Ail\u0259 ki\u00e7ik bir d\u00f6vl\u0259tdir. Onun da \u00f6z qanunlar\u0131, \u00f6z b\u00fcdc\u0259si v\u0259 \u00f6z qalas\u0131 var. Lakin, ail\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00f6vl\u0259td\u0259n daha h\u0259ssas bir institutdur. Burda h\u0259r \u015fey sevgi \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulur.<\/p>\n
T\u0259m\u0259li g\u00fccl\u00fc sevgi, qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259t v\u0259 etibar \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 in\u015fa edil\u0259n ail\u0259l\u0259r bir qayda olaraq uzun\u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fc olur. Bel\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259r h\u0259yat\u0131n \u0259n s\u0259rt t\u0259pkisin\u0259 bel\u0259 sin\u0259 g\u0259rir, ist\u0259nil\u0259n iqtisadi b\u00f6hrandan u\u011furla \u00e7\u0131x\u0131rlar. Lakin, hissl\u0259r v\u0259 korporativ maraqlar \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulan ail\u0259l\u0259r bir qayda olaraq tez da\u011f\u0131l\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Sev\u0259nl\u0259rin \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fckl\u0259ri odur ki, onlar ba\u011f\u0131\u015flaya bilirl\u0259r. Sevgi o zaman \u0259b\u0259di v\u0259 uzun\u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fc olur ki, insan qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndak\u0131n\u0131 n\u00f6qsanlar\u0131 v\u0259 \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmazl\u0131qlar\u0131 il\u0259 b\u0259y\u0259nir.<\/p>\n
Bel\u0259 bir deyim var: \u201cSevgi qurtaran yerd\u0259, x\u0259yan\u0259t ba\u015flay\u0131r\u201d. Y\u0259ni hisl\u0259r ke\u00e7icidir, ya da m\u0259\u015fhur bir filosofun deyimin\u0259 inansaq, \u201csevm\u0259k \u0259xlaqs\u0131zl\u0131q \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn b\u0259han\u0259dir\u201d. G\u00fcnd\u0259 birin\u0259 a\u015fiq olub ya\u015famaq insanl\u0131q \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn da\u011f\u0131d\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r v\u0259 ali missiyan\u0131n deformasiyas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bizim.Media-ya dan\u0131\u015fan tan\u0131nm\u0131\u015f psixoloq G\u00fclnar Orucova da bu fikirl\u0259ri t\u0259sdiq edib. Psixoloqla haz\u0131rlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z q\u0131sa m\u00fcsahib\u0259ni t\u0259qdim edirik:<\/p>\n
– G\u00fclnar xan\u0131m, ki\u015fi-qad\u0131n m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 hans\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 daha \u00e7ox meyilli olur?<\/strong><\/p>\n – X\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 \u0259n \u00e7ox meyilli olan t\u0259r\u0259f ki\u015fil\u0259rdir. Qad\u0131nlar monoqam, ki\u015fil\u0259rs\u0259 poliqamd\u0131r. Ki\u015fi daim h\u0259y\u0259can axtar\u0131\u015f\u0131nda olur. Ki\u015fi sev\u0259-sev\u0259 d\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259 bil\u0259r. \u00c7\u00fcnki, ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259 ehtiras daha g\u00fccl\u00fcd\u00fcr. B\u0259z\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259r evliliyin \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc g\u00fcn\u00fc xan\u0131m\u0131na x\u0259yan\u0259t edir. Qad\u0131nlar is\u0259 \u0259n az\u0131 8-9 il \u0259rin\u0259 sadiq qal\u0131r. Yaln\u0131z bu m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259n sonra bir \u00e7ox qad\u0131nlar anlay\u0131r ki, g\u00f6zl\u0259diyi \u201ca\u011f atl\u0131 o\u011flan\u201d qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndak\u0131 ki\u015fi deyilmi\u015f. V\u0259 h\u0259r \u015feyin gec oldu\u011funu anlayan qad\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 gedir.<\/p>\n M\u0259n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcr\u0259m ki, qad\u0131n t\u0259kc\u0259 \u0259rin\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edir, yox, o h\u0259m d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edir. \u00c7\u00fcnki, namus t\u0259kc\u0259 ki\u015finin \u015f\u0259r\u0259fi deyil, h\u0259m d\u0259 ail\u0259nin v\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n \u015fan\u0131d\u0131r, \u015f\u00f6hr\u0259tidir. Qad\u0131n\u0131 x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 s\u00fcr\u00fckl\u00fcy\u0259n bir s\u0259b\u0259b d\u0259 mental x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259timizdir.<\/p>\n M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, qad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, \u201cbo\u015fansam ikinci d\u0259f\u0259 ail\u0259 qura bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259m\u201d. \u00c7\u00fcnki, bizd\u0259 bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f qad\u0131na h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 pis bax\u0131l\u0131r. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 qad\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, \u201cevliliyimi qoruya-qoruya yeni mac\u0259ra ya\u015famaq daha yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r\u201d. \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, x\u0259yan\u0259td\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn hallarda m\u0259n qad\u0131nlar\u0131 g\u00fcnahkar hesab edir\u0259m. \u0130st\u0259nil\u0259n x\u0259yan\u0259tin s\u0259b\u0259bi var. Qad\u0131n da \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r ki, o s\u0259b\u0259bi ki\u015fiy\u0259 verm\u0259sin, sonra da \u00f6z\u00fc x\u0259yan\u0259tkar olmas\u0131n.<\/p>\n – Ail\u0259nin qorunmas\u0131nda hans\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f daha \u00e7ox maraql\u0131 olur?<\/strong><\/p>\n – Ail\u0259nin qorunmas\u0131nda qad\u0131n t\u0259r\u0259fi daha \u00e7ox maraql\u0131 olur. Qad\u0131n ist\u0259mir bo\u015fana, ba\u015fs\u0131z v\u0259 arxas\u0131\u0131z qala. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 qad\u0131nlar ail\u0259nin qorunmas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn sona q\u0259d\u0259r m\u00fcbariz\u0259 apar\u0131rlar. Qad\u0131n ail\u0259sini qorumaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn b\u0259z\u0259n \u015fantaja bel\u0259 gedir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131 qorxudur ki, \u201cu\u015faqlar\u0131 g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcb ged\u0259c\u0259m, s\u0259n\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259m\u201d, filan v\u0259 s.<\/p>\n – N\u0259y\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 ki\u015finin x\u0259yan\u0259ti ba\u011f\u0131\u015flan\u0131l\u0131r, qad\u0131nlar\u0131nk\u0131 yox?<\/strong><\/p>\n – Ki\u015fil\u0259rin x\u0259yan\u0259ti ona g\u00f6r\u0259 ba\u011f\u0131\u015flan\u0131l\u0131r ki, onlar a\u011f\u0131llar\u0131 il\u0259 deyil hissl\u0259ri il\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 gedirl\u0259r. Buna fizioloji ehtiyac da dem\u0259k olar. Amma qad\u0131nlar a\u011f\u0131llar\u0131 il\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edirl\u0259r. \u0130st\u0259nil\u0259n qad\u0131n x\u0259y\u0259n\u0259t etm\u0259mi\u015fd\u0259n qabaq xeyli d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr v\u0259 sonda q\u0259rar verir. Bel\u0259 dey\u0259k d\u0259, ki\u015fil\u0259r x\u0259yan\u0259ti anlaqs\u0131z \u015f\u0259raitd\u0259 edir, qad\u0131nlarsa m\u0259qs\u0259dli v\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclm\u00fc\u015f \u015f\u0259kild\u0259. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 qad\u0131nlar\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259ti ba\u011f\u0131\u015flan\u0131lm\u0131r.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Ail\u0259 ki\u00e7ik bir d\u00f6vl\u0259tdir. Onun da \u00f6z qanunlar\u0131, \u00f6z b\u00fcdc\u0259si v\u0259 \u00f6z qalas\u0131 var. Lakin, ail\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00f6vl\u0259td\u0259n daha h\u0259ssas bir institutdur. Burda h\u0259r \u015fey sevgi \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulur. T\u0259m\u0259li g\u00fccl\u00fc sevgi, qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259t v\u0259 etibar \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 in\u015fa edil\u0259n ail\u0259l\u0259r bir qayda olaraq uzun\u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fc olur. Bel\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259r h\u0259yat\u0131n \u0259n s\u0259rt t\u0259pkisin\u0259 bel\u0259 sin\u0259 g\u0259rir, ist\u0259nil\u0259n iqtisadi b\u00f6hrandan u\u011furla \u00e7\u0131x\u0131rlar. Lakin, hissl\u0259r v\u0259 korporativ maraqlar \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulan ail\u0259l\u0259r bir qayda olaraq tez da\u011f\u0131l\u0131r. Sev\u0259nl\u0259rin \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fckl\u0259ri odur ki, onlar ba\u011f\u0131\u015flaya bilirl\u0259r. Sevgi o zaman \u0259b\u0259di v\u0259 uzun\u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fc olur ki, insan qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndak\u0131n\u0131…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":483739,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/ct-emotional-affair-.jpg",920,614,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/ct-emotional-affair-.jpg",920,614,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/ct-emotional-affair-.jpg",920,614,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/ct-emotional-affair--500x280.jpg",500,280,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/ct-emotional-affair--547x365.jpg",547,365,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/ct-emotional-affair--840x561.jpg",640,427,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/ct-emotional-affair-.jpg",920,614,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/ct-emotional-affair-.jpg",920,614,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/ct-emotional-affair--240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/06\/ct-emotional-affair-.jpg",920,614,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"Ail\u0259 ki\u00e7ik bir d\u00f6vl\u0259tdir. Onun da \u00f6z qanunlar\u0131, \u00f6z b\u00fcdc\u0259si v\u0259 \u00f6z qalas\u0131 var. Lakin, ail\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00f6vl\u0259td\u0259n daha h\u0259ssas bir institutdur. Burda h\u0259r \u015fey sevgi \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulur. T\u0259m\u0259li g\u00fccl\u00fc sevgi, qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259t v\u0259 etibar \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 in\u015fa edil\u0259n ail\u0259l\u0259r bir qayda olaraq uzun\u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fc olur. Bel\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259r h\u0259yat\u0131n \u0259n s\u0259rt t\u0259pkisin\u0259 bel\u0259 sin\u0259 g\u0259rir, ist\u0259nil\u0259n iqtisadi…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/483738"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=483738"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/483738\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/483739"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=483738"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=483738"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=483738"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}