Tez-tez oyun meydan\u00e7alar\u0131nda, ba\u011f\u00e7alarda v\u0259 m\u0259kt\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259 bu hadis\u0259nin \u015fahidi oluruq: b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259rd\u0259n biri, bir u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n el\u0259diyi h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 dig\u0259rind\u0259n (v\u0259 h\u0259tta b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcn \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n) \u00fczr ist\u0259m\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn israrla t\u0259kid edir.<\/p>\n
Buna evl\u0259rd\u0259 d\u0259 rast g\u0259lm\u0259k olur: ata v\u0259 ya ana bir \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n dig\u0259rind\u0259n \u00fczr ist\u0259m\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn az qala d\u0259rid\u0259n-qab\u0131qdan \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, onlar bunu \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259si istiqam\u0259tind\u0259 m\u00fch\u00fcm bir add\u0131m kimi d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ndirirl\u0259r. Lakin, m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259nin \u0259slin\u0259 baxsaq, \u0259slind\u0259 bunun yaln\u0131\u015f bir \u00fcsul oldu\u011funu anlayar\u0131q. U\u015faqlar\u0131n beyninin yeni qab\u0131\u011f\u0131 b\u0259zi h\u0259qiq\u0259tl\u0259ri d\u0259rk ed\u0259c\u0259k q\u0259d\u0259r kifay\u0259t d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 inki\u015faf etm\u0259yib. Odur ki, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 \u00fczr ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259cbur etm\u0259zd\u0259n \u0259vv\u0259l b\u0259zi m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259ri diqq\u0259t\u0259 almaq laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n
\u0130lk \u00f6nc\u0259 onu yadda saxlamal\u0131y\u0131q ki, u\u015faqlar s\u0259b\u0259bsiz yer\u0259 he\u00e7 bir pis davran\u0131\u015fa yol vermir. Odur ki, m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259nin k\u00f6k\u00fcn\u00fc ara\u015fd\u0131r\u0131n. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131zla s\u00f6hb\u0259t edin, onu bu h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t\u0259 n\u0259yin vadar etdiyini m\u00fczakir\u0259 edin.<\/strong><\/p>\n Qar\u0131\u015f\u0131q hissl\u0259r ke\u00e7irm\u0259k, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n inki\u015faf\u0131nda m\u00fch\u00fcm rol oynay\u0131r. Bu, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n v\u0259ziyy\u0259t\u0259 adaptasiya olunmas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259n vacib amill\u0259rd\u0259n biridir. Odur ki, siz u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131za g\u00fcl\u00fcms\u0259y\u0259r\u0259k \u201cS\u0259h\u0259r qarda\u015f\u0131nla (bac\u0131nla) n\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 oynay\u0131rd\u0131z, indi is\u0259 dala\u015f\u0131rs\u0131z\u201d dey\u0259r\u0259k, qar\u0131\u015f\u0131q hissl\u0259r ke\u00e7irm\u0259yin normal oldu\u011funu ona bildirin. \u00c7\u00fcnki, h\u0259r bir normal insan kimi, u\u015faqlar da v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olaraq \u00f6z q\u0259z\u0259bl\u0259rini v\u0259 ya \u00f6z sevincl\u0259rini b\u00fcruz\u0259 ver\u0259 bil\u0259rl\u0259r. Sad\u0259c\u0259 olaraq ona bu q\u0259z\u0259bini b\u00fcruz\u0259 verm\u0259yin t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259siz v\u0259 alternativ yollar\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259klif edin: m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, \u00fcr\u0259kd\u0259n q\u0131\u015fq\u0131rmaq, yast\u0131qlar\u0131 yumruqlamaq v\u0259 s. U\u015faq \u00f6z\u00fc q\u0259z\u0259bli ik\u0259n, q\u0259z\u0259bi soyumam\u0131\u015f, onun ba\u015fqas\u0131ndan \u00fczr ist\u0259y\u0259c\u0259yini g\u00f6zl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 d\u0259ym\u0259z. \u00d6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc bel\u0259 bir v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcr ed\u0259k: h\u0259tta haqs\u0131z oldu\u011fumuzu bildiyimiz halda, biz b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259r q\u0259z\u0259b an\u0131nda \u00fczr ist\u0259m\u0259yi t\u0259k\u0259bb\u00fcr\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 s\u0131\u011f\u0131\u015fd\u0131rm\u0131r\u0131q.<\/p>\n Psixoloq Laura Marxam hesab edir ki, u\u015faqlara bir-biril\u0259 \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t qurma\u011fa, \u00f6z ist\u0259k v\u0259 ehtiyaclar\u0131n\u0131 ifad\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259, bir-birinin s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc dinl\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 onlara k\u00f6m\u0259k etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. Psixoloqun s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 \u0259sas\u0259n, \u201cqaydalar\u0131 pozmu\u015f\u201d u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n hirsi soyuduqda, ona \u00f6z bac\u0131-qarda\u015f\u0131 il\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rini d\u00fcz\u0259ltm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n \u00fcsullar da t\u0259klif etm\u0259k olar. H\u0259m\u00e7inin psixoloq hesab edir ki, bir\u00a0u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 m\u0259cbur\u0259n dig\u0259rind\u0259n \u00fczr ist\u0259m\u0259sin\u0259 vadar etm\u0259k, onu yalana \u00f6yr\u0259d\u0259 bil\u0259r. \u00c7\u00fcnki, h\u0259min an u\u015faq \u00fczr ist\u0259m\u0259yi \u00fcr\u0259kd\u0259n v\u0259 s\u0259mimi \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ist\u0259m\u0259diyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, \u201cm\u0259ni ba\u011f\u0131\u015fla\u201d dem\u0259kl\u0259 yalan dan\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f olur.<\/strong><\/p>\n U\u015faqlar s\u0259rgil\u0259diyi b\u00fct\u00fcn davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 bizd\u0259n \u00f6yr\u0259nir. \u018fg\u0259r biz b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259r bil\u0259r\u0259k v\u0259 ya bilm\u0259y\u0259r\u0259k bir-birimizi v\u0259 ya u\u015fa\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 incitdikd\u0259, q\u0259lbini q\u0131rd\u0131qda \u00fczr ist\u0259s\u0259k, u\u015faq da t\u0259bii olaraq bu davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 n\u00fcmayi\u015f etdir\u0259c\u0259kdir. Odur ki, \u00f6vlad\u0131m\u0131zdan g\u00f6zl\u0259diyiniz b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00f6z\u0259l davran\u0131\u015flara m\u0259hz \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz n\u00fcmun\u0259 olmal\u0131y\u0131q.<\/p>\n M\u00fc\u0259llif:<\/strong>\u00a0Xumar \u018fr\u015fadl\u0131,<\/p>\n Gordon Neufeld institutunun t\u0259l\u0259b\u0259si<\/p>\n Tebiivalideynlik.az<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Tez-tez oyun meydan\u00e7alar\u0131nda, ba\u011f\u00e7alarda v\u0259 m\u0259kt\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259 bu hadis\u0259nin \u015fahidi oluruq: b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259rd\u0259n biri, bir u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n el\u0259diyi h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 dig\u0259rind\u0259n (v\u0259 h\u0259tta b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcn \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n) \u00fczr ist\u0259m\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn israrla t\u0259kid edir. Buna evl\u0259rd\u0259 d\u0259 rast g\u0259lm\u0259k olur: ata v\u0259 ya ana bir \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n dig\u0259rind\u0259n \u00fczr ist\u0259m\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn az qala d\u0259rid\u0259n-qab\u0131qdan \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, onlar bunu \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259si istiqam\u0259tind\u0259 m\u00fch\u00fcm bir add\u0131m kimi d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ndirirl\u0259r. Lakin, m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259nin \u0259slin\u0259 baxsaq, \u0259slind\u0259 bunun yaln\u0131\u015f bir \u00fcsul oldu\u011funu anlayar\u0131q. U\u015faqlar\u0131n beyninin yeni qab\u0131\u011f\u0131 b\u0259zi h\u0259qiq\u0259tl\u0259ri d\u0259rk ed\u0259c\u0259k q\u0259d\u0259r kifay\u0259t d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 inki\u015faf etm\u0259yib. Odur ki, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 \u00fczr ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259cbur…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":317074,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/uzr-istemesin.jpg",460,322,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/uzr-istemesin.jpg",460,322,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/uzr-istemesin.jpg",460,322,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/uzr-istemesin-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/uzr-istemesin-300x210.jpg",300,210,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/uzr-istemesin.jpg",460,322,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/uzr-istemesin.jpg",460,322,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/uzr-istemesin.jpg",460,322,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/uzr-istemesin-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/03\/uzr-istemesin.jpg",460,322,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"Sosial<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"Tez-tez oyun meydan\u00e7alar\u0131nda, ba\u011f\u00e7alarda v\u0259 m\u0259kt\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259 bu hadis\u0259nin \u015fahidi oluruq: b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259rd\u0259n biri, bir u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n el\u0259diyi h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 dig\u0259rind\u0259n (v\u0259 h\u0259tta b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcn \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n) \u00fczr ist\u0259m\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn israrla t\u0259kid edir. Buna evl\u0259rd\u0259 d\u0259 rast g\u0259lm\u0259k olur: ata v\u0259 ya ana bir \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n dig\u0259rind\u0259n \u00fczr ist\u0259m\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn az qala d\u0259rid\u0259n-qab\u0131qdan \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, onlar bunu \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259si istiqam\u0259tind\u0259…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/317073"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=317073"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/317073\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/317074"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=317073"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=317073"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=317073"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}