{"id":137795,"date":"2020-03-04T10:13:38","date_gmt":"2020-03-04T07:13:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=137795"},"modified":"2020-03-04T10:13:38","modified_gmt":"2020-03-04T07:13:38","slug":"izdivac-evl%c9%99nm%c9%99-astanasinda","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=137795","title":{"rendered":"\u0130zdivac, evl\u0259nm\u0259 astanas\u0131nda"},"content":{"rendered":"
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B\u0259\u015f\u0259riyy\u0259tin \u0259n g\u00f6z\u0259l v\u0259 ilahi hissl\u0259rind\u0259n biri onun ail\u0259 qurma\u011fa v\u0259 \u00f6vlad sahibi olma\u011fa meylidir. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n ail\u0259 formas\u0131nda ya\u015fay\u0131\u015f\u0131 tam t\u0259biidir. \u0130nsan el\u0259 bir \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 yarad\u0131lm\u0131\u015fd\u0131r ki, o fitri v\u0259 t\u0259bii \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ail\u0259 qurma\u011fa v\u0259 \u00f6vlad sahibi olma\u011fa meyl g\u00f6st\u0259rir. B\u0259\u015f\u0259r tarixinin m\u00fctali\u0259si g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki, o yarand\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00fcnd\u0259n ail\u0259 qurumunda ya\u015fam\u0131\u015fd\u0131r. Ail\u0259 qurumunu aradan g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u0259k ist\u0259y\u0259n b\u00fct\u00fcn f\u0259rdl\u0259r u\u011fursuzlu\u011fa d\u00fc\u00e7ar olmu\u015flar. Bu istiqam\u0259td\u0259 n\u0259 \u018fflatunun, n\u0259 d\u0259 Marksist m\u0259kt\u0259bin s\u0259y`l\u0259ri bir n\u0259tic\u0259 verm\u0259mi\u015fdir. Q\u0259dim d\u00f6vrd\u0259n \u0259srimiz\u0259 g\u0259lib \u00e7atm\u0131\u015f v\u0259h\u015fi q\u0259bil\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 bel\u0259 ail\u0259 qurumu m\u00f6vcuddur. B\u0259\u015f\u0259r tarixini a\u00e7\u0131q g\u00f6zl\u0259 m\u00fctali\u0259 etmi\u015f aliml\u0259r bel\u0259 bir q\u0259na\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259lmi\u015fl\u0259r ki, tarix boyu h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imi v\u0259 ail\u0259 t\u0259\u015fkili kimi \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tli qayda-qanun olmam\u0131\u015fd\u0131r. \u0130zdivac\u0131n \u015f\u0259xsi yox, n\u00f6vl\u0259 (insan n\u00f6v\u00fc) ba\u011fl\u0131 z\u0259rur\u0259t olmas\u0131 bu h\u0259qiq\u0259tin d\u0259lilidir. B\u0259li, izdivacda m\u0259qs\u0259d b\u0259\u015f\u0259r n\u0259slinin davam\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

M\u0259\u015fhur Amerika m\u00fct\u0259f\u0259kkiri V. Dorant “f\u0259ls\u0259f\u0259nin l\u0259zz\u0259tl\u0259ri” kitab\u0131nda yaz\u0131r: “T\u0259bi\u0259t ail\u0259 qurumunu m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259nl\u0259\u015fdirmi\u015fdir ki, ki\u015fini qad\u0131n\u0131n v\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131 k\u00f6rp\u0259nin xidm\u0259tin\u0259 s\u00f6vq etsin. Ki\u015fil\u0259r t\u0259bi\u0259t e`tibar\u0131 il\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n, qad\u0131nlar is\u0259 t\u0259bi\u0259t e`tibar\u0131 il\u0259 k\u00f6rp\u0259l\u0259rin v\u0259 insan n\u0259slinin xidm\u0259t\u00e7isidir. Alim \u00f6z s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 bel\u0259 davam edir: “\u0130zdivac ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 qad\u0131nla ki\u015finin sevgi v\u0259 \u015f\u0259hv\u0259t rabit\u0259sini qanunil\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn deyil, b\u0259\u015f\u0259r n\u0259slinin qorunmas\u0131 v\u0259 davam\u0131nda ata, ana v\u0259 \u00f6vlad aras\u0131nda m\u00f6vcud olan bir ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131qd\u0131r.”<\/p>\n

Qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi el\u0259 bir formada yarad\u0131lm\u0131\u015fd\u0131r ki, onlardan he\u00e7 biri o biri olmadan s\u0259ad\u0259t\u0259 \u00e7at\u0131b ehtiyaclar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6d\u0259y\u0259 bilmir. Onlardan birinin v\u00fccudu o birini tamla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r. Yaln\u0131z ba\u011fl\u0131 olduqlar\u0131 vaxt \u00f6z iste`dadlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7i\u00e7\u0259kl\u0259ndirib, kamala \u00e7ata bilirl\u0259r. Ba\u015fqa s\u00f6zl\u0259, qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015finin b\u0259`zi iste`dadlar\u0131 yaln\u0131z ail\u0259 qurduqdan sonra yet\u0259rli h\u0259dd\u0259 \u00e7at\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u0130zdivacdan boyun qa\u00e7\u0131r\u0131b, bu ilahi s\u00fcnn\u0259y\u0259 \u0259m\u0259l etm\u0259y\u0259nl\u0259rin v\u00fccudunda bir n\u00f6v xaml\u0131q qal\u0131r v\u0259 v\u00fccudlar\u0131n\u0131n b\u0259`zi y\u00f6n\u00fcml\u0259ri \u00e7i\u00e7\u0259kl\u0259nmir.<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259 qurduqdan sonra qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi e\u015fq v\u0259 m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259tl\u0259 bir-birinin xidm\u0259tind\u0259 durur, h\u0259r biri \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc dig\u0259rinin asayi\u015f v\u0259 rahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131na h\u0259sr edir. Sonrak\u0131 m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259d\u0259 z\u00f6vc\u0259l\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n inki\u015faf v\u0259 rifah\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r v\u0259 bu yolla “yaln\u0131z \u00f6z\u00fc \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn s\u0259`y g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u0259m\u0259k” kimi eqoistliyin s\u0131x\u0131nt\u0131s\u0131ndan bir q\u0259d\u0259r azad olurlar. Onlar\u0131n ruhi duyumlar\u0131 v\u0259 x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri bu ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131q \u00e7\u0259r\u00e7iv\u0259sind\u0259 s\u0131\u011fallan\u0131r v\u0259 daxill\u0259rind\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc bir \u015f\u0259xsin h\u0259nirtisi v\u00fccuda g\u0259lir. \u0130nsan\u0131n inki\u015faf v\u0259 kamilliyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ilkin \u015f\u0259rt eqoistlik v\u0259 xudbinlikd\u0259n uzaqla\u015fmaqd\u0131r. \u00d6vladla ba\u011fl\u0131 duyumlar eqoistlik v\u0259 xudbinlikl\u0259 m\u00fcbariz\u0259d\u0259 bir n\u00f6v m\u0259\u015fq olur.<\/p>\n

\u0130nsan\u0131n bir \u00e7ox ehtiyaclar\u0131 ail\u0259d\u0259 t\u0259`min olunur: h\u0259yat ehtiyac\u0131, \u0259ks cins\u0259 ehtiyac, m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t v\u0259 duyuma ehtiyac, \u00f6vlad ehtiyac\u0131 v\u0259 s.<\/p>\n

QUR`ANI-K\u018fRIM N\u018fZ\u018fRIND\u018fN AIL\u018f RABIT\u018fSININ \u018fSASI<\/p>\n

Qurani-k\u0259rim sevgi v\u0259 m\u0259rh\u0259m\u0259ti ail\u0259 rabit\u0259sinin \u0259sas\u0131 say\u0131r. Bu ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131q \u015f\u0259hv\u0259t v\u0259 maddi t\u0259m\u0259nna ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan \u00fcst\u00fcn v\u0259 ucad\u0131r. Quran t\u0259`birinc\u0259: “Sizin \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00f6z n\u00f6v\u00fcn\u00fczd\u0259n z\u00f6vc\u0259l\u0259r yaratd\u0131q ki, onlarla araml\u0131q tapas\u0131n\u0131z v\u0259 aran\u0131zda sevgi v\u0259 m\u0259rh\u0259m\u0259t q\u0259rar verdik.” Sevgi v\u0259 m\u0259rh\u0259m\u0259t \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulmu\u015f rabit\u0259nin yaln\u0131z \u0259r-arvad v\u0259 \u00f6vlad \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yox, b\u00fct\u00fcn c\u0259miyy\u0259t \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7ox xeyirli v\u0259 b\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tli t\u0259`sirl\u0259ri var.\u00ab\u00bb<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259 t\u0259m\u0259li t\u0259n\u0259zz\u00fcl\u0259 m\u0259`ruz qalm\u0131\u015f c\u0259miyy\u0259tin aqib\u0259ti qaranl\u0131qd\u0131r. Bel\u0259 bir c\u0259miyy\u0259t gec ya tez da\u011f\u0131las\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Deyil\u0259nl\u0259ri n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almaqla ail\u0259 t\u0259m\u0259linin m\u00f6hk\u0259mliyinin n\u0259 d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tli oldu\u011fu ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcl\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

AIL\u018f T\u018f\u015eKILIND\u018f ILK ADDIM<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259 t\u0259\u015fkilind\u0259 ilk m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn niyy\u0259t v\u0259 m\u0259qs\u0259dl\u0259 add\u0131m atmaqd\u0131r. Bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259ni \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tli ed\u0259n agah v\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259li d\u00fcnyada ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131m\u0131z v\u0259 h\u0259qiqi niyy\u0259tl\u0259rimiz\u0259, m\u0259qs\u0259dl\u0259rimiz\u0259 cavab verilm\u0259sidir.<\/p>\n

M\u00f6vl\u0259vinin t\u0259`birinc\u0259:<\/p>\n

\u018fm\u0259limiz nida, d\u00fcnyam\u0131z bir da\u011f,<\/p>\n

da\u011fdan d\u00f6n\u0259n bizi etm\u0259d\u0259 soraq.<\/p>\n

\u018fg\u0259r niyy\u0259t v\u0259 m\u0259qs\u0259dimiz d\u00fczg\u00fcn olsa, h\u0259yat a\u011fac\u0131m\u0131z bar-b\u0259hr\u0259li olar, yax\u015f\u0131 s\u0259m\u0259r\u0259 ver\u0259r. B\u0259`z\u0259n bir niyy\u0259tin t\u0259`sirl\u0259ri o q\u0259d\u0259r xeyirli v\u0259 b\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tli olur ki, insan\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131nda \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tli iz qoyur. Ail\u0259 qurmaq da b\u00f6y\u00fck v\u0259 taley\u00fckl\u00fc add\u0131m oldu\u011fundan \u00f6nc\u0259d\u0259n d\u00fczg\u00fcn niyy\u0259t v\u0259 m\u0259qs\u0259d \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulduqda z\u00f6vc\u0259l\u0259rin xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyin\u0259 t\u0259`sir g\u00f6st\u0259rir. Bu s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n d\u0259 m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259s ail\u0259 t\u0259m\u0259li qoymaq ist\u0259y\u0259n qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi \u00f6nc\u0259d\u0259n s\u0259daq\u0259t, pakl\u0131q, Allah\u0131n raz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 yolunu se\u00e7m\u0259li, q\u0259rara g\u0259lm\u0259lidirl\u0259r ki, \u00f6z ilahi ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131qlar\u0131nda v\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 Allah\u0131n raz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan savay umacaqlar\u0131 olmayacaq. Bu halda qurulmu\u015f ail\u0259 ilahi r\u0259hm\u0259t v\u0259 b\u0259r\u0259k\u0259td\u0259n b\u0259hr\u0259l\u0259n\u0259c\u0259k, Allah v\u0259`d etdiyi sevgi v\u0259 m\u0259rh\u0259m\u0259ti bu ail\u0259y\u0259 n\u0259sib ed\u0259c\u0259k. \u0130lahi sevgi v\u0259 m\u0259rh\u0259m\u0259tin ilkin \u0259lam\u0259tl\u0259ri pakl\u0131q v\u0259 f\u0259zil\u0259t dolu ail\u0259d\u0259 z\u00f6vc\u0259l\u0259rin araml\u0131q tapmas\u0131, onlar\u0131n h\u0259yat iztirablar\u0131ndan amanda qalmalar\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

H\u018fYAT YOLDA\u015eI SE\u00c7IMI<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259nin m\u00fcv\u0259ff\u0259qiyy\u0259tind\u0259 \u0259n t\u0259`sirli add\u0131m h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imind\u0259 yet\u0259rinc\u0259 diqq\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259rilm\u0259si v\u0259 ara\u015fd\u0131rma apar\u0131lmas\u0131d\u0131r. T\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki, ail\u0259d\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259n bir \u00e7ox ac\u0131l\u0131qlar\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bi h\u0259min bu m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259d\u0259ki m\u0259`lumats\u0131zl\u0131q v\u0259 q\u0259fl\u0259tdir. B\u0259`zil\u0259ri yet\u0259rinc\u0259 ara\u015fd\u0131rma aparmadan ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurur. Bel\u0259l\u0259ri uy\u011fun sah\u0259d\u0259 s\u0259hl\u0259nkarl\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131n ac\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259rini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259d\u0259n h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7irl\u0259r. Q\u0131sa bir m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259n sonra anlay\u0131rlar ki, onlar aras\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259 v\u0259 \u0259xlaq bax\u0131m\u0131ndan ciddi ziddiyy\u0259t m\u00f6vcuddur. B\u0259`zil\u0259ri is\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imind\u0259 yanl\u0131\u015f me`yarlar\u0131 \u0259sas g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr v\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc pe\u015fman\u00e7\u0131l\u0131\u011fa d\u00fc\u00e7ar olurlar.<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259nin m\u00fcv\u0259ff\u0259qiyy\u0259ti h\u0259r \u015feyd\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n agahl\u0131qla se\u00e7ilm\u0259si v\u0259 bu se\u00e7imd\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn me`yarlardan istifad\u0259 olunmas\u0131ndan as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

H\u0259l\u0259 ki, ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurmam\u0131\u015f v\u0259 ail\u0259 t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259si olmayan bir k\u0259s bu se\u00e7imin n\u0259 d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tli oldu\u011funu d\u00fczg\u00fcn d\u0259rk ed\u0259 bilmir. Ail\u0259 qurduqdan sonra is\u0259 insan bu se\u00e7imin n\u0259 d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tli oldu\u011funu anlay\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Evl\u0259nm\u0259k ist\u0259y\u0259n \u015f\u0259xs h\u0259r \u015feyd\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurmaqda m\u0259qs\u0259dinin n\u0259 oldu\u011funu v\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131ndan n\u0259 ist\u0259diyini m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259nl\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259lidir. M\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259nl\u0259\u015fdirilm\u0259lidir ki, m\u0259qs\u0259d varlanmaq v\u0259 daha \u00e7ox maddi l\u0259zz\u0259t duymaqd\u0131r, yoxsa insani v\u0259 m\u0259`n\u0259vi d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ri qorumaqla sa\u011flam ail\u0259 qurmaq?<\/p>\n

\u0130nsan bu suala cavab verm\u0259kl\u0259 \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolunu m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259nl\u0259\u015fdirir. H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imi d\u0259 bu bax\u0131\u015fdan as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u018fg\u0259r yaln\u0131z maddi v\u0259 zahiri m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259ri me`yar g\u00f6t\u00fcrs\u0259k v\u0259 bu \u0259sasda se\u00e7im aparsaq, ail\u0259d\u0259n v\u0259fa, s\u0259mimiyy\u0259t, f\u0259dakarl\u0131q v\u0259 m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t intizar\u0131nda olmamal\u0131y\u0131q.<\/p>\n

M\u0259`lum m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259dir ki, uy\u011fun d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259r\u0259 malik olmayan ail\u0259nin olma\u011f\u0131ndansa olmama\u011f\u0131 yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r. Ciddi probleml\u0259rl\u0259 rastla\u015fm\u0131\u015f v\u0259 q\u0131sa bir zamanda da\u011f\u0131lan ail\u0259l\u0259rin \u0259ks\u0259ri h\u0259min bu n\u00f6v\u0259 aiddir. Y\u0259`ni bu ail\u0259l\u0259rin t\u0259m\u0259li ger\u00e7\u0259k d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259r \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulmam\u0131\u015fd\u0131r.<\/p>\n

T\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259d\u0259n m\u0259`lum olur ki, b\u0259`zi g\u0259ncl\u0259r ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurma\u011f\u0131 ticar\u0259tl\u0259 s\u0259hv sal\u0131rlar. Evl\u0259nm\u0259kd\u0259 m\u0259qs\u0259di s\u0259rv\u0259t \u0259ld\u0259 etm\u0259k olanlar da var. B\u0259`zil\u0259ri d\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin yaln\u0131z zahiri g\u00f6z\u0259lliyini \u0259sas g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259 v\u0259 \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259ti il\u0259 maraqlanm\u0131rlar. H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imind\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin ictimai m\u00f6vqeyini, pe\u015f\u0259sini \u0259sas g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u0259nl\u0259r d\u0259 var. Bu vaxt t\u0259bii ki, z\u0259ruri amill\u0259r n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259n qa\u00e7\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r. B\u00fct\u00fcn bu hallarda m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k h\u0259yat\u0131n davam\u0131 problem\u0259 \u00e7evrilir. Ail\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 v\u0259 ail\u0259 qurmaq fikrind\u0259 olan g\u0259ncl\u0259r\u0259 bel\u0259 bir m\u00fch\u00fcm n\u00f6qt\u0259ni xat\u0131rlatmaq laz\u0131m g\u0259lir ki, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imind\u0259 g\u00f6z\u00fcyumulu add\u0131m atmaqla \u00f6z g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rini pu\u00e7a \u00e7\u0131xarmas\u0131nlar. \u00c7\u00fcnki bu s\u0259hv add\u0131m\u0131n ard\u0131nca bir \u00f6m\u00fcr pe\u015fmanl\u0131q g\u0259lir.<\/p>\n

H\u018fYAT YOLDA\u015eI SE\u00c7IMIND\u018f MEYARLAR<\/p>\n

Dini d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259r\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 insanlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259n \u0259sas me`yar qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin iman v\u0259 t\u0259qvas\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsan\u0131n iman\u0131 iki bax\u0131mdan diqq\u0259ti c\u0259lb edir:<\/p>\n

1) \u0130manl\u0131 \u015f\u0259xs Allaha q\u0259lb\u0259n ba\u011fl\u0131 oldu\u011fundan v\u0259 daxilind\u0259 n\u0259zar\u0259t\u00e7i bir q\u00fcvv\u0259 hiss etdiyind\u0259n e`tibarl\u0131 say\u0131l\u0131r. \u0130man v\u0259 e`tiqad n\u0259zar\u0259t\u00e7isi olmayan bir k\u0259s\u0259 e`timad g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259lidir. Ad\u0259t\u0259n, bel\u0259 bir se\u00e7im m\u00fcv\u0259ff\u0259qiyy\u0259tsiz olur. Q\u0259lb\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc Allah qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda hiss ed\u0259nl\u0259r ba\u015fqalar\u0131 qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda da m\u0259s`uliyy\u0259tl\u0259rini d\u0259rk edirl\u0259r. Onlar\u0131n verdiyi s\u00f6z ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131nda da e`tibarl\u0131 olur.<\/p>\n

2) \u0130manl\u0131 z\u00f6vc\u0259l\u0259r vahid bir e`tiqadi nizama tabe olduqlar\u0131ndan onlar\u0131n bax\u0131\u015flar\u0131nda, meyill\u0259rind\u0259, s\u0259liq\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 az-\u00e7ox ox\u015farl\u0131q olur. Bu s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n d\u0259 onlar \u00f6z m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k h\u0259yatlar\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259 bax\u0131m\u0131ndan v\u0259 ruh\u0259n bir-birl\u0259rin\u0259 uyu\u015furlar.<\/p>\n

H\u0259r ikisi din m\u0259kt\u0259bind\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 alm\u0131\u015f qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi \u00f6nc\u0259d\u0259n bir-birl\u0259rini tan\u0131mam\u0131\u015f da olsalar, bir \u00e7ox m\u00fch\u00fcm m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k bax\u0131\u015fa malik olurlar.<\/p>\n

Bu z\u00fcmr\u0259d\u0259n olan f\u0259rdl\u0259r ortaya ixtilaf \u00e7\u0131xd\u0131qda dini t\u0259`liml\u0259r\u0259, qayda qanunlara m\u00fcraci\u0259t etm\u0259kl\u0259 h\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259fin q\u0259bul ed\u0259c\u0259yi yekdil r\u0259`y\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259 bilirl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 bir se\u00e7im ail\u0259d\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyi t\u0259`yin ed\u0259n \u0259n e`tibarl\u0131 se\u00e7imdir.<\/p>\n

T\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259d\u0259n m\u0259`lum olur ki, dini \u00f6hd\u0259\u00e7iliyi olmayanlar h\u0259tta evl\u0259nm\u0259mi\u015fd\u0259n qabaq uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t tan\u0131\u015f olsalar da, ail\u0259 qurduqdan sonra ki\u00e7ik bir s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n ayr\u0131l\u0131q fikrin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrl\u0259r. \u00c7\u00fcnki h\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259fin q\u0259bul etdiyi sabit qanunlar yoxdur. M\u0259hk\u0259m\u0259 \u00e7\u0259ki\u015fm\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259ki r\u0259q\u0259ml\u0259r g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki, dini t\u0259`liml\u0259r\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 olmayanlar\u0131n probleml\u0259ri daha \u00e7oxdur.<\/p>\n

H\u018fYAT YOLDA\u015eININ \u018fXLAQI V\u018f \u015e\u018fXSIYY\u018fTL\u018f BA\u011eLI KEYFIYY\u018fTL\u018fRI<\/p>\n

H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imind\u0259 m\u00f6vcud olan \u0259sas me`yarlardan biri d\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin \u0259xlaql\u0131 olmas\u0131na \u0259minlikdir. Kobud, qaba, s\u0259rt insanla m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131n xeyli problemi var. \u0130slami r\u0259vay\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 bildirilir ki, pis \u0259xlaql\u0131 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 insan\u0131 vaxt\u0131ndan qabaq qocaldar.<\/p>\n

\u0130mam Rizan\u0131n (\u0259) yax\u0131nlar\u0131ndan biri ondan soru\u015fur ki, \u0259xlaq\u0131nda n\u00f6qsan olan qohumlardan biri q\u0131z\u0131ma el\u00e7iliy\u0259 g\u0259lib, n\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259yimi bilmir\u0259m. \u0130mam (\u0259) Bu \u015f\u0259xsin cavab\u0131nda buyurur: “\u018fg\u0259r xasiyy\u0259tinin pis oldu\u011funu bilirs\u0259ns\u0259, q\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 ona \u0259r\u0259 verm\u0259.”<\/p>\n

M\u0259rdimazarl\u0131q, s\u00f6y\u00fc\u015f\u00e7\u00fcll\u00fck, ac\u0131dillilik, az\u011f\u0131n v\u0259 qeyri-m\u00fcnasib insanlarla dostluq, avara\u00e7\u0131l\u0131q, narkotik madd\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 alud\u0259\u00e7ilik kimi ictimai z\u0259r\u0259rli ad\u0259tl\u0259r, t\u0259nb\u0259llik, xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z bir i\u015fl\u0259 m\u0259\u015f\u011fulluq insan\u0131 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yarars\u0131z ed\u0259n amill\u0259rd\u0259ndir. Bu sayaq sif\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 malik insanlarla izdivac, ad\u0259t\u0259n, probleml\u0259rin ba\u015flan\u011f\u0131c\u0131 olur.<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurark\u0259n diqq\u0259t yetiril\u0259si m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n biri d\u0259 insan\u0131n \u0259xlaqi bax\u0131mdan pakl\u0131\u011f\u0131, n\u0259cab\u0259tidir. \u0130ff\u0259t m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 bigan\u0259, \u00f6rt\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6zl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n qad\u0131nlar v\u0259 ya az\u011f\u0131n ki\u015fil\u0259r ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yarars\u0131zd\u0131r. Bel\u0259 insanlarla izdivac, ad\u0259t\u0259n, pis aqib\u0259tl\u0259, pe\u015fman\u00e7\u0131l\u0131qla n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259nir.<\/p>\n

M\u00dcNASIBLIK V\u018f ANLA\u015eMA<\/p>\n

\u018frl\u0259 arvad aras\u0131nda rabit\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 m\u00fch\u00fcm m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 onlar\u0131n ist\u0259kl\u0259ri aras\u0131ndak\u0131 m\u00fcnasiblik, anla\u015fma, uy\u011funluqdur. \u0130slami r\u0259vay\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 qeyd olunur ki, \u0259r v\u0259 arvad bir-birinin ox\u015far\u0131 (\u201ck\u00fcfv”) olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Y\u0259`ni onlar aras\u0131nda ox\u015farl\u0131q, m\u00fcnasiblik, uy\u011funluq olmas\u0131 z\u0259ruridir. M\u0259`lum m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259dir ki, \u0259rl\u0259 arvad aras\u0131nda n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7ox ox\u015farl\u0131q olarsa, onlar\u0131n m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k h\u0259yat\u0131 da bir o q\u0259d\u0259r m\u00f6hk\u0259m olar. Bu s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n d\u0259 qeyd olunmu\u015f \u0259sas me`yarlardan \u0259lav\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 anla\u015fmada rolu olan dig\u0259r me`yarlar da n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 saxlan\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u0130zdivacda t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r aras\u0131ndak\u0131 f\u0259rql\u0259r imkan h\u0259ddind\u0259 azald\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r ki, anlama asan olsun. Bel\u0259 ki, t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259, m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259t, ictimai m\u00f6vqe, iqtisadi durum bax\u0131m\u0131ndan n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r m\u00fcnasib olsalar, bir o q\u0259d\u0259r yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, yoxsul ail\u0259d\u0259n olan bir g\u0259nc varl\u0131 ail\u0259d\u0259n olan bir q\u0131zla evl\u0259ndikd\u0259, ad\u0259t\u0259n, probleml\u0259rl\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015fir. \u015e\u0259h\u0259rd\u0259, f\u0259rqli m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259tl\u0259rin m\u00f6vcud oldu\u011fu m\u00fchitl\u0259rd\u0259 ya\u015fayan f\u0259rdl\u0259r qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 anla\u015fma yolunda xeyli \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015firl\u0259r. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259r \u00e7ox olduqda m\u00f6vcud ziddiyy\u0259tl\u0259r aradan qalx\u0131r. Nec\u0259 ki, g\u00fccl\u00fc dini e`tiqada malik olan iki f\u0259rd ail\u0259 qurduqda qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 anla\u015fma olduqca asanla\u015f\u0131r. Ail\u0259 quran t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rin bir-birini ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn onlar\u0131n t\u0259hsili d\u0259 n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 al\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018frl\u0259 arvad aras\u0131nda ya\u015f f\u0259rqi d\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck olmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Dig\u0259r imtiyazlara malik istisna hallarda bu f\u0259rq on ya\u015fdan \u00e7ox ola bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259 quran g\u0259ncl\u0259r zahiri bax\u0131mdan da bir-birl\u0259rini b\u0259y\u0259nm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. H\u0259r bir f\u0259rd \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 ail\u0259 qurdu\u011fu t\u0259r\u0259f\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 bir cazib\u0259 hiss etm\u0259lidir. Ail\u0259 quranad\u0259k pak bir h\u0259yat s\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015f g\u0259ncl\u0259r h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imind\u0259 bir o q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259 diqq\u0259tli olmurlar. Onlar, ad\u0259t\u0259n, n\u0259cab\u0259t, m\u0259`n\u0259viyyat amill\u0259rini \u00f6n\u0259 \u00e7\u0259k\u0259r\u0259k bildirirl\u0259r ki, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin zahiri g\u00f6z\u0259lliyi onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tli deyil. Amma t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259d\u0259 m\u0259`lum olur ki g\u00f6z\u0259llik amilini n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almadan evl\u0259n\u0259nl\u0259r aras\u0131nda m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r sonradan soyuyur. Bel\u0259 hallarda art\u0131q t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rd\u0259n biri o birini c\u0259zb etm\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r. \u018fr-arvad aras\u0131nda yaranm\u0131\u015f soyuqlu\u011fun s\u0259b\u0259bi, haqq\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015f\u0131lan amilin n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 al\u0131nmamas\u0131d\u0131r. M\u00fc\u0259llif bir \u00e7ox bu sayaq izdivaclar\u0131 ara\u015fd\u0131rm\u0131\u015f v\u0259 onlar\u0131n xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z sonlu\u011funu m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259 etmi\u015fdir. G\u0259ncl\u0259r bilm\u0259lidirl\u0259r ki, bir \u00f6m\u00fcr yana\u015f\u0131 ya\u015famal\u0131 olan qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fid\u0259 bir-birin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 cazib\u0259 hissi olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bu cazib\u0259 olmad\u0131qda hans\u0131sa ba\u015fqa bir imtiyaz bu bo\u015flu\u011fu doldurmur. Buna g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 o\u011flan v\u0259 q\u0131z evl\u0259nm\u0259mi\u015fd\u0259n qabaq bir-birl\u0259rini g\u00f6rm\u0259li v\u0259 zahiri bax\u0131mdan b\u0259y\u0259nm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. \u0130slam dini h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n evl\u0259nm\u0259k fikrind\u0259 olanlara, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fi g\u00f6rm\u0259k icaz\u0259si vermi\u015fdir. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imind\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259llik amilini h\u0259lledici saymaq, bu istiqam\u0259td\u0259 ifrata varmaq olmaz.<\/p>\n

Z\u00f6vc\u0259 il\u0259 m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k h\u0259yat\u0131n davam\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259`min ed\u0259n t\u0259kc\u0259 onun g\u00f6z\u0259lliyi deyil. Bu sah\u0259d\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 anla\u015fma, ruhi kamillikl\u0259r, g\u00f6z\u0259l \u0259xlaq \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tli rol oynay\u0131r.<\/p>\n

QAR\u015eI T\u018fR\u018fFI HANSI YOLLARLA TANIMAQ OLAR?<\/p>\n

B\u0259s insan ail\u0259 qurmaq ist\u0259diyi t\u0259r\u0259fin x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259rini hans\u0131 yolla \u00f6yr\u0259n\u0259 bil\u0259r? B\u0259`zil\u0259ri t\u0259klif edirl\u0259r ki, bundan \u00f6tr\u00fc evl\u0259nm\u0259mi\u015fd\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259 tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011fa ehtiyac var. Bel\u0259 ki, ail\u0259 qurmaq fikrind\u0259 olan g\u0259ncl\u0259r bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t \u00fcnsiyy\u0259td\u0259 olub bir-birl\u0259rinin ruhiyy\u0259si v\u0259 \u0259xlaqi x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri il\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. Bu fikiri ir\u0259li s\u00fcr\u0259n, qad\u0131nla ki\u015fi aras\u0131nda azad, \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcs\u00fcz rabit\u0259 t\u0259r\u0259fdar\u0131 olan z\u00fcmr\u0259dir. Bel\u0259 bir yana\u015fma h\u0259m dini me`yarlara uy\u011fun deyil, h\u0259m d\u0259 uy\u011fun \u00fcnsiyy\u0259tl\u0259rin xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z ictimai sonluqlar\u0131 var. Bir-biri il\u0259 \u00fcnsiyy\u0259td\u0259 olan g\u0259ncl\u0259r evl\u0259nm\u0259k m\u0259qs\u0259di il\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fd\u00fckl\u0259rini bildirs\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259, \u0259slind\u0259 bu g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fl\u0259rd\u0259 qeyri-\u015f\u0259r`i yax\u0131nl\u0131q \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u015f\u0259rait yaran\u0131r v\u0259 t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r evl\u0259nm\u0259kd\u0259n \u00e7ox, l\u0259zz\u0259t almaq bar\u0259d\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 rabit\u0259l\u0259r, ad\u0259t\u0259n, q\u0131zlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ac\u0131 sonluqla bitir. \u00c7oxsayl\u0131 t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259r v\u0259 ara\u015fd\u0131rmalar g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259rinin \u00f6yr\u0259nilm\u0259si m\u0259qs\u0259di il\u0259 yuxar\u0131da qeyd olunan \u00fcsuldan istifad\u0259 etm\u0259k d\u00fczg\u00fcn deyil. Evl\u0259nm\u0259d\u0259n \u0259vv\u0259l qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rin g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fm\u0259l\u0259ri il\u0259 m\u00fc\u015fayi\u0259t olunmu\u015f izdivaclar ba\u015fqa izdivaclardan daha \u00e7ox t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259`ruz qal\u0131r. \u018fg\u0259r o\u011flan v\u0259 q\u0131z evl\u0259n\u0259n g\u00fcn\u0259d\u0259k he\u00e7 bir \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fc g\u00f6zl\u0259m\u0259d\u0259n \u00fcnsiyy\u0259td\u0259 olmu\u015flarsa, evl\u0259ndikd\u0259n sonra onlar\u0131n bo\u015fanma ehtimal\u0131 daha \u00e7oxdur. Bunu da qeyd ed\u0259k ki, evl\u0259nm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131q m\u0259qs\u0259di il\u0259 ba\u015f tutan g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fl\u0259r \u00e7ox vaxt izdivacla n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259nmir. Bel\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fl\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r\u0259, x\u00fcsusi il\u0259 q\u0131zlara psixoloji v\u0259 ictimai bir z\u0259rb\u0259 olur.<\/p>\n

Evl\u0259nm\u0259d\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin ruhiyy\u0259sini v\u0259 x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259rini tan\u0131maq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tutulan d\u00fczg\u00fcn \u00fcsul bir ne\u00e7\u0259 m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259d\u0259n ibar\u0259tdir.<\/p>\n

AIL\u018f BAXIMINDAN YANA\u015eMA<\/p>\n

\u0130nsanlar\u0131n tan\u0131nmas\u0131nda m\u00fch\u00fcm amill\u0259rd\u0259n biri onlara ail\u0259 prizmas\u0131ndan yana\u015fmad\u0131r. N\u0259cib v\u0259 sa\u011flam ail\u0259d\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 alm\u0131\u015f insanlar\u0131n \u0259xlaqi v\u0259 m\u0259`n\u0259vi durumu d\u0259rin v\u0259 prinsipial olur. Bu s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n d\u0259 onlara daha \u00e7ox e`timad g\u00f6st\u0259ril\u0259 bil\u0259r. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, b\u0259`z\u0259n qeyri-m\u00fcnasib ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 layiqli insanlar yeti\u015fir. \u018fksin\u0259, b\u0259`z\u0259n l\u0259yaq\u0259tli ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n qeyri-saleh \u00f6vladlar \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. M\u0259qs\u0259dimiz budur ki, ad\u0259t\u0259n, \u00f6vladlar\u0131n \u0259xlaqi x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri onlar\u0131n ail\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259n qaynaqlan\u0131r. \u0130nsan \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tinin formala\u015fmas\u0131nda ail\u0259nin m\u00fch\u00fcm rolu var. H\u0259tta qidalar\u0131n halal-haram olmas\u0131 insan ruhiyy\u0259sind\u0259 d\u0259rin iz qoyur. \u0130slam t\u0259`liml\u0259rind\u0259 bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 xeyli \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259t verilmi\u015fdir. Halal-haram bilm\u0259y\u0259n, ehtiyac\u0131n\u0131 ist\u0259nil\u0259n bir yolla t\u0259`min etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 \u00f6vladlar ruhi, m\u0259`n\u0259vi bax\u0131mdan z\u0259rb\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259`ruz qal\u0131r v\u0259 bu z\u0259rb\u0259l\u0259rin n\u0259tic\u0259sini aradan qald\u0131rmaq asan olmur.<\/p>\n

Bir r\u0259vay\u0259td\u0259 h\u0259zr\u0259t Pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259rin (s) bel\u0259 buyurdu\u011fu n\u0259ql olunur: “Tikanl\u0131 otdan \u00e7\u0259kinin: Soru\u015fdular: “Tikanl\u0131 ot n\u0259dir?” H\u0259zr\u0259t buyurdu: “Pis ail\u0259d\u0259n \u00e7\u0131xm\u0131\u015f g\u00f6z\u0259l qad\u0131n.” Bu t\u0259`bir ki\u015fil\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259 aid edil\u0259 bil\u0259r. B\u0259`zi ki\u015fil\u0259r zahir\u0259n g\u00f6z\u0259l, var-d\u00f6vl\u0259tli, v\u0259zif\u0259 sahibi olsalar da, onlar\u0131n pis ail\u0259d\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 almalar\u0131 \u015f\u00fcbh\u0259 yarad\u0131r.<\/p>\n

ARA\u015eDIRMA<\/p>\n

\u0130nsan\u0131 tan\u0131maq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u00f6vcud olan yollardan biri d\u0259 ona yax\u0131n adamlar\u0131n n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259n ke\u00e7irilm\u0259sidir. H\u0259r hans\u0131 bir \u015f\u0259xsin dostlar\u0131, qon\u015fular\u0131 v\u0259 h\u0259mkarlar\u0131 il\u0259 tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131q onu tan\u0131ma yollar\u0131ndan biridir. Dostluq h\u0259mr\u0259nglik v\u0259 anla\u015fma \u0259sas\u0131nda yarand\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan h\u0259r bir f\u0259rdin dostlar\u0131n\u0131 ara\u015fd\u0131rmaqla onun \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259ti haqq\u0131nda t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcr \u0259ld\u0259 etm\u0259k olar. Ad\u0259t\u0259n, d\u00fcz v\u0259 saleh insanlar l\u0259yaq\u0259tsiz, avara insanlarla dostluq etmir. H\u0259r bir insan\u0131n dostlar\u0131 hans\u0131sa d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 onun \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tini \u0259ks etdirir.<\/p>\n

N\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tutulan \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259 m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k \u0259man\u0259tdar v\u0259 s\u0259daq\u0259tli bir dostumuz varsa, bu h\u0259min \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259 tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131qda \u00e7ox faydal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki h\u0259min dost vasit\u0259si il\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fi yet\u0259rinc\u0259 tan\u0131maq m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

S\u00d6HB\u018fT V\u018f \u015e\u018fRTL\u018fRIN B\u018fYANI<\/p>\n

Evl\u0259nm\u0259d\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259 n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tutulan \u015f\u0259xsi daha yax\u015f\u0131 tan\u0131maq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn istifad\u0259 olunan \u00fcsullardan biri d\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259 s\u00f6hb\u0259tdir. Bu yolla onun \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259ti il\u0259 hans\u0131sa h\u0259dd\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olmaq m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. B\u0259`zil\u0259ri m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n xasiyy\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 \u00e7ox h\u0259ssasd\u0131rlar. V\u0259 bu xasiyy\u0259t\u0259 malik insanla birlikd\u0259 ya\u015faya bilmirl\u0259r. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, b\u0259`zil\u0259ri soyuqqanl\u0131, aram v\u0259 ya \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 qap\u0131lan, gu\u015f\u0259ni\u015fin f\u0259rdl\u0259ri b\u0259y\u0259nmir, istiqanl\u0131, qaynar f\u0259rdl\u0259r\u0259 \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck verirl\u0259r. B\u0259`zil\u0259ri d\u0259 \u00e7ox hissiyyatl\u0131 emosional t\u0259r\u0259fi m\u00fcnasib saymay\u0131b, m\u0259ntiq v\u0259 a\u011f\u0131l \u0259sas\u0131nda h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t ed\u0259n \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259r\u0259 meyl g\u00f6st\u0259rirl\u0259r. H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imi aparan \u015f\u0259xs hans\u0131 x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 malik f\u0259rdl\u0259 ya\u015faya bil\u0259c\u0259yini \u00f6nc\u0259d\u0259n m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259nl\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259lidir. N\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tutulan s\u00f6hb\u0259t gedi\u015find\u0259 h\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259f a\u00e7\u0131q \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 \u00f6z x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259rini b\u0259yan edir v\u0259 m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k h\u0259yatdan n\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259diyini a\u00e7\u0131qlay\u0131r. Bu sayaq s\u00f6hb\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 insan\u0131n m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k h\u0259yatda nec\u0259 ya\u015famaq ist\u0259diyi v\u0259 \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259ri m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259nl\u0259\u015fir.<\/p>\n

H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imi aparan iki f\u0259rd uy\u011fun m\u0259qs\u0259dl\u0259 s\u00f6hb\u0259tl\u0259\u015f\u0259rk\u0259n a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dak\u0131 m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259ri n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259n ke\u00e7ir\u0259 bil\u0259rl\u0259r: ail\u0259nin idar\u0259\u00e7iliyi v\u0259 bu idar\u0259\u00e7ilikd\u0259 \u0259rl\u0259 arvad\u0131n h\u0259r birinin rolu; t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rin sad\u0259 v\u0259 ya d\u0259bd\u0259b\u0259li ya\u015famaq arzular\u0131; ki\u015finin hicab v\u0259 \u00f6rt\u00fckl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259l\u0259ri, qohumlara get-g\u0259ll\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r; n\u0259slin davam\u0131 v\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n pe\u015f\u0259 m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259si; fikir ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 olduqda problemin h\u0259ll yolu; toy m\u0259rasiminin sad\u0259 v\u0259 ya d\u0259bd\u0259b\u0259li ke\u00e7irilm\u0259si il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 fikirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Sadalananlardan \u0259lav\u0259 h\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259fin diqq\u0259t m\u0259rk\u0259zind\u0259 olan suallar ayd\u0131nla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k h\u0259yatla ba\u011fl\u0131 \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259rini a\u00e7\u0131q b\u0259yan etm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. T\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r \u00f6z fizioloji v\u0259 psixoloji probleml\u0259rini qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f\u0259 bildirm\u0259li, eyibl\u0259rini gizl\u0259tm\u0259m\u0259lidir. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi rabit\u0259sind\u0259 m\u00fch\u00fcm say\u0131lmayan c\u00fcz`i eyibl\u0259ri b\u0259yan etm\u0259k z\u0259ruri deyil. \u018fg\u0259r uy\u011fun s\u00f6hb\u0259td\u0259n, \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259r b\u0259yan olunduqdan sonra t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r raz\u0131l\u0131\u011fa g\u0259l\u0259rs\u0259, evl\u0259ndikd\u0259n sonra probleml\u0259ri \u00e7oxalmaz.<\/p>\n

T\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki, b\u0259`zi ki\u015fil\u0259r v\u0259 qad\u0131nlar qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin m\u00fch\u00fcm \u0259xlaqi x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 diqq\u0259tsizlik g\u00f6st\u0259rir, bu n\u00f6qsanlar\u0131n aradan qalxaca\u011f\u0131na \u00fcmid edirl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 bir m\u00fcnasib\u0259t t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259lidir. H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imind\u0259 bu sayaq diqq\u0259tsizliy\u0259 yol verilm\u0259m\u0259lidir. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, b\u0259`z\u0259n ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurduqdan sonra ki\u015fi v\u0259 ya qad\u0131n tamamil\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015fir v\u0259 \u00f6z qeyri-m\u00fcnasib ruhiyy\u0259sini islah edir. Amma bel\u0259 bir d\u0259yi\u015fiklik \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259td\u0259 m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259 olunmur. Uy\u011fun n\u00f6qsanlara diqq\u0259tsizlik sonradan ail\u0259nin da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131 il\u0259 d\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259n\u0259 bil\u0259r. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi prinsipial m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 ehtiyatl\u0131 olmal\u0131, \u0259sass\u0131z \u00fcmidl\u0259r\u0259 qap\u0131lmamal\u0131d\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n

B\u0259`zi ail\u0259l\u0259r bir-birl\u0259ri il\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olub m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k h\u0259yata raz\u0131l\u0131q verdikd\u0259n sonra ehtimallar\u0131n\u0131n do\u011frulu\u011funa \u0259min olmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u00fcv\u0259qq\u0259ti evl\u0259nm\u0259 m\u00fcdd\u0259ti t\u0259`yin edirl\u0259r. Onlar bir n\u00f6v s\u0131naq m\u00fcdd\u0259ti xarakterli bu d\u00f6vr ba\u015fa \u00e7atd\u0131qdan sonra tam b\u0259sir\u0259t v\u0259 arxay\u0131nl\u0131qla daimi m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k h\u0259yata q\u0259d\u0259m qoyurlar. M\u0259`lum m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259dir ki, bel\u0259 bir \u00fcsul, azad ki\u015fi-qad\u0131n m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259n tamami il\u0259 f\u0259rql\u0259nir. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, uy\u011fun hal ail\u0259l\u0259rin raz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 il\u0259 h\u0259yata ke\u00e7\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

H\u018fYAT YOLDA\u015eI SE\u00c7IMIND\u018f T\u018fL\u018fSM\u018fK OLMAZ<\/p>\n

H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7iminin \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tini, insan h\u0259yat\u0131nda bu se\u00e7imin t\u0259`yinedici rolunu n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 alaraq probleml\u0259rl\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015fm\u0259m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn uy\u011fun se\u00e7imd\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259sm\u0259m\u0259k z\u0259ruridir. D\u0259rin ara\u015fd\u0131rma aparmadan, ehtimallar \u0259sas\u0131nda se\u00e7im aparmaq pe\u015fman\u00e7\u0131l\u0131qla n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259nir.<\/p>\n

H\u0259r hans\u0131 bir s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin l\u0259yaq\u0259ti m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259nl\u0259\u015fm\u0259dikd\u0259 v\u0259 ortada \u015f\u00fcbh\u0259l\u0259r qald\u0131qda ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurmaqdan \u00e7\u0259kinm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n

H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imind\u0259 q\u0131zlar daha \u00e7ox diqq\u0259tli olmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130slam dini ki\u015fil\u0259rl\u0259 \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259si olmayan q\u0131zlar\u0131n hiss\u0259 qap\u0131laca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 alaraq \u0259r\u0259 ged\u0259rk\u0259n onlar\u0131n atalar\u0131ndan raz\u0131l\u0131q almalar\u0131n\u0131 z\u0259ruri buyurmu\u015fdur. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, q\u0131zlar\u0131n da raz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 olmadan onlar\u0131 \u0259r\u0259 verm\u0259k olmaz. Ail\u0259 t\u0259\u015fkilind\u0259 son q\u0259rar z\u00f6vc\u0259l\u0259rin ixtiyar\u0131ndad\u0131r. O\u011flan v\u0259 q\u0131z\u0131n raz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 yoxdursa, izdivac \u0259qdi d\u00fczg\u00fcn deyil. Ata da \u00f6z n\u00f6vb\u0259sind\u0259 q\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n xeyirini n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almal\u0131, m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tsiz q\u0259rar \u00e7\u0131xarmamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

O\u011flan v\u0259 q\u0131z\u0131n, x\u00fcsusi il\u0259 q\u0131z\u0131n m\u0259cbur edildiyi izdivac\u0131n sonu yax\u015f\u0131l\u0131qla bitmir. Ara\u015fd\u0131rmalar g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki, h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259timizd\u0259, h\u0259tta \u015f\u0259h\u0259rl\u0259rd\u0259 g\u0259ncl\u0259r izdivaca m\u0259cbur edilir v\u0259 m\u0259cburi \u0259r\u0259 veril\u0259n qad\u0131nlar\u0131n say\u0131 m\u0259cburi evl\u0259ndiril\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259rin say\u0131ndan \u00e7oxdur. (Tehran\u0131n 20 m\u0259nt\u0259q\u0259sind\u0259 apar\u0131lan ara\u015fd\u0131rmalar g\u00f6st\u0259rdi ki, sor\u011fuda i\u015ftirak ed\u0259n 880 n\u0259f\u0259r aras\u0131nda izdivaca m\u0259cbur edil\u0259n qad\u0131nlar\u0131n say\u0131 ki\u015fil\u0259rin say\u0131ndan iki qat art\u0131qd\u0131r.)<\/p>\n

DIQQ\u018fT V\u018f AYIQLIQ ICTIMAI H\u018fYATIN Z\u018fRUR\u018fTIDIR<\/p>\n

T\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rdi ki, qapal\u0131 m\u00fchitd\u0259 ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f, ictimai hadis\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n yet\u0259rinc\u0259 x\u0259b\u0259r tutmam\u0131\u015f, ail\u0259l\u0259ri d\u0259 laz\u0131m\u0131nca agah olmayan q\u0131zlar h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imind\u0259 m\u0259`lumats\u0131z v\u0259 sad\u0259l\u00f6vh add\u0131m at\u0131rlar. Bu add\u0131m onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn qar\u015f\u0131da xeyli problem yarad\u0131r. G\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc v\u0259 q\u0259lbini t\u0259qva v\u0259 pakl\u0131qla b\u0259z\u0259mi\u015f pak xarakterli q\u0131zlar h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imind\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259ri v\u0259 g\u00f6z\u00fca\u00e7\u0131q yax\u0131nlar\u0131 il\u0259 m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259\u015fm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Onlar bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 sad\u0259l\u00f6vhl\u00fckl\u0259 yana\u015fmaqdan ciddi \u00e7\u0259kinm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. \u00c7\u00fcnki pak insanlar, ad\u0259t\u0259n, ham\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6zl\u0259ri kimi pak bilirl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 bir yana\u015fma insan\u0131 \u00f6z se\u00e7imind\u0259 yanl\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011fa apara bil\u0259r. Bu s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n dinimizd\u0259 diqq\u0259t v\u0259 ay\u0131ql\u0131q m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259si \u00f6n\u0259 \u00e7\u0259kilmi\u015f, pak v\u0259 imanl\u0131 insanlar\u0131n riyakar \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259r\u0259 aldanmamas\u0131na s\u0259`y g\u00f6st\u0259rilmi\u015fdir. \u0130manl\u0131 insanlar saxta f\u0259rdl\u0259rin m\u0259kr v\u0259 qur\u011fusuna d\u00fc\u00e7ar olmamal\u0131d\u0131r. M\u0259\u015fhur bir h\u0259disd\u0259 h\u0259zr\u0259t Pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259r (s) buyurmu\u015fdur: \u201cM\u00f6`min agahl\u0131q sahibidir.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u00d6vladlar\u0131 sa\u011flam m\u00fchitd\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 alm\u0131\u015f v\u0259 t\u0259bii \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ictimai rabit\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 m\u0259hdudiyy\u0259tl\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015fmi\u015f pak v\u0259 n\u0259cib ail\u0259l\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 h\u00f6km\u0259n vaxt\u0131nda z\u0259ruri bilgil\u0259r v\u0259 ictimai ger\u00e7\u0259klikl\u0259rl\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f etm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. \u0130mkan verm\u0259k olmaz ki, \u00f6vladlar g\u00f6z\u00fc-qula\u011f\u0131 ba\u011fl\u0131 qal\u0131b, asanl\u0131qla hiyl\u0259g\u0259rl\u0259rin toruna d\u00fc\u015f\u0259l\u0259r v\u0259 h\u0259yatda u\u011fursuzlu\u011fa d\u00fc\u00e7ar olalar.<\/p>\n

\u0130STIXAR\u018f<\/p>\n

B\u0259`zi f\u0259rdl\u0259r v\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259r m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tli yolu t\u0259`yin etm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn istixar\u0259y\u0259 m\u00fcraci\u0259t edirl\u0259r. Amma istixar\u0259 h\u0259ddini d\u00fczg\u00fcn bilm\u0259dikl\u0259rind\u0259n onu yeri g\u0259ldi-g\u0259lm\u0259di i\u015f\u0259 sal\u0131rlar. M\u0259`lum m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259dir ki, istixar\u0259 a\u011f\u0131l, t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259, m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t v\u0259 bu kimi yard\u0131mlar\u0131 \u0259v\u0259z etm\u0259m\u0259lidir. \u0130stixar\u0259nin a\u011f\u0131l\u0131n yerini tutmas\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259ni z\u0259ifl\u0259dir, insan\u0131n \u0259qli inki\u015faf\u0131na mane olur. \u0130nsan \u00f6z h\u0259yat probleml\u0259rini a\u011f\u0131l v\u0259 t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259 vasit\u0259si il\u0259 h\u0259ll etm\u0259lidir. \u00d6z a\u011f\u0131l\u0131 il\u0259 h\u0259r hans\u0131 m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259ni h\u0259ll ed\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259n \u015f\u0259xs ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n a\u011f\u0131l v\u0259 t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259sind\u0259n faydalanmal\u0131d\u0131r. (M\u0259`lumatl\u0131 v\u0259 m\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssis \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rl\u0259 m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259\u015fm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r.) B\u00fct\u00fcn bu m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n sonra son q\u0259rar \u00e7\u0131xarmaq olar. Amma deyil\u0259n t\u0259dbirl\u0259rd\u0259n sonra m\u00f6vcud \u015f\u00fcbh\u0259l\u0259r aradan qalxmasa, insan t\u0259r\u0259dd\u00fcdd\u0259 qalsa v\u0259 se\u00e7im aparma\u011fa m\u0259cbur olsa, Allaha \u00fcz tutub t\u0259r\u0259dd\u00fcdl\u00fc v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259n \u00e7\u0131xmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn istixar\u0259 ed\u0259 bil\u0259r. \u0130stixar\u0259 bir n\u00f6v duad\u0131r. \u0130stixar\u0259 ed\u0259n \u015f\u0259xs Allahdan ist\u0259yir ki, ona do\u011fru yol g\u00f6st\u0259rilsin v\u0259 t\u0259r\u0259dd\u00fcdl\u00fc v\u0259ziyy\u0259t\u0259 son qoyulsun. \u0130stixar\u0259 ed\u0259n insan Allah\u0131n l\u00fctf v\u0259 yard\u0131mlar\u0131na \u00fcmidli olmal\u0131, h\u0259r bir duada h\u00fcsn-z\u0259nn v\u0259 xo\u015fbinliyi t\u0259rk etm\u0259m\u0259lidir. Xo\u015f g\u00fcmanla istixar\u0259 edib onun n\u0259tic\u0259sini bo\u015flamaq t\u0259rbiy\u0259vi bax\u0131mdan d\u00fcz deyil. El\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259, d\u00fczg\u00fcn deyil ki, bir \u015f\u0259xs dua etdiyi halda duas\u0131n\u0131n q\u0259bul olmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcns\u00fcn. Bel\u0259 bir m\u00fcnasib\u0259t duada h\u00fcsn\u00fc-z\u0259nn\u0259 ziddir. \u018fslind\u0259 istixar\u0259nin n\u0259tic\u0259si \u015f\u0259r`i d\u0259lil deyil v\u0259 hans\u0131sa i\u015f istixar\u0259 il\u0259 vacib olmur. B\u00f6y\u00fck aliml\u0259rd\u0259n biri \u201cistixar\u0259 edib onun n\u0259tic\u0259sini bo\u015flamaq olarm\u0131\u201d sual\u0131na bel\u0259 cavab vermi\u015fdir: \u201c\u0130stixar\u0259 vaciblik g\u0259tirmir.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u0130zdivac m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259sind\u0259 laz\u0131mi ara\u015fd\u0131rmalar aparmadan istixar\u0259 yolunu se\u00e7m\u0259k \u015f\u0259r`i v\u0259 islami \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcl\u0259r\u0259 uy\u011fun deyil.<\/p>\n

\u0130ZDIVAC ASTANASINDA YERSIZ X\u018fRCL\u018fR<\/p>\n

\u0130zdivac astanas\u0131nda ail\u0259l\u0259ri s\u0131x\u0131nt\u0131ya salan probleml\u0259rd\u0259n biri izdivacla ba\u011fl\u0131 m\u0259rasiml\u0259rd\u0259ki d\u0259bd\u0259b\u0259dir. Qeyri-z\u0259ruri izdivac m\u0259rasiml\u0259rin\u0259 b\u0259`z\u0259n o q\u0259d\u0259r \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259t verilir ki, diqq\u0259t m\u0259rk\u0259zind\u0259 dayanas\u0131 ail\u0259 t\u0259\u015fkili m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259si arxa plana ke\u00e7ir. A\u011f\u0131r x\u0259rcli m\u0259rasiml\u0259r, evl\u0259nm\u0259d\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck s\u0131x\u0131nt\u0131 yaradan \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcs\u00fcz ad\u0259t-\u0259n`\u0259n\u0259l\u0259r, yenilikl\u0259r ail\u0259 t\u0259\u015fkilini bir \u00e7ox g\u0259ncl\u0259rin v\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259rin n\u0259z\u0259rind\u0259 d\u0259h\u015f\u0259tli kabusa d\u00f6nd\u0259rir. Bu sayaq x\u0259rcl\u0259r n\u0259inki ail\u0259nin iqtisadiyyat\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259n\u0259zz\u00fcl\u0259 u\u011frad\u0131r, h\u0259tta ail\u0259 t\u0259\u015fkili yolunda g\u0259ncl\u0259r\u0259 m\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcl olur v\u0259 \u00e7ox sad\u0259, el\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259, t\u0259bii olan evl\u0259nm\u0259 m\u00f6vzusu b\u00f6y\u00fck ictimai problem\u0259 \u00e7evrilir. Haz\u0131rda bu problem c\u0259miyy\u0259timiz \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn aktuald\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u0130slam pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259rinin h\u0259yat yolu g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki, H\u0259zr\u0259t (s) \u00f6z d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259 m\u0259rasimini \u00e7ox sad\u0259 bir \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ke\u00e7irmi\u015fdir v\u0259 ail\u0259 qurmaq ist\u0259y\u0259n g\u0259ncl\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn he\u00e7 bir mane\u0259 olmam\u0131\u015fd\u0131r. H\u0259min d\u00f6vrd\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259k ya\u015f\u0131na \u00e7atm\u0131\u015f h\u0259r bir \u015f\u0259xs rahat \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ail\u0259 qurmaqla \u00f6z t\u0259bii ehtiyaclar\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259`min etmi\u015fdir. Amma bizim d\u00f6vr\u00fcm\u00fczd\u0259 ail\u0259 t\u0259\u015fkili kimi m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259s bir yolda el\u0259 probleml\u0259r yarad\u0131lm\u0131\u015fd\u0131r ki, bu yolda q\u0259d\u0259m g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u0259n g\u0259ncl\u0259r v\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259r \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc s\u0131x\u0131nt\u0131larla \u00fczb\u0259\u00fcz qalm\u0131\u015flar.<\/p>\n

A\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 v\u0259 m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259tli ail\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259bd\u0259b\u0259li m\u0259rasiml\u0259rin mahiyy\u0259tini anlad\u0131qlar\u0131ndan ondan \u00e7\u0259kinir v\u0259 m\u0259rasiml\u0259rini sad\u0259 ke\u00e7irm\u0259kl\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rini d\u0259h\u015f\u0259tli d\u0259bd\u0259b\u0259 girdab\u0131ndan xilas edirl\u0259r. Mehriyy\u0259 v\u0259 cehiz m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259ri d\u0259 ciddi problem\u0259 \u00e7evrilmi\u015fdir. Qar\u015f\u0131da h\u0259min m\u00f6vzular\u0131 n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259n ke\u00e7ir\u0259c\u0259yik.<\/p>\n

Mehriyy\u0259 \u0259slind\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n diqq\u0259t v\u0259 raz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 c\u0259lb etm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ki\u015finin verdiyi h\u0259diyy\u0259, onun m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t v\u0259 t\u0259vaz\u00f6 simvoludur.<\/p>\n

Bu h\u0259qiq\u0259t qad\u0131n\u0131n m\u00f6vqe v\u0259 fitri x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 tam uy\u011fundur. Eyni zamanda, n\u0259fs ist\u0259kl\u0259ri dig\u0259r qanunlar kimi bu z\u0259rif v\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259l qanuna da m\u00fcdaxil\u0259 ed\u0259r\u0259k onun mahiyy\u0259tini d\u0259yi\u015fmi\u015f, ona ticari bir y\u00f6n vermi\u015fdir. \u0130slami r\u0259vay\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 mehriyy\u0259nin y\u00fcng\u00fcl t\u0259`yin olunmas\u0131 v\u0259 izdivac \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259rinin asanla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131 bar\u0259d\u0259 xeyli t\u00f6vsiyy\u0259l\u0259r m\u00f6vcuddur. Yaln\u0131z a\u011f\u0131r mehriyy\u0259 v\u0259 dig\u0259r iqtisadi \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259r m\u00fcqabilind\u0259 izdivaca raz\u0131l\u0131q ver\u0259n qad\u0131n b\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tsiz say\u0131lm\u0131\u015fd\u0131r.\u201d<\/p>\n

T\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki, a\u011f\u0131r mehriyy\u0259 n\u0259 ail\u0259nin xo\u015fb\u0259xliyini t\u0259`min ed\u0259 bilir, n\u0259 d\u0259 bo\u015fanman\u0131n qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 al\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259y\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik g\u0259tir\u0259n ail\u0259 \u00fczvl\u0259ri aras\u0131ndak\u0131 ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131q, s\u0259mimiyy\u0259t v\u0259 s\u0259daq\u0259tdir. Bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r is\u0259 maddi amill\u0259r vasit\u0259si il\u0259 \u0259ld\u0259 olunmur.<\/p>\n

Bu m\u0259qamda bir n\u00f6qt\u0259ni n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259n qa\u00e7\u0131rmaq olmaz ki, \u0259g\u0259r s\u00f6hb\u0259t yolda\u015fl\u0131q \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259rini y\u00fcng\u00fcll\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259kd\u0259n gedirs\u0259, h\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259f n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tutulmal\u0131d\u0131r. A\u011f\u0131r mehriyy\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259b etm\u0259k d\u00fczg\u00fcn olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 kimi, a\u011f\u0131r cehiz t\u0259l\u0259b etm\u0259k d\u0259 yersizdir. M\u00f6vcud imkanlar n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 al\u0131nmal\u0131 v\u0259 t\u0259r\u0259f qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda g\u00fccd\u0259n art\u0131q t\u0259l\u0259b ir\u0259li s\u00fcr\u00fclm\u0259m\u0259lidir.<\/p>\n

Qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n yersiz ist\u0259kl\u0259r v\u0259 qeyri-m\u0259ntiqi t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259r daim bir \u00e7ox naraz\u0131l\u0131qlar\u0131n v\u0259 ixtilaflar\u0131n k\u00f6k\u00fc olur.<\/p>\n

Q\u0131zlar\u0131n izdivacla ba\u011fl\u0131 \u0259n \u00e7ox t\u0259sad\u00fcf olunan probleml\u0259rind\u0259n biri onlar\u0131n mehriyy\u0259, cehiz miqdar\u0131 il\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ndirilm\u0259si, h\u0259mya\u015f\u0131dlar aras\u0131nda d\u0259bd\u0259b\u0259 r\u0259qab\u0259tinin m\u00f6vcudlu\u011fudur. H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7imind\u0259ki bu sayaq yanl\u0131\u015f \u00fcsullar, b\u0259`zi ail\u0259l\u0259rin maddi me`yarlara ifrat diqq\u0259t yetirm\u0259si, \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, g\u0259nc ail\u0259nin h\u0259yat\u0131nda maddiyyat\u0131n rolunun d\u00fczg\u00fcn qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirilm\u0259m\u0259si bir \u00e7ox probleml\u0259r yarad\u0131r v\u0259 h\u0259l\u0259 m\u00f6hk\u0259ml\u0259nm\u0259mi\u015f ail\u0259 da\u011f\u0131lma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. Bu sayaq se\u00e7imin pe\u015fmanl\u0131qdan, ictimai sars\u0131nt\u0131lardan savay n\u0259tic\u0259si olmur.<\/p>\n

\u018fR-ARVADLIQ V\u018fZIF\u018fL\u018fRI IL\u018f TANI\u015eLIQ Z\u018fRUR\u018fTI<\/p>\n

G\u0259nc z\u00f6vc\u0259l\u0259r bilm\u0259lidirl\u0259r ki, ail\u0259 d\u0259 ictimai bir t\u0259\u015fkilat kimi n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tutulmu\u015f m\u0259qs\u0259dl\u0259r\u0259 do\u011fru hans\u0131sa bir \u00fcsulla h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t etm\u0259lidir. G\u0259nc ail\u0259 bu \u00fcsulu bilm\u0259li v\u0259 \u00f6z v\u0259zif\u0259l\u0259rini yerin\u0259 yetirm\u0259lidir. B\u0259`zi g\u0259ncl\u0259r \u00f6nc\u0259 haz\u0131rl\u0131q olmadan, v\u0259zif\u0259 v\u0259 h\u00fcquqlar\u0131n\u0131 bilm\u0259d\u0259n ail\u0259 qururlar. Onlar\u0131n n\u0259z\u0259rind\u0259 ail\u0259 t\u0259\u015fkili sad\u0259 bir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259dir. Amma bel\u0259 bir m\u00fcnasib\u0259t ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n ilk aylar\u0131nda ortaya ciddi probleml\u0259r \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 yanl\u0131\u015f \u00fcsullar v\u0259 ad\u0259tl\u0259r h\u00f6km s\u00fcrd\u00fcy\u00fcnd\u0259n g\u0259nc ail\u0259nin \u00f6z v\u0259zif\u0259 v\u0259 h\u00fcquqlar\u0131 il\u0259 tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131, el\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259, bu sah\u0259d\u0259 ehtiyac duyulan bilikl\u0259r\u0259 yiy\u0259l\u0259nm\u0259si z\u0259ruridir. Ad\u0259t\u0259n, h\u0259r bir ail\u0259d\u0259 x\u00fcsusi bir qayda-qanun h\u00f6km s\u00fcr\u00fcr v\u0259 x\u00fcsusi bir ideala \u00fcz tutulur. T\u0259bii ki, bu sayaq ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 \u00f6vladlar da h\u0259min \u00fcsul \u0259sas\u0131nda t\u0259rbiy\u0259 olunur. \u00d6vladlar t\u0259rbiy\u0259 ald\u0131qlar\u0131 ail\u0259nin ad\u0259t-\u0259n`\u0259n\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 \u00fcz tutur, h\u0259min qayda-qanunlar \u0259sas\u0131nda r\u0259ftar etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. B\u0259`zi ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259rin, b\u0259`zi ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 is\u0259 qad\u0131nlar\u0131n idar\u0259\u00e7iliyin\u0259 t\u0259sad\u00fcf olunur. \u00d6vlad da \u015f\u0259xsi ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131nda t\u0259rbiy\u0259 ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 ail\u0259nin bu prinsipin\u0259 \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck verir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, \u0259g\u0259r ail\u0259d\u0259 ata-ana qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259t \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259 dart\u0131\u015fmalarla dolu bir f\u0259zada \u00f6m\u00fcr s\u00fcr\u00fcrs\u0259 v\u0259 ya bir-birl\u0259rind\u0259n yersiz t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259r edirs\u0259, \u00f6vlad da \u00f6z \u015f\u0259xsi h\u0259yat\u0131nda bu yanl\u0131\u015f \u00fcsullara \u0259l atas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u0130zdivac astanas\u0131nda olan g\u0259ncl\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n v\u0259zif\u0259 v\u0259 h\u00fcquqlar\u0131, ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n qayda-qanunlar\u0131 il\u0259 tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131qdan vacib i\u015f yoxdur.<\/p>\n

C\u0259miyy\u0259timizd\u0259 bu m\u00f6vzunun n\u0259 d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tli oldu\u011fu he\u00e7 d\u0259 ham\u0131ya ayd\u0131n deyil. H\u0259l\u0259 ki izdivacdan \u00f6nc\u0259 z\u0259ruri bilikl\u0259r\u0259 yiy\u0259l\u0259nm\u0259k \u0259n`\u0259n\u0259si \u00f6z yerini tapmam\u0131\u015fd\u0131r. Z\u00f6vc\u0259l\u0259r ail\u0259 t\u0259\u015fkilind\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259 x\u00fcsusi d\u0259rn\u0259kl\u0259rd\u0259 faydal\u0131 kitablar\u0131n m\u00fctali\u0259si, m\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssisl\u0259rin n\u0259z\u0259rl\u0259ri il\u0259 tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131q vasit\u0259si il\u0259 z\u0259ruri bilikl\u0259r \u0259ld\u0259 etm\u0259lidir. \u0130lkin bilikl\u0259r \u0259ld\u0259 etm\u0259kl\u0259 yeni yaranm\u0131\u015f ail\u0259d\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131ya \u00e7\u0131xacaq bir \u00e7ox probleml\u0259rin qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 almaq olar.<\/p>\n

AIL\u018f H\u018fYATINA CIDDI YANA\u015eAQ<\/p>\n

H\u0259r bir g\u0259nc ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurmazdan \u00f6nc\u0259 m\u00fch\u00fcm bir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 diqq\u0259tli olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bu n\u00f6qt\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn h\u0259yat boyu diqq\u0259t m\u0259rk\u0259zind\u0259 saxlanmal\u0131d\u0131r:<\/p>\n

Ail\u0259 t\u0259\u015fkil etm\u0259k q\u0259rar\u0131na g\u0259lmi\u015f qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 v\u0259zif\u0259l\u0259rini yerin\u0259 yetirm\u0259k, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin raz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 qazanmaq, bir s\u00f6zl\u0259, ail\u0259 oca\u011f\u0131na r\u00f6vn\u0259q verm\u0259k \u0259n m\u00fch\u00fcm i\u015fl\u0259rd\u0259ndir.<\/p>\n

\u0130nsan\u0131n f\u0259rdi v\u0259 ictimai h\u0259yat\u0131nda ail\u0259 qurumunun x\u00fcsusi \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259t da\u015f\u0131mas\u0131 uy\u011fun i\u015fl\u0259ri z\u0259ruril\u0259\u015fdirir. Qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi diqq\u0259tli olmal\u0131d\u0131rlar ki, izdivacdan sonra b\u00fct\u00fcn m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rini ail\u0259 adland\u0131r\u0131lan qurumun bir hiss\u0259si says\u0131nlar. Ail\u0259 t\u0259\u015fkilind\u0259n sonra \u0259r v\u0259 arvad\u0131n h\u0259r birinin xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyi o birinin xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyind\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 insan ail\u0259nin \u00fcmumi xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyi xatirin\u0259 b\u0259`zi ist\u0259kl\u0259rind\u0259n da\u015f\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fr v\u0259 arvad \u00f6z ist\u0259kl\u0259rini bir-birl\u0259ri il\u0259 b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015fm\u0259li, b\u00fct\u00fcn m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 h\u0259md\u0259rd olmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. Qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi ail\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyin\u0259 zidd olan v\u0259 ya ail\u0259 t\u0259m\u0259lini sars\u0131dan, el\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin \u015f\u0259r`i h\u00fcququnu pozan i\u015fl\u0259rd\u0259n \u00e7\u0259kinm\u0259lidir. H\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259f tam s\u0259daq\u0259tl\u0259, a\u011f\u0131l v\u0259 \u015f\u0259ri\u0259t \u00e7\u0259r\u00e7iv\u0259sind\u0259 bir-birinin raz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 qazanmal\u0131d\u0131r. Onlar bilm\u0259lidirl\u0259r ki, s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259tli bir ail\u0259d\u0259 kims\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik \u0259ld\u0259 ed\u0259 bilmir.<\/p>\n

G\u0259nc ail\u0259 ilk g\u00fcnd\u0259n bir-birini tan\u0131ma\u011fa v\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin ist\u0259kl\u0259rini \u00f6yr\u0259nib bu ist\u0259kl\u0259ri t\u0259`min etm\u0259y\u0259 s\u0259`y g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259lidir. Bu yolla insan \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k h\u0259yat\u0131 \u015firinl\u0259\u015fdir\u0259 bil\u0259r. T\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r bir-birl\u0259rinin z\u0259if n\u00f6qt\u0259l\u0259rini d\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259lidir. Onlar h\u0259m bu z\u0259ifliyin aradan qald\u0131r\u0131las\u0131 istiqam\u0259tind\u0259 bir-birl\u0259rin\u0259 k\u00f6m\u0259k etm\u0259li, h\u0259m d\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fi incitm\u0259m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bu z\u0259if n\u00f6qt\u0259y\u0259 toxunmamal\u0131d\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n

E\u015fq v\u0259 m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t t\u0259l\u0259b edir ki, h\u0259r bir z\u00f6vc\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin rahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131 fikrind\u0259 olsun, onu incitm\u0259kd\u0259n \u00e7\u0259kinsin. Bu yolla qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn t\u0259kam\u00fcl \u015f\u0259raiti yaranm\u0131\u015f olar.<\/p>\n

\u018fr v\u0259 arvad yax\u0131nlarla get-g\u0259l, al\u0131\u015f-veri\u015f, s\u0259liq\u0259 kimi b\u0259`zi qeyri-z\u0259ruri i\u015fl\u0259r qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259 naraz\u0131l\u0131q yaratd\u0131qda bu i\u015fl\u0259rd\u0259n \u00e7\u0259kinm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Ail\u0259d\u0259 yekdillik yaratmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bir o q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259 m\u00fch\u00fcm olmayan m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 g\u00fcz\u0259\u015ft z\u0259ruridir. Unutmamal\u0131y\u0131q ki, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 il\u0259 isti v\u0259 s\u0259mimi m\u00fcnasib\u0259t b\u00fct\u00fcn qeyri-z\u0259ruri i\u015fl\u0259rd\u0259n m\u00fch\u00fcmd\u00fcr. \u0130sti m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti qeyri-z\u0259ruri m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 qurban verm\u0259k olmaz.<\/p>\n

H\u0259m\u00e7inin izdivac t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rinin h\u0259r biri \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n h\u00fcquqlar\u0131na riay\u0259t etm\u0259k fikrind\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. He\u00e7 bir halda h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n haqq\u0131n\u0131 ayaq alt\u0131na atmaq olmaz. Ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015flan\u011f\u0131c\u0131nda \u0259r v\u0259 arvad t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin h\u00fcquqlar\u0131n\u0131 qorumaq q\u0259rar\u0131 g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 bir \u00e7ox probleml\u0259rin qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 al\u0131r. Bel\u0259 bir q\u0259rar t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259ri haqqa t\u0259cav\u00fczd\u0259n, d\u00fcnya v\u0259 axir\u0259td\u0259 pis aqib\u0259tind\u0259n hifz edir. \u0130nsan h\u00fcquq v\u0259 m\u0259nafe bax\u0131m\u0131ndan daha \u00e7ox \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 il\u0259 m\u00fc\u015ft\u0259r\u0259k s\u0259rh\u0259dd\u0259 malik oldu\u011fundan bu q\u0259rar \u00e7ox m\u00fch\u00fcmd\u00fcr. \u018frl\u0259 arvad aras\u0131ndak\u0131 yax\u0131n, ard\u0131c\u0131l v\u0259 geni\u015f t\u0259maslar s\u0259b\u0259b olur ki, onlar\u0131n m\u00fcxt\u0259lif sah\u0259d\u0259ki h\u00fcquq v\u0259 m\u0259nafel\u0259ri toqqu\u015fsun.<\/p>\n

Maddi v\u0259 m\u0259`n\u0259vi h\u00fcquqlar\u0131n pozulmas\u0131 ehtimal\u0131 ba\u015fqalar\u0131na nisb\u0259t\u0259n \u0259rl\u0259 arvad aras\u0131nda daha b\u00f6y\u00fckd\u00fcr.<\/p>\n

Bu bax\u0131mdan t\u0259qva v\u0259 insanl\u0131q \u015f\u0259rti odur ki, \u0259r v\u0259 arvad bir-birl\u0259rinin h\u00fcquqlar\u0131na, x\u00fcsusi il\u0259 z\u0259rif v\u0259 h\u0259ssas m\u0259`n\u0259vi h\u00fcquqlara diqq\u0259tli olsunlar. N\u00f6vb\u0259ti s\u00f6hb\u0259tl\u0259rimizd\u0259 d\u0259 h\u0259min m\u00f6vzu \u0259traf\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131q.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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