{"id":195925,"date":"2020-07-27T09:00:56","date_gmt":"2020-07-27T06:00:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=195925"},"modified":"2020-07-27T09:00:56","modified_gmt":"2020-07-27T06:00:56","slug":"niy%c9%99-kisil%c9%99r-ozl%c9%99rind%c9%99n-boyuk-qadinlarla-evl%c9%99nir-psixoloq-izah-edir-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=195925","title":{"rendered":"Niy\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck qad\u0131nlarla evl\u0259nir? \u2013 PS\u0130XOLOQ \u0130ZAH ED\u0130R"},"content":{"rendered":"

X\u00fcsusil\u0259 son ill\u0259r g\u0259nc o\u011flanlar\u0131n \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259n ya\u015fca \u00e7ox b\u00f6y\u00fck qad\u0131nlarla evl\u0259nm\u0259si hallar\u0131 art\u0131b. Amma c\u0259miyy\u0259tin bu c\u00fcr hallara m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti birm\u0259nal\u0131 deyil.<\/p>\n

\u018fks\u0259riyy\u0259t bel\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 q\u0259bul ed\u0259 bilmir. \u00c7oxlar\u0131n\u0131n fikrinc\u0259, ki\u015fi evl\u0259n\u0259c\u0259yi xan\u0131mdan ya\u015fca b\u00f6y\u00fck olmal\u0131d\u0131r. B\u0259s \u0259slind\u0259 do\u011fru hal hans\u0131d\u0131r? Niy\u0259 o\u011flanlar \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259n ya\u015fca b\u00f6y\u00fck qad\u0131nlarla ail\u0259 qururlar? Daha \u00e7ox hans\u0131 xasiyy\u0259tli o\u011flanlar bu c\u00fcr add\u0131m at\u0131r? Psixoloq S\u0259bin\u0259 Bayramova Ailem.az-a a\u00e7\u0131qlamas\u0131nda m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259nin psixoloji m\u0259qamlar\u0131na ayd\u0131nl\u0131q g\u0259tirib.<\/p>\n

Bioloji ya\u015fla psixoloji ya\u015f h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 \u00fcst-\u00fcst\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fcr
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Psixoloqun s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 yay\u0131lm\u0131\u015f bir fikir var ki, ki\u015fi qad\u0131ndan bir ne\u00e7\u0259 ya\u015f b\u00f6y\u00fck olmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fslind\u0259 is\u0259 evlilik psixologiyas\u0131nda daha \u00e7ox psixoloji ya\u015f \u00f6n\u0259mlidir: \u201cB\u0259zi c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r aras\u0131nda bir ne\u00e7\u0259 ya\u015f, b\u0259zil\u0259rind\u0259 is\u0259 8-10 ya\u015fa q\u0259d\u0259r olur. \u018fslind\u0259 is\u0259 evlilik psixologiyas\u0131nda, daha \u00e7ox psixoloji ya\u015f\u0131n \u00f6n\u0259mind\u0259n s\u00f6hb\u0259t a\u00e7a bil\u0259rik. \u00c7\u00fcnki bioloji ya\u015fla psixoloji ya\u015f h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 \u00fcst-\u00fcst\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fcr. Evl\u0259n\u0259c\u0259k \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rin psixoloji \u00f6z\u0259llikl\u0259rini m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259nl\u0259\u015fdir\u0259n is\u0259 bioloji ya\u015f deyil. Onlar\u0131n yeti\u015fm\u0259 t\u0259rzi, t\u0259hsil v\u0259ziyy\u0259ti, yeti\u015fdiyi ail\u0259, ortamd\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n

\u201cB\u00f6y\u00fcm\u0259k\u201d psixoloji yetkinlik dem\u0259k deyil
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M\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssis deyir ki, evlilikd\u0259 \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rin bioloji ya\u015f\u0131 yox, psixoloji ya\u015f\u0131 \u0259sas rol oynay\u0131r: \u201cM\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, eyni ya\u015fda olan c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin birinin u\u015faq xarakterli, dig\u0259rinin daha yetkin \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t\u0259 sahib oldu\u011funu tez-tez g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck. Bu da \u0259lb\u0259tt\u0259, m\u00fcnasib\u0259tin, evliliyin h\u00fczurlu davam etm\u0259sin\u0259 mane ola bil\u0259c\u0259k \u00f6z\u0259llikl\u0259rd\u0259ndir. C\u0259miyy\u0259timizin g\u0259ldiyi bir q\u0259na\u0259t var ki, insan ya\u015fa dolduqca bu ya\u015fl\u0131l\u0131q onun yetkinliyinin g\u00f6st\u0259ricisidir. Amma bu yana\u015fma he\u00e7 d\u0259 do\u011fru hesab olunmur. \u00c7\u00fcnki \u201cb\u00f6y\u00fcm\u0259k\u201d he\u00e7 d\u0259 psixoloji yetkinliyi \u00f6z b\u0259rab\u0259rind\u0259 g\u0259tirmir\u201d.<\/p>\n

Bu tip o\u011flanlar anas\u0131z q\u0259rar ver\u0259 bilmirl\u0259r
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S.Babayeva qeyd edir ki, o\u011flanlar\u0131n \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259n ya\u015fca b\u00f6y\u00fck qad\u0131nla evl\u0259nm\u0259k ist\u0259m\u0259l\u0259ri \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131 olaraq o\u011flan\u0131n anas\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6st\u0259rdiyi qay\u011f\u0131n\u0131 h\u0259min qad\u0131nda axtarmas\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r: \u201cB\u0259z\u0259n analar f\u0259xr il\u0259 deyirl\u0259r ki, o\u011flu anas\u0131ndan as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r, anas\u0131z q\u0259rar vermir. Amma bu, he\u00e7 d\u0259 f\u0259xr olunas\u0131 bir durum deyil. Haz\u0131rda m\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssisl\u0259r, psixoloqlar 15 ya\u015fl\u0131 yeniyetm\u0259 o\u011flan\u0131n anas\u0131ndan h\u0259dsiz d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 as\u0131l\u0131 olmas\u0131n\u0131 yax\u015f\u0131 hal kimi d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ndirmirl\u0259r. Bu, ana \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn q\u00fcrur, f\u0259xr, xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik say\u0131lmamal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki h\u0259min o\u011ful 20-30 ya\u015fa \u00e7atanda 40 ya\u015fl\u0131 qad\u0131n\u0131 sevm\u0259y\u0259 maraq g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259 bil\u0259r. Yaxud azya\u015fl\u0131 u\u015faq orta m\u0259kt\u0259bd\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259llim\u0259sini sevm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flaya bil\u0259r. Bu da platonik m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t hesab olunur. \u00c7\u00fcnki bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 sosial, ictimai q\u0131naq oldu\u011funa g\u00f6r\u0259, xan\u0131mlar \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259n ya\u015fca ki\u00e7ik o\u011flanlarla sevgi ya\u015famaqdan qa\u00e7\u0131rlar, ist\u0259s\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 ya\u015fam\u0131rlar bunu. Buna g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 el\u0259 h\u0259min o\u011flanlar\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 bundan m\u0259yus ola bil\u0259rl\u0259r. Bunu analar n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Son zamanlar \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259n ya\u015fca b\u00f6y\u00fck qad\u0131nlarla evl\u0259n\u0259n o\u011flanlar\u0131n say\u0131 az deyil v\u0259 \u0259vv\u0259lki ill\u0259r\u0259 nisb\u0259t\u0259n art\u0131r. Bu hal dediyim kimi, daha \u00e7ox analarla ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Bu tip o\u011flanlar\u0131n \u00fcr\u0259yind\u0259 ana sevgisi h\u0259dsiz olur. O sevgi n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r g\u00fccl\u00fcd\u00fcrs\u0259, \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck qad\u0131nlara da meyl o q\u0259d\u0259r art\u0131r. Bir ana o\u011flunu h\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 edirs\u0259, o, anas\u0131na d\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcn olur. H\u0259min o\u011flan sevdiyi insana da bu c\u00fcr ba\u011flanma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. Ad\u0259t\u0259n d\u0259 ya\u015f\u0131 yuxar\u0131 qad\u0131nlara maraq g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131rlar\u201d.<\/p>\n

Evl\u0259n\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259ri qad\u0131n\u0131n ya\u015fl\u0131 v\u0259 z\u0259ngin olmas\u0131n\u0131 ist\u0259yirl\u0259r
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Psixoloq m\u0259lumat verir ki, \u0259rk\u00f6y\u00fcn b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcl\u0259n, daha \u00e7ox rahatl\u0131\u011fa al\u0131\u015fan o\u011flan \u00f6vladlar\u0131nda da bu hala \u00e7ox rast g\u0259linir: \u201cValideynl\u0259rinin hesab\u0131na h\u0259yat t\u0259rzi ke\u00e7ir\u0259n o\u011flanlarda probleml\u0259r olur v\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259n dolay\u0131 g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 pul qazanmaqda \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kirl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 o\u011flanlar d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, evl\u0259n\u0259c\u0259yi qad\u0131n\u0131n ya\u015fl\u0131, kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259 z\u0259ngin biri olmas\u0131 onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn sanki ata-ana rolunu \u0259v\u0259z ed\u0259, maddi probleml\u0259rini h\u0259ll ed\u0259 bil\u0259r. Bunlar\u0131 \u0259trafl\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcb q\u0259rar ver\u0259nd\u0259 m\u0259hz bel\u0259 bir xan\u0131m se\u00e7irl\u0259r\u201d.<\/p>\n

Ki\u015fi qad\u0131ndan 4-5 ya\u015f b\u00f6y\u00fck olmal\u0131d\u0131r
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\u201cEvlilikd\u0259 o\u011flanlar\u0131n q\u0131zlardan b\u00f6y\u00fck olmas\u0131 m\u00fctl\u0259qdirmi?\u201d sual\u0131n\u0131 cavabland\u0131ran m\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssis deyir ki, bunu qanun kimi q\u0259bul etm\u0259k do\u011fru deyil: \u201cM\u00fctl\u0259q o\u011flanlar q\u0131zlardan b\u00f6y\u00fck olmal\u0131d\u0131r, q\u0131zlar ki\u00e7ik olmal\u0131d\u0131r dey\u0259 bir qanun yoxdur. Amma \u00e7ox zaman bu, t\u00f6vsiy\u0259 olunur. Bu da qad\u0131nlarda 35 ya\u015fdan sonra klimaks\u0131n ba\u015f verdiyini, ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n daha tez yeti\u015fdiyini, y\u0259ni bioloji ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131 n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 alaraq t\u00f6vsiy\u0259 edilir. Qad\u0131n\u0131n bioloji bax\u0131mdan ki\u015fid\u0259n tez inki\u015faf etdiyini n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 alsaq, evlilik m\u0259qam\u0131nda qad\u0131n\u0131n ki\u015fid\u0259n ya\u015fca az olmas\u0131 daha m\u0259qs\u0259d\u0259uy\u011fundur. \u0130deal ya\u015f f\u0259rqi is\u0259 ki\u015finin qad\u0131ndan 4-5 ya\u015f b\u00f6y\u00fck olmas\u0131d\u0131r. Amma psixoloji ya\u015fla intellekt \u00fcst-\u00fcst\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrs\u0259, qad\u0131n\u0131n ki\u015fid\u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck olmas\u0131nda ciddi problem olmaz\u201d.<\/p>\n

Evlilikd\u0259 10 il sonran\u0131 bel\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259r\u0259k add\u0131m at\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r
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\u201cB\u0259z\u0259n olur ki, \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n ya\u015fl\u0131 qad\u0131nla ail\u0259 quran c\u00fctl\u00fcy\u00fcn m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n probleml\u0259ri ortaya \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. Bir-birini sev\u0259, a\u015fiq ola bil\u0259rl\u0259r, amma m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 ciddiyy\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259nd\u0259 evl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259n sonra qad\u0131n da ki\u015fid\u0259n hans\u0131sa diqq\u0259ti, qay\u011f\u0131n\u0131, n\u0259zak\u0259ti ist\u0259y\u0259r. Lakin o\u011flan daha \u0259rk\u00f6y\u00fcn, ki\u00e7ik oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn qay\u011f\u0131n\u0131, sevgini yet\u0259ri q\u0259d\u0259r g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r. Bu da qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcsyan etm\u0259sin\u0259 g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xarar. Evlilik \u00e7ox ciddi bir d\u00f6n\u0259mdir. Bu zaman h\u0259tta 10 il sonran\u0131 bel\u0259, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259r\u0259k add\u0131m at\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fn \u0259sas\u0131 is\u0259 evlilikd\u0259 ya\u015f\u0131n v\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n g\u0259tirdikl\u0259rin\u0259 birlikd\u0259 sin\u0259 g\u0259r\u0259 bilm\u0259kdir. Bel\u0259 bir situasiyan\u0131n i\u00e7ind\u0259 fikirl\u0259ri qar\u0131\u015f\u0131q olan biril\u0259ri varsa, m\u00fctl\u0259q m\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssis\u0259, psixoloqa m\u00fcraci\u0259t ed\u0259r\u0259k bir-birl\u0259rin\u0259 uy\u011fun olub-olmamalar\u0131n\u0131, xarakterl\u0259rini psixoloji testl\u0259r vasit\u0259sil\u0259 ayd\u0131nla\u015fd\u0131ra bil\u0259rl\u0259r\u201d, -dey\u0259 S.Babayeva diqq\u0259t\u0259 \u00e7atd\u0131rd\u0131.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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