Tez-tez qalmaqall\u0131 fikirl\u0259ri il\u0259 g\u00fcnd\u0259m\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n psixoloq Samir\u0259 Ba\u011f\u0131rova sfera.az-a m\u00fcsahib\u0259 verib.<\/p>\n
Psixoloqla s\u00f6hb\u0259ti t\u0259qdim edirik:<\/p>\n
– Bel\u0259 bir deyim var ki, d\u0259rzi \u00f6z s\u00f6k\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fc tik\u0259 bilm\u0259z. Siz psixoloq kimi bir \u00e7ox insan\u0131n m\u0259n\u0259vi m\u0259lh\u0259mi olursunuz. B\u0259s \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz? Y\u0259ni psixoloqun da psixoloqa ehtiyac\u0131 oldu\u011fu anlar olurmu?<\/p>\n
– Normal bir insana psixoloq laz\u0131md\u0131rsa, psixoloqun \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 iki psixoloq laz\u0131md\u0131r. H\u0259m \u015f\u0259xsi h\u0259yat\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131, h\u0259m d\u0259 ona m\u00fcraci\u0259t ed\u0259nl\u0259rin y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fc da\u015f\u0131mal\u0131d\u0131r ax\u0131… H\u0259tta dig\u0259r \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 bel\u0259 bir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 var – psixoloq ay \u0259rzind\u0259 supervizorlara m\u00fcraci\u0259t etm\u0259lidir, \u0259ks halda, cinay\u0259t i\u015fi a\u00e7\u0131l\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki sonu intiharla n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259n\u0259 bil\u0259r. Bizd\u0259 is\u0259 bel\u0259 bir \u015fey yoxdur. \u0130st\u0259r h\u0259kiml\u0259r, ist\u0259rs\u0259 d\u0259 psixoloqlar hans\u0131sa psixoloqa getm\u0259yi \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 s\u0131\u011f\u0131\u015fd\u0131rm\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar aras\u0131nda h\u0259tta indi-indi d\u0259b\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131b ki, psixoloqa d\u0259li getmir, normal \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259r d\u0259 m\u00fcraci\u0259t edir. Nec\u0259 ki, m\u0259n\u0259 he\u00e7 bir psixoloq m\u00fcraci\u0259t etm\u0259yib, m\u0259n d\u0259 etm\u0259mi\u015f\u0259m. Amma ehtiyac\u0131m olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 yox.\u00a0 T\u0259bii ki, t\u0259z\u0259 ba\u015flayanda probleml\u0259r olurdu – \u00e7ox a\u011f\u0131r hekay\u0259l\u0259r dinl\u0259yirs\u0259n. \u0130lk ba\u015flarda bizim psixoloqlardan birin\u0259 m\u00fcraci\u0259t etmi\u015fdim ki, m\u0259nd\u0259 bel\u0259 hallar ba\u015f verir. Art\u0131q \u00f6hd\u0259sind\u0259n g\u0259lm\u0259 t\u0259m\u0259lini tuta bilmi\u015f\u0259m, neqativi bloklama\u011f\u0131 bacar\u0131ram.<\/p>\n
– Sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 fenomen birisiniz des\u0259k, yan\u0131lmar\u0131q. Videolar\u0131n\u0131z payla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r, kimi t\u0259nqid edir, kimi h\u0259mfikir oldu\u011funu bildirir. Daha \u00e7ox n\u0259y\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 q\u0131nan\u0131l\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z? Sizc\u0259, qad\u0131nlar\u0131n sevimlisisiniz, ya ki\u015fil\u0259rin?<\/p>\n
– \u00d6t\u0259n g\u00fcnl\u0259rd\u0259 bir \u015f\u0259rh oxudum: Xan\u0131mlar\u0131n Hikm\u0259t Hac\u0131yevi varsa, ki\u015fil\u0259rin d\u0259 psixoloqu var – Samir\u0259 Ba\u011f\u0131rova. O q\u0259d\u0259r g\u00fcld\u00fcm ki, bu c\u00fcml\u0259y\u0259. M\u0259n feminist biri deyil\u0259m, yaxud da birt\u0259r\u0259fli dan\u0131\u015fan biri. Payla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131mda h\u0259m ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n, h\u0259m d\u0259 qad\u0131nlardan s\u00f6z a\u00e7\u0131ram. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, ax\u0131r\u0131nc\u0131 payla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131mdan biri qad\u0131nlarla ba\u011fl\u0131 idi, bu d\u0259f\u0259 b\u0259yl\u0259r m\u0259ni q\u0131nama\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131lar. H\u0259min videoda qeyd etmi\u015f\u0259m ki, \u0259l qald\u0131ran, \u015fidd\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n uzaq durmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r v\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259rin t\u0259nqidi il\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015fir\u0259m. Bu art\u0131q o ki\u015fil\u0259rdir ki, onlar bunu edirl\u0259r, s\u0259rf etmir onlara. \u0130nsanlar dan\u0131\u015faraq h\u0259ll edir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259ni, \u015fidd\u0259tl\u0259, m\u00fchakim\u0259 etm\u0259kl\u0259, la\u011fa qoymaqla, t\u0259hqir etm\u0259kl\u0259 deyil. M\u0259n ola bil\u0259r ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n dan\u0131\u015f\u0131m, yaxud xan\u0131mlardan, c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rd\u0259n, ail\u0259 m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259n, valideyn-u\u015faq m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259n. Kimins\u0259 q\u0259bul etm\u0259m\u0259si v\u0259 ya \u0259ksi normald\u0131r. Beyinl\u0259r f\u0259rqlidir, kim\u0259s\u0259 s\u0259rf edir, kim\u0259s\u0259 yox. Ham\u0131n\u0131n s\u0259ni sevm\u0259yi normal deyil. Kims\u0259 s\u0259n\u0259 nifr\u0259t etmirs\u0259, s\u0259n maraqs\u0131z biris\u0259n.<\/p>\n
– Haqq\u0131n\u0131zda \u0259n \u00e7ox rastla\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131m \u015f\u0259rhl\u0259rd\u0259n biri d\u0259 T\u00fcrkan \u015eoraya b\u0259nz\u0259dilm\u0259yinizl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 idi. B\u0259nz\u0259yirsiniz, yoxsa \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc b\u0259nz\u0259dirsiniz? O aktrisaya heyranl\u0131q var?<\/p>\n
– A\u00e7\u0131\u011f\u0131, T\u00fcrkan \u015eoraya heyranl\u0131\u011f\u0131m olmay\u0131b. M\u0259nim anam onun fanat\u0131 idi. Xat\u0131rlay\u0131ram ki, anam h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 \u015eoray\u0131n “Ar\u0131m, bal\u0131m, peteyim” filmin\u0259 \u00e7ox bax\u0131rd\u0131.\u00a0 Amma u\u015faql\u0131qda \u00e7ox \u00e7irkin olmu\u015fam. \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, m\u0259ni q\u0131za ox\u015fatm\u0131rd\u0131lar. Deyirdil\u0259r guya \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc b\u0259nz\u0259tm\u0259kd\u0259n \u00f6tr\u00fc \u0259m\u0259liyyat etdirmi\u015f\u0259m. 15-20 ilin \u015f\u0259kill\u0259rini payla\u015fd\u0131m g\u00f6rd\u00fcl\u0259r ki, el\u0259 h\u0259m\u0259n d\u00f6vrd\u0259n bel\u0259y\u0259m. Bizd\u0259 \u00e7ox q\u0131zlar bir-birin\u0259 b\u0259nz\u0259yir, ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 normald\u0131r. Bil\u0259r\u0259kd\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc T\u00fcrkan \u015eoraya b\u0259nz\u0259tmir\u0259m. Makiyaj edir\u0259m, ox\u015farl\u0131q \u00f6z\u00fc-\u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n yaran\u0131r. M\u0259n\u0259 dedil\u0259r makiyajs\u0131z \u015f\u0259kil payla\u015f, etdim, yen\u0259 ox\u015fatd\u0131lar. \u018fslind\u0259 m\u0259n Ancelina Coliy\u0259 ox\u015famaq ist\u0259y\u0259rdim. Amma bil\u0259r\u0259kd\u0259n n\u0259s\u0259 edim, yox. Bir-iki d\u0259f\u0259 T\u00fcrkan \u015eoray makiyaj\u0131 etmi\u015f\u0259m.<\/p>\n
– \u018fm\u0259liyyatlardan s\u00f6z d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015fk\u0259n, bu g\u00fcn qad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti estetik \u0259m\u0259liyyatlara meyllidir. Art\u0131q “ham\u0131 bir-birin\u0259 ox\u015fay\u0131r” dey\u0259nl\u0259rin say\u0131 da art\u0131b.\u00a0 Niy\u0259 qad\u0131nlar bir-birin\u0259 b\u0259nz\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck verirl\u0259r?<\/p>\n
– D\u00fcnyan\u0131n h\u0259r yerind\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259t bel\u0259dir, t\u0259k bizd\u0259 deyil. Dey\u0259rdim ki, \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck b\u0259db\u0259xtlikdir. Sovet d\u00f6n\u0259mind\u0259 biri tutaq ki, jaket gey\u0259nd\u0259 ham\u0131 ondan istifad\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rd\u0131. \u00c7\u00fcnki yox idi v\u0259 kimins\u0259 \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259nd\u0259 h\u0259s\u0259d apar\u0131rd\u0131q. Daha sonra geyim \u00e7oxald\u0131 v\u0259 \u0259ksi oldu. Toylara ged\u0259nd\u0259 xan\u0131mlar \u00f6z paltar\u0131ndan kimd\u0259s\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259nd\u0259 depressiya ya\u015fay\u0131rlar. Amma q\u0259rib\u0259 d\u0259 olsa, g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259sind\u0259 ham\u0131 bir-birin\u0259 b\u0259nz\u0259m\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131. Bununla ba\u011fl\u0131 \u0259n \u00e7ox yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259r yan\u0131ma g\u0259lir, valideynl\u0259ri g\u0259tirir ki, 15-16 ya\u015f\u0131 var v\u0259 burun \u0259m\u0259liyyat\u0131 etdirm\u0259k, \u00e7\u0259n\u0259 uzatmaq ist\u0259yir v\u0259 s. \u018fg\u0259r \u00e7ox qabar\u0131q \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 problem varsa, kompleks yarad\u0131rsa, etdirsin, \u00f6zg\u00fcv\u0259ni d\u0259 b\u0259rpa olur. Ancaq m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, \u015f\u0259kil g\u0259tirirl\u0259r ki, m\u0259n buna ox\u015famaq ist\u0259yir\u0259m, bu art\u0131q psixoloji durumdur. Bo\u015fluq var orda, diqq\u0259t, sevgi \u0259kslikliyi var. Bir xan\u0131m \u0259m\u0259liyyata ehtiyac\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 halda, onu edirs\u0259, bununla bitirmir, n\u00f6vb\u0259ti \u0259m\u0259liyyat ist\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k. Burda psixologiyan\u0131 yoluna qoymaq laz\u0131md\u0131. Ax\u0131 s\u0259n bir ba\u015fqasan v\u0259 bel\u0259 olmaq daha keyflidir. H\u0259r k\u0259s qoy \u00f6z\u00fcm kimi olum, b\u0259y\u0259n\u0259n onsuz da b\u0259y\u0259n\u0259c\u0259k dey\u0259 bilm\u0259lidir. S\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc q\u0259bul edirs\u0259ns\u0259, ham\u0131 q\u0259bul ed\u0259c\u0259k.<\/p>\n
– Samir\u0259 xan\u0131m, c\u0259miyy\u0259timizd\u0259 cinsi m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 bo\u015fluq var. Hans\u0131sa s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n dan\u0131\u015fma\u011fa utan\u0131r\u0131q. S\u0259b\u0259b n\u0259dir, niy\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 yara\u015fd\u0131rm\u0131r\u0131q?
\n– \u00c7ox ay\u0131blay\u0131rlar. \u0130ki il \u00f6nc\u0259, b\u00f6lg\u0259l\u0259rin birind\u0259 bir q\u0131z u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 menstruasiya d\u00f6vr\u00fc ke\u00e7irs\u0259 d\u0259, n\u0259 oldu\u011funu bilm\u0259diyin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 intihar etmi\u015fdi. Bir anan\u0131n evind\u0259 q\u0131z u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcrs\u0259, onu ba\u015fa salmal\u0131d\u0131r. U\u015faqlarda 11 ya\u015f\u0131ndan etibar\u0259n h\u0259yatla ba\u011fl\u0131 suallar yaranma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. El\u0259 sizd\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259, bir xan\u0131m m\u00fcraci\u0259t etmi\u015fdi ki, o\u011flumun 5 ya\u015f\u0131 var, s\u00fcrt\u00fcnm\u0259l\u0259ri olur, m\u0259n onu nec\u0259 m\u00fcalic\u0259 ed\u0259 bil\u0259r\u0259m. Vurmaq, q\u0131\u015fq\u0131rmaq, d\u00f6ym\u0259k olmaz, o u\u015faq ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fcr ax\u0131. S\u0259n ona ha den\u0259n ki, olmaz, b\u0259d\u0259nind\u0259 ged\u0259n reaksiyad\u0131r, nec\u0259 ba\u015fa salasan? Fikrini yay\u0131nd\u0131rmaqla, na\u011f\u0131l dan\u0131\u015fmaqla v\u0259 s. Bu d\u00f6n\u0259m bir d\u0259 13-14 ya\u015flar\u0131nda, yeniyetm\u0259lik zaman\u0131nda ba\u015f verir. Tez inki\u015faf ed\u0259n u\u015faqlar da var. Bununla ba\u011fl\u0131 valideyn, ana x\u0259b\u0259rdarl\u0131q etm\u0259lidir. Yaxud o\u011fland\u0131rsa, ata il\u0259 o\u011ful aras\u0131nda s\u00f6hb\u0259t olmal\u0131d\u0131r. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, tualet t\u0259rbiy\u0259si var – u\u015faq vaxt\u0131 analar q\u0131zlar\u0131na, atalar is\u0259 o\u011fullar\u0131na \u00f6yr\u0259tm\u0259lidir. El\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259 yeniyetm\u0259lik d\u00f6n\u0259mind\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259r ba\u015fa sal\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki \u00e7ox m\u00fcraci\u0259t ed\u0259nl\u0259r var. 23-25 ya\u015f\u0131nda g\u0259lir deyir ki, m\u0259n intihara q\u0259rar vermi\u015f\u0259m, d\u00f6z\u0259 bilmir\u0259m, bu y\u00fck\u00fc \u00f6z\u00fcml\u0259 da\u015f\u0131ya bilmir\u0259m. Niy\u0259? 13-14 ya\u015f\u0131m olanda masturbasiya d\u00f6n\u0259mind\u0259 qon\u015fu u\u015faqla s\u00fcrt\u00fcnm\u0259 olmu\u015fdu, dem\u0259li gey\u0259m. Bu adam \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc d\u0259rk etmir.<\/p>\n
Yanl\u0131\u015f informasiya al\u0131rlar, ordan-burdan, internetd\u0259n. H\u0259min s\u00fcrt\u00fcnm\u0259 d\u00f6n\u0259mini ya\u015fayan xan\u0131mlar da var. 13-14 ya\u015f b\u0259d\u0259nin oyanma vaxt\u0131d\u0131r, insan \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 bilm\u0259d\u0259n masturbasiyaya ba\u015flay\u0131r. Q\u0131zlar\u0131n bir-biril\u0259rind\u0259n xo\u015flar\u0131 g\u0259lir s\u00fcrt\u00fcnm\u0259 yolundan istifad\u0259 edirl\u0259r. Sonra g\u0259lir ki, m\u0259n lezbiyanam. Deyils\u0259n. O el\u0259 bir d\u00f6n\u0259mdir ki, f\u0259rqind\u0259 olmay\u0131b, sublimasiya ed\u0259 bilm\u0259yib v\u0259 bilm\u0259d\u0259n qon\u015fu q\u0131z\u0131, xala q\u0131z\u0131 , ya kiml\u0259s\u0259\u00a0 bu proses ba\u015flay\u0131b. Bel\u0259 olan halda, d\u0259rhal eynicinsli olduqlar\u0131n\u0131, normal olmad\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r. O\u011fland\u0131rsa deyir “qad\u0131n ruhundayam”, q\u0131zd\u0131rsa “ki\u015fi ruhundayam”. H\u0259m\u0259n m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259nin \u00f6hd\u0259sind\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259 bilmir. \u00c7\u00fcnki hara bax\u0131rsan, eynicinsli m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259n dan\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131r, reklam olunurlar. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 budur. Valideyn m\u00fctl\u0259q \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 \u00f6vlad\u0131na ba\u015fa salmal\u0131d\u0131r, \u0259g\u0259r yolunu bilmirs\u0259, psixoloqdan yard\u0131m ist\u0259m\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Dini bax\u0131mdan deyirl\u0259r ki, g\u00fcnahd\u0131r, siz insanlar\u0131 s\u0259hv yola y\u00f6nl\u0259ndirirsiz. Xeyr. Bir insan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 toxunub \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc q\u0259bul etm\u0259lidir. \u018fg\u0259r bunu etmirs\u0259, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 yadla\u015fma gedir. Orqanizmind\u0259 n\u0259 ba\u015f verirs\u0259, insan onu bilm\u0259lidir, normald\u0131r. Bunu o q\u0259d\u0259r ay\u0131blay\u0131rlar, qloballa\u015fd\u0131r\u0131rlar ki… Xarici \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 q\u0131zlar masturbasiya d\u00f6n\u0259mind\u0259 art\u0131q cinsi \u0259laq\u0259y\u0259 girirl\u0259r. Bizd\u0259 ax\u0131 mentalitet var, m\u00fcs\u0259lman \u00f6lk\u0259yik. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 18 ya\u015fdan icaz\u0259 verilir ki, bu b\u0259d\u0259nin t\u0259l\u0259bat\u0131 \u00f6d\u0259nm\u0259lidir – ya evlilik yolu il\u0259, ya da masturbasiya.<\/p>\n
– U\u015faqlar\u0131 v\u0259 yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259ri vur\u011fulad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z. Amma qad\u0131nla ki\u015fi aras\u0131nda da cinsi m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rin m\u00fczakir\u0259 edilm\u0259si il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 probleml\u0259r var. Tutaq ki, qad\u0131nlar \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na seks ehtiyaclar\u0131n\u0131 dey\u0259 bilmir. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, des\u0259m, sabah m\u0259n\u0259 “fahi\u015f\u0259” dey\u0259r.<\/p>\n
– Xan\u0131mlarla s\u00f6hb\u0259t zaman\u0131 ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u0259m ki, h\u0259tta onlar\u0131n 90 faizi orqazm\u0131n n\u0259 oldu\u011funu bilmirl\u0259r. Q\u0259rib\u0259 d\u0259 olsa dey\u0259c\u0259m. Xan\u0131mla ki\u015fi evl\u0259nir, ilk h\u0259yata q\u0259d\u0259m qoyma\u011fa hardan ba\u015flay\u0131r? Toy gec\u0259sind\u0259n. Y\u0259ni cins\u0259llik insan h\u0259yat\u0131nda \u00f6n\u0259mli bir faktordur. H\u0259tta dinimizd\u0259 d\u0259 var ki, evl\u0259ndins\u0259, s\u0259n xan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n ist\u0259kl\u0259rini yerin\u0259 yetirm\u0259lis\u0259n. Bizd\u0259 amma p\u0259rd\u0259 o q\u0259d\u0259r qal\u0131nd\u0131r ki, bir-biril\u0259ri il\u0259 s\u00f6hb\u0259t ed\u0259 bilmirl\u0259r, x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck verirl\u0259r. Ki\u015fil\u0259r x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259nd\u0259 ikinci qad\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda tam \u00f6zl\u0259ri olduqlar\u0131 kimidirl\u0259r. Ail\u0259d\u0259 ba\u015fqad\u0131lar, \u00f6zl\u0259ri deyill\u0259r. Sanki bir rol g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcrl\u0259r \u00fcstl\u0259rin\u0259, cild\u0259 girirl\u0259r. Olmazm\u0131 ki, s\u0259n el\u0259 \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda \u00f6z\u00fcn olasan? El\u0259 t\u0259m\u0259ld\u0259n, ikiniz bir araya g\u0259lirsiniz v\u0259 ehtiyaclar, ist\u0259kl\u0259r bar\u0259d\u0259 dan\u0131\u015f\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z. B\u0259li, b\u0259yl\u0259r var ki, xan\u0131m ondan \u00e7ox \u015fey t\u0259l\u0259b etdiyi zaman “bunlar\u0131 hardan bilirs\u0259n”, “dem\u0259k ki, m\u0259lumat\u0131n var” dey\u0259c\u0259k. Psixologiyada insan tipl\u0259r\u0259 b\u00f6l\u00fcn\u00fcr – temperament tipl\u0259ri var. Kims\u0259 passivdi, kims\u0259 aktivdi v\u0259 ya daha ehtirasl\u0131d\u0131r. Bu art\u0131q onun genetikas\u0131ndan g\u0259lir. Bu bax\u0131mdan \u0259vv\u0259ld\u0259n bunlar dan\u0131\u015f\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r, bel\u0259 olarsa, \u0259ksin\u0259 bir-biril\u0259rin\u0259 daha da ba\u011fl\u0131 olacaqlar. Bizd\u0259 “qad\u0131nla bel\u0259 \u015fey dan\u0131\u015f\u0131lmaz, olmaz”, “qad\u0131n az bilm\u0259lidir”, “\u00f6vlad\u0131m\u0131n anas\u0131d\u0131r” fikri \u00f6n plandad\u0131r.\u00a0 Arvad kimi bax\u0131rlar, amma xan\u0131m kimi yox.<\/p>\n
Yen\u0259 t\u0259m\u0259l\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259m – valideynl\u0259r u\u015faq b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u0259nd\u0259 ona \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcnk\u00fc kimi bax\u0131r. “M\u0259nim u\u015fa\u011f\u0131md\u0131, \u00f6z\u00fcm bil\u0259r\u0259m”. Xeyr. D\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tiril\u0259n h\u0259r u\u015faq s\u0259nin deyil, c\u0259miyy\u0259tindir. Sabah o hans\u0131sa bir \u015firk\u0259tin i\u015f\u00e7isidir, kimins\u0259 yolda\u015f\u0131d\u0131r v\u0259 ya xan\u0131m\u0131d\u0131r, valideyndir. Q\u0131z u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131 b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u0259nd\u0259 onu “arvad” kimi yeti\u015fdirm\u0259k laz\u0131m deyil. Ki\u015fi d\u0259 el\u0259c\u0259. Evl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259n, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 olanda, qar\u0131n qaba\u011fa g\u0259l\u0259nd\u0259n sonra ki\u015fi status da\u015f\u0131y\u0131r. Olmazm\u0131 ki, s\u0259n u\u015faql\u0131qdan buna ki\u015fi dey\u0259 m\u00fcraci\u0259t ed\u0259s\u0259n. Bu s\u00f6zl\u0259rl\u0259 ona m\u0259suliyy\u0259t y\u00fckl\u0259yirs\u0259n art\u0131q.\u00a0 Q\u0131z u\u015fa\u011f\u0131na “sabah ana olacaqsan” dem\u0259kd\u0259ns\u0259, ilk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 “s\u0259n xan\u0131msan” dem\u0259liyik. Bel\u0259 olan halda, o, xan\u0131m kimi davranma\u011fa ba\u015flayacaq.<\/p>\n
– Ki\u015fil\u0259r h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131na yara\u015fd\u0131rmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015feyl\u0259ri ba\u015fqalar\u0131nda, h\u0259tta homoseksuallarda bel\u0259 tapma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar.\u00a0 Buna s\u0259b\u0259b n\u0259dir?<\/p>\n
– \u00c7\u00fcnki onlar qorxurlar. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcn gizli, z\u0259if t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259ri var, onu g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259kd\u0259n, xan\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259kd\u0259n \u00e7\u0259kinir. \u0130nsan\u0131n \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131nda n\u0259 yatd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilmirik. Cinsi m\u00fcnasib\u0259t el\u0259 bir \u015feydir ki, ehtiyatl\u0131 davranmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. Bu g\u00fcn pornoqrafiq videolar geni\u015f yay\u0131l\u0131b. Yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 x\u00fcsusil\u0259 diqq\u0259tli olmal\u0131y\u0131q, onlar bu c\u00fcr videolara baxd\u0131qca \u015f\u00fcuraltlar\u0131na n\u0259l\u0259rs\u0259 y\u00fckl\u0259nir. Sabah\u0131s\u0131 g\u00fcn cinsi m\u00fcnasib\u0259t\u0259 gir\u0259nd\u0259 onlar\u0131n ya\u015fad\u0131qlar\u0131 az g\u0259lm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r, ba\u015fqa \u015feyl\u0259r s\u0131namaq ist\u0259yirl\u0259r. Daha d\u0259rin\u0259 getdikc\u0259 art\u0131q insanl\u0131qdan \u00e7\u0131xma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r, normal cinsi m\u00fcnasib\u0259t c\u0131z\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r, sad\u0259 dild\u0259 des\u0259k, poz\u011funluqlara gedirl\u0259r. Bunu qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f q\u0259bul etm\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r v\u0259 x\u0259yal q\u0131r\u0131ql\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya\u015fayar. Bu bax\u0131mdan qorxular var. H\u0259r \u015feyin h\u0259ddi olmal\u0131d\u0131r, balans\u0131 h\u0259r yerd\u0259 qorumaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. Cinsi m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 d\u0259. \u018fg\u0259r a\u011fl\u0131na qeyri-adi bir \u015fey g\u0259lirs\u0259, s\u0259n art\u0131q onu sekspotoloqla m\u00fczakir\u0259 etm\u0259li, \u00f6hd\u0259sind\u0259n g\u0259lm\u0259lis\u0259n ki, niy\u0259 m\u0259nd\u0259 normadan k\u0259nar hissl\u0259r var.<\/p>\n
Biz he\u00e7 “seks” s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc dey\u0259 bilmirik. Halbuki bu s\u00f6z ki\u015fi, qad\u0131n cinsiyy\u0259tini bildirir. Amma bizd\u0259 “seks” intim\u0259 yozulur. H\u0259tta \u0259r-arvad sekspotoloqa m\u00fcraci\u0259t edir. Sivil insanlar bu \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 \u00f6z probleml\u0259rini h\u0259ll edirl\u0259r ki, x\u0259yan\u0259t ba\u015f verm\u0259sin, ail\u0259 da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131n. Amma dig\u0259rl\u0259ri k\u0259narda g\u00f6r\u00fcrl\u0259r. Son g\u00fcnl\u0259r ba\u015f ver\u0259n bir s\u0131ra \u015feyl\u0259r m\u0259ni d\u0259 \u00e7ox t\u0259\u0259cc\u00fcbl\u0259ndirir.<\/p>\n
Dey\u0259c\u0259yim m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 art\u0131q geni\u015f yay\u0131l\u0131b. Dem\u0259li, evli ki\u015fil\u0259r guya \u00e7ox qad\u0131nla g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr, y\u0259ni g\u00fcnd\u0259 biri il\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrm\u00fc\u015f kimi imic yarad\u0131r. \u0130kinci telefonu da olur. Bir xan\u0131mla restoranda oturur, birin\u0259 h\u0259diyy\u0259 al\u0131r v\u0259.s. \u00c7evr\u0259y\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259kd\u0259n \u00f6tr\u00fc, sanki bu, “babnik”dir. \u018fslind\u0259 is\u0259 gizli sevgilisi ki\u015fidir. Onu he\u00e7 kim bilmir, b\u00fct\u00fcn ist\u0259kl\u0259rini, a\u011flas\u0131\u011fmayan cinsi arzular\u0131n\u0131 onunla h\u0259yata ke\u00e7irir. Xan\u0131m\u0131 bunu qad\u0131nla tutsa bel\u0259, qoy el\u0259 bilsin ki qad\u0131nd\u0131r. Maskalan\u0131rlar. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 xan\u0131mlara deyir\u0259m ki, siz h\u0259l\u0259 yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 qad\u0131nla tutsan\u0131z, \u015f\u00fck\u00fcr edin.<\/p>\n
– “B\u00fct\u00fcn ki\u015fil\u0259r x\u0259yan\u0259t edir” – bu, t\u0259kc\u0259 bizd\u0259 deyil, el\u0259 d\u00fcnyada da q\u0259libl\u0259mi\u015f fikirdir. Ad\u0259t\u0259n, s\u0259b\u0259b kimi onlar\u0131n yarad\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131 m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259si ir\u0259li s\u00fcr\u00fcl\u00fcr. Samir\u0259 xan\u0131m, x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259n ki\u015fi var?<\/p>\n
– \u00d6z\u00fcm d\u0259 bunu bir ne\u00e7\u0259 d\u0259f\u0259 sor\u011fulam\u0131\u015fam: b\u00fct\u00fcn ki\u015fil\u0259r x\u0259yan\u0259t edirmi? Yox.\u00a0 \u00c7ox q\u0259rib\u0259 m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 var. Qad\u0131nlar xarizmatik ki\u015fil\u0259ri sevirl\u0259r. Xan\u0131mlar g\u0259lir ki, m\u0259n n\u0259 deyir\u0259m, ki\u015fi raz\u0131d\u0131r, maraqs\u0131zd\u0131r, bir xarizmas\u0131 yoxdur. Bu s\u0259f\u0259r d\u0259 biri g\u0259lir ki, m\u0259nim h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131m \u00e7ox xarizmatikdir, d\u0259h\u015f\u0259tli d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 q\u0131sqan\u0131ram, b\u00fct\u00fcn xan\u0131mlar ona yaz\u0131r, x\u0259yan\u0259t edir. Xan\u0131mlar \u0259slind\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259r\u0259 daha meylli olurlar. Amma h\u0259r xarizmatik ki\u015fi d\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t etmir. Bu yax\u0131nlarda m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, biri deyir ki, m\u0259nim bir dostum var, o q\u0259d\u0259r g\u00f6z\u0259l xan\u0131m\u0131 var, dominantd\u0131, ham\u0131 bel\u0259 birini \u0259ld\u0259 etm\u0259k ist\u0259y\u0259r, ancaq ki\u015fi x\u0259yan\u0259t edir. \u00c7\u00fcnki o xan\u0131m statusludur, dominantd\u0131r. H\u0259r bir ki\u015fi \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc Allah kimi hiss etm\u0259yi sevir. Ki\u015fil\u0259r x\u0259yan\u0259t etdiyinin yan\u0131nda \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc statuslu say\u0131r, \u00fcst\u00fcn hiss edir. Amma yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda bunu ed\u0259 bilmir. Ki\u015fiy\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc kral kimi hesab etm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn icaz\u0259 verm\u0259k d\u0259 yanl\u0131\u015fd\u0131r. S\u0259nd\u0259n a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 s\u0259viyy\u0259d\u0259 olmas\u0131na icaz\u0259 verm\u0259k d\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn deyil. Qad\u0131n ist\u0259s\u0259, ki\u015fini h\u0259m v\u0259zir ed\u0259r, h\u0259m r\u0259zil. \u00c7ox f\u0259dakar olmaq da olmaz.<\/p>\n
– B\u0259s sizc\u0259, biz n\u0259 ets\u0259k, bo\u015fanmalar azalar?<\/p>\n
– Qad\u0131nlar \u00f6z d\u0259y\u0259rini bilm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flayanda. \u018fvv\u0259lki evlilikl\u0259rd\u0259 “ba\u015fl\u0131q pulu” var idi v\u0259 \u00e7ox t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, bu, q\u0131z\u0131n valideynin\u0259 \u00e7at\u0131rd\u0131. \u018fslind\u0259 q\u0131za verilm\u0259li idi. \u018fg\u0259r xan\u0131mlar m\u00fcqavil\u0259 il\u0259 evl\u0259ns\u0259l\u0259r, \u00f6z \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259rini \u0259vv\u0259ld\u0259 qoysalar, daha d\u0259y\u0259rli olacaqlar. Bizd\u0259 niy\u0259 \u0259r\u0259 gedirl\u0259r? “Camaat dey\u0259c\u0259k ki, q\u0131z evd\u0259 qald\u0131”, “art\u0131q y\u00fckd\u00fc, yey\u0259nimin biri azalacaq”. Ke\u00e7mi\u015fd\u0259 “ba\u015fl\u0131q pulu”, indi m\u00fcqavil\u0259 dem\u0259kdir. Ata evind\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259n q\u0131z, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 s\u0259nd\u0259n qazan\u0131b, d\u00fczd\u00fcr? M\u00fcqavil\u0259 \u0259sas\u0131nda bo\u015fanma ba\u015f vers\u0259, x\u0259yan\u0259t d\u0259 azalacaq. Bizim mill\u0259t dig\u0259rl\u0259rin\u0259 nisb\u0259t\u0259n, mala, m\u00fclk\u0259 daha \u00e7ox \u00f6n\u0259m verirl\u0259r ax\u0131, itirm\u0259k qorxusu daha \u00e7oxdur ax\u0131. Ki\u015fi bil\u0259nd\u0259 ki, pul itir\u0259 bil\u0259r, daha diqq\u0259tli davranacaq. X\u0259yan\u0259t olsa bel\u0259, yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 \u0259s\u0259c\u0259k ki, pulumun yar\u0131s\u0131 getm\u0259sin. Londonda, AB\u015e-da bo\u015fanan ki\u015fi l\u00fct qal\u0131r. Britaniyada \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, \u0259n sonuncu ki\u015fi haqlar\u0131d\u0131r, ki\u015fid\u0259n qabaq it g\u0259lir. Ki\u015fi sual ed\u0259 bil\u0259r ki, xeyir ola, s\u0259n onda m\u0259nl\u0259 pula g\u00f6r\u0259 evl\u0259nirs\u0259n. \u018fzizim, sabah s\u0259n m\u0259n\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t d\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259ks\u0259n, u\u015faqla \u00e7\u00f6ld\u0259 d\u0259 qoyacaqsan.<\/p>\n
He\u00e7 bir qad\u0131n yax\u015f\u0131 ki\u015fid\u0259n bo\u015fanm\u0131r. B\u0259yl\u0259r dey\u0259c\u0259k ki, he\u00e7 bir ki\u015fi yax\u015f\u0131 qad\u0131na x\u0259yan\u0259t etmir. Xeyr, edir. \u018fvv\u0259ld\u0259n \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259rl\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. Sabah\u0131 g\u00fcn u\u015faqla qalan qad\u0131n s\u0131f\u0131rdan ba\u015flay\u0131r, bir i\u015f\u0259 ba\u015flamaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259lind\u0259 n\u0259s\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Xan\u0131mlar \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259r ver\u0259nd\u0259 bo\u015fanmalar da azalacaq. S\u0259n \u00e7\u0259tin \u0259l\u00e7atan olsan, ki\u015fi d\u0259 q\u0259drini bil\u0259c\u0259k. S\u0259ni ist\u0259yirs\u0259, g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc ba\u011flay\u0131b “s\u0259n\u0259 h\u0259r \u015fey qurband\u0131r” dey\u0259c\u0259k, m\u00fcqavil\u0259y\u0259 raz\u0131 olacaq. \u018fks t\u0259qdird\u0259, dem\u0259li mal\u0131-m\u00fclk\u00fc daha \u00f6n\u0259mlidir. Qad\u0131nda x\u0259yan\u0259t m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259sini hara f\u0131rlatsan da, ki\u015finin bo\u015flu\u011funa g\u0259lir. Qad\u0131n qula\u011f\u0131 bo\u015f qalmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Ayda bir \u00e7i\u00e7\u0259k alsalar, \u00f6z\u0259l g\u00fcnl\u0259ri qeyd ets\u0259l\u0259r, s\u0259b\u0259bsiz n\u0259l\u0259rs\u0259 ets\u0259l\u0259r, k\u00f6nl\u00fcn\u00fc xo\u015f tutsalar, qad\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259z. M\u00fctl\u0259q ki\u015fi bo\u015flu\u011fu olur ki, bu yola \u0259l at\u0131rlar. \u00c7oxu da pe\u015fman olur. Ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259 is\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259tin milyon s\u0259b\u0259bi var. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, deyir ki, m\u0259n \u00e7ox ehtirasl\u0131yam, xan\u0131m\u0131m passivdir, ondan n\u0259s\u0259 ist\u0259yir\u0259m, q\u0259bul etmir. Bax\u0131rsan ki, d\u00fczd\u00fcr. Bir ki\u015fi qad\u0131n\u0131na nat\u0259miz oldu\u011funa g\u00f6r\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edirdi. Ki\u015fi t\u0259mizkard\u0131r, deyir ki, m\u0259n ev\u0259 girir\u0259m, qablar \u00e7irklidir, yer y\u0131\u011f\u0131\u015fd\u0131r\u0131lmay\u0131b , ev\u0259 \u0259l g\u0259zdirilm\u0259yib, ancaq \u0259lind\u0259 telefon v\u0259 s. H\u0259min ki\u015fi bo\u015fanm\u0131r, amma x\u0259yan\u0259t edir v\u0259 yan\u0131na getdiyi qad\u0131n t\u0259mizkar olur. Bu da d\u00fczd\u00fcr.<\/p>\n
Valideynl\u0259rinin m\u0259cburiyy\u0259ti il\u0259 evl\u0259n\u0259nl\u0259r d\u0259 m\u00fctl\u0259q x\u0259yan\u0259t edir. M\u0259n buna da cinsi istismar deyir\u0259m. Y\u0259ni valideyn ist\u0259yir dey\u0259, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259cav\u00fcz\u0259 m\u0259cbur edir. \u0130st\u0259m\u0259diyin adamla evl\u0259nm\u0259k n\u0259 dem\u0259kdir? Zorlanmaq dem\u0259kdir, q\u0259bul ets\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259, etm\u0259s\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 – valideynim ist\u0259yib dey\u0259 m\u0259n bu adamla yatmal\u0131yam. Burada y\u00fcz faiz x\u0259yan\u0259t var, qad\u0131n t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n d\u0259, ki\u015fi t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n d\u0259. X\u0259yan\u0259t birinci beyind\u0259 ba\u015f verir. Art\u0131q yata\u011fa girm\u0259k m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259si sondur. Ora \u00e7atana kimi beynind\u0259 q\u0259rar\u0131n\u0131 verir. Ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259 ani x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259r ola bil\u0259r. Ancaq qad\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r y\u00fcz d\u0259f\u0259 \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcb bi\u00e7ir, n\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259yini bilir, ani olmur. Ki\u015fi i\u00e7kili oldu\u011funu dey\u0259 bil\u0259r, yaxud \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc itirdiyini, onlarda heyvani hisl\u0259r oyana bil\u0259r, n\u0259 etdiyini bilm\u0259z.<\/p>\n
– Ki\u015fi bilm\u0259d\u0259n bu yola gedirs\u0259, onu x\u0259yan\u0259t kimi qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259m\u0259liyik?
\n– X\u0259yan\u0259tdir. Ba\u015fqa qad\u0131nla mesajla\u015fmas\u0131 da x\u0259yan\u0259tdir. “Fl\u00f6rt” ba\u015fqa \u015feydir. Bu x\u0259yan\u0259t say\u0131l\u0131rm\u0131? Yox. B\u0259zi insanlar fl\u00f6rt etm\u0259yi sevir. M\u0259n h\u0259tta onlara \u00e7ox \u00fcnsiyy\u0259tcil adamlar dey\u0259rdim. F\u0259rqi yoxdur qad\u0131n v\u0259 ya ki\u015fil\u0259rl\u0259 \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t\u0259 girm\u0259yi sevirl\u0259r. Birind\u0259n n\u00f6mr\u0259ni niy\u0259 g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcrs\u0259n? Dem\u0259li b\u0259y\u0259nmis\u0259n. Dost? Xeyr, qad\u0131nla ki\u015finin dostlu\u011fu yoxdur. M\u00fcmk\u00fcn deyil. Qad\u0131n-ki\u015fi dostlu\u011fu simpatiya \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 yaran\u0131r, iki t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n birinin m\u00fctl\u0259q xo\u015fu g\u0259lir, ona g\u00f6r\u0259 o dostluqlar ba\u015f verir. \u0130stisna ola bil\u0259r ki, bir t\u0259r\u0259f lezbiyan, ya da geydir. B\u0259y\u0259nm\u0259 hissi olmasa, he\u00e7 vaxt dostluq al\u0131nmaz.<\/p>\n
– “Ki\u015fi ev\u0259 qa\u00e7\u0131rsa, s\u0259b\u0259bkar qad\u0131nd\u0131r, ki\u015fi evd\u0259n qa\u00e7\u0131rsa, s\u0259b\u0259bkar yen\u0259 qad\u0131nd\u0131r”. B\u00fct\u00fcn m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 y\u00fckl\u0259m\u0259k n\u0259 d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 do\u011frudur?
\n– Qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 y\u00fckl\u0259m\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki qad\u0131n bo\u011fazd\u0131r, ki\u015fi ba\u015fd\u0131. Yer \u00fcz\u00fcnd\u0259 qad\u0131n q\u0259d\u0259r g\u00fccl\u00fc m\u0259xluq yoxdur. H\u0259r \u015feyin t\u0259m\u0259lini qoyan qad\u0131nd\u0131r. B\u0259zi qad\u0131nlar d\u00f6y\u00fcld\u00fcy\u00fcnd\u0259n, s\u00f6y\u00fcld\u00fcy\u00fcnd\u0259n \u015fikay\u0259tl\u0259nir, halbuki icaz\u0259 ver\u0259n d\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259ridir. \u0130lk ba\u015fda s\u0259n d\u00f6zm\u0259s\u0259ydin, c\u0259za t\u0259tbiq ets\u0259ydin, yerini bil\u0259c\u0259kdi. X\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 s\u0259n vadar etmis\u0259n. Qad\u0131n ist\u0259s\u0259, ki\u015fini ev\u0259 darta bil\u0259r. Bir d\u0259 var, ev\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 olmayan ki\u015fil\u0259r. S\u00f6hb\u0259t normal insanlardan gedir. Xan\u0131m\u0131n h\u0259m g\u00f6z\u0259lliyi, z\u0259kas\u0131, evdarl\u0131\u011f\u0131 var, h\u0259r \u015feyi yerind\u0259dir, ancaq ki\u015fi ev\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 deyil. Bu art\u0131q ki\u015finin \u00f6z problemidir. Bu ki\u015fil\u0259r u\u015faq vaxt\u0131 h\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q ata-ana davas\u0131n\u0131n \u015fahidi olanlard\u0131r. Bel\u0259 insanlar ev\u0259 g\u0259lm\u0259k ist\u0259mirl\u0259r. Bir o\u011flanla evl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259 onun atas\u0131-anas\u0131 haqq\u0131nda fikirl\u0259rini bilm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u018fg\u0259r valideynl\u0259rin\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 deyils\u0259, \u00f6z ail\u0259sin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 da el\u0259 olacaq. H\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q anas\u0131na ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131rsa, o da yanl\u0131\u015fd\u0131r. Bel\u0259 yerd\u0259 g\u0259lin-qaynana m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri d\u0259h\u015f\u0259tli d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7atacaq. Ana il\u0259 o\u011ful m\u0259saf\u0259li olmal\u0131d\u0131r, amma \u0259laq\u0259 qopmamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n
– Homoseksuall\u0131q m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259sin\u0259 toxunmaq ist\u0259yir\u0259m bir az. Bu, \u00dcmumd\u00fcnya S\u0259hiyy\u0259 T\u0259\u015fkilat\u0131n\u0131n x\u0259st\u0259likl\u0259r siyah\u0131s\u0131nda yoxdur. Psixoloq kimi nec\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz, homoseksuall\u0131q x\u0259st\u0259likdir, yoxsa sonradan qazan\u0131lan v\u0259rdi\u015f?<\/p>\n
– V\u0259rdi\u015fdir v\u0259 birba\u015fa psixoloji pozuntudur. \u0130st\u0259yir lezbiyanlar, transeksuallar olsun, ist\u0259yir geyl\u0259r, biseksuallar olsun, ham\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259m\u0259lind\u0259 u\u015faql\u0131\u011f\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 travmalar\u0131 var. \u00dcmumi ad\u0131 valideyn n\u0259zar\u0259tsizliyidir. Ya bayaq dediyim yeniyetm\u0259 d\u00f6n\u0259mind\u0259 ba\u015fa salan\u0131 olmay\u0131b, ya istismara, t\u0259cav\u00fcz\u0259 m\u0259ruz qal\u0131b, valideynl\u0259ri t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n at\u0131l\u0131b. Tutaq ki, o\u011flan u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 ki\u00e7ik ya\u015flar\u0131nda t\u0259cav\u00fcz\u0259 m\u0259ruz qal\u0131b. S\u0259n niy\u0259 sonradan qad\u0131n olursan? “M\u0259n ki\u015fi olmal\u0131 deyildim, yanl\u0131\u015f do\u011fulmu\u015fam” deyirs\u0259n?<\/p>\n
Biri k\u00fc\u00e7\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131b “prezident\u0259m, ham\u0131n\u0131z m\u0259n\u0259 tabe olmal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z” des\u0259, onu apar\u0131b d\u0259lixanaya salacaqlar. Amma bir o\u011flan \u00e7\u0131x\u0131b deyir ki, m\u0259n qad\u0131nam v\u0259 cinsiyy\u0259tini d\u0259yi\u015fir, buna normal bax\u0131rlar. Niy\u0259? Problem ba\u015fqa bir \u015feyd\u0259dir. B\u0259zil\u0259ri t\u0259cav\u00fcz\u0259 m\u0259ruz qalsa da, ki\u015fi kimi h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 davam edir. F\u0259rq buras\u0131ndad\u0131r. Onsuz da u\u015faq vaxt\u0131 istismara u\u011frayan o\u011flan u\u015fa\u011f\u0131nda ki\u015filik m\u0259nliyi \u00f6lm\u00fc\u015f olur. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, 23 ya\u015f\u0131nda bir o\u011flan g\u0259lmi\u015fdi, h\u0259yat\u0131nda he\u00e7 bir m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti al\u0131nm\u0131r, \u00e7ox aqressivdir, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 qapan\u0131qd\u0131r, insanlarla \u00fcnsiyy\u0259ti yoxdur. Sonra m\u0259lum oldu ki, 11 ya\u015f\u0131nda olanda 14 ya\u015fl\u0131 qon\u015fu o\u011flan t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n d\u0259f\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 cinsi istismara m\u0259ruz qal\u0131b. Amma bu gey deyil, demir ki, i\u00e7imd\u0259 qad\u0131n ruhu var, normal ki\u015fi kimi h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015fay\u0131r, t\u0259bii ki travmas\u0131 il\u0259.<\/p>\n
\u018fvv\u0259ll\u0259r d\u0259 bu olub, ancaq internet yox idi, m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 bu \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 qabard\u0131lm\u0131rd\u0131. Eynicinsli m\u00fcnasib\u0259t ya\u015fayanlar \u0259slind\u0259 he\u00e7 d\u0259 el\u0259 deyill\u0259r. Bu, onlar\u0131n \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131d\u0131r. G\u00f6rd\u00fckl\u0259ri, dinl\u0259dikl\u0259ri t\u0259sir edir v\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131nda da u\u015faq vaxt\u0131 travmas\u0131 olubsa, art\u0131q y\u00f6n\u0259lir. Ola bil\u0259r, istismar, t\u0259cav\u00fcz ba\u015f verm\u0259yib, valideyn hamil\u0259 vaxt\u0131 o\u011flunun olmas\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ox ist\u0259yir, lakin q\u0131z \u00f6vlad\u0131 olur. Onu u\u015faql\u0131qdan o\u011flan kimi b\u00f6y\u00fctm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131rlar. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n n\u0259 etdiyin\u0259 valideyn n\u0259zar\u0259t etm\u0259lidir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, m\u0259nim iki b\u00f6y\u00fck qarda\u015f\u0131m\u0131n ard\u0131nca m\u0259n d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259lmi\u015f\u0259m. \u00c7ox a\u00e7\u0131q bir \u015fey dan\u0131\u015facam. M\u0259n g\u00f6r\u00fcrd\u00fcm ki, qarda\u015f\u0131m ayaqyolunda ayaq\u00fcst\u0259 i\u015fini g\u00f6r\u00fcr, m\u0259n d\u0259 onu t\u0259krar etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flam\u0131\u015fam. T\u0259bii ki, anam m\u0259n\u0259 q\u0131z oldu\u011fumu, bu \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 etm\u0259m\u0259li oldu\u011fumu izah edib. Y\u0259ni q\u0131z u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 g\u0259lincikl\u0259 oynamal\u0131d\u0131r, \u0259g\u0259r ma\u015f\u0131na meyllidirs\u0259, bunu valideyn y\u00f6nl\u0259ndirir. Yaxud valideyn makiyajdan istifad\u0259 edir, o\u011flan u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 da onu t\u0259krar etm\u0259k ist\u0259yir, ana buna icaz\u0259 verm\u0259m\u0259lidir. O\u011flan u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bac\u0131lar\u0131n \u00f6hd\u0259sin\u0259 buraxmamal\u0131san, \u00e7\u00fcnki q\u0131z kimi t\u0259rbiy\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r. Bunun kimi \u00e7ox n\u00fcmun\u0259 \u00e7\u0259km\u0259k olar. T\u0259m\u0259li valideyn qoyur. \u0130ndiki zamana g\u00f6r\u0259 10 g\u00f6z\u00fcn olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bu o dem\u0259k deyil ki, s\u0131xmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r, yox. Sad\u0259c\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn izahat verm\u0259liyik.<\/p>\n
– Son zamanlar g\u00fcnd\u0259md\u0259 olan m\u00f6vzulardan biri d\u0259 feminizm v\u0259 feministl\u0259rdir. Bu bar\u0259d\u0259 n\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fcz?<\/p>\n
– Feministl\u0259rin bir qismi ya eynicinsli m\u00fcnasib\u0259t ya\u015fayanlard\u0131r, lezbiyanlar, ya da ki m\u00fctl\u0259q \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n n\u0259s\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcbl\u0259r – u\u011fursuz nikah, u\u011fursuz m\u00fcnasib\u0259t, yaxud dominant anan\u0131n q\u0131z\u0131d\u0131r. H\u0259r \u015feyi Avropadan g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcr\u00fck, evlilik \u00f6nc\u0259si m\u00fcqavil\u0259ni d\u0259 g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcn d\u0259. \u00c7ox d\u0259xlisiz \u015feyl\u0259ri g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcrl\u0259r, feministlik filan. Feministlik biz\u0259 uy\u011fun deyil, \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, q\u0259bul etmir\u0259m. \u00c7\u00fcnki Az\u0259rbaycanda ki\u015fi bir pill\u0259 qad\u0131ndan \u00fcst\u00fcn olmal\u0131d\u0131r. H\u0259r bir u\u011furlu ki\u015finin arxas\u0131nda g\u00fccl\u00fc qad\u0131n var. V\u0259 h\u0259r bir u\u011furlu qad\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131nda u\u011fursuz ki\u015fi olur.<\/p>\n
Bir idar\u0259\u00e7i olar, iki n\u0259f\u0259rl\u0259 olmur. Qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015finin b\u0259rab\u0259rliyi ortaya \u00e7\u0131xd\u0131, ondan sonra bizd\u0259 probleml\u0259r ba\u015flad\u0131. Bizd\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259rliyi d\u00fczg\u00fcn ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fcrl\u0259r. Bu o dem\u0259kdir ki, qad\u0131n da i\u015fl\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r, ki\u015fi d\u0259, u\u015faq t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259 qad\u0131n da, ki\u015fi d\u0259 eyni i\u015ftirak etm\u0259lidir. Bizd\u0259 ax\u0131 el\u0259 deyil. Qad\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259 verir, sabah g\u00fcn bir s\u0259hv olanda “s\u0259nin verdiyin t\u0259rbiy\u0259dir” s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc e\u015fidir. Yox \u0259zizim, o u\u015faq s\u0259n\u0259 d\u0259 aiddir, t\u0259rbiy\u0259d\u0259 s\u0259n d\u0259 i\u015ftirak etm\u0259lis\u0259n. B\u0259rab\u0259rlik o dem\u0259k deyil ki, s\u0259n\u0259 olarsa, m\u0259n\u0259 d\u0259 olar. Ona olan s\u0259n\u0259 d\u0259 olsayd\u0131, onda ikiniz d\u0259 eyni cinsiyy\u0259t orqan\u0131 da\u015f\u0131yard\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n
Niy\u0259 birinci ki\u015fi yaran\u0131b? \u018fg\u0259r b\u0259rab\u0259rlik varsa, ikiniz d\u0259 eyni vaxtda yaranard\u0131z da. Birinci ki\u015fi yaran\u0131b, sonra qad\u0131n\u0131n bad\u0131na gedib. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, idar\u0259edici bir n\u0259f\u0259r var, o da ki\u015fidir v\u0259 ail\u0259 ona tabe olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Qad\u0131n h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 d\u00fcz\u0259li\u015f ed\u0259ndir.<\/p>\n
– Son olaraq, \u0259g\u0259r bir siyas\u0259t\u00e7i xalq\u0131n hisl\u0259rin\u0259 toxuna bilirs\u0259, \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015flar edib s\u0259s y\u0131\u011f\u0131rsa, bu art\u0131q psixoloji gedi\u015fdir. Sizc\u0259, bir psixoloqdan m\u00fck\u0259mm\u0259l siyas\u0259t\u00e7i olarm\u0131?<\/p>\n
– Niy\u0259 olmur ki. M\u0259n \u015f\u0259xs\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 mill\u0259t v\u0259kili olma\u011f\u0131 fikirl\u0259\u015fir\u0259m. Xalq aras\u0131nda olan biri se\u00e7ilm\u0259lidir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, bu g\u00fcn bizd\u0259 m\u0259i\u015f\u0259t zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 haqq\u0131nda qanun q\u00fcvv\u0259y\u0259 minm\u0259yib. Milli M\u0259clisd\u0259 oturan b\u0259zi a\u011fsaqqallar h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fcrl\u0259r ki, nec\u0259 y\u0259ni ki\u015fi qad\u0131na bir \u015fill\u0259 vuracaq, o da gedib \u015fikay\u0259t ed\u0259c\u0259k, ki\u015fiy\u0259 c\u0259za k\u0259sil\u0259c\u0259k. Yaxud u\u015faq ata-anas\u0131ndan \u015fikay\u0259t ed\u0259c\u0259k, c\u0259za t\u0259dbirl\u0259ri g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u0259c\u0259k.<\/p>\n
Bu g\u00fcn n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcl\u0259n qad\u0131n var. Uzaqdan-uza\u011fa tan\u0131\u015f biri var idi, bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015fd\u0131, 7 ild\u0259n sonra ke\u00e7mi\u015f h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 g\u0259lib \u00fcz\u00fcn\u0259 “kislota” t\u00f6km\u00fc\u015fd\u00fc. Ax\u0131 ail\u0259 z\u0259minind\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259n hadis\u0259l\u0259r var. Bunlar\u0131n he\u00e7 birin\u0259 baxm\u0131rlar v\u0259 deyirl\u0259r ki, ail\u0259 i\u00e7ind\u0259 olan s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259tdir. Amma qanun q\u0259bul edils\u0259, art\u0131q h\u0259r k\u0259s \u00f6z h\u0259ddini bil\u0259c\u0259k.<\/p>\n
Bilirsiniz, yan\u0131ma n\u0259 g\u00fcnd\u0259 xan\u0131mlar g\u0259lir? Di\u015f yox, d\u00f6y\u00fcl\u00fcb. Xan\u0131m var ki, 6 ayd\u0131r hava n\u0259dir bilmir, \u00e7\u00f6l\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xmaq icaz\u0259si yoxdur. M\u0259i\u015f\u0259t zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 haqq\u0131nda qanun q\u00fcvv\u0259y\u0259 mins\u0259, h\u0259min ki\u015fiy\u0259 c\u0259za d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. Odur ki, riyaziyyat m\u00fc\u0259llimi g\u0259lib icra ba\u015f\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 ola bilir, psixoloq yox? Bu arada m\u0259n 10 il t\u0259yyar\u0259 b\u0259l\u0259d\u00e7isi i\u015fl\u0259mi\u015f\u0259m. \u00c7oxlar\u0131 yaz\u0131r ki, bu ax\u0131 t\u0259yyar\u0259 b\u0259l\u0259d\u00e7isi olub, bundan n\u0259 psixoloq \u00e7\u0131xar? \u00c7ox g\u00fcl\u00fcnc bir yana\u015fmad\u0131r. Kim anas\u0131n\u0131n qarn\u0131nda nazir olur? Kim mill\u0259t v\u0259kili olur? M\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n bir yer\u0259 g\u0259lm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n ke\u00e7m\u0259lis\u0259n. \u0130nki\u015faf etm\u0259k ist\u0259yir\u0259m, niy\u0259 sah\u0259mi d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259yim? H\u0259l\u0259 2 ild\u0259n sonra harada olacam bilmir\u0259m. Siyas\u0259t m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259sin\u0259 g\u0259linc\u0259, b\u0259lk\u0259 42 ya\u015f\u0131mda filan niy\u0259 d\u0259 olmas\u0131n? S\u0131namaq olar.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Tez-tez qalmaqall\u0131 fikirl\u0259ri il\u0259 g\u00fcnd\u0259m\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n psixoloq Samir\u0259 Ba\u011f\u0131rova sfera.az-a m\u00fcsahib\u0259 verib. Psixoloqla s\u00f6hb\u0259ti t\u0259qdim edirik: – Bel\u0259 bir deyim var ki, d\u0259rzi \u00f6z s\u00f6k\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fc tik\u0259 bilm\u0259z. Siz psixoloq kimi bir \u00e7ox insan\u0131n m\u0259n\u0259vi m\u0259lh\u0259mi olursunuz. B\u0259s \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz? Y\u0259ni psixoloqun da psixoloqa ehtiyac\u0131 oldu\u011fu anlar olurmu? – Normal bir insana psixoloq laz\u0131md\u0131rsa, psixoloqun \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 iki psixoloq laz\u0131md\u0131r. H\u0259m \u015f\u0259xsi h\u0259yat\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131, h\u0259m d\u0259 ona m\u00fcraci\u0259t ed\u0259nl\u0259rin y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fc da\u015f\u0131mal\u0131d\u0131r ax\u0131… H\u0259tta dig\u0259r \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 bel\u0259 bir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 var – psixoloq ay \u0259rzind\u0259 supervizorlara m\u00fcraci\u0259t etm\u0259lidir, \u0259ks halda, cinay\u0259t i\u015fi a\u00e7\u0131l\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":381855,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/982145_000.jpg",800,600,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/982145_000.jpg",800,600,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/982145_000.jpg",800,600,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/982145_000-500x280.jpg",500,280,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/982145_000-487x365.jpg",487,365,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/982145_000.jpg",640,480,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/982145_000.jpg",800,600,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/982145_000.jpg",800,600,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/982145_000-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/09\/982145_000.jpg",800,600,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"Sosial<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"Tez-tez qalmaqall\u0131 fikirl\u0259ri il\u0259 g\u00fcnd\u0259m\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n psixoloq Samir\u0259 Ba\u011f\u0131rova sfera.az-a m\u00fcsahib\u0259 verib. Psixoloqla s\u00f6hb\u0259ti t\u0259qdim edirik: – Bel\u0259 bir deyim var ki, d\u0259rzi \u00f6z s\u00f6k\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fc tik\u0259 bilm\u0259z. Siz psixoloq kimi bir \u00e7ox insan\u0131n m\u0259n\u0259vi m\u0259lh\u0259mi olursunuz. B\u0259s \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz? Y\u0259ni psixoloqun da psixoloqa ehtiyac\u0131 oldu\u011fu anlar olurmu? – Normal bir insana psixoloq laz\u0131md\u0131rsa, psixoloqun \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 iki…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/381854"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=381854"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/381854\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/381855"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=381854"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=381854"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=381854"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}