Taleyi d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7\u0259r\u00e7iv\u0259d\u0259n \u00e7\u0131xmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc d\u0259yi\u015fdirin, o zaman ssenari d\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015f\u0259c\u0259k. Ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 kopyalamay\u0131n, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc yarad\u0131n!<\/p>\n
H\u0259r insan d\u00fcnyaya xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u0259lir. B\u0259s \u0259traf\u0131n\u0131zda xo\u015fb\u0259xt olan n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r insan tan\u0131y\u0131rs\u0131n\u0131z? \u015e\u00fcbh\u0259siz ki, yaln\u0131z bir ne\u00e7\u0259niz m\u00fcsb\u0259t cavab ver\u0259c\u0259k.<\/p>\n
B\u0259s bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn n\u0259 laz\u0131md\u0131r?<\/strong><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik \u00fc\u00e7 anlay\u0131\u015fdan ibar\u0259tdir: \u0130st\u0259yir\u0259m, ed\u0259 bil\u0259r\u0259m v\u0259 etm\u0259liy\u0259m.<\/p>\n Ad\u0259t\u0259n insanlarda bu ard\u0131c\u0131ll\u0131q pozulur. \u0130st\u0259yirik, amma ed\u0259 bilmirik. \u0130\u015fl\u0259ri nec\u0259 yoluna qoymaq olar? \u0130st\u0259yirsinizs\u0259, \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. \u0130st\u0259nil\u0259n f\u0259aliyy\u0259t yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r. S\u0259nd\u0259n sad\u0259c\u0259 ba\u015flamaq t\u0259l\u0259b olunur. H\u0259r k\u0259sin f\u0259rqli ist\u0259kl\u0259ri var. Ancaq bunlar\u0131n \u00e7e\u015fidl\u0259nm\u0259si d\u0259 vacibdir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, i\u00e7m\u0259k h\u0259v\u0259si qeyri-t\u0259bii bir \u015feydir. \u0130\u00e7ki \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t inki\u015faf\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259n\u0259zz\u00fcl\u00fcn\u0259 g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r. Bu c\u00fcr ziddiyy\u0259tli ist\u0259kl\u0259rd\u0259n qurtulmaq t\u0259l\u0259b olunur. F\u0259aliyy\u0259tl\u0259r f\u0259rdi inki\u015faf\u0131n\u0131za t\u0259kan verm\u0259lidir. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fczd\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259m\u0259k strategiyas\u0131 el\u0259 qurulmal\u0131d\u0131r ki, m\u00fcmk\u00fcn q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7oxuna nail ola bil\u0259siniz. \u0130nsan \u0259vv\u0259lc\u0259 ist\u0259kl\u0259rini h\u0259yata ke\u00e7irm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Bir h\u0259d\u0259f se\u00e7diyin zaman, ilk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259, getdiyin yolun ora apar\u0131b-aparmad\u0131\u011fn\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259n. \u018fg\u0259r bu yol s\u0259nin deyils\u0259, o zaman istiqam\u0259ti d\u0259yi\u015fdirm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. Daxili q\u00fcvv\u0259l\u0259r bizi do\u011fru yola y\u00f6n\u0259ldir.<\/p>\n A\u011fac\u0131n yuxar\u0131ya do\u011fru b\u00f6y\u00fcm\u0259y\u0259 meylli oldu\u011fu m\u0259lumdur. \u018fg\u0259r al\u0131nm\u0131rsa, o zaman budaqlar\u0131 k\u0259nara t\u0259r\u0259f uzanma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. Qar\u015f\u0131dak\u0131 mane\u0259 aradan qalxd\u0131qda yenid\u0259n yuxar\u0131 do\u011fru uzanma\u011fa davam edir.<\/p>\n D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcb bir q\u0259rara g\u0259lin v\u0259 d\u0259rhal h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t\u0259 ke\u00e7in<\/strong><\/p>\n A\u011fla g\u0259l\u0259n ilk v\u0259 do\u011fru d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259ni xat\u0131rlamaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u018fg\u0259r bu, u\u011furlu al\u0131nmazsa, h\u0259yat\u0131n axar\u0131na etibar etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u018fsas odur ki, h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t et, t\u0259r\u0259dd\u00fcd etm\u0259. S\u0259hvl\u0259rd\u0259n qorxmamal\u0131san, u\u011fursuzluq u\u011furdan yeddi qat daha faydal\u0131d\u0131r. Probleml\u0259r n\u00f6vb\u0259ti d\u0259f\u0259 s\u0259hvl\u0259rinizi anlama\u011fa v\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn davranma\u011fa k\u00f6m\u0259k edir. Niy\u0259 d\u00fcz yeddi d\u0259f\u0259? Beyind\u0259 m\u00fcsb\u0259t emosiyalar 35%, m\u0259nfi hissl\u0259r is\u0259 5% t\u0259\u015fkil edir. Odur ki, insan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc pis hiss etdikd\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r. U\u011fursuzluqlar bizi ayaq \u00fcst\u0259 saxlay\u0131r, onlardan qorxma\u011fa ehtiyac yoxdur, onlars\u0131z inki\u015faf da yoxdur.<\/p>\n Q\u0259dim yunan h\u00f6kmdar\u0131 Polikrat \u00e7ox \u015fansl\u0131 idi. Misir kral\u0131 Amasis ona deyirdi ki, \u0259g\u0259r eyni ruhda davam ets\u0259niz, h\u0259r an bu \u015fans b\u00f6y\u00fck bir u\u011fursuzlu\u011fa \u00e7evril\u0259 bil\u0259r. Tanr\u0131lar\u0131n q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan yay\u0131nmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259y\u0259rli bir \u0259\u015fya se\u00e7m\u0259k v\u0259 onu tullamaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. Polikrat \u0259n sevdiyi \u00fcz\u00fcy\u00fc se\u00e7ib d\u0259niz\u0259 at\u0131r. Bu itki h\u00f6kmdar\u0131 \u00e7ox k\u0259d\u0259rl\u0259ndirir. Ancaq bir g\u00fcn bal\u0131q\u00e7\u0131 bal\u0131q tutur v\u0259 onu birba\u015fa kral\u0131n masas\u0131na g\u00f6nd\u0259rir. A\u015fpaz yem\u0259yi haz\u0131rlama\u011fa ba\u015flayanda it\u0259n \u00fcz\u00fcy\u00fc bal\u0131\u011f\u0131n i\u00e7ind\u0259n tap\u0131r. Polikrat\u0131n bu d\u0259f\u0259 d\u0259 \u015fans\u0131 r\u0259van gedir v\u0259 yenid\u0259n \u015fans\u0131na \u00e7ox g\u00fcv\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r. Lakin qon\u015fu bir d\u00f6vl\u0259t\u0259 h\u00fccum ed\u0259nd\u0259 h\u00f6kmdar faci\u0259li \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 h\u0259lak olur.<\/p>\n V\u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259ri v\u0259 dig\u0259r insanlar\u0131 d\u0259yi\u015fdirm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n, ancaq \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc d\u0259yi\u015fdirin v\u0259 \u015f\u0259rait\u0259 uy\u011funla\u015f\u0131n. V\u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259r zehni bax\u0131mdan b\u00f6y\u00fcm\u0259y\u0259n \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259ri d\u0259yi\u015fdirm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Odur ki, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc v\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259t\u0259 bax\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 d\u0259yi\u015fdirm\u0259lisiniz. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, \u0259vv\u0259ll\u0259r h\u00fcnd\u00fcrl\u00fckl\u0259rd\u0259n v\u0259 da\u011fa qalxmaqdan qorxurdum. \u0130\u00e7imd\u0259 \u00e7axna\u015fma v\u0259 narahatl\u0131q yaratm\u0131\u015fd\u0131lar. \u0130ndi da\u011flar m\u0259ni \u00e7a\u011f\u0131r\u0131r v\u0259 h\u0259y\u0259canland\u0131r\u0131r. N\u0259 ba\u015f verdi? Da\u011flar d\u0259yi\u015fdi? Xeyr, \u0259vv\u0259lki yerind\u0259dil\u0259r. \u00d6z\u00fcm\u00fc d\u0259yi\u015fdim.<\/p>\n Psixoloji bax\u0131mdan yetkin insan h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t edir!<\/strong><\/p>\n Zehni bax\u0131mdan yetkin olmayan bir insan b\u00fct\u00fcn s\u0259yl\u0259rini \u015f\u0259xsi h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259nziml\u0259nm\u0259sin\u0259 y\u00f6n\u0259ldir. Yetkin bir \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcns\u0259 \u0259m\u0259ll\u0259r, m\u00fcst\u0259qillik \u0259ld\u0259 etm\u0259k daha vacibdir. Bel\u0259 bir insan\u0131n \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259ti v\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fc t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n t\u0259nziml\u0259nir. \u0130kinci yar\u0131n\u0131 tapmaqda \u00e7\u0259tinlik \u00e7\u0259k\u0259n, \u015f\u0259xsi h\u0259yatda u\u011fur \u0259ld\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259n pasientl\u0259rim olub. Onlara \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f yolu kimi daha \u00e7ox pul qazanma\u011f\u0131 t\u00f6vsiy\u0259 etdim. H\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t sonra \u015f\u0259xsi h\u0259yatlar\u0131 yax\u015f\u0131la\u015fd\u0131, ba\u015fqa s\u00f6zl\u0259, namiz\u0259dl\u0259rin d\u0259 say\u0131 artma\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131.<\/p>\n Zehni olaraq yetkin bir insan\u0131n ehtiyaclar\u0131 onlar\u0131n m\u00fcv\u0259ff\u0259qiyy\u0259tind\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r. Yetkin olmayan bir insan is\u0259 ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131 kopyalay\u0131r. Yetkin bir insan b\u00fct\u00fcn i\u015fl\u0259rini t\u0259kba\u015f\u0131na t\u0259nziml\u0259yir, yetkin olmayan bir insan is\u0259 ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n etm\u0259sini xahi\u015f edir.<\/p>\n Psixoloji c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n yetkin olmayan bir \u015f\u0259xs nec\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fcy\u00fcnd\u0259n h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 narahatd\u0131r. Yetkin insan bundan narahat deyil. Ancaq h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr. Yetkin olmayan insan y\u00fcks\u0259k v\u0259zif\u0259 tutma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Bel\u0259 bir insan \u00e7ox \u015fey\u0259 sahib olmaq ist\u0259yir, eyni zamanda f\u0259rdi inki\u015fafla m\u0259\u015f\u011ful olmur. V\u0259zif\u0259 yetkin insana \u00f6z\u00fc g\u0259lir. Bu, \u015f\u0259xsi inki\u015faf\u0131n m\u0259hsuludur. Barmaq uclar\u0131nda durun v\u0259 durdu\u011funuz vaxt\u0131 qeyd edin. Bu v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r dayana bilmisiniz? \u00c7ox g\u00fcman ki, \u00e7ox deyil. Bu v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t qala bilm\u0259zsiniz. Ancaq m\u0259n\u0259vi v\u0259 zehni inki\u015faf sonsuzdur.<\/p>\n Yaln\u0131z y\u00fcks\u0259k h\u0259d\u0259fl\u0259r qoymaq laz\u0131md\u0131r, \u00e7\u00fcnki yaln\u0131z bir yol t\u0259n\u0259zz\u00fcl\u0259, \u00e7oxu is\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck bir yola apar\u0131r.<\/p>\n \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, h\u0259d\u0259fl\u0259rin realla\u015fma ehtimal\u0131n\u0131n n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r oldu\u011funu unutmamal\u0131san. Ki\u00e7ik h\u0259d\u0259fl\u0259r s\u0259ni he\u00e7 bir n\u00f6qt\u0259y\u0259 aparmayacaq, b\u00f6y\u00fck h\u0259d\u0259f \u0259n az\u0131 bir \u015fey \u0259ld\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259 imkan ver\u0259c\u0259k. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, \u0259b\u0259di h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t ma\u015f\u0131n\u0131 icad etm\u0259k olarm\u0131? Bunu etm\u0259y\u0259 ehtiyac yoxdur. Ba\u015fqa bir insan\u0131 yenid\u0259n t\u0259rbiy\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259 he\u00e7 vaxt m\u00fcv\u0259ff\u0259q olmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z kimi, c\u0259hd etm\u0259k d\u0259 laz\u0131m deyil.<\/p>\n Bir insan \u00fc\u00e7 insan\u0131n xo\u015funa g\u0259lm\u0259lidir: \u00f6z\u00fc, bossu v\u0259 sevdiyi.<\/p>\n H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdan da, i\u015finizd\u0259n d\u0259 ayr\u0131la bil\u0259rsiniz, lakin \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fczd\u0259n qa\u00e7ma\u011fa he\u00e7 bir yeriniz yoxdur. Buna g\u00f6r\u0259, ilk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc b\u0259y\u0259nm\u0259lisiniz. Bir \u00e7ox insan u\u015faqlar\u0131n d\u00f6rd\u00fcnc\u00fc s\u0131rada q\u0259rarla\u015fmas\u0131na etiraz edir. U\u015faqlar sizi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fczd\u0259n d\u0259 tez t\u0259kr ed\u0259c\u0259k. 12-14 ya\u015flar\u0131nda, art\u0131q valideynl\u0259rin\u0259 xor baxma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131rlar, onlar\u0131 anlam\u0131rlar. 20 ya\u015f\u0131nda is\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn t\u0259rbiy\u0259 il\u0259 evd\u0259n ya tamam\u0259n, ya da qism\u0259n gedirl\u0259r. Ancaq d\u00fczg\u00fcn qurulan m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r 40-50 il davam ed\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n Yaln\u0131z u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131z \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ya\u015faya bilm\u0259zsiniz. Onu el\u0259 yeti\u015fdirm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r ki, 20 ya\u015f\u0131nda \u00f6z\u00fc-\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc doland\u0131ra bilsin, ayaqlar\u0131 \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 dayanma\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259nsin. U\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131z \u0259kiziniz ola bilm\u0259z. \u0130nki\u015faf u\u015faqlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n biz\u0259 ita\u0259t etm\u0259m\u0259si il\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259dard\u0131r. \u018fks t\u0259qdird\u0259 h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 ma\u011farada ya\u015fayard\u0131q. Yeni bir fikir etirazlara s\u0259b\u0259b olur.<\/p>\n Bir az tale haqq\u0131nda dan\u0131\u015fmaq ist\u0259rdim. H\u0259yat ssenarisind\u0259n nec\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xmaq olar? Ba\u015flan\u011f\u0131cda insan b\u0259d\u0259ni b\u00f6y\u00fcm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn proqramla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131l\u0131b, ancaq “viruslar” f\u0259aliyy\u0259t\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r v\u0259 mane\u0259l\u0259r d\u00fcz\u0259ldir. Kainat qanunlar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 insan ist\u0259nil\u0259n halda yaln\u0131z ir\u0259li do\u011fru h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t etm\u0259lidir. H\u0259m\u00e7inin \u015fikay\u0259tl\u0259r he\u00e7 vaxt bitm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k, ancaq onlar\u0131 v\u0259 ehtiyaclar\u0131n s\u0259viyy\u0259sini qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259k olar.<\/p>\n M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, kims\u0259 avtomobilin olmamas\u0131ndan \u015fikay\u0259tl\u0259nir, bu, ba\u015fqa bir s\u0259viyy\u0259dir. Amma ba\u015fqas\u0131 qaraj arzulay\u0131rsa, bu tamamil\u0259 f\u0259rqli bir s\u0259viyy\u0259d\u0259dir. Taleyi d\u0259yi\u015fdirm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ssenarid\u0259n \u00e7\u0131xmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc d\u0259yi\u015fdirin, o zaman ssenari d\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015f\u0259c\u0259k, \u0259n \u0259sas\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz haqq\u0131nda h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 y\u00fcks\u0259k fikird\u0259 olun.<\/p>\n \u0130nsan ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 kopyalamamal\u0131, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc yaratmal\u0131d\u0131r. Napoleon Bonapartn dediyi kimi, general olmaq ist\u0259m\u0259y\u0259n \u0259sg\u0259r, yax\u015f\u0131 \u0259sg\u0259r deyil… He\u00e7 bir i\u015f g\u00f6rm\u00fcrs\u0259ns\u0259, s\u0259n\u0259 nec\u0259 k\u00f6m\u0259k etm\u0259k olar? Odur ki, taleyin bataql\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131xmal\u0131san. G\u00fclm\u0259li g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxma, olmaqdan qorx. Bu \u00fcmumi bilin\u0259n bir h\u0259qiq\u0259tdir. \u0130nsan q\u0131naqdan qorxmamal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130mkanlar\u0131n\u0131zdan istifad\u0259 etm\u0259lisiniz, ancaq bunlardan k\u0259nara \u00e7\u0131xmamal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcz \u00fcz\u0259rinizd\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259yin, ba\u015fqalar\u0131 haqq\u0131nda d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259yin<\/strong><\/p>\n Bunu ets\u0259niz, f\u0259aliyy\u0259tin keyfiyy\u0259tinin n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r s\u00fcr\u0259tl\u0259 artaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6r\u0259c\u0259ksiniz. Al\u0131nan n\u0259tic\u0259 – d\u00fczg\u00fcn t\u0259\u015fkil olunmu\u015f f\u0259aliyy\u0259tin m\u0259hsuludur. Diqq\u0259tinizi ba\u015fqalar\u0131na deyil, i\u015finiz\u0259 y\u00f6n\u0259ltm\u0259lisiniz.<\/p>\n M\u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259rinizi qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirin<\/strong><\/p>\n Biz kimis\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz haqq\u0131nda yax\u015f\u0131 dan\u0131\u015fma\u011fa m\u0259cbur ed\u0259 bil\u0259rik, amma haqq\u0131m\u0131zda yax\u015f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259cbur ed\u0259 bilm\u0259rik. Odur ki, ba\u015fqalar\u0131na baxmaq laz\u0131m deyil. \u00d6z yolunu izl\u0259m\u0259k vacibdir. Xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik axtar\u0131\u015flar\u0131na \u00e7\u0131xma\u011fa ehtiyac yoxdur. Xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik axtaran ki\u015fi ba\u015f\u0131ndak\u0131 eyn\u0259yi itir\u0259n ya\u015fl\u0131 bir qad\u0131na b\u0259nz\u0259yir.<\/p>\n Yay\u0131lm\u0131\u015f aforizml\u0259rd\u0259n biri budur ki, d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259ninizin yerini \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259k ist\u0259yirsinizs\u0259, g\u00fczg\u00fcy\u0259 bax\u0131n. \u0130nsan\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 etdiyi pisliyi he\u00e7 kim ed\u0259 bilm\u0259z. V\u0259 yaln\u0131z \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz h\u0259r \u015feyi d\u00fcz\u0259ld\u0259 bil\u0259rik.<\/p>\n \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc inki\u015faf etdirm\u0259k v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc tan\u0131tmaq u\u011furun yegan\u0259 a\u00e7ar\u0131d\u0131r! (publika.az)<\/p>\n