir. Toyun s\u0259b\u0259bkarlar\u0131 sanki r\u0259smi t\u0259dbird\u0259 oturublar, ciddi v\u0259 quru… S\u0259mimiyy\u0259t yox, e\u015fq yox, sevgi yox! Onlar\u0131n bu evliliyi bir \u015firk\u0259tin t\u0259sis edilm\u0259sin\u0259 b\u0259nz\u0259yir…<\/p>\n
“\u0130ndi ki\u015fil\u0259r sevgi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tin\u0259 ayr\u0131, evl\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 d\u0259 ayr\u0131 bax\u0131rlar\u201d<\/p>\n
Pe\u015f\u0259kar Psixoterapiya Liqas\u0131n\u0131n psixoloq-psixoterapevti T\u0259hmin\u0259 \u00c7\u0259l\u0259bi G\u00fcn.Az-a a\u00e7\u0131qlamas\u0131nda deyir ki, Az\u0259rbaycanda son ill\u0259r ail\u0259 quran c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r daha \u00e7ox m\u0259ntiq evliliyin\u0259 \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck verirl\u0259r:<\/p>\n
– O\u011flan \u00f6vladlar\u0131 olan ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259, valideynl\u0259r “s\u0259n\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131 m\u0259n se\u00e7\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m. \u00c7\u00fcnki indi art\u0131q ba\u015fqa z\u0259man\u0259dir” – v\u0259 sair v\u0259 ilax\u0131r kimi c\u00fcml\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n \u00e7ox istifad\u0259 edirl\u0259r. Bel\u0259likl\u0259 d\u0259, o\u011flanlar\u0131n beynind\u0259 mexanizm i\u015f\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr ki, m\u0259nim se\u00e7imim m\u00fctl\u0259q \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 yanl\u0131\u015f olacaq. \u018fg\u0259r ail\u0259 qurdu\u011fum q\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcm se\u00e7s\u0259m, xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmayaca\u011fam. Onu da deyim ki, \u00e7ox q\u0259rib\u0259 tendensiya yaran\u0131b. \u0130ndi ki\u015fil\u0259r sevgi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tin\u0259 ayr\u0131, evl\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 d\u0259 ayr\u0131 bax\u0131rlar. \u0130nsanlar h\u0259m sevgi, h\u0259m d\u0259 m\u0259ntiq evliliyi qursalar, m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri g\u00f6z\u0259l, eyni zamanda uzun\u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fc olur. Bu da c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 ertibars\u0131zl\u0131qla asossiasiya olunur.<\/p>\n
\u0130nsan tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131 biri il\u0259 ail\u0259 qurmaq ist\u0259mir, c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 etibar etmir. Burada xo\u015f olmayan m\u0259qamlardan biri d\u0259 ail\u0259 qurmaq m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259sind\u0259 o\u011flanlar\u0131n m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti \u00f6z \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u0259k ist\u0259m\u0259m\u0259sidir. M\u0259suliyy\u0259ti valideynin \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 qoymaq onlara daha asan g\u0259lir. \u0130nsan h\u0259r bir halda m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti \u00f6z \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u0259li v\u0259 \u00f6z se\u00e7imini \u00f6z\u00fc etm\u0259lidir. T\u0259bii ki, burada valideyn m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259ti d\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bu q\u0259rar \u00fcmumi olaraq q\u0259bul edilm\u0259lidir. S\u0131rf kor-koran\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259k olmaz. \u0130ndi o\u011flanlar \u0259sas ona fikir verirl\u0259r ki, evl\u0259n\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259ri q\u0131z ya\u015fca \u00e7ox ki\u00e7ik olmal\u0131d\u0131r. H\u0259tta “Gedib, orta m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259n q\u0131z se\u00e7\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m\u201d \u2013 kimi ifad\u0259l\u0259r i\u015fl\u0259d\u0259nl\u0259r d\u0259 \u00e7oxdur. Bu s\u0131rf c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 etibars\u0131zl\u0131qdan ir\u0259li g\u0259lir. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, bu he\u00e7 d\u0259 bizi yax\u015f\u0131 yer\u0259 apar\u0131b \u00e7\u0131xarmayacaq.<\/p>\n
“D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r ki, xaricd\u0259 t\u0259hsil alan q\u0131z \u0259xlaql\u0131 say\u0131la bilm\u0259z…\u201d<\/p>\n
-Ax\u0131 niy\u0259 hans\u0131sa bir g\u0259nc evliliyini m\u0259hz c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 hesablay\u0131r, qon\u015fu, qohum n\u0259 dey\u0259r, prinsipi il\u0259 ya\u015fay\u0131r? Xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyinin \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259n x\u0259tt \u00e7\u0259kir? Bu bir psixoloji problem v\u0259 ya x\u0259st\u0259likdirmi?<\/p>\n
– Son zamanlar Az\u0259rbaycanda qad\u0131nlar \u00f6lk\u0259nin h\u00fcdudlar\u0131ndan k\u0259narda t\u0259hsil alma\u011fa meyl edirl\u0259r. Bununla da bizim ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259 bel\u0259 bir q\u0259rib\u0259 kompleks yaranma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r ki, q\u0131z getdi, hans\u0131sa \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 ail\u0259sinin n\u0259zar\u0259tind\u0259n uzaq 4 il qald\u0131, art\u0131q o, \u0259xlaql\u0131 say\u0131la bilm\u0259z…<\/p>\n
O\u011flan d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, m\u0259n bel\u0259 bir q\u0131zla evl\u0259ns\u0259m, art\u0131q \u0259trafda, insanlar aras\u0131nda xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259tl\u0259t olacaq. M\u0259n bilmir\u0259m ki o, xaricd\u0259 n\u0259 edib. Halbuki h\u0259min xan\u0131m xaricd\u0259 \u00f6z t\u0259hsili il\u0259 m\u0259\u015f\u011ful olub. \u00d6z \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259yib, \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t kimi formala\u015f\u0131b. Bu kimi hallar ki\u015fil\u0259rin \u015f\u00fcuaralt\u0131nda bunu \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 s\u0131\u011f\u0131\u015fd\u0131rmamaqlar\u0131 il\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259dard\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bilirsiniz, m\u0259n\u0259 nec\u0259 pasiyentl\u0259r daha \u00e7ox m\u00fcraci\u0259t edir? Ki\u015fi hans\u0131sa bir qad\u0131n\u0131 sevir, amma onunla evl\u0259nmir. Ail\u0259sinin ona g\u00f6st\u0259rdiyi q\u0131zla evl\u0259nir. 6 ay, 1 il ke\u00e7\u0259nd\u0259n sonra yenid\u0259n sevgi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tin\u0259, sevdiyi qad\u0131n\u0131na qay\u0131d\u0131r. Y\u0259ni bu insan xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyini tam olaraq evind\u0259 tapm\u0131r. Yenid\u0259n birinci m\u00fcnasib\u0259tin\u0259 qay\u0131tmaq m\u0259cburiyy\u0259tind\u0259 qal\u0131r. Bununla da ikili h\u0259yat ya\u015fama\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. \u0130kili h\u0259yat ya\u015fayanda da onda qorxu, depressiya, h\u0259y\u0259can, apsessiya kimi psixoloji x\u0259st\u0259likl\u0259r yaran\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki ikili h\u0259yat ya\u015famaq, he\u00e7 d\u0259 k\u0259nardan g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fcy\u00fc kimi asan bir proses deyil. Bel\u0259 bir b\u00f6l\u00fcnm\u0259l\u0259r, \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tin ikil\u0259\u015fm\u0259sinin olmamas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn insan \u00f6z\u00fc se\u00e7im etm\u0259lidir. Bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn is\u0259 sevgi \u00e7ox \u00f6n\u0259mlidir. M\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n bir m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259 bir insan\u0131 tan\u0131maq, xarakter uy\u011funlu\u011funun olub-olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259nl\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259k, daha sonra is\u0259 evliliy\u0259 q\u0259rar verm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. Y\u0259ni t\u0259k sevgi v\u0259 ya m\u0259ntiq deyil, sevgi v\u0259 m\u0259ntiqin v\u0259hd\u0259tind\u0259n yaranan evlilikl\u0259r daha uzun\u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fc olur.<\/p>\n
“Valideynl\u0259rin evlilikl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 yaratd\u0131qlar\u0131 u\u00e7urumlara \u00f6vladlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u201d<\/p>\n
– Az\u0259rbaycanda ill\u0259rdir yanl\u0131\u015f olaraq bel\u0259 bir fikir formala\u015f\u0131b ki, valideynl\u0259rin xeyir-duas\u0131 il\u0259 ail\u0259 quranlar\u0131n evlilikl\u0259ri daha uzun\u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fc olur. M\u0259n bunu bilirsiniz n\u0259y\u0259 b\u0259nz\u0259dir\u0259m? Evd\u0259 oturub, hans\u0131sa internet ma\u011fazadan onlayn sifari\u015f edirs\u0259n. \u018f\u015fya g\u0259l\u0259nd\u0259n sonra keyfiyy\u0259tin\u0259, yax\u015f\u0131 v\u0259 ya pis olmas\u0131na is\u0259 evin\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259nd\u0259n sonra bax\u0131rsan\u2026<\/p>\n
– Haql\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. 35 ya\u015f\u0131nda bir ki\u015finin valideynin se\u00e7diyi q\u0131z\u0131 almas\u0131, onun psixoloji durumunun evliliy\u0259 haz\u0131r olmamas\u0131ndan x\u0259b\u0259r verir. \u0130nsan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7\u0259 bilmirs\u0259, burada hans\u0131 yax\u015f\u0131 ail\u0259 ba\u015f\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan s\u00f6hb\u0259t ged\u0259 bil\u0259r? Burada q\u0131z\u0131l ortan\u0131 tapmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. Y\u0259ni valideynl\u0259rin d\u0259 raz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bir insan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc ham\u0131dan daha g\u00f6z\u0259l tan\u0131y\u0131r. Ail\u0259 qurmaq el\u0259dir ki, insanlar bir evd\u0259 \u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fck ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131 planla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131rlar. T\u0259bii ki, h\u0259r bir insan da nec\u0259 insan\u0131n ona uy\u011fun g\u0259ldiyini yax\u015f\u0131 bilir. S\u0259n yuxudan oyananda g\u00f6zl\u0259rini a\u00e7\u0131b ancaq g\u00f6rm\u0259k ist\u0259diyin insan\u0131 yan\u0131nda ist\u0259yirs\u0259n. Onunla h\u0259r g\u00fcn bir evd\u0259 ya\u015famaq, xo\u015f v\u0259 k\u0259d\u0259rli g\u00fcnl\u0259rini b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fm\u0259k var. Ax\u0131 nec\u0259 ola bil\u0259r ki, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n s\u0259nin \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc bir adam se\u00e7sin?! S\u0259nin h\u0259yat\u0131na ba\u015fqas\u0131 nec\u0259 q\u0259rar ver\u0259 bil\u0259r? Bu absurddur! Bel\u0259 ail\u0259 quranlarda t\u0259bii ki, bo\u015fluqlar olacaq. Uy\u011funsuzluqla evl\u0259n\u0259nl\u0259rd\u0259 sonradan, bo\u015fanmalar, ail\u0259 daxilind\u0259 qalmaqllar, m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259r yaran\u0131r. Nec\u0259 dey\u0259rl\u0259r, valideynl\u0259rin evlilikl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 yaratd\u0131qlar\u0131 u\u00e7urumlara \u00f6vladlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr.<\/p>\n
“Az\u0259rbaycanda bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n \u0259n \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259bi intim uy\u011funsuzluqdur\u201d<\/p>\n
– Burada daha bir vacib n\u00fcans da var. \u0130ki insan evl\u0259nm\u0259zd\u0259n \u0259vv\u0259l bir-birini seksual bax\u0131mdan da tan\u0131mal\u0131d\u0131r. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, bu \u00e7ox vacib m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259dir, y\u0259ni h\u0259r iki partnyor yataqda bir-birin\u0259 uy\u011fun g\u0259lm\u0259lidir. Amma mental d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259r\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, Az\u0259rbaycanda qad\u0131n sevdiyi ki\u015fi il\u0259 intim m\u00fcnasib\u0259t qurarsa, ona qar\u015f\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259t yax\u015f\u0131 olmur. Ki\u015fi art\u0131q bu qad\u0131na ciddi yana\u015fm\u0131r. H\u0259tta qad\u0131n\u0131n ilk d\u0259f\u0259 olsa da bel\u0259, onunla intim \u0259laq\u0259d\u0259 olmas\u0131na yax\u015f\u0131 baxm\u0131r. Beynind\u0259 fikir formala\u015f\u0131r ki, bu yax\u015f\u0131 hal deyil. Daha bir m\u0259qam da odur ki, c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n n\u0259 zamansa sevgilisinin olmas\u0131 da yax\u015f\u0131 hal say\u0131lm\u0131r. H\u0259tta “n\u0259 zamansa sevgilisi olan qad\u0131n \u0259xlaqs\u0131zd\u0131r\u201d \u2013 kimi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259r d\u0259 az deyil. Ad\u0259t\u0259n, bu c\u00fcr d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259li ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n ya\u015fca \u00e7ox ki\u00e7ik q\u0131zlarla ail\u0259r qururlar. \u018fsas odur ki, bu q\u0131z\u0131n ke\u00e7mi\u015find\u0259 sevgilisi olmas\u0131n\u2026<\/p>\n
– Siz\u0259 bir fakt deyim ki, Az\u0259rbaycanda bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n \u0259n \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259bi intim uy\u011funsuzluqdur. G\u0259ncl\u0259r evl\u0259nirl\u0259r, amma sonra m\u0259lum olur ki, yataqda bir-birin\u0259 uy\u011fun deyill\u0259r. Seksual uy\u011funsuzlu\u011fu is\u0259 \u0259vv\u0259ld\u0259n m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n ed\u0259 bilmirl\u0259r. \u00c7\u00fcnki Az\u0259rbaycanda bakir\u0259lik tabusunun olmas\u0131 h\u0259r k\u0259s\u0259 m\u0259lumdur. Bu tabuya riayi\u0259t etm\u0259m\u0259k is\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn say\u0131lm\u0131r. C\u00fctl\u00fck evl\u0259nir. Sonralar seksual uy\u011funsuzluqla ba\u011fl\u0131 n\u0259inki \u00f6z aralar\u0131nda, h\u0259tta he\u00e7 yax\u0131nlar\u0131na da dan\u0131\u015fm\u0131rlar. \u00c7\u00fcnki onlar evliliy\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7ox q\u0131sa yol ke\u00e7ibl\u0259r. Valideyn m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259ti il\u0259 evl\u0259nibl\u0259r, bir-birini tan\u0131ma\u011fa, sevm\u0259y\u0259, seksual ist\u0259kl\u0259rini bilm\u0259y\u0259 imkanlar\u0131 olmay\u0131b. Bundan sonra ki\u015fi is\u0259 seksual t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259rini k\u0259narda axtarma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. Gedir \u00f6d\u0259ni\u015f \u0259sas\u0131nda, fiziki ist\u0259yini \u00f6d\u0259yir. Mentalitet\u0259 uy\u011fun olaraq is\u0259 qad\u0131n he\u00e7 n\u0259 ed\u0259 bilmir. Bununla da ail\u0259d\u0259 m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259r ba\u015flay\u0131r. Bir \u00e7ox qalmaqall\u0131, problemli ail\u0259l\u0259rin p\u0259rd\u0259arxas\u0131na baxd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z zaman bunun alt\u0131ndan m\u00fctl\u0259q uy\u011fun g\u0259lm\u0259y\u0259n intim h\u0259yatlar \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. Bu da g\u0259tirib, bo\u015fanmalara \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r.(gun.az)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
O\u011ful: – Bel\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259k olar? Sevgisiz, filans\u0131z… Ata: – Sonra sev\u0259rs\u0259n d\u0259. Bu dialoqu oxuyan kimi g\u00fcman ki, s\u00f6hb\u0259tin hans\u0131 filmd\u0259n getdiyini anlad\u0131n\u0131z. Do\u011frudur, m\u0259\u015fhur “\u018fhm\u0259d haradad\u0131r?\u201d b\u0259dii filmind\u0259 \u018fhm\u0259din atas\u0131 \u015eirin ki\u015fi il\u0259 s\u00f6hb\u0259tind\u0259ndir. Bu filmd\u0259n sitat g\u0259tirm\u0259yimiz he\u00e7 d\u0259 \u0259b\u0259s yer\u0259 deyil. B\u0259li, biz qad\u0131nlar xo\u015fb\u0259xt ail\u0259 qurmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn n\u0259l\u0259r etmirik ki?! Ana v\u0259 n\u0259n\u0259l\u0259rimizin m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 qulaq as\u0131b, \u0259m\u0259l edir, dadl\u0131 x\u00f6r\u0259kl\u0259r bi\u015firm\u0259yi \u00f6yr\u0259nir, ev i\u015fl\u0259rind\u0259 qabiliyy\u0259tli olma\u011fa can at\u0131r, bununla bel\u0259, moda al\u0259mind\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259n yenilikl\u0259ri qa\u00e7\u0131rm\u0131r, g\u00f6zqama\u015fd\u0131ran karyera qurma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r, h\u0259tta h\u0259ft\u0259nin 2-3 g\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fc idman zallar\u0131nda…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":116241,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/1578508495_2-96.jpg",461,310,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/1578508495_2-96.jpg",461,310,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/1578508495_2-96.jpg",461,310,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/1578508495_2-96-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/1578508495_2-96-300x202.jpg",300,202,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/1578508495_2-96.jpg",461,310,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/1578508495_2-96.jpg",461,310,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/1578508495_2-96.jpg",461,310,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/1578508495_2-96-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/01\/1578508495_2-96.jpg",461,310,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"O\u011ful: – Bel\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259k olar? Sevgisiz, filans\u0131z… Ata: – Sonra sev\u0259rs\u0259n d\u0259. Bu dialoqu oxuyan kimi g\u00fcman ki, s\u00f6hb\u0259tin hans\u0131 filmd\u0259n getdiyini anlad\u0131n\u0131z. Do\u011frudur, m\u0259\u015fhur “\u018fhm\u0259d haradad\u0131r?\u201d b\u0259dii filmind\u0259 \u018fhm\u0259din atas\u0131 \u015eirin ki\u015fi il\u0259 s\u00f6hb\u0259tind\u0259ndir. Bu filmd\u0259n sitat g\u0259tirm\u0259yimiz he\u00e7 d\u0259 \u0259b\u0259s yer\u0259 deyil. B\u0259li, biz qad\u0131nlar xo\u015fb\u0259xt ail\u0259 qurmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn n\u0259l\u0259r etmirik ki?! Ana…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/116240"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=116240"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/116240\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/116241"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=116240"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=116240"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=116240"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}