Amerikal\u0131 psixoloq M.Gray Neuman “Ki\u015fil\u0259r niy\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edir\u201d m\u00f6vzusunda 200 ki\u015fi \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 ara\u015fd\u0131rma apar\u0131b. Onun t\u0259dqiqat\u0131nda i\u015ftirak ed\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259rin ham\u0131s\u0131 evli olub v\u0259 ham\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n da xan\u0131m\u0131na x\u0259yan\u0259t etdiyi m\u0259lum olub.<\/p>\n
Onlar x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rini bu c\u00fcr izah edibl\u0259r: “Tam yar\u0131s\u0131 psixoloji c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n yolda\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fclm\u0259m\u0259sini s\u0259b\u0259b g\u00f6st\u0259rib. Ki\u015fil\u0259rin d\u0259 diqq\u0259t\u0259 v\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131ya ehtiyac\u0131 oldu\u011fu halda q\u00fcrurlu olmas\u0131 bu ehtiyac\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259sin\u0259 \u0259ng\u0259l olur v\u0259 qad\u0131nlar ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n diqq\u0259t t\u0259l\u0259b etm\u0259kl\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259r \u00f6zl\u0259ri onlara qar\u015f\u0131 diqq\u0259tsiz qal\u0131rlar. N\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 is\u0259 ki\u015fi diqq\u0259ti ba\u015fqa qad\u0131nlarda axtarma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Dig\u0259r s\u0259b\u0259b is\u0259 intim problemi g\u00f6st\u0259rilib. T\u0259dqiqatlar g\u00f6st\u0259rib ki, x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259nl\u0259rin 68%-i n\u0259 vaxtsa h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259c\u0259yini a\u011fl\u0131na da g\u0259tirm\u0259yib. H\u0259m\u00e7inin ara\u015fd\u0131rmalara g\u00f6r\u0259 \u0259ks\u0259r hallarda x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259n ki\u015fi x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259rk\u0259n v\u0259 ondan sonrak\u0131 d\u00f6vrl\u0259rd\u0259 daima pe\u015fmanl\u0131q duy\u011fusu il\u0259 ya\u015fay\u0131r.<\/p>\n
\u0130ngilt\u0259r\u0259d\u0259 apar\u0131lan t\u0259dqiqatdan is\u0259 m\u0259lum olub ki, evli ki\u015fil\u0259rin y\u00fczd\u0259 21-i h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na x\u0259yan\u0259t edir. Bu g\u00f6st\u0259rici v\u0259t\u0259nda\u015f nikah\u0131nda ya\u015fayan c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rd\u0259 y\u00fczd\u0259 51-dir. Ki\u015fil\u0259rin 44 faizi qar\u015f\u0131 cinsin cazib\u0259sin\u0259 v\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259lliyin\u0259 heyran olduqlar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn x\u0259yan\u0259t etdiyini bildirib.<\/p>\n
Kanadada apar\u0131lan ara\u015fd\u0131rmada is\u0259 m\u0259lum olub ki, ki\u015fil\u0259rin 50 faizi xan\u0131m\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n romantik v\u0259 hissi qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131q g\u00f6rm\u0259diyind\u0259n, y\u00fczd\u0259 30-u yolda\u015f\u0131 il\u0259 “dil tapa bilm\u0259diyind\u0259n\u201d, y\u00fczd\u0259 20-si is\u0259 xan\u0131m\u0131 il\u0259 cinsi probleml\u0259r ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan x\u0259yan\u0259t edir.<\/p>\n
\u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 is\u0259 psixoloqlar \u0259ks\u0259r hallarda ki\u015fil\u0259rin x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259sinin qad\u0131nlardan as\u0131l\u0131 oldu\u011funu bildirir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, qad\u0131n daha \u00e7ox emosional, q\u0131sqanc, deying\u0259n olma\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 andan v\u0259 yaxud \u00f6z g\u00f6rk\u0259min\u0259 fikir verm\u0259dikd\u0259, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f\u0259 \u00f6z sevgisini, qay\u011f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6t\u00fcrm\u0259dikc\u0259 gec-tez x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 u\u011fray\u0131rlar. Lakin he\u00e7 d\u0259 h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bkar qad\u0131nlar olmur. Potensial olaraq ki\u015fil\u0259r uy\u011fun zaman ba\u015f verdikd\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 meylli olur. H\u0259tta bel\u0259 bir iddia da var ki, ki\u015fi \u0259g\u0259r \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu bir qad\u0131nla kifay\u0259tl\u0259nirs\u0259, ya onda anormall\u0131q var, ya da ki, partnyorunun sad\u0259c\u0259 b\u0259xti g\u0259tirib.<\/p>\n
Psixoloq Ramil N\u0259c\u0259fli m\u00f6vzu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 “Yeni M\u00fcsavat\u201da dan\u0131\u015f\u0131b: “X\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259n ki\u015fini m\u00fchakim\u0259 etm\u0259zd\u0259n \u0259vv\u0259l d\u00fczg\u00fcn \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 t\u0259hlil aparmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki v\u0259ziyy\u0259ti d\u00fczg\u00fcn analiz etdikd\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bi \u00f6yr\u0259ndikd\u0259, h\u0259tta x\u0259yan\u0259tin qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 almaq olur v\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t ba\u015f vermir. V\u0259 yaxud \u0259vv\u0259lc\u0259d\u0259n x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 haz\u0131rl\u0131ql\u0131 olmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. Bel\u0259 olan halda x\u0259yan\u0259t hadis\u0259si qad\u0131n \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn s\u00fcrpriz olmur, \u00e7\u0259tin depressiya ya\u015fam\u0131r. Qad\u0131n m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n m\u0259nada v\u0259ziyy\u0259tin f\u0259rqind\u0259 olur v\u0259 bu zaman daha a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131, t\u0259mkinli davran\u0131\u015f olur. Qad\u0131n bils\u0259 ki, ki\u015fi niy\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edir, sonda \u00f6z\u00fc \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u00fczg\u00fcn n\u0259tic\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xarar.<\/p>\n
Tez-tez \u015fahidi oluruq ki, qad\u0131nlar “\u0259rim m\u0259n\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edir\u201d dey\u0259 yax\u0131nlar\u0131na \u015fikay\u0259t edir, psixoloq, parapsixoloq, fal\u00e7\u0131 yan\u0131na gedir ki, \u0259ri bir daha ona x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259sin.\u00a0 \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, evli ki\u015fil\u0259r \u0259sas\u0259n 4 s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n x\u0259yan\u0259t edir. X\u0259yan\u0259t \u0259sas\u0259n sevm\u0259yib evl\u0259ndikd\u0259 ba\u015f verir. Ola bilsin ki, ki\u015fi ail\u0259canl\u0131d\u0131r, evin b\u00fct\u00fcn probleml\u0259rinin \u00f6hd\u0259sind\u0259n g\u0259lir, amma x\u0259yan\u0259t edir. Y\u0259ni \u0259vv\u0259ld\u0259n sevgisizlik ya\u015fay\u0131r, ill\u0259r ke\u00e7dikd\u0259n sonra h\u0259yat\u0131nda yenilik etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r v\u0259 xan\u0131m\u0131na x\u0259yan\u0259t edir. 2-ci s\u0259b\u0259b is\u0259 ba\u015fqad\u0131r. B\u0259zi ki\u015fil\u0259r sevib evl\u0259nib, h\u0259tta xan\u0131m\u0131 il\u0259 bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t romantik g\u00fcnl\u0259r d\u0259 ya\u015fay\u0131b, h\u0259r \u015fey g\u00f6z\u0259l olub. Lakin 5-6 ild\u0259n sonra ki\u015fi arvad\u0131n\u0131 sevs\u0259 d\u0259, ona yen\u0259 d\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fsa da, x\u0259yan\u0259t edir. Bunlar acg\u00f6z ki\u015fil\u0259rdir, y\u0259ni h\u0259yatlar\u0131nda yeni qad\u0131nlar\u0131n olmas\u0131na meylli olur, daim h\u0259y\u0259can, adrenalin ist\u0259yir. Tez-tez \u015fahidi oluruq ki, 35-40 ya\u015flar\u0131nda olan evli ki\u015fil\u0259r h\u0259y\u0259can axtar\u0131\u015f\u0131nda olur. \u00c7\u00fcnki ail\u0259sind\u0259 h\u0259y\u0259can yoxdur, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 il\u0259 emosional \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131q ya\u015fay\u0131r.<\/p>\n
3-c\u00fc s\u0259b\u0259b is\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259rin bir \u00e7ox hallarda \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131ndan intim h\u0259zzi almama\u011f\u0131 olur. Ki\u015fi ev\u0259 \u00e7ox ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r, \u00f6z ail\u0259sini sevir, h\u0259r \u015fey qaydas\u0131ndad\u0131r, lakin h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 il\u0259 ist\u0259diyi performans\u0131 ya\u015faya bilmir. Lakin ba\u015fqa qad\u0131nla ist\u0259diyi performans\u0131 ya\u015fay\u0131r v\u0259 xan\u0131m\u0131na x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259li olur.<\/p>\n
4-c\u00fc s\u0259b\u0259b is\u0259 s\u0131rf m\u0259n\u0259vi m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259dir. B\u0259z\u0259n qad\u0131n ki\u015fid\u0259n daha \u00e7ox qazanc \u0259ld\u0259 edir v\u0259 yaxud ki\u015fid\u0259n daha a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 v\u0259 bacar\u0131ql\u0131d\u0131r. Bu zaman ki\u015fi art\u0131q h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc performansl\u0131 hiss ed\u0259 bilmir, z\u0259if oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 inam\u0131 azal\u0131r. Bu bax\u0131mdan ki\u015fini he\u00e7 bir m\u0259nada a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lamaq olmaz. Qad\u0131nlar bacard\u0131\u011f\u0131 q\u0259d\u0259r ki\u015fil\u0259ri az t\u0259nqid etm\u0259li, onun bacard\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u015fl\u0259ri t\u0259l\u0259b etm\u0259li, ona d\u0259st\u0259k olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bel\u0259 olmad\u0131qda ki\u015fini \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 inam\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131rmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259tta \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131ndan z\u0259if, he\u00e7 d\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259l olmayan qad\u0131nla bel\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edir. \u00c7\u00fcnki onun yan\u0131nda \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc \u0259sl ki\u015fi kimi hiss ed\u0259 bilir, ona p\u0259nah apar\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bel\u0259likl\u0259, qad\u0131nlar bu s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri \u00f6yr\u0259nib, d\u00fczg\u00fcn t\u0259hlil apard\u0131qda x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015fmir. M\u00fctl\u0259q bu c\u00fcr situasiyalarda t\u0259mkinli davranmal\u0131 s\u0259b\u0259b v\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259ri ara\u015fd\u0131rmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r”.<\/p>\n
B\u0259s ki\u015finin x\u0259yan\u0259t etdiyini nec\u0259 bilm\u0259k olar?<\/strong><\/p>\n Psixoloqlar x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259n ki\u015finin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 bu c\u00fcr izah edir:<\/p>\n – Ki\u015fi bu zaman h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 daha \u00e7ox diqq\u0259tli olma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n – “\u018fg\u0259r n\u0259 vaxtsa s\u0259n\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t ets\u0259m, m\u0259niml\u0259 nec\u0259 davranarsan?\u201d kimi suallar verm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r. Bununla da qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin onun sevgilisi il\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tinin \u00f6yr\u0259ndikd\u0259 ver\u0259c\u0259yi reaksiyan\u0131 bilm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n – S\u0259b\u0259bsiz yer\u0259 tez-tez m\u00fcbahis\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r.<\/p>\n – M\u00fcxt\u0259lif b\u0259han\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 il\u0259 daha az zaman ke\u00e7irm\u0259y\u0259, daha az dan\u0131\u015fma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. O, bel\u0259 etm\u0259kl\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259tini \u00f6rt-basd\u0131r ed\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259yini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr.<\/p>\n – \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc bird\u0259n-bir\u0259 daha \u00e7ox b\u0259y\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r, zaman\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7oxunu g\u00fczg\u00fc qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda ke\u00e7irir.<\/p>\n – Art\u0131q b\u00fct\u00fcn t\u0259nqidl\u0259ri s\u0259birsizlikl\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131lay\u0131r.<\/p>\n – H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6rk\u0259mi daha onu maraqland\u0131rm\u0131r.<\/p>\n – Bird\u0259n-bir\u0259 dostlar\u0131na daha \u00e7ox zaman ay\u0131rma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Amerikal\u0131 psixoloq M.Gray Neuman “Ki\u015fil\u0259r niy\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edir\u201d m\u00f6vzusunda 200 ki\u015fi \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 ara\u015fd\u0131rma apar\u0131b. Onun t\u0259dqiqat\u0131nda i\u015ftirak ed\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259rin ham\u0131s\u0131 evli olub v\u0259 ham\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n da xan\u0131m\u0131na x\u0259yan\u0259t etdiyi m\u0259lum olub. Onlar x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rini bu c\u00fcr izah edibl\u0259r: “Tam yar\u0131s\u0131 psixoloji c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n yolda\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fclm\u0259m\u0259sini s\u0259b\u0259b g\u00f6st\u0259rib. Ki\u015fil\u0259rin d\u0259 diqq\u0259t\u0259 v\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131ya ehtiyac\u0131 oldu\u011fu halda q\u00fcrurlu olmas\u0131 bu ehtiyac\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259sin\u0259 \u0259ng\u0259l olur v\u0259 qad\u0131nlar ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n diqq\u0259t t\u0259l\u0259b etm\u0259kl\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259r \u00f6zl\u0259ri onlara qar\u015f\u0131 diqq\u0259tsiz qal\u0131rlar. N\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 is\u0259 ki\u015fi diqq\u0259ti ba\u015fqa qad\u0131nlarda axtarma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. Dig\u0259r s\u0259b\u0259b is\u0259 intim problemi g\u00f6st\u0259rilib. 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Onun t\u0259dqiqat\u0131nda i\u015ftirak ed\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259rin ham\u0131s\u0131 evli olub v\u0259 ham\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n da xan\u0131m\u0131na x\u0259yan\u0259t etdiyi m\u0259lum olub. Onlar x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rini bu c\u00fcr izah edibl\u0259r: “Tam yar\u0131s\u0131 psixoloji c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n yolda\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fclm\u0259m\u0259sini s\u0259b\u0259b g\u00f6st\u0259rib. 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