M\u00fcasir zamanda d\u00fcnyada he\u00e7 u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n v\u0259 ya bir u\u015faqla kifay\u0259tl\u0259n\u0259nl\u0259rin say\u0131 art\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bizim \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 d\u0259 bir u\u015faqla kifay\u0259tl\u0259n\u0259n, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 gec planla\u015fd\u0131ran ail\u0259l\u0259r var. H\u0259r bir ail\u0259 u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259m\u0259yin s\u0259b\u0259bini m\u00fcxt\u0259lif izah edir.<\/p>\n
Psixoloq Ruhan\u0259 Rzayevan\u0131n s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, az\u0259rbaycanl\u0131 ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 u\u015faq ail\u0259nin sevinci, h\u0259yat\u0131n m\u0259nas\u0131 dem\u0259kdir: “U\u015fa\u011f\u0131 olmayana b\u0259db\u0259xt insan kimi bax\u0131rlar. Onlara “sonsuz” deyir, yanlar\u0131nda u\u015faq haqda \u00e7ox dan\u0131\u015fmaz v\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259zl\u0259r” dey\u0259n Rzayeva bildirir ki, lakin getdikc\u0259 u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n ana v\u0259 atalar\u0131n say\u0131 art\u0131r. Dediyin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, bel\u0259 insanlara el\u0259 g\u0259lir ki, onlar u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259dikl\u0259ri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn onlarda n\u0259s\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn deyil, anormald\u0131rlar v\u0259 ya bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259l\u0259 psixoloji haz\u0131r deyill\u0259r.<\/p>\n
D\u00fcnyada bu fikri d\u0259st\u0259kl\u0259y\u0259n v\u0259 h\u0259yat \u015f\u00fcar\u0131na \u00e7evir\u0259n qrupla\u015fmalar var. Qeyd ed\u0259k ki, ilk bel\u0259 qrupla\u015fmalar ke\u00e7\u0259n \u0259srin 70-ci ill\u0259rind\u0259n yaranma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131b. T\u0259dric\u0259n bel\u0259 qrupla\u015fmalar Avropa v\u0259 AB\u015e-da geni\u015f yay\u0131lma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131b.<\/p>\n
R.Rzayevan\u0131n dediyin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n insanlar q\u0131nan\u0131l\u0131r: “Bel\u0259 adamlar\u0131n dal\u0131nca dan\u0131\u015fanlar, onlar\u0131n m\u0259n\u0259vi d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259rinin az oldu\u011funu hesab ed\u0259nl\u0259r \u00e7oxdur. Onlara psixoloji problemi olan insan kimi baxanlar da var” dey\u0259n psixoloqa g\u00f6r\u0259, u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n ail\u0259l\u0259rin c\u0259miyy\u0259t \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259si yoxdur: “Onlar ba\u015fqalar\u0131na z\u0259r\u0259r g\u0259tirmir. Lakin aralar\u0131nda u\u015faqlar, u\u015faql\u0131 ail\u0259l\u0259r, \u00f6zl\u0259rini u\u015faqlara h\u0259sr ed\u0259nl\u0259r bar\u0259d\u0259 pis dan\u0131\u015fanlar da var”.<\/p>\n
M\u00fcsahibimiz qeyd edib ki, u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n insanlar aras\u0131nda 16-22 ya\u015f aras\u0131nda olanlar \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck t\u0259\u015fkil edir: “Bu d\u00f6vrd\u0259 g\u0259ncl\u0259rd\u0259 hans\u0131sa bir yolla ba\u015fqalar\u0131ndan se\u00e7ilm\u0259k ist\u0259yi g\u00fccl\u00fc olur. Onlar h\u0259m d\u0259 u\u015faq t\u0259rbiy\u0259 etm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00f6zl\u0259rini haz\u0131r hiss etm\u0259dikl\u0259rind\u0259n d\u0259 bel\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. Sonradan fikirl\u0259rini d\u0259yi\u015fdir\u0259 d\u0259 bilirl\u0259r. Lakin onlar\u0131n aras\u0131nda sonuna kimi fikirl\u0259rin\u0259 sadiq qalanlar da olur”.<\/p>\n
Psixoloq deyir ki, 25-35 ya\u015f aras\u0131nda olan v\u0259 u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n ail\u0259l\u0259r m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n h\u0259yat t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259si toplad\u0131qdan sonra bu fikr\u0259 g\u0259lirl\u0259r. “35-40 ya\u015fda insanlar u\u015faqs\u0131z h\u0259yat s\u00fcrm\u0259k q\u0259rar\u0131na g\u0259lir. Ancaq onlar sonradan q\u0259rar\u0131n\u0131 d\u0259yi\u015fdir\u0259 d\u0259 bilir. 40 ya\u015fdan sonra is\u0259 dem\u0259k olar ki, q\u0259rarlar\u0131n\u0131 bir daha d\u0259yi\u015fmirl\u0259r. U\u015faql\u0131\u011fa v\u0259 ya himay\u0259y\u0259 kimis\u0259 g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u0259yi d\u0259 fikirl\u0259\u015fmirl\u0259r”.<\/p>\n
Qeyd ed\u0259k ki, inki\u015faf etmi\u015f \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 \u00e7oxu\u015faql\u0131 ail\u0259l\u0259rin say\u0131 azal\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar daha gec ya\u015flar\u0131nda valideyn olma\u011f\u0131 planla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r. \u018fks\u0259r ail\u0259l\u0259r maddi durumunu yax\u015f\u0131la\u015fd\u0131rd\u0131qdan sonra u\u015faq d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tirm\u0259yi q\u0259rara al\u0131r. G\u0259nc ail\u0259l\u0259r aras\u0131nda bir u\u015faqla kifay\u0259tl\u0259n\u0259nl\u0259r d\u0259 \u00e7oxdur.<\/p>\n
H\u0259ms\u00f6hb\u0259timiz\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259m\u0259yin s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rind\u0259n biri d\u0259 u\u015faqlara nifr\u0259t hissi il\u0259 ya\u015famaqd\u0131r. Ail\u0259l\u0259r var ki, u\u015faqlar\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f\u0131na, yaratd\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u0259s-k\u00fcy\u0259, probleml\u0259r\u0259 qatlanmaq ist\u0259m\u0259dikl\u0259ri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259 u\u015faqlardan imtina edirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n
“Sad\u0259c\u0259 valideyn olmaq ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n insanlar da var. Bu, onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn maraql\u0131 deyil, bel\u0259l\u0259ri n\u0259sil art\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcrl\u0259r. S\u0259rb\u0259st ya\u015famaq, \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 daha \u00e7ox vaxt ay\u0131rmaq, dost-tan\u0131\u015fla \u0259yl\u0259nm\u0259k, s\u0259yah\u0259t\u0259 getm\u0259k v\u0259 s. ist\u0259yirl\u0259r. B\u0259zi insanlarsa h\u0259yat\u0131n ac\u0131 oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259r\u0259k bu d\u00fcnyaya u\u015faq g\u0259tirm\u0259k ist\u0259mirl\u0259r”.<\/p>\n
Karyeras\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259nl\u0259r var. B\u0259zil\u0259ris\u0259 \u0259lav\u0259 maddi probleml\u0259ri yaranmas\u0131n dey\u0259 ya he\u00e7 u\u015faq ist\u0259mir, ya da bir u\u015faqla kifay\u0259tl\u0259nirl\u0259r. “U\u015faq artd\u0131qca ist\u0259r-ist\u0259m\u0259z maddi t\u0259l\u0259batlar da art\u0131r. Ail\u0259 d\u0259 o maddi t\u0259l\u0259batlar\u0131 \u00f6d\u0259m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r”.<\/p>\n
Rzayeva bildirib ki, qad\u0131nlarda do\u011fu\u015fla ba\u011fl\u0131 qorxular da u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259m\u0259sin\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b olur: “Do\u011fu\u015fun a\u011fr\u0131l\u0131 ke\u00e7m\u0259si v\u0259 do\u011fum sonras\u0131 psixozlar da anan\u0131n xatirind\u0259 pis iz burax\u0131r. El\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259, valideyn olmaq qorxusu v\u0259 bunun \u00f6hd\u0259sind\u0259n g\u0259lm\u0259m\u0259k d\u0259 insan\u0131 \u00f6vlad sahibi olmaqdan \u00e7\u0259kindir\u0259 bilir. Sevdiyi insanla ya\u015fad\u0131qlar\u0131 sakit, harmoniya dolu h\u0259yat\u0131 u\u015faq olandan sonra itirm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxu, v\u0259rdi\u015f etdiyi h\u0259yat t\u0259rzinin pozulmas\u0131, \u00f6z u\u015faql\u0131\u011f\u0131 haqda neqativ xatir\u0259l\u0259r, kas\u0131b\u00e7\u0131l\u0131q, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131na a\u011f\u0131r genetik x\u0259st\u0259liyi \u00f6t\u00fcrm\u0259k qorxusu da valideyn olmaq arzusuna qar\u015f\u0131 s\u0259dd \u00e7\u0259kir”.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
M\u00fcasir zamanda d\u00fcnyada he\u00e7 u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n v\u0259 ya bir u\u015faqla kifay\u0259tl\u0259n\u0259nl\u0259rin say\u0131 art\u0131r. Bizim \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 d\u0259 bir u\u015faqla kifay\u0259tl\u0259n\u0259n, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 gec planla\u015fd\u0131ran ail\u0259l\u0259r var. H\u0259r bir ail\u0259 u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259m\u0259yin s\u0259b\u0259bini m\u00fcxt\u0259lif izah edir. Psixoloq Ruhan\u0259 Rzayevan\u0131n s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, az\u0259rbaycanl\u0131 ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 u\u015faq ail\u0259nin sevinci, h\u0259yat\u0131n m\u0259nas\u0131 dem\u0259kdir: “U\u015fa\u011f\u0131 olmayana b\u0259db\u0259xt insan kimi bax\u0131rlar. Onlara “sonsuz” deyir, yanlar\u0131nda u\u015faq haqda \u00e7ox dan\u0131\u015fmaz v\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259zl\u0259r” dey\u0259n Rzayeva bildirir ki, lakin getdikc\u0259 u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n ana v\u0259 atalar\u0131n say\u0131 art\u0131r. Dediyin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, bel\u0259 insanlara el\u0259 g\u0259lir ki, onlar u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259dikl\u0259ri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn onlarda n\u0259s\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":164266,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[24],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bir-usaq.jpg",460,322,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bir-usaq.jpg",460,322,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bir-usaq.jpg",460,322,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bir-usaq-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bir-usaq-300x210.jpg",300,210,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bir-usaq.jpg",460,322,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bir-usaq.jpg",460,322,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bir-usaq.jpg",460,322,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bir-usaq-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/bir-usaq.jpg",460,322,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"Maraql\u0131<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"M\u00fcasir zamanda d\u00fcnyada he\u00e7 u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n v\u0259 ya bir u\u015faqla kifay\u0259tl\u0259n\u0259nl\u0259rin say\u0131 art\u0131r. Bizim \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 d\u0259 bir u\u015faqla kifay\u0259tl\u0259n\u0259n, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 gec planla\u015fd\u0131ran ail\u0259l\u0259r var. H\u0259r bir ail\u0259 u\u015faq ist\u0259m\u0259m\u0259yin s\u0259b\u0259bini m\u00fcxt\u0259lif izah edir. Psixoloq Ruhan\u0259 Rzayevan\u0131n s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, az\u0259rbaycanl\u0131 ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 u\u015faq ail\u0259nin sevinci, h\u0259yat\u0131n m\u0259nas\u0131 dem\u0259kdir: “U\u015fa\u011f\u0131 olmayana b\u0259db\u0259xt insan kimi bax\u0131rlar. Onlara “sonsuz” deyir,…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164265"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=164265"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/164265\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/164266"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=164265"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=164265"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=164265"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}