Rusiyal\u0131 psixoloq Nikita Skoroboqatov hesab edir ki, 3 d\u0259f\u0259 a\u015fiq olmaq h\u0259r bir insan\u0131n teleyin\u0259 yaz\u0131l\u0131b. Lakin h\u0259r bir sevgi \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259m\u0259xsus \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ba\u015f verir, h\u0259m d\u0259 konkret m\u0259qs\u0259d\u0259 xidm\u0259t edir v\u0259 bunun da \u00f6z s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri var.
\nOxucular\u0131 insanlar\u0131n a\u015fiqolma m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259l\u0259ri il\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f edirik.
\n\u0130lk m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t
\n\u0130lk m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t g\u0259nc ya\u015fda, b\u0259z\u0259n d\u0259 m\u0259kt\u0259bin yuxar\u0131 sinifl\u0259rind\u0259 ba\u015f verir. Bu sevgi g\u0259nclik arzular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 t\u0259c\u0259ss\u00fcm etdirir v\u0259 bizd\u0259 m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t haqq\u0131nda na\u011f\u0131llardak\u0131 kimi ideal t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcrl\u0259r formala\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r.
\nBu m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259tin t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259rin\u0259 cavab ver\u0259 bilm\u0259k ist\u0259yimizi t\u0259min edir. Bu sevgi hissl\u0259rimizd\u0259n \u00e7ox, c\u0259miyy\u0259tin bizd\u0259n g\u00f6zl\u0259ntil\u0259ril\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259lidir. Biz \u015f\u00fcursuz \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 onun \u0259traf\u0131nda bat\u0131r\u0131q. El\u0259 hesab edirik ki, bu sevgi yegan\u0259dir (h\u0259tta \u0259g\u0259r m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r bizi qane etm\u0259s\u0259 d\u0259) v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc \u0259min edirik ki, h\u0259r \u015fey bel\u0259 d\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r.
\n\u0130kinci sevgi
\nN\u00f6vb\u0259ti – ikinci m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t \u0259n \u00e7\u0259tin m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259dir. O biz\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz bar\u0259d\u0259 d\u0259rs verir, el\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc sevimli hiss etm\u0259k laz\u0131m oldu\u011funu \u00f6yr\u0259dir.
\nBu m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t \u00f6z\u00fc il\u0259 birlikd\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck a\u011fr\u0131 – itki, x\u0259yan\u0259t v\u0259 yalan g\u0259tirir.
\nA\u015fiq olan zaman\u0131 biz\u0259 el\u0259 g\u0259lir ki, h\u0259r \u015feyi ba\u015fqa c\u00fcr edirik, amma bu, bel\u0259 deyil. Biz sad\u0259c\u0259 olaraq yeni sevgiy\u0259 tutunuruq, \u00e7\u00fcnki bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r \u0259vv\u0259lkil\u0259rd\u0259n f\u0259rql\u0259nir. Amma bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcr\u00fck. \u0130lk d\u0259f\u0259 biz\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olmayan \u0259sl a\u011fr\u0131n\u0131 hiss edirik. V\u0259 ilk d\u0259f\u0259 ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fck ki, prinsipc\u0259, m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259n n\u0259 ist\u0259yirik.
\nBu sevgid\u0259 problem ondad\u0131r ki, biz ba\u015fqa n\u0259tic\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259m\u0259kl\u0259 eyni s\u0259hvl\u0259ri d\u0259f\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 t\u0259krar edirik. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, h\u0259r yeni g\u00f6zl\u0259ntinin n\u0259tic\u0259si \u0259vv\u0259lkind\u0259n pis qurtar\u0131r.
\nBu m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t ad\u0259t\u0259n qeyri-sa\u011flam v\u0259 qeyri-b\u0259rab\u0259r olur. B\u0259z\u0259n o, emosionall\u0131q v\u0259 h\u0259tta fiziki zorak\u0131l\u0131q, el\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259 m\u00fcxt\u0259lif n\u00f6v manipulyasiya il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 olur.
\nBu sevgi daimi dram v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259dir v\u0259 m\u0259hz g\u0259rginlik bizi ondan imtina etm\u0259y\u0259 imkan vermir. Drama bizd\u0259 bir n\u00f6v v\u0259rdi\u015f do\u011furur v\u0259 biz sonsuz d\u00f6vriyy\u0259ni he\u00e7 c\u00fcr\u0259 ba\u015fa vura bilmirik.
\nBu e\u015fq el\u0259 g\u00fccl\u00fc ist\u0259k \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulub ki, m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin davam etm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259r yola \u0259l at\u0131r\u0131q, h\u0259r azaba qatlan\u0131r. Reall\u0131qda is\u0259 bu yolda edil\u0259n h\u0259r bir h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t v\u0259 d\u00f6z\u00fcm sad\u0259c\u0259 bizim ziyan\u0131m\u0131za i\u015fl\u0259yir. Biz is\u0259 \u00fcmid etm\u0259k ist\u0259yirik ki, bu m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t \u0259b\u0259di olacaq…
\n\u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t
\nSonuncu sevgi g\u00f6zl\u0259nilm\u0259d\u0259n yaran\u0131r. O, bizi heyran edir v\u0259 m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t haqq\u0131nda b\u00fct\u00fcn t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcrl\u0259rimizi alt-\u00fcst edir.
\nBu sevgini el\u0259 asanl\u0131qla ya\u015fay\u0131r\u0131q ki, m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259tin bel\u0259 t\u0259bii v\u0259 a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131z olmas\u0131na \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz d\u0259 t\u0259\u0259cc\u00fcb edirik. Bu sevgi ayaqlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yerd\u0259n k\u0259sir, \u00e7\u00fcnki biz yeni m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 q\u0259tiyy\u0259n haz\u0131r deyildik.
\nBu sevgid\u0259 sanki h\u0259r \u015fey ideald\u0131r. M\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r sad\u0259 v\u0259 \u0259lav\u0259 \u00fcmidl\u0259r olmadan yaran\u0131r. S\u0259n dem\u0259, kamillik tam m\u00fcy\u0259ss\u0259r olur, bu halda s\u0259n\u0259 he\u00e7 kim t\u0259zyiq etmir v\u0259 biz \u00f6mr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn qalan hiss\u0259sini bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 h\u0259sr ed\u0259r\u0259k ke\u00e7irdiyimiz \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7ox xo\u015fb\u0259xtik.
\nBu sevgi \u0259vv\u0259lkil\u0259rin\u0259 b\u0259nz\u0259mir, h\u0259m\u00e7inin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcb t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcr etdiyimiz he\u00e7 bir qaydalara da uy\u011fun deyil. O, bizim “h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n sevgisi” haqq\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259l\u0259rimizi v\u0259 bizim \u0259qid\u0259mizi tamamil\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015fdirir.
\nBiz\u0259 sad\u0259c\u0259 h\u0259r \u015feyin \u00f6z qaydas\u0131nda getdiyini izl\u0259m\u0259k qal\u0131r. Bu sevgi \u00fcr\u0259yimizin qap\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7oxdan d\u00f6y\u00fcrd\u00fc, yaln\u0131z o s\u0259s\u0259 qulaq asmaq laz\u0131m idi. Bu sevgi biz\u0259 sevm\u0259yi v\u0259 sevimli olma\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259dir.
\nOla bilsin ki, siz sevginin h\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7 n\u00f6v\u00fcn\u00fc \u201cdadmas\u0131n\u0131z\u201d, amma bu, yaln\u0131z o dem\u0259kdir ki, siz h\u0259l\u0259 haz\u0131r deyilsiniz. M\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259ti t\u0259l\u0259sdirm\u0259k olmaz! O \u00f6z\u00fc t\u0259yin olunmu\u015f vaxtda g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Rusiyal\u0131 psixoloq Nikita Skoroboqatov hesab edir ki, 3 d\u0259f\u0259 a\u015fiq olmaq h\u0259r bir insan\u0131n teleyin\u0259 yaz\u0131l\u0131b. Lakin h\u0259r bir sevgi \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259m\u0259xsus \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ba\u015f verir, h\u0259m d\u0259 konkret m\u0259qs\u0259d\u0259 xidm\u0259t edir v\u0259 bunun da \u00f6z s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri var. Oxucular\u0131 insanlar\u0131n a\u015fiqolma m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259l\u0259ri il\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f edirik. \u0130lk m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t \u0130lk m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t g\u0259nc ya\u015fda, b\u0259z\u0259n d\u0259 m\u0259kt\u0259bin yuxar\u0131 sinifl\u0259rind\u0259 ba\u015f verir. Bu sevgi g\u0259nclik arzular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 t\u0259c\u0259ss\u00fcm etdirir v\u0259 bizd\u0259 m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t haqq\u0131nda na\u011f\u0131llardak\u0131 kimi ideal t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcrl\u0259r formala\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r. Bu m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259tin t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259rin\u0259 cavab ver\u0259 bilm\u0259k ist\u0259yimizi t\u0259min edir. Bu sevgi hissl\u0259rimizd\u0259n \u00e7ox, c\u0259miyy\u0259tin bizd\u0259n g\u00f6zl\u0259ntil\u0259ril\u0259…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":134866,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/1573618462_screenshot_1.jpg",505,328,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/1573618462_screenshot_1.jpg",505,328,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/1573618462_screenshot_1.jpg",505,328,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/1573618462_screenshot_1-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/1573618462_screenshot_1-300x195.jpg",300,195,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/1573618462_screenshot_1.jpg",505,328,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/1573618462_screenshot_1.jpg",505,328,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/1573618462_screenshot_1.jpg",505,328,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/1573618462_screenshot_1-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/1573618462_screenshot_1.jpg",505,328,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"Rusiyal\u0131 psixoloq Nikita Skoroboqatov hesab edir ki, 3 d\u0259f\u0259 a\u015fiq olmaq h\u0259r bir insan\u0131n teleyin\u0259 yaz\u0131l\u0131b. Lakin h\u0259r bir sevgi \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259m\u0259xsus \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ba\u015f verir, h\u0259m d\u0259 konkret m\u0259qs\u0259d\u0259 xidm\u0259t edir v\u0259 bunun da \u00f6z s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri var. Oxucular\u0131 insanlar\u0131n a\u015fiqolma m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259l\u0259ri il\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f edirik. \u0130lk m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t \u0130lk m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t g\u0259nc ya\u015fda, b\u0259z\u0259n d\u0259 m\u0259kt\u0259bin yuxar\u0131 sinifl\u0259rind\u0259 ba\u015f…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/134864"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=134864"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/134864\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/134866"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=134864"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=134864"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=134864"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}