Ail\u0259 ki\u00e7ik bir c\u0259miyy\u0259tdir. H\u0259r bir ail\u0259nin d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn t\u0259nziml\u0259nm\u0259 qaydalar\u0131 var. Ail\u0259 f\u0259rdl\u0259ri h\u0259r g\u00fcn \u00f6z diqq\u0259t v\u0259 sevgisini bir-birin\u0259 hiss etdirib g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259, ya\u015fana bil\u0259c\u0259k bir \u00e7ox m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259rin qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 ala bil\u0259rl\u0259r.<\/p>\n
Psixoloqlar bildirirl\u0259r ki, ail\u0259l\u0259r m\u00fcxt\u0259lifdir. Tam ail\u0259, natamam ail\u0259, qar\u0131\u015f\u0131q, \u0259lav\u0259 olunmu\u015f, avtoritar, patriarxal, psixosomatik m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259li ail\u0259l\u0259r, genetik c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011fa meyilli olan ail\u0259l\u0259r v\u0259 s. Ad\u0259t\u0259n zahir\u0259n ail\u0259 olma\u011fa q\u0259rar ver\u0259n c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r bir-birin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 qay\u011f\u0131ke\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcns\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259, onlar aras\u0131nda m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259 az t\u0259sad\u00fcf olunmur. M\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssisl\u0259rin fikrinc\u0259, ail\u0259d\u0259nk\u0259nar sferalarda \u00a0c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin f\u0259rdi u\u011fursuzluqlar\u0131 i\u015fl\u0259rind\u0259ki yor\u011funluq, sosial \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259rl\u0259 v\u0259 ya \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259tinliyi il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 olur. Bel\u0259 ki, dan\u0131\u015fma\u011fa m\u00f6vzular\u0131 bitdikd\u0259 aralar\u0131nda olan emosional \u0259laq\u0259l\u0259r z\u0259ifl\u0259yir, bir-birinin problemi il\u0259 maraqlanm\u0131r, t\u0259crid olur, m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 k\u0259skin m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259r yaran\u0131r. Onlar \u00f6z xarakterl\u0259rind\u0259ki q\u00fcsurlar\u0131 aradan qald\u0131rma\u011fa c\u0259hd g\u00f6st\u0259rmir, bir-birl\u0259rin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 d\u00f6z\u00fcms\u00fcz olurlar. Bel\u0259 ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 alan u\u015faqlar m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259rin yaranmas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b olan valideyn\u0259 sevgi b\u0259sl\u0259mir, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259ri ail\u0259 quranda \u00e7\u0259tinlik \u00e7\u0259kir, nifr\u0259t ruhunda, travmal\u0131 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcrl\u0259r. Bu kimi hallar\u0131n sonralar n\u0259 kimi f\u0259sadlar t\u00f6r\u0259d\u0259c\u0259yini g\u00f6r\u0259n valideynl\u0259rd\u0259n biri bo\u015fanma\u011fa \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck verir.<\/p>\n
Psixoloqlar m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259l\u0259rin\u0259 \u0259sas\u0259n bildirirl\u0259r ki, sonradan yaranan natamam ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 is\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259t m\u00fcxt\u0259lif olur. Onlar ayr\u0131lsalar da, bir-birl\u0259rin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fan, dost olan valideynl\u0259r olur, bel\u0259 olduqda da \u00f6vlad\u0131 v\u0259 ya \u00f6vladlar\u0131 \u00f6zl\u0259rini daha xo\u015fb\u0259xt v\u0259 rahat hiss edirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n
B\u00fct\u00fcn sevgisini \u00f6vladlar\u0131na y\u00f6n\u0259ld\u0259n, onlara h\u0259dsiz m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259tl\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n analar daha nikbin, c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 yararl\u0131, inaml\u0131, ba\u015fqalar\u0131na sevgi ruhunda \u00f6vladlar b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcrl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 u\u015faqlar xeyirli v\u0259t\u0259nda\u015f olur, \u00e7\u0259tin situasiyalardan yax\u015f\u0131 ba\u015f \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r, valideynl\u0259rin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259t ruhunda b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcrl\u0259r. Lakin \u0259ks\u0259r ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 bunun \u0259ksini g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck. M\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 laqeyd, kobud olan, fiziki g\u00fcc t\u0259tbiq ed\u0259n, ail\u0259nin, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n t\u0259l\u0259batlar\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 etinas\u0131z yana\u015fan atalar\u0131n oldu\u011fu ail\u0259l\u0259rin \u00f6vladlar\u0131 m\u0259n\u0259vi, emosional t\u0259l\u0259batlar\u0131n\u0131 ail\u0259d\u0259n k\u0259narda tapma\u011fa c\u0259hd g\u00f6st\u0259rirl\u0259r. \u00d6z \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 aqressiv valideynin fiziki zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 duymu\u015f u\u015faq sonralar \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 ba\u015fqalar\u0131 il\u0259 bel\u0259 davran\u0131r. Psixoloqlar qeyd edirl\u0259r ki, ail\u0259d\u0259 yolda\u015f\u0131na fiziki \u015fidd\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259rin \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti \u00f6vladlar\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 da bu c\u00fcr m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015f\u0131rlar. Fiziki zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011fa m\u0259ruz qalanlar \u00f6zl\u0259rini b\u0259db\u0259xt, g\u00f6zd\u0259n d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fc\u015f, q\u0259tiyy\u0259tsiz, g\u0259r\u0259ksiz hiss edir v\u0259 ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n onlardan yax\u015f\u0131 oldu\u011fu q\u0259na\u0259tin\u0259 g\u0259lirl\u0259r. Normal \u015f\u0259raitd\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259n v\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 olunan u\u015faqlar c\u0259zaya etiraz edirl\u0259r. \u018flveri\u015fsiz m\u00fchitd\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259n, fiziki zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011fa m\u0259ruz qalan u\u015faqlar is\u0259, ad\u0259t\u0259n veril\u0259n c\u0259zan\u0131n do\u011frulu\u011funa inan\u0131r, k\u00f6l\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259li olur, \u00f6z fikirl\u0259rini ifad\u0259 etm\u0259kd\u0259 \u00e7\u0259tinlik \u00e7\u0259kir, arzular\u0131n\u0131 q\u0259lbl\u0259rind\u0259 bo\u011furlar. M\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssisl\u0259r d\u0259 bildirirl\u0259r ki, psixikaya vurulan z\u0259rb\u0259nin f\u0259sadlar\u0131 sonradan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc k\u0259skin b\u00fcruz\u0259 verir, u\u015faq travmal\u0131 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcr, \u00e7ox vaxt davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 n\u0259zar\u0259ti itirir, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcqiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 enir, insanlara qar\u015f\u0131 inam\u0131, etibar\u0131 yox olur, k\u0259skin qorxu hissi ba\u015f qald\u0131r\u0131r, ba\u015fqalar\u0131na \u0259zab verm\u0259k, sadizm meyili yaran\u0131r. Valideynl\u0259rin aqressiyas\u0131, zorak\u0131l\u0131q g\u00fcnd\u0259lik h\u0259yat t\u0259rzin\u0259 \u00e7evrilir. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n valideynl\u0259rin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 hissl\u0259ri “donmu\u015f” olur, bir b\u0259db\u0259xtlik \u00fcz ver\u0259nd\u0259 etinas\u0131z yana\u015f\u0131rlar, onlarda empatiya qabiliyy\u0259ti z\u0259if inki\u015faf edir. Ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n k\u0259d\u0259rin\u0259 \u015f\u0259rik olmaq, u\u011furlar\u0131na sevinm\u0259k kimi hissl\u0259r\u0259 sahib ola bilmirl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 ki, ya\u015fland\u0131qca bel\u0259 valideynl\u0259r \u00f6zl\u0259ri yeti\u015fdirdiyi \u00f6vladlardan diqq\u0259t, qay\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u0259dikd\u0259, etinas\u0131zl\u0131qla \u00fczl\u0259\u015fdikd\u0259 etdikl\u0259ri s\u0259hvl\u0259ri g\u00f6rm\u00fcr, b\u0259ra\u0259t \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 nankor, z\u0259man\u0259 \u00f6vlad\u0131 kimi qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndir\u0259r\u0259k g\u00fcnahkarl\u0131q hissini \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259n uzaqla\u015fd\u0131rma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n
B\u0259z\u0259n atalar \u00f6z u\u015faql\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 xat\u0131rlayaraq valideynl\u0259rinin onlar\u0131 c\u0259zaland\u0131rd\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131, d\u00f6yd\u00fckl\u0259rini f\u0259xrl\u0259 s\u00f6yl\u0259yirl\u0259r. M\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n situasiyalarda bu c\u0259za \u00fcsulunu \u00f6z ail\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 d\u0259 t\u0259tbiq edir, bunun t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259li bir hal oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcrl\u0259r. Fiziki c\u0259zalar\u0131n vurdu\u011fu m\u0259n\u0259vi yaralar\u0131n f\u0259rqind\u0259 bel\u0259 olmurlar. Bel\u0259 c\u0259za \u00fcsulu valideyn il\u0259 u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n bir- birini anlamaq imkanlar\u0131na olan son \u00fcmidi d\u0259 m\u0259hv etmi\u015f olur. Psixoloqlar bildirirl\u0259r ki, fiziki c\u0259za alan u\u015faq bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t qorxudan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc \u0259d\u0259bl\u0259 aparsa da, \u0259trafdak\u0131lara qar\u015f\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 etinas\u0131z v\u0259 saymaz olur.<\/p>\n
M\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssisl\u0259rin ara\u015fd\u0131rmalar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259, yaranan m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259n biri d\u0259 bir insan\u0131n dig\u0259rl\u0259rin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 h\u0259dsiz diqq\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259si, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc unutmas\u0131d\u0131. Bel\u0259 adamlar \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 laqeyd, ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n m\u0259suliyy\u0259tini \u00f6z \u00fcz\u0259ril\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u0259y\u0259 meyilli olur, \u00f6zl\u0259rini unudur, \u00f6z “m\u0259n\u201dl\u0259rin\u0259 etinas\u0131z yana\u015f\u0131rlar. Onlara ehtiyac\u0131 olan insanlar h\u0259dsiz diqq\u0259t v\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131dan usan\u0131r, bu onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn adil\u0259\u015fir, \u00f6z \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tini itirm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r v\u0259 ona ehtiyac azalma\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131qda bunu q\u0259bul ed\u0259 bilmirl\u0259r. Psixoloqlar m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t g\u00f6r\u00fcrl\u0259r ki, \u0259vv\u0259lc\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn qay\u011f\u0131m\u0131za qalaq. Bel\u0259 olduqda \u0259trafdak\u0131lara n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r heyran olsaq da, \u0259zizl\u0259rimizi, yax\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 h\u0259dsiz sevs\u0259k d\u0259, onlara bu sevgimizi qay\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 do\u011fru g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259 v\u0259 diqq\u0259timizi qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f\u0259 d\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn istiqam\u0259tl\u0259ndir\u0259 bil\u0259rik. Bir s\u00f6zl\u0259, \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc d\u0259 sev\u0259k.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ail\u0259 ki\u00e7ik bir c\u0259miyy\u0259tdir. H\u0259r bir ail\u0259nin d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn t\u0259nziml\u0259nm\u0259 qaydalar\u0131 var. Ail\u0259 f\u0259rdl\u0259ri h\u0259r g\u00fcn \u00f6z diqq\u0259t v\u0259 sevgisini bir-birin\u0259 hiss etdirib g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259, ya\u015fana bil\u0259c\u0259k bir \u00e7ox m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259rin qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 ala bil\u0259rl\u0259r. Psixoloqlar bildirirl\u0259r ki, ail\u0259l\u0259r m\u00fcxt\u0259lifdir. Tam ail\u0259, natamam ail\u0259, qar\u0131\u015f\u0131q, \u0259lav\u0259 olunmu\u015f, avtoritar, patriarxal, psixosomatik m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259li ail\u0259l\u0259r, genetik c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011fa meyilli olan ail\u0259l\u0259r v\u0259 s. Ad\u0259t\u0259n zahir\u0259n ail\u0259 olma\u011fa q\u0259rar ver\u0259n c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r bir-birin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 qay\u011f\u0131ke\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcns\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259, onlar aras\u0131nda m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259 az t\u0259sad\u00fcf olunmur. M\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssisl\u0259rin fikrinc\u0259, ail\u0259d\u0259nk\u0259nar sferalarda \u00a0c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin f\u0259rdi u\u011fursuzluqlar\u0131 i\u015fl\u0259rind\u0259ki yor\u011funluq, sosial \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259rl\u0259 v\u0259 ya \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":494934,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[24],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/3e513928f3a547d0455c1006835e15bf_71484_80.jpg",975,540,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/3e513928f3a547d0455c1006835e15bf_71484_80.jpg",975,540,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/3e513928f3a547d0455c1006835e15bf_71484_80.jpg",975,540,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/3e513928f3a547d0455c1006835e15bf_71484_80-500x280.jpg",500,280,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/3e513928f3a547d0455c1006835e15bf_71484_80-660x365.jpg",660,365,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/3e513928f3a547d0455c1006835e15bf_71484_80-840x465.jpg",640,354,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/3e513928f3a547d0455c1006835e15bf_71484_80.jpg",975,540,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/3e513928f3a547d0455c1006835e15bf_71484_80.jpg",975,540,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/3e513928f3a547d0455c1006835e15bf_71484_80-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/07\/3e513928f3a547d0455c1006835e15bf_71484_80.jpg",975,540,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"Maraql\u0131<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"Ail\u0259 ki\u00e7ik bir c\u0259miyy\u0259tdir. H\u0259r bir ail\u0259nin d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn t\u0259nziml\u0259nm\u0259 qaydalar\u0131 var. Ail\u0259 f\u0259rdl\u0259ri h\u0259r g\u00fcn \u00f6z diqq\u0259t v\u0259 sevgisini bir-birin\u0259 hiss etdirib g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259, ya\u015fana bil\u0259c\u0259k bir \u00e7ox m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259rin qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 ala bil\u0259rl\u0259r. Psixoloqlar bildirirl\u0259r ki, ail\u0259l\u0259r m\u00fcxt\u0259lifdir. Tam ail\u0259, natamam ail\u0259, qar\u0131\u015f\u0131q, \u0259lav\u0259 olunmu\u015f, avtoritar, patriarxal, psixosomatik m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259li ail\u0259l\u0259r, genetik c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011fa meyilli olan ail\u0259l\u0259r…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/494933"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=494933"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/494933\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/494934"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=494933"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=494933"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=494933"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}