Valideynl\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 \u015f\u0259rtsiz sevm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Y\u0259ni onlar\u0131n sevgisi hans\u0131sa bir \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 olmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Onu a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, sakit oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, d\u0259rsl\u0259rini yax\u015f\u0131 oxudu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn deyil, \u00f6vladlar\u0131 oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn sevdikl\u0259rini hiss etdirm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 oldu\u011fu halda u\u015faq o \u015f\u0259rt olmasa, valideynl\u0259rim m\u0259ni sevm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k qorxusu il\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015fm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259kdir. H\u0259qiqi valideyn sevgisin\u0259 malik ata-ana \u00f6vladlar\u0131nda f\u0259rq qoymadan sevm\u0259li v\u0259 bunu hiss etdirm\u0259lidir.\u00a0 Bu bax\u0131mdan valideynl\u0259r f\u0259rqlidirl\u0259r: Sevgisini g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259yi bacaran v\u0259 bacarmayan, valideyn sevgisi v\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259tini d\u0259rk ed\u0259n v\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259nl\u0259r. B\u0259z\u0259n olur ki valideyn u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259lm\u0259sin\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc haz\u0131r hiss etmir, bu \u0259n \u00e7ox ilk u\u015faqda olur v\u0259ya ikinci u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n olmas\u0131nda bu b\u00fcruz\u0259 ver\u0259 bilir. Daha bu m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti \u00fcz\u0259rl\u0259rin\u0259 almaq ist\u0259mirl\u0259r.\u00a0 Valideynl\u0259r b\u0259z\u0259n t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf olsun ki \u00f6vladlar\u0131 aras\u0131nda f\u0259rq qoyurlar. Bunun s\u0259b\u0259bini is\u0259 b\u0259z\u0259n bel\u0259 deyirl\u0259r: O balaca oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn daha \u00e7ox sevgiy\u0259 ehtiyac\u0131 var; o daha \u00e7ox istiqanl\u0131d\u0131; v\u0259.s.<\/p>\n
U\u015faqlar aras\u0131nda olan bu ayr\u0131se\u00e7kiliyin psixoloji n\u00f6qteyi-n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259n yana\u015fsaq, hans\u0131 s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r ola bil\u0259r?<\/strong><\/p>\n 1) Cinsi ayr\u0131-se\u00e7kilik.<\/p>\n 2)Dig\u0259r u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n ail\u0259 \u00fczvl\u0259ri v\u0259ya qohumlar\u0131 aras\u0131nda sevm\u0259diyi bir insanla b\u0259nz\u0259rliyin olmas\u0131.<\/p>\n 3) U\u015faqda utancaql\u0131q, \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259tinliyinin olmas\u0131.<\/p>\n 4)\u00a0Daha \u00e7ox sevdiyi u\u015fa\u011f\u0131na ata(ana)s\u0131n\u0131n ad\u0131n\u0131n qoyulmas\u0131.<\/p>\n 5)\u00a0U\u015faqlardan birinin ail\u0259nin maddi v\u0259ziyy\u0259tinin a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 oldu\u011fu d\u00f6vrd\u0259 d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259lm\u0259si.<\/p>\n 6)\u00a0 U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n daha \u00e7ox \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 v\u0259 m\u00fcv\u0259ff\u0259qiyy\u0259tli olmas\u0131.<\/p>\n B\u0259z\u0259n valideynl\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda birini daha \u00e7ox t\u0259rif edir. \u201cS\u0259n \u00e7ox g\u00f6z\u0259ls\u0259n, q\u0131\u0131zm\u201d \u201cS\u0259n \u00e7ox a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131san\u201d. Dig\u0259r bir halda \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 m\u00fcqayis\u0259 edirl\u0259r. \u201cBax, qarda\u015f\u0131n(Bac\u0131n) s\u0259nd\u0259n daha bacar\u0131ql\u0131d\u0131r. G\u00f6r nec\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 oxuyur\u201d. V\u0259.s\u00a0 B\u0259s bu halda u\u015faqlarda hans\u0131 hallar m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259 olunur?<\/strong><\/p>\n 1)\u00a0 \u00d6z\u00fcn\u0259 inam\u0131n azalmas\u0131.<\/p>\n 2)\u00a0Qarda\u015f-bac\u0131 q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131.<\/p>\n 3)\u00a0 Valideynl\u0259rl\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 soyuqluq.<\/p>\n 4)\u00a0Kompleksl\u0259r.<\/p>\n 5)\u00a0 Aqressiya.<\/p>\n 6) Neqativizm.(Onsuzda yax\u015f\u0131 \u00f6vlad deyil\u0259m, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr)<\/p>\n Bu kimi neqativ n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259rin qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 almaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn valideynl\u0259r nec\u0259 yana\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r?<\/strong><\/p>\n 1) \u00d6vladlar\u0131n\u0131zla birlikd\u0259 oyun oynay\u0131n.<\/p>\n 2)\u00a0Yeni bir\u015fey ald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z zaman f\u0259rq qoymay\u0131n<\/p>\n 3)\u00a0H\u0259r hans\u0131 t\u0259rif v\u0259ya \u0259zizl\u0259yici s\u00f6z dediyiniz zaman f\u0259rql\u0259ndirm\u0259yin.<\/p>\n 4)\u00a0\u201cSizi \u00e7ox sevir\u0259m, g\u00f6z\u0259l balalar\u0131m\u201d deyib onlar\u0131 qucaqlay\u0131n. Bunu g\u00fcn \u0259rzind\u0259 t\u0259krarlay\u0131n.<\/p>\n Son olaraq valideynl\u0259r\u0259 t\u00f6vsiy\u0259 ed\u0259 bil\u0259r\u0259m ki, \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131za sevginizi g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259kd\u0259 x\u0259sislik etm\u0259yin. Sevgi, \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131zla ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 daha da m\u00f6hk\u0259ml\u0259ndir\u0259c\u0259kdir. \u018fg\u0259r t\u0259kba\u015f\u0131na bunu bacara bilmirsinizs\u0259, m\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssisl\u0259r\u0259 vaxt\u0131nda m\u00fcraci\u0259t edin.<\/p>\n Z\u00fcmr\u00fcd Haqverdiyeva<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Valideynl\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 \u015f\u0259rtsiz sevm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Y\u0259ni onlar\u0131n sevgisi hans\u0131sa bir \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 olmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Onu a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, sakit oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, d\u0259rsl\u0259rini yax\u015f\u0131 oxudu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn deyil, \u00f6vladlar\u0131 oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn sevdikl\u0259rini hiss etdirm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 oldu\u011fu halda u\u015faq o \u015f\u0259rt olmasa, valideynl\u0259rim m\u0259ni sevm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k qorxusu il\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015fm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259kdir. H\u0259qiqi valideyn sevgisin\u0259 malik ata-ana \u00f6vladlar\u0131nda f\u0259rq qoymadan sevm\u0259li v\u0259 bunu hiss etdirm\u0259lidir.\u00a0 Bu bax\u0131mdan valideynl\u0259r f\u0259rqlidirl\u0259r: Sevgisini g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259yi bacaran v\u0259 bacarmayan, valideyn sevgisi v\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259tini d\u0259rk ed\u0259n v\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259nl\u0259r. B\u0259z\u0259n olur ki valideyn u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259lm\u0259sin\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc haz\u0131r hiss etmir, bu \u0259n \u00e7ox ilk u\u015faqda olur…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":429599,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/9b82909c164276174235336272410473029.jpg",975,540,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/9b82909c164276174235336272410473029.jpg",975,540,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/9b82909c164276174235336272410473029.jpg",975,540,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/9b82909c164276174235336272410473029-500x280.jpg",500,280,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/9b82909c164276174235336272410473029-660x365.jpg",660,365,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/9b82909c164276174235336272410473029-840x465.jpg",640,354,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/9b82909c164276174235336272410473029.jpg",975,540,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/9b82909c164276174235336272410473029.jpg",975,540,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/9b82909c164276174235336272410473029-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/9b82909c164276174235336272410473029.jpg",975,540,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"Sosial<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"Valideynl\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 \u015f\u0259rtsiz sevm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Y\u0259ni onlar\u0131n sevgisi hans\u0131sa bir \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 olmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Onu a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, sakit oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, d\u0259rsl\u0259rini yax\u015f\u0131 oxudu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn deyil, \u00f6vladlar\u0131 oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn sevdikl\u0259rini hiss etdirm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 oldu\u011fu halda u\u015faq o \u015f\u0259rt olmasa, valideynl\u0259rim m\u0259ni sevm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k qorxusu il\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015fm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259kdir. H\u0259qiqi valideyn sevgisin\u0259 malik ata-ana \u00f6vladlar\u0131nda f\u0259rq qoymadan sevm\u0259li v\u0259 bunu hiss…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/429598"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=429598"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/429598\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/429599"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=429598"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=429598"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=429598"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}