G\u00fcnl\u0259r ke\u00e7di, aylar doland\u0131, il tamam olmam\u0131\u015f g\u0259nc ail\u0259d\u0259 bir m\u0259r\u0259k\u0259 qopdu ki, s\u0259s\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn qohum-\u0259qr\u0259ba y\u0131\u011f\u0131\u015fd\u0131.<\/p>\n
Al\u0259m bir-birin\u0259 d\u0259ydi, ham\u0131 bir-birinin k\u00f6lg\u0259sini q\u0131l\u0131nclama\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131, vaxtil\u0259 xeyir-dua ed\u0259nl\u0259r indi bir-birl\u0259rini h\u0259d\u0259l\u0259yirdil\u0259r. D\u00fcn\u0259n q\u0131z haqq\u0131nda \u201cG\u0259linimin tay\u0131-b\u0259rab\u0259ri yoxdur\u201d dey\u0259n o\u011flan anas\u0131 indi ona qar\u011f\u0131\u015f edirdi. O\u011flan bar\u0259sind\u0259 \u201c\u0130ki q\u0131z\u0131m vard\u0131, indi bir o\u011flum da var\u201d dey\u0259n q\u0131z anas\u0131 da k\u00fcr\u0259k\u0259nini l\u0259n\u0259tl\u0259yirdi. S\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259t\u0259, dava-dala\u015fa s\u0259b\u0259b n\u0259 idi? S\u0259b\u0259b \u00e7oxdur.<\/p>\n
H\u0259r il \u00f6lk\u0259mizd\u0259 ne\u00e7\u0259-ne\u00e7\u0259 nikah ba\u011flan\u0131r. Bu, yax\u015f\u0131 hald\u0131r. Lakin h\u0259r il eyni zamanda ne\u00e7\u0259-ne\u00e7\u0259 bo\u015fanma hadis\u0259si qeyd\u0259 al\u0131n\u0131r. Bu is\u0259 pis hald\u0131r. C\u0259miyy\u0259timizin, d\u00f6vl\u0259timizin m\u0259n\u0259vi sa\u011flaml\u0131\u011f\u0131, m\u00f6hk\u0259m v\u0259 qudr\u0259tli olmas\u0131 bilavasit\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259rin u\u011furlu olmas\u0131ndan as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r. Ail\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn f\u0259aliyy\u0259t sah\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 h\u0259m ictimai h\u0259m d\u0259 f\u0259rdi funksiyalar\u0131 yerin\u0259 yetirir. Ail\u0259nin funksiyalar\u0131 tarixi kateqoriyalard\u0131r, \u0259n\u0259n\u0259vi v\u0259 m\u00fcasir xarakter da\u015f\u0131y\u0131r. Dan\u0131lmaz faktd\u0131r ki, \u00f6lk\u0259mizd\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt, u\u011furlu ail\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 yana\u015f\u0131 h\u0259m d\u0259 u\u011fursuz, bir n\u00f6v b\u0259db\u0259xt ail\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 vard\u0131r. Bel\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259r \u00e7ox vaxt el\u0259 qon\u015fulu\u011fumuzda ya\u015fay\u0131r, onlar\u0131n s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259tl\u0259rinin, dava-dala\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259r g\u00fcn \u015fahidi oluruq. H\u0259min ail\u0259l\u0259rin \u00fczvl\u0259rind\u0259n b\u0259zil\u0259ri el\u0259 \u00f6z qohumlar\u0131m\u0131zd\u0131r. V\u0259 biz bu c\u00fcr ail\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 cox rastla\u015firiq.<\/p>\n
Bir birini sev\u0259n iki g\u0259nc ail\u0259 qurma\u011fa t\u0259l\u0259sir. Onlar m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259tin xo\u015fb\u0259xt sonlu\u011funu sev\u0259nl\u0259rin ail\u0259 qurmas\u0131nda g\u00f6r\u00fcrl\u0259r. Ancaq na\u011f\u0131llardaki kimi m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259tin xo\u015fb\u0259xt sonlugu evl\u0259nm\u0259k deyil. \u0130ki sev\u0259n g\u0259nc evl\u0259ndikd\u0259 na\u011f\u0131l tamamlan\u0131r, h\u0259yatda is\u0259 kitab h\u0259l\u0259 t\u0259z\u0259 yaz\u0131lma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. Real h\u0259yatda m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t\u0259 sahib c\u0131xmaq el\u0259 evl\u0259ndikd\u0259n sonra ba\u015flay\u0131r.\u00a0Ail\u0259d\u0259 m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259ti, qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259ti evl\u0259ndikd\u0259n sonra qorumaq heyfsl\u0259r olsun ki h\u0259r ail\u0259d\u0259 ba\u015f tutmur. Ail\u0259d\u0259 daxili konfliktl\u0259r, probleml\u0259r ba\u015f verir. V\u0259 bu da m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin pozulmas\u0131na, c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259tsizliyin\u0259 v\u0259 hal haz\u0131rda \u00e7ox ail\u0259nin problemin\u0259 cevril\u0259n bo\u015fanma hadis\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b olur.<\/p>\n
Bo\u015fanma m\u00fcr\u0259kk\u0259b sosial hadis\u0259dir. O \u00f6z m\u0259nb\u0259yini ail\u0259 ixtilaflar\u0131ndan al\u0131r. Ail\u0259 ixtilaflar\u0131 is\u0259 \u0259r-arvad m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rinin d\u00fczg\u00fcn qurulmamas\u0131 n\u0259tic\u0259sind\u0259 ba\u015f verir. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 bo\u015fanman\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rini ayd\u0131nla\u015fd\u0131rmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, h\u0259r \u015feyd\u0259n \u0259vv\u0259l \u0259r-arvad m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc b\u00fcruz\u0259 ver\u0259n n\u00f6qsanlar\u0131 a\u015fkara \u00e7\u0131xarmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n
\u018fvv\u0259lc\u0259 g\u0259lin bel\u0259 bir sad\u0259 h\u0259qiq\u0259td\u0259n ba\u015flayaq. Ail\u0259d\u0259 s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259t var. Bunu h\u00f6km\u0259n qonum-qon\u015fular bilm\u0259lidirl\u0259r? Yax\u015f\u0131 olmazm\u0131 ki, bu m\u00fcbahis\u0259ni h\u0259min \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rin \u00f6zl\u0259ri ikilikd\u0259 h\u0259ll etsinl\u0259r. Ax\u0131 bir s\u0131ra hallarda \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc, d\u00f6rd\u00fcnc\u00fc v\u0259 s. n\u0259f\u0259rin m\u00fcdaxil\u0259 etm\u0259si \u0259slind\u0259 \u201cqa\u015f d\u00fcz\u0259ltm\u0259k yerin\u0259 vurub g\u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 t\u00f6k\u00fcr\u201d. Lap adic\u0259, son d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259 \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tsiz v\u0259 x\u0131rda m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 \u0259r-arvad\u0131n m\u00fcbahis\u0259si g\u00fcnl\u0259rl\u0259 davam ed\u0259 bil\u0259r v\u0259 n\u0259hay\u0259t, ciddi \u015f\u0259kil ala bil\u0259r. \u0130xtilaflar \u0259r-arvad h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n dram\u0131n\u0131 ifad\u0259 edir, lakin o, ail\u0259 faci\u0259sin\u0259 \u00e7evrilm\u0259m\u0259lidir.<\/p>\n
\u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 m\u00fcbahis\u0259siz, konfliktsiz ail\u0259 t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcr etm\u0259k olarm\u0131? \u0130namla dey\u0259 bil\u0259rik ki, m\u00fcbahis\u0259siz, konfliktsiz ail\u0259 olmur. Buna baxmayaraq 30, 40, 50 il davam ed\u0259n \u00e7ox ail\u0259l\u0259r vard\u0131r. Dem\u0259li, ail\u0259d\u0259 m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259r olur, amma m\u00fcbahis\u0259 ed\u0259n t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rin h\u0259r ikisinin v\u0259 yaxud he\u00e7 olmasa birinin m\u0259d\u0259ni s\u0259viyy\u0259si, bir-birin\u0259 olan sevgi, m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t bu m\u00fcbahis\u0259nin m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n bir \u00e7\u0259r\u00e7iv\u0259d\u0259n \u00e7\u0131xmas\u0131na imkan verm\u0259z.<\/p>\n
\u0130ki \u015f\u0259xs b\u0259xtini, qism\u0259tini birl\u0259\u015fdirib ail\u0259 qurduqda bu \u00fcmumi oca\u011fa h\u0259r biri \u00f6z \u201cy\u00fck\u00fc\u201d il\u0259 g\u0259lir. Lakin bu g\u00fcn\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r \u201cm\u0259nimki\u201d deyil\u0259n h\u0259r bir \u015fey indi yaln\u0131z \u201cbizimki\u201d il\u0259 \u0259v\u0259z olunmas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n s\u0259y g\u00f6st\u0259rilm\u0259si vacibdir. Bu yaln\u0131z maddi c\u0259h\u0259t\u0259 deyil, m\u0259n\u0259vi c\u0259h\u0259t\u0259 d\u0259 aiddir. Bu \u201cbizim\u201d prinsipi \u0259r-arvad t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r q\u0259bul olunarsa, xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259r, s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259t d\u0259 bir o q\u0259d\u0259r tez aradan qalx\u0131b yox olar.<\/p>\n
B\u0259zi ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 is\u0259 \u0259ksin\u0259 olur. \u0130lk vaxtlar g\u00fcya bir birini sev\u0259n g\u0259ncl\u0259r q\u0131sa m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259n sonra bir-birini sevm\u0259dikl\u0259rini, yan\u0131ld\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 anlay\u0131r v\u0259 bu zaman xasiyy\u0259tl\u0259rini uy\u011funla\u015fd\u0131raraq \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259 m\u00fcqabil t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rin kin, \u0259dav\u0259t hissl\u0259rini daha da k\u0259skinl\u0259\u015fdirirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n
Nikah\u0131n ilk d\u00f6vrl\u0259rind\u0259 v\u0259, \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, \u0259r-arvad aras\u0131nda konfliktl\u0259r n\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b\u0259 ba\u015f verir? \u018fh\u0259miyy\u0259tin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 m\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssisl\u0259r bu s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri a\u015fa\u011f\u0131dak\u0131 ard\u0131c\u0131ll\u0131qla g\u00f6sterirler:<\/strong><\/p>\n – \u018fr-arvad m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 etikan\u0131n pozulmas\u0131 x\u0259yan\u0259t, q\u0131sqancl\u0131q).<\/p>\n – Bioloji uy\u011funsuzluq.<\/p>\n – \u018fr-arvaddan birinin v\u0259 ya h\u0259r ikisinin onlar\u0131 \u0259hat\u0259 ed\u0259n adamlarla (qohum, dost, tan\u0131\u015f v\u0259 s.) pis m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 olmas\u0131.<\/p>\n – H\u0259yata mara\u011f\u0131n v\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259rin uy\u011funsuzlu\u011fu.<\/p>\n – U\u015fa\u011fa qar\u015f\u0131 pedaqoji m\u00f6vqeyin m\u00fcxt\u0259lifliyi.<\/p>\n – \u018fr-arvaddan birind\u0259, b\u0259z\u0259n is\u0259 h\u0259r ikisind\u0259 \u015f\u0259xsi \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131qlar\u0131n olmas\u0131.<\/p>\n – Valideynl\u0259rl\u0259 u\u015faqlar aras\u0131nda qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 anla\u015fman\u0131n olmamas\u0131.<\/p>\n H\u0259r ail\u0259d\u0259 xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z hadis\u0259l\u0259r ba\u015f verir. M\u00fch\u00fcm olan bu hadis\u0259l\u0259ri sakitlikl\u0259, qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 aradan qald\u0131rmaqd\u0131r. V\u0259 real h\u0259yat\u0131n sonlu\u011funu g\u00fcl\u0259r\u00fcz tamamlamaqd\u0131r.<\/p>\n R\u0259sulova K\u0259mal\u0259,<\/p>\n Az\u0259rbaycan M\u00fc\u0259lliml\u0259r \u0130nstitutu<\/p>\n T\u0259hsild\u0259 sosial-psixoloji xidm\u0259t ixtisas\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259l\u0259b\u0259si<\/p>\n Dushunce.az<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" G\u00fcnl\u0259r ke\u00e7di, aylar doland\u0131, il tamam olmam\u0131\u015f g\u0259nc ail\u0259d\u0259 bir m\u0259r\u0259k\u0259 qopdu ki, s\u0259s\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn qohum-\u0259qr\u0259ba y\u0131\u011f\u0131\u015fd\u0131. Al\u0259m bir-birin\u0259 d\u0259ydi, ham\u0131 bir-birinin k\u00f6lg\u0259sini q\u0131l\u0131nclama\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131, vaxtil\u0259 xeyir-dua ed\u0259nl\u0259r indi bir-birl\u0259rini h\u0259d\u0259l\u0259yirdil\u0259r. D\u00fcn\u0259n q\u0131z haqq\u0131nda \u201cG\u0259linimin tay\u0131-b\u0259rab\u0259ri yoxdur\u201d dey\u0259n o\u011flan anas\u0131 indi ona qar\u011f\u0131\u015f edirdi. O\u011flan bar\u0259sind\u0259 \u201c\u0130ki q\u0131z\u0131m vard\u0131, indi bir o\u011flum da var\u201d dey\u0259n q\u0131z anas\u0131 da k\u00fcr\u0259k\u0259nini l\u0259n\u0259tl\u0259yirdi. S\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259t\u0259, dava-dala\u015fa s\u0259b\u0259b n\u0259 idi? S\u0259b\u0259b \u00e7oxdur. H\u0259r il \u00f6lk\u0259mizd\u0259 ne\u00e7\u0259-ne\u00e7\u0259 nikah ba\u011flan\u0131r. Bu, yax\u015f\u0131 hald\u0131r. Lakin h\u0259r il eyni zamanda ne\u00e7\u0259-ne\u00e7\u0259 bo\u015fanma hadis\u0259si qeyd\u0259 al\u0131n\u0131r. 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Al\u0259m bir-birin\u0259 d\u0259ydi, ham\u0131 bir-birinin k\u00f6lg\u0259sini q\u0131l\u0131nclama\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131, vaxtil\u0259 xeyir-dua ed\u0259nl\u0259r indi bir-birl\u0259rini h\u0259d\u0259l\u0259yirdil\u0259r. D\u00fcn\u0259n q\u0131z haqq\u0131nda \u201cG\u0259linimin tay\u0131-b\u0259rab\u0259ri yoxdur\u201d dey\u0259n o\u011flan anas\u0131 indi ona qar\u011f\u0131\u015f edirdi. O\u011flan bar\u0259sind\u0259 \u201c\u0130ki q\u0131z\u0131m vard\u0131, indi bir o\u011flum da var\u201d dey\u0259n…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/184523"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=184523"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/184523\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/184524"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=184523"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=184523"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=184523"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}