{"id":411522,"date":"2021-12-02T18:47:06","date_gmt":"2021-12-02T15:47:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=411522"},"modified":"2021-12-02T18:47:06","modified_gmt":"2021-12-02T15:47:06","slug":"sus-cavab-qaytarma-ail%c9%99ni-m%c9%99hv-ed%c9%99n-dogru-bildiyimiz-yanlislar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=411522","title":{"rendered":"\u201cSus, cavab qaytarma\u201d \u2013 Ail\u0259ni m\u0259hv ed\u0259n do\u011fru bildiyimiz yanl\u0131\u015flar"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><b>\u201cEvlilikd\u0259 k\u0259ram\u0259t var\u201d, Evl\u0259n\u0259n zaman d\u00fcz\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k\u201d&#8230; M\u0259hz buradan ba\u015flad\u0131 m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259r, g\u00f6z ya\u015flar\u0131, h\u0259sr\u0259t, bo\u015fanmalar, \u00f6l\u00fcml\u0259r&#8230;<\/b><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"inlineads\"><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div>Bu g\u00fcn\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7ox m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259r, ayr\u0131l\u0131qlar, \u201c\u00fczd\u0259n n\u00fcmun\u0259vi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u0259n\u201d \u0259slind\u0259 is\u0259 daxild\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt ail\u0259 qavram\u0131 qalmayan insanlar, bo\u015fanmalar oldu, bundan sonra da t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, olacaq. H\u0259r \u015fey\u0259 d\u00f6z\u00fcb, \u201c\u018fsl ail\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259si\u201d g\u00f6r\u0259n q\u0131z rolunu oynayan, \u0259slind\u0259 is\u0259 i\u00e7i qan a\u011flayan g\u0259ncl\u0259r az deyil c\u0259miyy\u0259timizd\u0259. S\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r f\u0259rqli olsa da n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259r eynidir. G\u00f6z\u00fc ya\u015fl\u0131lar, ka\u015flar, heyifl\u0259r&#8230; Ail\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259sini \u00e7ox yanl\u0131\u015f anlay\u0131r b\u0259zil\u0259rimiz. Qeyr\u0259t, \u015f\u0259r\u0259f, a\u011f\u0131l, namusun, h\u0259r n\u00f6v t\u0259hqiredici, al\u00e7ald\u0131c\u0131, g\u00f6z ya\u015f\u0131 yaradacaq davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n, ifad\u0259l\u0259rin oldu\u011funu b\u0259zil\u0259ri q\u0131zlar\u0131na, o\u011fullar\u0131na ill\u0259rl\u0259 \u201ct\u0259rbiy\u0259\u201d ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda qanlar\u0131na yeritdi v\u0259 \u0259n ac\u0131naql\u0131s\u0131 budur ki. davam da edir.. \u201cKe\u00e7mi\u015fd\u0259 n\u0259 z\u00fclml\u0259r, \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259r olub, indikil\u0259r&#8230;\u201d dey\u0259-dey\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyin deyil, \u0259s\u0259bin, stresin t\u0259m\u0259l da\u015f\u0131n\u0131 atd\u0131lar.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>\u00d6vlad\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6z ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u0259-g\u00f6r\u0259 qar\u0131\u015fmay\u0131b, \u201cd\u00f6z, sus, aman cavab verm\u0259\u201d dey\u0259nl\u0259r&#8230; \u00d6vlad\u0131n\u0131n xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcb \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259rk etm\u0259yib, qoruyan v\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bini ara\u015fd\u0131raraq d\u00fczg\u00fcn yol tapma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fanlar&#8230; H\u0259r \u015fey yolunda getdiyi halda \u201cart\u0131q tamah ba\u015f yarar\u201d misal\u0131na arxalanaraq, m\u00fcbahis\u0259 yarad\u0131b ayr\u0131l\u0131q ya\u015fadanlar&#8230;<\/div>\n<div>M\u0259hz bu q\u0259d\u0259r f\u0259rqli d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259li ail\u0259l\u0259r bir araya g\u0259l\u0259nd\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r tufanlar, f\u0131rt\u0131nalar&#8230;<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Psixoloqlara g\u00f6r\u0259, b\u0259zi ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 ki\u015fi \u00f6z ail\u0259sind\u0259n g\u00f6rm\u0259diyi davran\u0131\u015f\u0131, eqonu yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131 \u0259z\u0259r\u0259k, \u00f6z \u201cucal\u0131\u011f\u201d\u0131n\u0131,<\/div>\n<div>h\u00f6kmranl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 elan ed\u0259r\u0259k ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131 normal bilir. Buradan da qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fi \u0259zm\u0259k, \u0259mrl\u0259r, oxunan h\u00f6kml\u0259r yaran\u0131r. N\u0259tic\u0259sini is\u0259 u\u015faqlar \u00e7\u0259kir. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, g\u00f6rd\u00fckl\u0259rini d\u00fcz bil\u0259r\u0259k ail\u0259l\u0259rinin g\u00fczg\u00fcs\u00fc kimi onlar da bunu g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 davam\u00a0<b>etdirir.<\/b><\/div>\n<div><b>\u00a0<\/b><\/div>\n<div><b>B\u0259s d\u00fczg\u00fcn t\u0259rbiy\u0259 \u0259slind\u0259 nec\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r? Ail\u0259d\u0259 qad\u0131na m\u00fcnasib\u0259t nec\u0259 qurulmal\u0131d\u0131r?<\/b><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Psixoloq Zeyn\u0259b Eyyubovan\u0131n s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, h\u0259r bir k\u0259sin \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259m\u0259xsus q\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 x\u0259tti olmal\u0131d\u0131r:<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>\u201cBunun f\u0259rqi yoxdur. Ad\u0131 q\u0131zd\u0131r, g\u0259lindir, o\u011fuldur, yezn\u0259dir v\u0259 s. Bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259vv\u0259la q\u0131zlar\u0131m\u0131za \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t etm\u0259yi v\u0259 q\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 x\u0259tl\u0259rinin olmas\u0131n\u0131 a\u015f\u0131lamaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. He\u00e7 k\u0259sin haqq\u0131 h\u00fcququ yoxdur ki, hans\u0131sa bir \u015f\u0259xsi t\u0259hqir etsin v\u0259 ya haqq\u0131na girsin v\u0259 ya problem ya\u015fats\u0131nlar. Q\u0131zlar uzun ill\u0259rdir tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ail\u0259y\u0259 g\u0259lin k\u00f6\u00e7\u00fcrl\u0259r.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>N\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almaq laz\u0131md\u0131r ki bu s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n ail\u0259y\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259\u015fm\u0259k ilk bir ild\u0259 \u00e7ox \u00e7\u0259tin olur. \u00c7\u00fcnki art\u0131q s\u0259nin anan, atan, s\u0259nin qoydu\u011fun t\u0259rz orda yoxdur.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>\u00d6yr\u0259\u015fm\u0259k m\u00fcdd\u0259tind\u0259 \u00f6z h\u00fcquqlar\u0131n\u0131, haqqlar\u0131n\u0131 m\u00fclayim t\u0259rzd\u0259 qorumal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fg\u0259r haqs\u0131z yer\u0259 t\u0259hqir olunarsa, \u0259zil\u0259rs\u0259 bu h\u0259m d\u00fcny\u0259vi d\u00f6vl\u0259t olaraq h\u00fcquqlara ziddir, h\u0259m d\u0259 dini \u2013m\u0259n\u0259vi istiqam\u0259td\u0259n d\u0259 baxsaq insan \u00f6z haqq\u0131n\u0131 qorumal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsan\u0131n can\u0131 ona verilmi\u015f \u0259man\u0259tdir. \u018fman\u0259tin\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259n \u015f\u0259xs h\u0259r k\u0259s\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259r. Y\u0259ni h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n g\u00f6r\u00fcrs\u00fcn\u00fczs\u0259 ki, bu cana ziyan g\u0259lir, o zaman bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259ni ail\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259ri il\u0259 dan\u0131\u015f\u0131b birm\u0259nal\u0131 olaraq h\u0259ll etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r\u201d.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Psixoloq deyir ki, ham\u0131n\u0131n alt \u015f\u00fcurunda bu var ki, qaynana il\u0259 g\u0259lin m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri k\u0259skin v\u0259 pis formada olur. Buna aid deyiml\u0259r, h\u0259tta film d\u0259 var:<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>\u201cAil\u0259d\u0259 qaynana g\u0259lin m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri vacibdir. T\u00f6vsiy\u0259 ed\u0259rdim ki, g\u0259linl\u0259r qaynana il\u0259 r\u0259qab\u0259t etm\u0259sinl\u0259r, ola bil\u0259r o yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 sizin arzu etdiyiniz t\u0259rzd\u0259 sevmir, amma he\u00e7 kim valideynini se\u00e7\u0259 bilm\u0259diyi kimi o da yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n valideynidir.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Qaynanalar is\u0259 g\u0259linl\u0259r\u0259 q\u0131zlar\u0131 kimi yana\u015fsalar, problem ya\u015fanmaz. Hans\u0131sa problem oldu\u011fu zaman g\u0259lin etdi kimi deyil d\u0259 q\u0131z\u0131m etdi kimi yana\u015f\u0131lsa, s\u0259hvl\u0259rin\u0259 d\u0259 q\u0131z\u0131n\u0131z kimi baxsan\u0131z yax\u015f\u0131 olar. Onlar\u0131n ail\u0259sind\u0259 problem oldu\u011fu zaman siz\u0259 bu n\u0259 qazand\u0131r\u0131r ki? B\u0259lk\u0259 siz\u0259 d\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 h\u0259yat ya\u015fatmay\u0131blar, qaynanan\u0131z yax\u015f\u0131 olmay\u0131b,sizi incidib, amma art\u0131q evinizd\u0259 ail\u0259 var, onun da \u00f6vladlar\u0131 var. Haqq\u0131n\u0131z yoxdur ki, \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda onu al\u00e7aldas\u0131n\u0131z. G\u0259linin s\u0259hvi ola bil\u0259r, haql\u0131 olmaya bil\u0259r. Amma h\u0259r haqq\u0131 olmayan \u0259zilm\u0259lidirmi, d\u00fcz\u00fc s\u0259rt formada dem\u0259k m\u00fctl\u0259qdirmi? Ail\u0259 daxili m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 da\u011f\u0131d\u0131c\u0131 deyil, yarad\u0131c\u0131 olmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. St\u0259kan\u0131n dolu t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n bax\u0131n. H\u0259qiqi sevm\u0259k o bunu niy\u0259 etdi dem\u0259k deyil, etdis\u0259 bir bildiyi vard\u0131r dem\u0259kdir\u201d.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><b>Sevgi n\u0259dir?<\/b><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>\u201cSevgi \u0259m\u0259kdir, \u0259m\u0259y\u0259 veril\u0259n d\u0259y\u0259rdi, g\u0259lini qul etm\u0259k niyy\u0259ti deyil v\u0259 ya h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131 pul kis\u0259si kimi g\u00f6rm\u0259k deyil. \u0130ki n\u0259f\u0259rin bir canda birl\u0259\u015fm\u0259sidir ail\u0259, sevgi. Bu sevgini \u00fcr\u0259kd\u0259 ya\u015faya bilm\u0259y\u0259nl\u0259r is\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259m\u0259lidir. \u018fks halda sonu u\u00e7urumdur\u201d-dey\u0259 Eyyubova qeyd edib.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><b>\u015eahan\u0259 Q\u0259dirli<\/b><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><img src=\"https:\/\/www.medicina.az\/uploads\/images\/2021-12-02-18-06-57KSns11OFH4m6LJcWYsal_file.jpg\" data-filename=\"\" \/><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cEvlilikd\u0259 k\u0259ram\u0259t var\u201d, Evl\u0259n\u0259n zaman d\u00fcz\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k\u201d&#8230; M\u0259hz buradan ba\u015flad\u0131 m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259r, g\u00f6z ya\u015flar\u0131, h\u0259sr\u0259t, bo\u015fanmalar, \u00f6l\u00fcml\u0259r&#8230; Bu g\u00fcn\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7ox m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259r, ayr\u0131l\u0131qlar, \u201c\u00fczd\u0259n n\u00fcmun\u0259vi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u0259n\u201d \u0259slind\u0259 is\u0259 daxild\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt ail\u0259 qavram\u0131 qalmayan insanlar, bo\u015fanmalar oldu, bundan sonra da t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, olacaq. H\u0259r \u015fey\u0259 d\u00f6z\u00fcb, \u201c\u018fsl ail\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259si\u201d g\u00f6r\u0259n q\u0131z rolunu oynayan, \u0259slind\u0259 is\u0259 i\u00e7i qan a\u011flayan g\u0259ncl\u0259r az deyil c\u0259miyy\u0259timizd\u0259. S\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r f\u0259rqli olsa da n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259r eynidir. G\u00f6z\u00fc ya\u015fl\u0131lar, ka\u015flar, heyifl\u0259r&#8230; Ail\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259sini \u00e7ox yanl\u0131\u015f anlay\u0131r b\u0259zil\u0259rimiz. Qeyr\u0259t, \u015f\u0259r\u0259f, a\u011f\u0131l, namusun, h\u0259r n\u00f6v t\u0259hqiredici, al\u00e7ald\u0131c\u0131, g\u00f6z ya\u015f\u0131 yaradacaq davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n, ifad\u0259l\u0259rin oldu\u011funu b\u0259zil\u0259ri&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":411523,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/2021-12-02-18-14-37y5m9yvss8HbHabS07gKL_file.jpg",800,500,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/2021-12-02-18-14-37y5m9yvss8HbHabS07gKL_file.jpg",800,500,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/2021-12-02-18-14-37y5m9yvss8HbHabS07gKL_file.jpg",800,500,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/2021-12-02-18-14-37y5m9yvss8HbHabS07gKL_file-500x280.jpg",500,280,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/2021-12-02-18-14-37y5m9yvss8HbHabS07gKL_file-584x365.jpg",584,365,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/2021-12-02-18-14-37y5m9yvss8HbHabS07gKL_file.jpg",640,400,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/2021-12-02-18-14-37y5m9yvss8HbHabS07gKL_file.jpg",800,500,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/2021-12-02-18-14-37y5m9yvss8HbHabS07gKL_file.jpg",800,500,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/2021-12-02-18-14-37y5m9yvss8HbHabS07gKL_file-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/2021-12-02-18-14-37y5m9yvss8HbHabS07gKL_file.jpg",800,500,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"<a href=\"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?cat=26\" rel=\"category\">Sosial<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"\u201cEvlilikd\u0259 k\u0259ram\u0259t var\u201d, Evl\u0259n\u0259n zaman d\u00fcz\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k\u201d&#8230; M\u0259hz buradan ba\u015flad\u0131 m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259r, g\u00f6z ya\u015flar\u0131, h\u0259sr\u0259t, bo\u015fanmalar, \u00f6l\u00fcml\u0259r&#8230; Bu g\u00fcn\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7ox m\u00fcbahis\u0259l\u0259r, ayr\u0131l\u0131qlar, \u201c\u00fczd\u0259n n\u00fcmun\u0259vi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u0259n\u201d \u0259slind\u0259 is\u0259 daxild\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt ail\u0259 qavram\u0131 qalmayan insanlar, bo\u015fanmalar oldu, bundan sonra da t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, olacaq. 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