Tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131qlar\u0131 haqq\u0131nda Jal\u0259 dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131. Deyir ki, R\u0259sul onu ilk olaraq komandalar\u0131na \u0259m\u0259kda\u015f, sonra da \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7ib: \u201c2012-ci il idi, m\u0259n Bak\u0131 Slavyan Universitetind\u0259 2-ci kursda oxuyurdum. R\u0259sul is\u0259 \u201cATV s\u0259h\u0259r\u201dd\u0259 layih\u0259 r\u0259hb\u0259ri idi. Onlar komandalar\u0131na yeni g\u0259ncl\u0259r, f\u0259rqli beyinl\u0259r c\u0259lb etm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn axtar\u0131\u015fa \u00e7\u0131x\u0131rlar. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcbl\u0259r ki, t\u0259kc\u0259 jurnalistika deyil, eyni zamanda ba\u015fqa fak\u00fclt\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 oxuyan, amma jurnalistikaya mara\u011f\u0131 olan, bacar\u0131ql\u0131 t\u0259l\u0259b\u0259l\u0259ri d\u0259 c\u0259lb edib m\u00fcxbir kimi yoxlas\u0131nlar. M\u0259n d\u0259 o m\u00fcsabiq\u0259y\u0259 qat\u0131lan t\u0259l\u0259b\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n olmu\u015fam. Se\u00e7dil\u0259r, t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259\u00e7i kimi ba\u015flad\u0131m, sonra i\u015f\u00e7i oldum. R\u0259sul m\u0259nim televiziyada m\u00fc\u0259llimim oldu, bu i\u015fi m\u0259n\u0259 o \u00f6yr\u0259tdi. Bel\u0259c\u0259, tan\u0131\u015f olduq, evl\u0259ndik. Arada deyir\u0259m ki, s\u0259n m\u00fcxbir axtar\u0131rd\u0131n, yoxsa \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131?\u201d<\/p>\n
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Bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t sonra R\u0259sul Jal\u0259y\u0259 evlilik t\u0259klif edir, amma ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 cavab \u201cyox\u201d olur: \u201cH\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 i\u015fd\u0259 kostyumda, klassik geyimd\u0259 olurdu. \u00c7ox r\u0259smi, ciddi oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn fikirl\u0259\u015firdim ki, bu adamla bir yerd\u0259 ya\u015faya bilm\u0259r\u0259m. M\u0259n deyib-g\u00fcl\u0259n, tez \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t quran biri idim, R\u0259sul is\u0259 bir o q\u0259d\u0259r m\u0259saf\u0259li g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrd\u00fc. Bir d\u0259f\u0259 i\u015fd\u0259n 4 n\u0259f\u0259r G\u00fcrc\u00fcstana \u00e7\u0259kili\u015f\u0259 getmi\u015fdik. Onlardan biri d\u0259 R\u0259sul idi. \u201cAdam\u0131 yolda tan\u0131yarlar\u201d deyirl\u0259r, m\u0259n d\u0259 onu yolda daha yax\u015f\u0131 tan\u0131d\u0131m. G\u00f6rd\u00fcm ki, i\u015fd\u0259n k\u0259narda o ciddilik, r\u0259smilik yoxdur. Xo\u015fum g\u0259ldi, \u00f6z\u00fcm\u0259 sual verdim ki, bu evlilik t\u0259klifi ikinci d\u0259f\u0259 olmayacaq? (G\u00fcl\u00fcr) \u00d6z\u00fcm R\u0259sula dedim ki, b\u0259s m\u0259n\u0259 evlilik t\u0259klif etmi\u015fdin, onun ax\u0131r\u0131 n\u0259 oldu? 2012-ci ilin yay\u0131nda ATV-y\u0259 i\u015f\u0259 g\u0259lmi\u015fdim, 2013-c\u00fc ilin fevral\u0131nda ni\u015fanland\u0131q, pay\u0131zda da toyumuz oldu\u201d.<\/p>\n
R\u0259sul deyir ki, insan\u0131n b\u0259d\u0259n dili, dan\u0131\u015fan dilind\u0259n daha \u00e7ox h\u0259qiq\u0259ti deyir: \u201cB\u0259z\u0259n insan \u201cyox\u201d deyir, amma onun alt\u0131nda b\u00f6y\u00fck bir \u201ch\u0259\u201d dayan\u0131r. M\u0259n Jal\u0259nin cavab\u0131nda bunu hiss etmi\u015fdim. Bu yax\u0131nlarda o\u011flumuzun 7 ya\u015f\u0131 olacaq, amma Jal\u0259 h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 \u201ch\u0259\u201d dem\u0259yib (g\u00fcl\u00fcr)\u201d.\u201cM\u0259nd\u0259n d\u0259 s\u0259liq\u0259lidir\u201d<\/p>\n
R\u0259sul \u201cNiy\u0259 Jal\u0259?\u201d sual\u0131na ilk olaraq bel\u0259 cavab verdi: \u201cM\u0259nc\u0259, ona baxanda bunu bilm\u0259k el\u0259 d\u0259 \u00e7\u0259tin deyil\u201d. Daha sonra is\u0259 dig\u0259r n\u00fcanslar\u0131 qeyd etdi: \u201c\u0130nsanlar bir-birin\u0259 yax\u0131nla\u015fanda, t\u0259bii ki, vizuall\u0131q rol oynay\u0131r. Amma h\u0259r k\u0259sin f\u0259rdi yana\u015fma t\u0259rzi olur. M\u0259nim \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259r, insan\u0131n xarakteri, hadis\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 yana\u015fma t\u0259rzi, m\u0259ntiqi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259 ard\u0131c\u0131ll\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00f6n\u0259mlidir. Bunlar\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm v\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259, dem\u0259k olar ki, q\u0131sa m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259 \u00f6z ki\u00e7ik d\u00f6vl\u0259timizi \u2013 ail\u0259mizi qurduq\u201d.<\/p>\n
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Jal\u0259 d\u0259 R\u0259sulu ona sevdir\u0259n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259n dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131: \u201cTan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m g\u00fcnd\u0259n hadis\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 \u00e7ox t\u0259mkinl\u0259, s\u0259birl\u0259 reaksiya verir. H\u0259r hans\u0131 add\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 atacaqsa, onu \u00f6nc\u0259d\u0259n \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcb-bi\u00e7\u0259c\u0259k. Onun a\u011fl\u0131n\u0131, m\u0259ntiqini sevmi\u015f\u0259m. Lov\u011fal\u0131\u011f\u0131 yoxdur. U\u015faqla da dil tapa bilir, b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259 d\u0259\u201d.<\/p>\n
Evl\u0259ndikd\u0259n sonra bir-birl\u0259rind\u0259 k\u0259\u015ff etdikl\u0259ri x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 g\u0259linc\u0259, Jal\u0259 h\u0259r hans\u0131 naraz\u0131l\u0131q yaradan m\u0259qamlar\u0131n olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 dedi: \u201cEvl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259n sonra xan\u0131mlar yolda\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n daha \u00e7ox s\u0259liq\u0259sizliyini k\u0259\u015ff edir, ondan \u015fikay\u0259tl\u0259nirl\u0259r. Bizd\u0259 bu olmad\u0131, \u00e7\u00fcnki R\u0259sul i\u015fd\u0259n g\u0259lib k\u00f6yn\u0259yini bir yer\u0259, corab\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015fqa yer\u0259 atmad\u0131. M\u0259n ortal\u0131qda ki\u015fi corab\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u00fcr\u0259m. Adam m\u0259nd\u0259n d\u0259 s\u0259liq\u0259lidir\u201d.<\/p>\n
R\u0259sul deyir ki, Jal\u0259ni \u00f6nc\u0259d\u0259n \u00e7ox m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259 etdiyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn evl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259n sonra yeni x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259ti il\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmay\u0131b: \u201cDostluq ed\u0259c\u0259yim, yax\u0131na buraxaca\u011f\u0131m \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259ri k\u0259nardan m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259 edir\u0259m, hadis\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 reaksiyalar\u0131na, insanlarla m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 bax\u0131ram. B\u0259zi situasiyalar var ki, orada insanlar\u0131n xarakterl\u0259ri daha tez v\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, bir insan\u0131n s\u0259n\u0259 nec\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259t b\u0259sl\u0259diyini bilm\u0259k ist\u0259yirs\u0259ns\u0259, onu bir az \u0259s\u0259bil\u0259\u015fdir. Bu zaman onun s\u0259n\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 \u0259sl m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti b\u00fct\u00fcn \u00e7\u0131lpaql\u0131\u011f\u0131 il\u0259 \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xacaq. H\u0259tta s\u0259n\u0259 \u0259s\u0259bil\u0259\u015fm\u0259yi d\u0259 vacib deyil. Ba\u015fqas\u0131na \u0259s\u0259bil\u0259\u015f\u0259n vaxt\u0131 verdiyi reaksiyalar da r\u0259y formala\u015fd\u0131rmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn b\u0259s edir. Jal\u0259 il\u0259 bir yerd\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259yirdik. Kollektivd\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 yax\u0131n bildiyi 3-4 r\u0259fiq\u0259si var idi. \u015e\u0259xsi problem olmasa da, i\u015f prosesi el\u0259dir ki, adam\u0131 \u0259s\u0259bil\u0259\u015fdir\u0259c\u0259k n\u0259 is\u0259 ola bilir. \u018fs\u0259bi vaxt\u0131 Jal\u0259nin \u0259n yax\u0131n r\u0259fiq\u0259 hesab etdiyi insanlara verdiyi reaksiya nec\u0259dirs\u0259, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcm ki, sabah m\u0259n\u0259 d\u0259 o reaksiyan\u0131 ver\u0259 bil\u0259r. G\u00fcrc\u00fcstana s\u0259f\u0259r ed\u0259nd\u0259, mac\u0259ra dolu situasiyalar\u0131m\u0131z oldu, yor\u011funluq, yuxusuzluq… \u00c7\u0259tin v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 onun nec\u0259 reaksiya verdiyini d\u0259 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm, az da olsa, tan\u0131d\u0131m. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259, evl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259n sonra h\u0259r hans\u0131 x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259ti m\u0259nim \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yenilik olmad\u0131. Bilirdim ki, bu add\u0131m\u0131 atanda, Jal\u0259nin reaksiyas\u0131 bel\u0259 olacaq\u201d.<\/p>\n
\u201cBir bal\u0131q t\u0259mizl\u0259yir\u0259m ki, g\u0259l g\u00f6r\u0259s\u0259n\u201d<\/p>\n
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Jal\u0259 deyir ki, qaynanas\u0131 il\u0259 \u00e7ox yax\u015f\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti var. Y\u0259ni qaynana-g\u0259lin problemi ya\u015famay\u0131b: \u201cQaynanam g\u00f6z\u0259l, sakit, mehriban insand\u0131r. Rayona ged\u0259nd\u0259, arada deyir\u0259m ki, bir, \u0259lini stolun \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 vur, bilim ki, yan\u0131mda qaynana var (g\u00fcl\u00fcr). Qay\u0131natam is\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259 ata \u0259v\u0259zi olub. O, d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 d\u0259yi\u015f\u0259nd\u0259, \u00f6z\u00fcm\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259 bilmirdim. Onu \u00e7ox ist\u0259yirdim. N\u0259 qaynanam, n\u0259 qay\u0131natam bizim ail\u0259y\u0259 m\u00fcdaxil\u0259 etm\u0259dil\u0259r. Ad\u0259t\u0259n deyirl\u0259r ki,\u00a0adam qay\u0131nanas\u0131nda n\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u0259, onu da g\u0259linin\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rir. O bax\u0131mdan, g\u0259linim \u015fansl\u0131 olacaq. Y\u0259qin ki, m\u0259n qay\u0131nata-qay\u0131nanamdan g\u00f6rd\u00fcy\u00fcm yax\u015f\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti g\u0259linim\u0259 d\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259r\u0259m\u201d.<\/p>\n
S\u00f6hb\u0259t yem\u0259kd\u0259n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. R\u0259sulun \u00fcr\u0259yin\u0259 ged\u0259n yol m\u0259d\u0259sind\u0259n ke\u00e7m\u0259s\u0259 d\u0259, Jal\u0259nin yax\u015f\u0131 m\u0259tb\u0259x bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131 oldu\u011funu deyir: \u201cTox vaxt\u0131 nec\u0259y\u0259ms\u0259, ac olanda da el\u0259y\u0259m. Amma qurmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131m var, dadl\u0131 yem\u0259kl\u0259ri sevir\u0259m. Bir m\u0259qam var ki, m\u0259n\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, ilk olaraq yem\u0259yin vizual g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fc yax\u015f\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. G\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u00fc yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131rsa, yey\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m. Jal\u0259nin bi\u015firdiyi A-dan Z-y\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn yem\u0259kl\u0259r a\u011f\u0131z dad\u0131ma uy\u011fundur. M\u0259n d\u0259 yem\u0259k bi\u015firm\u0259yi bacar\u0131ram, dadl\u0131 da al\u0131n\u0131r. Jal\u0259 daim yeni reseptl\u0259r axtar\u0131\u015f\u0131ndad\u0131r, \u00e7ox vaxt yeni, f\u0259rqli n\u0259 is\u0259 bi\u015firir\u201d.<\/p>\n
Jal\u0259 m\u0259tb\u0259xi sevdiyini deyir: \u201cEvin \u0259n sevdiyim k\u00f6\u015f\u0259si m\u0259tb\u0259xdir. Evd\u0259 oldu\u011fum m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259 orda qalma\u011f\u0131, f\u0259rqli, dadl\u0131 n\u0259l\u0259rs\u0259 haz\u0131rlama\u011f\u0131 sevir\u0259m\u201d.<\/p>\n
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H\u0259tta bildirdi ki, \u0259vv\u0259ll\u0259r bal\u0131qdan he\u00e7 xo\u015flanmasa da, haz\u0131rda bal\u0131q t\u0259mizl\u0259yir, bal\u0131q yem\u0259kl\u0259ri bi\u015firir: \u201cR\u0259sul bal\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7ox sevir. M\u0259n is\u0259 he\u00e7 vaxt bal\u0131q yemirdim. Evd\u0259 bal\u0131q bi\u015f\u0259nd\u0259, gedib xalamgild\u0259 qal\u0131rd\u0131m ki, onun iyi evd\u0259n getsin, sonra g\u0259lim. R\u0259sul Neft\u00e7aladand\u0131r. M\u0259n d\u0259 Neft\u00e7ala g\u0259lini oldum. R\u0259sulun 6 \u0259misi, 1 bibisi var. Toydan sonra hans\u0131 \u0259mi qonaq \u00e7a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131sa, s\u00fcfr\u0259d\u0259 m\u00fctl\u0259q qaydada bal\u0131q oldu\u011funu g\u00f6rd\u00fcm: bal\u0131q l\u0259v\u0259ngisi, bal\u0131q q\u0131zartmas\u0131, bu\u011flamas\u0131, bal\u0131q dolmas\u0131… Bir d\u0259f\u0259 plov g\u0259ldi, sevindim ki, bal\u0131q olmayacaq, alt\u0131ndan bal\u0131q \u00e7\u0131xd\u0131. Baxd\u0131m ki, ya yem\u0259liy\u0259m, ya da ac qalmal\u0131yam. Art\u0131q m\u0259n d\u0259 bal\u0131q yem\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131m. \u0130ndi 8 il ke\u00e7ib, bir bal\u0131q t\u0259mizl\u0259yir\u0259m ki, g\u0259l g\u00f6r\u0259s\u0259n. \u018fvv\u0259ll\u0259r \u0259lc\u0259kl\u0259 toxuna bilm\u0259diyim bal\u0131\u011f\u0131 indi \u0259liml\u0259 t\u0259mizl\u0259yir\u0259m, bal\u0131q dolmas\u0131 da bi\u015firir\u0259m\u201d.<\/p>\n
\u201cG\u00fcnahkar m\u0259n olmasam da…\u201d<\/p>\n
Jal\u0259 deyir ki, evl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259n sonrak\u0131 ilk s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 R\u0259sulun g\u00f6st\u0259rdiyi davran\u0131\u015f ona \u00e7ox b\u00f6y\u00fck n\u00fcmun\u0259 olub: \u201cM\u00fcbahis\u0259 etdik, m\u0259n israrl\u0131, emosional formada dan\u0131\u015f\u0131rd\u0131m. Adam kitab g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcb o biri ota\u011fa ke\u00e7di. 5 d\u0259qiq\u0259 ke\u00e7di, getdim ki, kitab oxuyur. Dedim ki, zarafat edirs\u0259n? Biz m\u00fcbahis\u0259 edirdik, s\u0259n nec\u0259 bel\u0259 rahat ola bil\u0259rs\u0259n? Dedi ki, m\u0259n \u0259s\u0259bi insanla dan\u0131\u015fma\u011f\u0131 sevmir\u0259m, \u0259ks halda aram\u0131zdak\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259t g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcl\u0259c\u0259k. Get sakitl\u0259\u015f, sonra dan\u0131\u015far\u0131q. H\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n d\u0259 sonra m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259ni dan\u0131\u015faraq h\u0259ll etdik. N\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 ki R\u0259sul ilk konfliktd\u0259 o add\u0131m\u0131 atd\u0131 v\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259 d\u0259 onu a\u015f\u0131lad\u0131 ki, hirsl\u0259n\u0259r\u0259k, s\u0259simizi ucaldaraq dan\u0131\u015fsaq, bir-birimiz\u0259 olan h\u00f6rm\u0259ti aradan g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u0259 bil\u0259rik. Sonra art\u0131q m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 bu c\u00fcr yana\u015fd\u0131q. Ail\u0259mizin t\u0259m\u0259linin m\u00f6hk\u0259m olmas\u0131nda R\u0259sulun b\u00f6y\u00fck rolu var\u201d.<\/p>\n
K\u00fcs\u00fcl\u00fc olduqda is\u0259 ilk bar\u0131\u015f\u0131q add\u0131m\u0131 Jal\u0259d\u0259n g\u0259lir: \u201c8 il \u0259rzind\u0259 3-4 ciddi k\u00fcs\u00fcl\u00fcl\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fcz ola bil\u0259r. O da daha \u00e7ox evliliyin \u0259vv\u0259lind\u0259 idi. Evliliyi, b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 tam d\u0259rk etm\u0259diyim \u0259r\u0259f\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 ola bil\u0259r ki, onun \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 gedirdim. Bir az \u0259rk\u00f6y\u00fcn b\u00f6y\u00fcm\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcm, o\u011flan kimi idim. Amma zamanla \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131q ki, m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259rimiz dava s\u0259viyy\u0259sin\u0259 g\u0259lm\u0259sin. M\u0259n, \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, kompromis\u0259 ged\u0259n insanam. Bir h\u0259ft\u0259 k\u00fcs\u00fcl\u00fc ola bil\u0259r\u0259m, g\u00fcnahkar m\u0259n olmasam da, add\u0131m at\u0131b bar\u0131\u015faca\u011fam. H\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 add\u0131m\u0131 m\u0259n at\u0131ram. D\u00fczd\u00fcr, b\u0259zi anlarda fikirl\u0259\u015fir\u0259m ki, niy\u0259 h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 add\u0131m\u0131 m\u0259n at\u0131ram? Sonra d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, ail\u0259miz \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn R\u0259sul onsuz da \u00e7ox \u015feyl\u0259ri fikirl\u0259\u015fir, burda da add\u0131m\u0131 m\u0259n at\u0131m. Ail\u0259mi qorumaq ist\u0259yir\u0259ms\u0259, add\u0131m atmal\u0131yam. R\u0259sul is\u0259 yaranm\u0131\u015f xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z situasiyadan \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f yolu axtarmaqdansa, o situasiyaya d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259m\u0259yi \u00fcst\u00fcn tutur. Bu zaman da sevgid\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259n bir incikliyi olur\u201d.<\/p>\n
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Jal\u0259nin s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, R\u0259sul ona h\u0259m d\u0259 \u0259n yax\u0131n dostdur: \u201cT\u0259k h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131m deyil, h\u0259m d\u0259 \u00e7ox yax\u015f\u0131 dostumdur. He\u00e7 bir add\u0131m\u0131 R\u0259sulla m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259\u015fm\u0259d\u0259n atm\u0131ram. \u00c7\u00fcnki arxay\u0131nam ki, m\u0259nim \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259n g\u00f6z\u0259lini, \u0259n yax\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 o d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259c\u0259k. Sad\u0259c\u0259 deyir\u0259m ki, bunu etm\u0259k ist\u0259yir\u0259m, n\u0259 m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u0259n? \u0130kinci bir dosta ehtiyac duymam\u0131\u015fam. He\u00e7 n\u0259yi bir-birimizd\u0259n gizl\u0259tmirik. N\u0259yi is\u0259 R\u0259suldan gizl\u0259tm\u0259k m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259si m\u0259nd\u0259 yoxdur. Pisi-yax\u015f\u0131s\u0131 il\u0259 h\u0259r \u015feyi b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fck\u201d.<\/p>\n
R\u0259sul da c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r aras\u0131nda dostlu\u011fun vacib oldu\u011funu deyir: \u201cH\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131nla dost olma\u011f\u0131 bacarmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. Biz bunu bacarm\u0131\u015f\u0131q. B\u0259z\u0259n dostlar\u0131mla b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015f\u0259 bilm\u0259dikl\u0259rimi d\u0259 Jal\u0259y\u0259 dan\u0131\u015fa bilir\u0259m. H\u0259r zaman da anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f\u0259m\u201d.<\/p>\n
\u201c… evl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259n sonra sevgi art\u0131r\u201d<\/p>\n
Jal\u0259 deyir ki, bir-birinin \u00e7evr\u0259sind\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rini rahat hiss edirl\u0259r: \u201cM\u0259n ist\u0259diyim m\u0259kana R\u0259sulla ged\u0259, onun yan\u0131nda \u0259yl\u0259n\u0259, dostlar\u0131mla s\u00f6hb\u0259t ed\u0259 bilir\u0259m. Dost hesab etdiyim m\u00fchitd\u0259 onun da rahat oldu\u011funu g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u0259m. Dostlar\u0131m R\u0259sulu daha \u00e7ox sevirl\u0259r. R\u0259sul da m\u0259ni \u00f6z ail\u0259 dostlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7\u0259r\u00e7iv\u0259sin\u0259 apara bildi, tan\u0131\u015f etdi. Bizd\u0259 ora getm\u0259, bura getm\u0259\u201d s\u00f6hb\u0259ti olmad\u0131. Ancaq biz bir-birimiz olmadan harasa getm\u0259k ist\u0259m\u0259dik. \u018fyl\u0259nc\u0259, istirah\u0259t m\u0259kan\u0131 olsun, ist\u0259yir\u0259m ki, R\u0259sul da g\u0259lsin, o\u011flum da. Dostlarla da vaxt ke\u00e7irm\u0259k g\u00f6z\u0259ldir, amma ail\u0259min d\u0259 yan\u0131mda olma\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ist\u0259yir\u0259m\u201d.<\/p>\n
Deyirl\u0259r ki, evlilik sevgini \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcr. Jal\u0259 is\u0259 \u0259ksin\u0259, sevgil\u0259rinin evlilik m\u00fcdd\u0259tind\u0259 artd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bildirir: \u201cBiz, dem\u0259k olar ki, \u00e7ox az m\u00fcdd\u0259t sevgili olduq. \u018fsas ni\u015fanl\u0131 vaxt\u0131 bir-birimizi tan\u0131d\u0131q. \u0130lk olaraq m\u0259ntiq \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259n se\u00e7im etmi\u015fdik, t\u0259bii ki, sevgi d\u0259 var idi. Amma \u0259sas sevgi evlilikd\u0259n sonra yarand\u0131. \u018fg\u0259r do\u011fru insanla, s\u0259ni pe\u015fman etm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k adamla ail\u0259 qurubsansa, evl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259n sonra sevgi art\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n
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R\u0259sul is\u0259 bildirdi ki, ail\u0259d\u0259 sevgid\u0259n d\u0259 \u00f6n\u0259mli m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tdir. Bu, c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r aras\u0131nda daha m\u00f6hk\u0259m ba\u011f yarad\u0131r: \u201cPsixoloqlar\u0131n bel\u0259 bir fikri var ki, 25 ya\u015fa q\u0259d\u0259r qurulan ail\u0259l\u0259r \u00e7ox vaxt hissl\u0259r \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulur. 25-30 ya\u015f aras\u0131nda qurulanda is\u0259 hissl\u0259rl\u0259 m\u0259ntiq balans t\u0259\u015fkil edir. 27-28 ya\u015fda ail\u0259 qurmaq daha yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r. 30-dan yuxar\u0131 qurulursa, art\u0131q m\u0259ntiq evliliyi olur. Evl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259, m\u0259nim 32 ya\u015f\u0131m var idi. Jal\u0259nin ya\u015f\u0131 23 olsa da, dedikl\u0259rind\u0259n bel\u0259 q\u0259na\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259lm\u0259k m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr ki, o da m\u0259ntiql\u0259 se\u00e7im edib. M\u0259ntiq varsa, ail\u0259nin qurulmas\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259t \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259dirs\u0259, o, sevgid\u0259n daha uzunm\u00fcdd\u0259tli olur. H\u00f6rm\u0259t olmayan ail\u0259d\u0259 is\u0259 davan\u0131n d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn s\u0259b\u0259b\u0259 ehtiyac olmur, b\u0259han\u0259l\u0259r kifay\u0259t edir\u201d.<\/p>\n
\u201c\u018fs\u0259bil\u0259\u015f\u0259n vaxt sakit durma\u011f\u0131 bacarmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r\u201d<\/p>\n
Vaqif adl\u0131 7 ya\u015fl\u0131 o\u011fullar\u0131 var. Jal\u0259 bildirdi ki, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259 \u0259sas rol atas\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259dir: \u201c\u0130lk vaxtlar bu m\u00f6vzuda m\u00fcbahis\u0259 edirdik. \u0130ki bac\u0131 olmu\u015fuq, bizim evd\u0259 o\u011flan u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 olmay\u0131b. R\u0259sulun is\u0259 bac\u0131s\u0131 yoxdur, ail\u0259d\u0259 ancaq o\u011flan olub. O\u011flan u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131 nec\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fctm\u0259kl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 o, daha m\u0259lumatl\u0131 idi. M\u0259n Vaqif\u0259 bir az daha inc\u0259 yana\u015f\u0131rd\u0131m. Y\u00fcng\u00fcl y\u0131x\u0131landa bel\u0259 qa\u00e7\u0131b \u00f6z\u00fcm qald\u0131r\u0131rd\u0131m. \u201cY\u0131x\u0131lacaq, \u0259zil\u0259c\u0259k\u201d deyib, \u00e7ox h\u0259y\u0259can ke\u00e7irirdim. R\u0259sul deyirdi ki, s\u0259n o\u011flan b\u00f6y\u00fcrd\u00fcrs\u0259n, m\u00f6hk\u0259m olmal\u0131d\u0131r. H\u0259r y\u0131x\u0131landa, \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 qa\u00e7ma, qoy \u00f6z\u00fc qalxs\u0131n. H\u0259r d\u0259f\u0259 y\u0131x\u0131landa, s\u0259n qald\u0131rsan, bel\u0259 d\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259\u015f\u0259c\u0259k. G\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 h\u0259r hans\u0131 b\u00fcdr\u0259m\u0259sind\u0259, m\u0259n\u0259vi y\u0131x\u0131lmas\u0131nda, yen\u0259 valideyninin n\u0259 is\u0259 etm\u0259yini g\u00f6zl\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k. Amma \u00f6z\u00fc \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f yolu tapmal\u0131d\u0131r. Sonra dediyinin haqq oldu\u011funu g\u00f6rd\u00fcm v\u0259 indi o\u011flumuzu onun m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t g\u00f6rd\u00fcy\u00fc formada b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcr\u00fck\u201d.<\/p>\n
Sonda \u00f6z t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259n \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f ed\u0259r\u0259k ail\u0259ni m\u00f6hk\u0259m ed\u0259n m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n d\u0259 dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131lar. Jal\u0259y\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, burada h\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259fin \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 y\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr: \u201cHe\u00e7 vaxt bir-biril\u0259rind\u0259n n\u0259l\u0259ris\u0259 gizl\u0259tm\u0259sinl\u0259r, yalan dan\u0131\u015fmas\u0131nlar. Bunu des\u0259m, \u0259s\u0259bil\u0259\u015f\u0259r v\u0259 s. m\u0259qam\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259sinl\u0259r. O \u00fcnsiyy\u0259ti qura bil\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259ri insanla yollar\u0131n\u0131 birl\u0259\u015fdirsinl\u0259r. Bir-biriniz\u0259 s\u0259sinizi ucaltmamal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z. Bu, h\u00f6rm\u0259td\u0259n x\u0259rcl\u0259yir. Yersiz q\u0131sqancl\u0131qlar\u0131 ail\u0259d\u0259n uzaq tutmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. B\u0259yl\u0259r xan\u0131mlar\u0131na \u00e7\u0259tin situasiyalarda yard\u0131m etm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. \u201cAil\u0259d\u0259 h\u0259r \u015fey qad\u0131n\u0131n v\u0259 ya ki\u015finin \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259dir\u201d dey\u0259 bir \u015fey yoxdur. H\u0259r \u015feyd\u0259 bir-birimiz\u0259 k\u00f6m\u0259k etm\u0259liyik. Bu o dem\u0259k deyil ki, ki\u015fi paltar yumal\u0131d\u0131r v\u0259 s. Amma paltaryuyan\u0131n d\u00fcym\u0259sini basa bil\u0259r (g\u00fcl\u00fcr). Bir-birin\u0259 g\u00fcz\u0259\u015ft\u0259 getm\u0259yi bacarmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n
R\u0259sula g\u00f6r\u0259, ail\u0259ni dayan\u0131ql\u0131 ed\u0259n \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259b h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131 aras\u0131nda dostluqdur, ancaq burda ba\u015fqa n\u00fcanslar da var: \u201cBir-birind\u0259n gizli n\u0259l\u0259rins\u0259 olmama\u011f\u0131 vacibdir. N\u0259yis\u0259 gizl\u0259tm\u0259k adam\u0131 g\u00f6z\u00fck\u00f6lg\u0259li, qorxaq ed\u0259r. Qorxaq adam\u0131n is\u0259 evd\u0259 s\u00f6z\u00fc ke\u00e7m\u0259z. Bir d\u0259 \u0259s\u0259bi olan zaman s\u0259bir etm\u0259k \u00f6n\u0259mlidir. H\u0259r k\u0259s \u0259s\u0259bil\u0259\u015fir. \u018fs\u0259bil\u0259\u015f\u0259n vaxt sakit durma\u011f\u0131 bacarmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u018fs\u0259bi vaxt\u0131 n\u0259 is\u0259 edib sonra pe\u015fman olmaqdansa, 5-10 d\u0259qiq\u0259 s\u0259bir ed\u0259r\u0259m, sakitl\u0259\u015fib ay\u0131q ba\u015fla dan\u0131\u015faram. Bu, problemi tam h\u0259ll etm\u0259s\u0259 d\u0259, neqativ t\u0259sirini azaldacaq\u201d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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