{"id":534298,"date":"2022-11-12T19:25:14","date_gmt":"2022-11-12T16:25:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=534298"},"modified":"2022-11-12T19:25:14","modified_gmt":"2022-11-12T16:25:14","slug":"hekay%c9%99l%c9%99ri-kitabla-baslayan-cutluk-ail%c9%99","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=534298","title":{"rendered":"Hekay\u0259l\u0259ri kitabla ba\u015flayan c\u00fctl\u00fck – A\u0130L\u018f"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sevgi hekay\u0259l\u0259ri zaman\u0131 ifad\u0259 ed\u0259n simvolik kitabla ba\u015flay\u0131b. \u201cZaman bizimdir. \u0130st\u0259s\u0259k, o kitab he\u00e7 vaxt bitm\u0259z, h\u0259r g\u00fcn birlikd\u0259 v\u0259r\u0259ql\u0259y\u0259rik\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc bir ail\u0259nin qurulmas\u0131 il\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259nib. O ail\u0259 ki, \u0259sas meyarlar\u0131 bir-birinin azadl\u0131qlar\u0131na mane olmamaq, fikirl\u0259rin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t etm\u0259k, b\u0259zi mental qanunlardan uzaq durmaqd\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u201cKaspi\u201d<\/strong><\/a>\u00a0q\u0259zetinin \u201cAil\u0259\u201d rubrikas\u0131n\u0131n bud\u0259f\u0259ki qonaqlar\u0131 Ail\u0259, Qad\u0131n v\u0259 U\u015faq Probleml\u0259ri \u00fczr\u0259 D\u00f6vl\u0259t Komit\u0259sinin \u0259m\u0259kda\u015f\u0131, psixoloq, t\u0259lim\u00e7i, \u201c\u0130nsan M\u00fch\u0259ndisliyi\u201d proqram\u0131n\u0131n m\u00fc\u0259llifi R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n N\u0259c\u0259fov v\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 S\u0259ma Qurband\u0131r.<\/p>\n

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R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n deyir ki, S\u0259man\u0131 \u015f\u0259xsi inki\u015fafla ba\u011fl\u0131 t\u0259lim ke\u00e7\u0259rk\u0259n tan\u0131y\u0131b. \u0130\u015ftirak\u00e7\u0131 il\u0259 t\u0259lim\u00e7i aras\u0131nda k\u00f6rp\u00fc olsa da, o, k\u00f6rp\u00fcn\u00fc y\u0131xma\u011f\u0131 bacar\u0131b: \u201c\u018fslind\u0259, auditoriyada \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f ed\u0259nd\u0259, m\u0259nim \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn i\u015ftirak\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n f\u0259rqi olmur. Sad\u0259c\u0259 olaraq, b\u0259z\u0259n el\u0259 bir emosional durum yaran\u0131r ki, s\u0259n onu anlaya bilmirs\u0259n. Bu t\u0259limd\u0259 d\u0259 el\u0259 oldu. Sonra bildim ki, bu, sevgidir\u201d.<\/p>\n

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S\u0259ma is\u0259 ilk tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131qda sevgi hiss etm\u0259yib: \u201cR\u00f6v\u015f\u0259ni g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn i\u00e7in\u0259 baxaraq, diqq\u0259tl\u0259 dinl\u0259yirdim. M\u0259nc\u0259, R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n bu bax\u0131\u015fdan t\u0259sirl\u0259nib. T\u0259limd\u0259n sonra qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ka\u011f\u0131z payland\u0131. He\u00e7 n\u0259 yazmad\u0131m. Fikirl\u0259\u015fdim ki, ham\u0131 t\u0259rifl\u0259yir, bir t\u0259rif d\u0259 \u0259skik olsun. Bu, R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259nin diqq\u0259tini \u00e7\u0259kib. Sonra ham\u0131 kollektiv \u015f\u0259kil \u00e7\u0259kdir\u0259nd\u0259, m\u0259n ist\u0259m\u0259dim, t\u0259l\u0259sirdim, \u00e7\u0131xmaq ist\u0259yirdim. R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n yax\u0131nla\u015fd\u0131 ki, siz niy\u0259 \u015f\u0259kil \u00e7\u0259kdirmirsiniz? Dedim ki, \u00e7ox sevmir\u0259m. Dedi, m\u0259n d\u0259 el\u0259y\u0259m. A\u011fl\u0131ma bel\u0259 g\u0259lm\u0259zdi ki, R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259nl\u0259 evl\u0259n\u0259rik. \u00c7\u00fcnki o zaman 3-c\u00fc kursda oxuyur, ancaq \u015f\u0259xsi inki\u015faf\u0131m bar\u0259sind\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrd\u00fcm. Sonra R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259nl\u0259 sosial platformalarda dostla\u015fd\u0131q. Uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t r\u0259smi, t\u0259l\u0259b\u0259-m\u00fc\u0259llim kimi dan\u0131\u015fd\u0131q. M\u0259n\u0259 \u015f\u0259xsi inki\u015fafla ba\u011fl\u0131 kitablar verir, onlar\u0131 g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrd\u00fck\u201d.<\/p>\n

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R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259ni d\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259b\u0259-m\u00fc\u0259llim m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti narahat edib. Amma vaxt\u0131n\u0131 da itirm\u0259k ist\u0259m\u0259yib: \u201c\u018fslind\u0259, o baryeri g\u00f6r\u00fcrd\u00fcm. Bizim dialoqlar daha \u00e7ox t\u00f6vsiy\u0259 xarakterli idi. Birinci g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fd\u0259n sonra anlad\u0131m ki, hissl\u0259rim f\u0259rqlidir v\u0259 bu insanla sevgi yolunu ged\u0259 bil\u0259r\u0259m. Fikirl\u0259rimi uzatmadan v\u0259 a\u00e7\u0131q ifad\u0259 etdim. B\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 1-2 il\u0259 gedil\u0259c\u0259k yolu, 1 g\u00fcn\u0259 getdim. \u00c7\u00fcnki sevginin vaxt\u0131 uzanmaml\u0131d\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n

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S\u0259ma: \u201cR\u00f6v\u015f\u0259nin m\u0259n\u0259 e\u015fq elan etm\u0259sini q\u0259tiyy\u0259n g\u00f6zl\u0259mirdim. R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn zaman o q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259y\u0259rlidir ki, onu bo\u015funa s\u0259rf etm\u0259k ist\u0259mir. El\u0259 ilk h\u0259diyy\u0259si d\u0259 zaman v\u0259 kitab\u0131n birl\u0259\u015fm\u0259sind\u0259n ibar\u0259t qum saat\u0131 idi. \u018fslind\u0259 o h\u0259diyy\u0259 il\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn xarakterini izah etmi\u015fdi\u201d.<\/p>\n

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R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n deyir ki, insan sevm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259, hissl\u0259rini idar\u0259 edir v\u0259 taktikalardan istifad\u0259 ed\u0259 bilir: \u201c\u0130lk d\u0259f\u0259 idi ki, hissl\u0259rimi nec\u0259 ifad\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259yimi bilmirdim. G\u00f6t\u00fcr-qoy edirdim ki, n\u0259 ets\u0259m, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin xo\u015funa g\u0259l\u0259r? Yaxud xo\u015funa g\u0259lm\u0259s\u0259, n\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259y\u0259m? Sevm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259, \u00e7ox rahatd\u0131r. S\u0259n pe\u015f\u0259kar yana\u015fa, taktikalardan istifad\u0259 edirs\u0259n. Amma hissl\u0259ri idar\u0259 etm\u0259k \u00e7\u0259tindir. S\u0259man\u0131n d\u0259rsd\u0259n \u00e7\u0131xmas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6zl\u0259yirdim. Bu vaxtdan istifad\u0259 edib, zaman\u0131 ifad\u0259 ed\u0259n simvolik kitab ald\u0131m. Amma h\u0259diyy\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259yimi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcrd\u00fcm. S\u0259maya fikrimi dey\u0259nd\u0259, emosional m\u00fcbadil\u0259 m\u0259nim \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn vacib idi. O enerjini ald\u0131m v\u0259 kitab\u0131 verdim. Dedim ki, ist\u0259s\u0259k, o kitab he\u00e7 vaxt bitm\u0259z v\u0259 birlikd\u0259 v\u0259r\u0259ql\u0259y\u0259rik. Sonra m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r istil\u0259\u015fdi\u201d.<\/p>\n

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S\u0259ma da R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259nin a\u00e7\u0131qs\u00f6zl\u00fcl\u00fcy\u00fcnd\u0259n t\u0259sirl\u0259nib: \u201cEtiraf\u0131 \u00e7ox yax\u015f\u0131 idi. O q\u0259d\u0259r \u00fcr\u0259kd\u0259n dan\u0131\u015f\u0131rd\u0131 ki, \u00e7ox t\u0259sirl\u0259ndim. El\u0259 h\u0259min g\u00fcn dedim ki, dey\u0259s\u0259n qar\u015f\u0131ma d\u00fczg\u00fcn insan \u00e7\u0131x\u0131b. O q\u0259d\u0259r q\u0259rarl\u0131 idim ki, h\u0259tta h\u0259min g\u00fcn evd\u0259 d\u0259 dedim. 2 il sevgili olduqdan sonra, ni\u015fanland\u0131q, daha sonra toy realla\u015fd\u0131. Nikah\u0131 is\u0259 toydan sonra etdik. Dedik ki, bir dam\u0131n alt\u0131nda ya\u015fayaq, g\u00f6r\u0259k, yola gedirikmi?\u201d.
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R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n S\u0259maya kitab da yaz\u0131b. 8 ill\u0259ri tamam olanda, kitab\u0131 d\u0259rc ed\u0259c\u0259k: \u201cKitab\u0131n ad\u0131 \u201cSevginin r\u0259q\u0259mi\u201ddir. Bizim tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z 8 noyabrda ba\u015flay\u0131b. M\u0259n 8-i \u0259b\u0259diyy\u0259t r\u0259q\u0259mi kimi g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u0259m. O kitabda hissl\u0259rimi yazm\u0131\u015fam. Orada qeyd etmi\u015f\u0259m ki, m\u0259nim \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn S\u0259ma ifad\u0259 olunmayacaq obrazd\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki h\u0259r k\u0259s insan\u0131n xarakterini oldu\u011fu kimi q\u0259bul etmir. S\u0259ma m\u0259ni \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259riml\u0259 – ist\u0259r xarakter, ist\u0259r h\u0259yat t\u0259rzi olaraq q\u0259bul edir. M\u0259n x\u0259yallar\u0131m\u0131n arxas\u0131nca qa\u00e7an insanam. Yan\u0131mda olan xan\u0131m da buna icaz\u0259 verm\u0259lidir\u201d.<\/p>\n

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S\u0259ma da R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259nl\u0259 ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131n m\u0259suliyy\u0259tli oldu\u011funu d\u0259rk edir: \u201cD\u00fcz\u00fcn\u00fc des\u0259m, R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259nl\u0259 ilk d\u0259f\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olanda, kriteriyalar\u0131ma uy\u011fun deyildi. M\u0259n daha \u00e7ox \u00f6z\u00fcm kimi \u00e7\u0131l\u011f\u0131n insan t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcr edirdim. R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n o q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259rin insand\u0131r ki, onun daxilin\u0259 endikc\u0259, tan\u0131d\u0131qca, m\u0259n\u0259 \u00e7ox maraql\u0131 g\u0259lirdi. \u00c7\u0259tin xarakterli adamd\u0131r. Onunla ya\u015famaq tam m\u0259suliyy\u0259tdir. H\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n \u0259sas hiss\u0259si i\u015f v\u0259 f\u0259aliyy\u0259td\u0259n ibar\u0259tdir. Ham\u0131 kimi deyil. Bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n ba\u015flad\u0131b, m\u0259n davam etdirir\u0259m. R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n s\u0259birsizdir. B\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 bu, uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t t\u0259k q\u0259rarlar verm\u0259yind\u0259n ir\u0259li g\u0259lir. Amma m\u0259n o \u00e7\u0259tinliyi d\u0259 zaman ke\u00e7dikc\u0259 sevdim. D\u00fczd\u00fcr, \u0259vv\u0259l b\u0259zi xasiyy\u0259tl\u0259rini d\u0259yi\u015fdirm\u0259k c\u0259hdl\u0259rim olub. Amma sonra g\u00f6rd\u00fcm ki, bu insan bel\u0259dir v\u0259 q\u0259bulland\u0131m. Q\u0259bullanandan sonra ya\u015famaq \u00e7ox rahatd\u0131r. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, \u00fct\u00fcn\u00fc sevmir. Deyir paltar\u0131m\u0131 \u00fct\u00fcl\u0259m\u0259, bu da m\u0259n\u0259 s\u0259rf edir (g\u00fcl\u00fcr -A.\u018f). O, m\u0259nd\u0259n \u00e7ox \u015fey ist\u0259mir. Sad\u0259c\u0259, \u00f6z qaydalar\u0131 var, s\u0259n onlara uyursansa, ya\u015famaq rahat olur\u201d.<\/p>\n

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R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259nin \u0259n \u00fcmd\u0259 qaydas\u0131 is\u0259, onu m\u0259i\u015f\u0259t m\u00f6vzular\u0131na qar\u0131\u015fd\u0131rmamaqd\u0131r: \u201cOnu m\u0259i\u015f\u0259t\u0259 qatmad\u0131nsa, ail\u0259d\u0259 s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259t olmayacaq. H\u0259rd\u0259n izah edir\u0259m ki, biz art\u0131q evliyik. Art\u0131q m\u0259i\u015f\u0259t\u0259 girmi\u015fik. O deyir ki, m\u0259ni maksimum uzaq tut. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259, maddiyyat\u0131 \u00e7\u0131xmaq \u015f\u0259rtil\u0259, dig\u0259r m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259r 90 faiz \u00f6z \u00f6hd\u0259md\u0259dir. Dig\u0259r m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 d\u0259, s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259t olanda, biz qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 \u0259s\u0259bil\u0259\u015firik\u201d.<\/p>\n

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R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n onsuz da m\u0259i\u015f\u0259t m\u00f6vzular\u0131ndan anlamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 vur\u011fulay\u0131r: \u201cD\u00fczd\u00fcr, \u0259s\u0259bil\u0259\u015fm\u0259k bar\u0259d\u0259 s\u0259ddimiz yoxdur. \u00c7\u00fcnki ist\u0259nil\u0259n halda, evd\u0259 yolda\u015f\u0131m, \u00f6vlad\u0131m m\u0259n q\u0259bul etm\u0259s\u0259m bel\u0259, \u00f6z fikrini ifad\u0259 etm\u0259kd\u0259 azadd\u0131r. H\u0259min an b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 problem olur, amma sonra deyir\u0259m ki, yax\u015f\u0131 edir. H\u0259tta bu, t\u0259hqir bel\u0259 olsa, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, ifad\u0259 olunmal\u0131d\u0131r. S\u0259man\u0131n q\u0131sqanc oldu\u011funu bilir\u0259m. Amma bunu \u0259vv\u0259ll\u0259r hiss etdirirdi. Sonra m\u0259n ona dedim ki, he\u00e7 kiml\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc m\u00fcqayis\u0259 etm\u0259. \u00c7\u00fcnki m\u0259nim se\u00e7imim s\u0259ns\u0259n. M\u0259n bir \u015feyi etiraf edim ki, S\u0259maya q\u0259d\u0259r ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 quraca\u011f\u0131m\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u00fcrd\u00fcm. El\u0259 plan\u0131m da yox idi. Ail\u0259 qurma\u011f\u0131n h\u0259qiq\u0259t oldu\u011funu m\u0259n\u0259 S\u0259ma \u00f6yr\u0259tdi. Onunla rastla\u015fmasayd\u0131m, y\u0259qin ki, h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 subay idim. S\u0259man\u0131n m\u0259nd\u0259n \u0259n \u00e7ox ist\u0259diyi ev i\u015fl\u0259rin\u0259 k\u00f6m\u0259k etm\u0259kdir, o da m\u0259nd\u0259 yoxdur. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, evd\u0259 su kran\u0131 i\u015fl\u0259mir, h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n, vecim\u0259 deyil. \u00c7\u00fcnki beynim tamam ba\u015fqa yerd\u0259dir. Zaman\u0131m\u0131 kitablara v\u0259 ara\u015fd\u0131rmalara s\u0259rf edir\u0259m. Bizd\u0259 texniki m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259ri qayn\u0131m h\u0259ll edir. C\u0259hd ets\u0259m bel\u0259, evd\u0259 n\u0259 xarab olursa, onu d\u00fcz\u0259ltm\u0259k qabiliyy\u0259tim yoxdur\u201d.<\/p>\n

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Ki\u015finin q\u0259lbin\u0259 ged\u0259n yol m\u0259d\u0259sind\u0259n ke\u00e7ir deyirl\u0259r. R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n yem\u0259k m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259sini he\u00e7 vaxt problem etm\u0259diyini deyir. Amma onun da \u00f6z qaydas\u0131 var: \u201c\u015e\u0259rt deyil ki, S\u0259ma m\u0259n\u0259 m\u00fctl\u0259q yem\u0259k haz\u0131rlamal\u0131, \u00e7ay s\u00fczm\u0259lidir. Sad\u0259c\u0259 deyir\u0259m ki, evd\u0259 yem\u0259k olmayanda m\u0259n\u0259 de. Ki\u015fil\u0259r ac olanda \u00e7ox \u0259s\u0259bi olur. O m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259d\u0259 raz\u0131la\u015fm\u0131\u015f\u0131q. X\u0259b\u0259rdarl\u0131q olursa, problem deyil. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, insan\u0131n \u0259n \u00e7ox \u0259s\u0259bil\u0259\u015fdiyi n\u00fcanslardan biri odur ki, ev\u0259 g\u0259lirs\u0259n, s\u00fcfr\u0259y\u0259 oturursan, m\u0259lum olur ki, \u00e7\u00f6r\u0259k yoxdur. Bunlar\u0131 \u0259vv\u0259ld\u0259n dedis\u0259, he\u00e7 bir problem yoxdur. Problem olanda da, S\u0259ma m\u0259ni c\u0259zaland\u0131r\u0131r. Bilir ki, yegan\u0259 yem\u0259diyim yem\u0259k lobyad\u0131r, onu bi\u015firir\u201d.<\/p>\n

S\u0259ma deyir ki, lobya k\u00fcsd\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fc bildirm\u0259k metodudur: \u201cH\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 m\u0259n k\u00fcs\u00fcr\u0259m. R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n he\u00e7 vaxt k\u00fcsm\u00fcr. \u018fn b\u00f6y\u00fck m\u00fcbahis\u0259d\u0259 bel\u0259, 2 d\u0259qiq\u0259 sonra he\u00e7 n\u0259 olmam\u0131\u015f kimi davran\u0131r. M\u0259n d\u0259 h\u0259min ax\u015fam q\u0259sd\u0259n lobya bi\u015fir\u0259r\u0259m. Deyir, yem\u0259y\u0259 n\u0259 var? Deyir\u0259m, lobya. D\u0259li olur. O, R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259nin pik n\u00f6qt\u0259sidir. Onda bilir ki, ciddi k\u00fcsm\u00fc\u015f\u0259m. Amma yem\u0259k m\u00f6vzusu bizim \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn rahatd\u0131r. Sa\u011flam qidalan\u0131r\u0131q. R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n qarp\u0131z, pendir bel\u0259 olsa, yey\u0259c\u0259k v\u0259 doyacaq. \u015e\u0259rt deyil ki, ona bozba\u015f, yaxud dolma bi\u015fir\u0259m. Bel\u0259 yem\u0259kl\u0259ri anam v\u0259 qaynanamgild\u0259 yeyirik\u201d.<\/p>\n

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C\u00fctl\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fcz m\u00fcbahis\u0259 vaxt\u0131 od olur. He\u00e7 kim geri add\u0131m atm\u0131r. R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n deyir ki, \u0259sas m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 ail\u0259d\u0259 dialoqun olmas\u0131d\u0131r: \u201cAil\u0259d\u0259 dialoq varsa, ist\u0259nil\u0259n problem \u00f6z h\u0259llini tap\u0131r. T\u0259bii ki, \u0259ks fikirl\u0259r olur. Eyni d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259cbur deyilik. Dialoqdan sonra h\u0259r k\u0259s \u00f6z fikrind\u0259 qal\u0131r. Amma bu, problem\u0259 \u00e7evrilmir. Ail\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n ke\u00e7ir. M\u00fczakir\u0259, m\u00fcbahis\u0259, m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259 v\u0259 cinay\u0259t m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259si g\u0259lir. Bizim ail\u0259l\u0259rin problemi m\u00fcbahis\u0259 m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259sini ke\u00e7ib m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259y\u0259 getm\u0259yidir. M\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259d\u0259n sonra art\u0131q idar\u0259etm\u0259 itir. Ail\u0259nin n\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck g\u00fcc\u00fc qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 fikir m\u00fcbadil\u0259si aparmas\u0131d\u0131r. Ail\u0259d\u0259 fikir, ist\u0259nil\u0259n m\u00f6vzuda \u015f\u0259rh yoxdursa, o ail\u0259 deyil\u201d.<\/p>\n

S\u0259ma R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259ni t\u0259sdiql\u0259yir v\u0259 deyir ki, ail\u0259d\u0259 s\u00fckut varsa, dem\u0259li, orada problem var: \u201cAil\u0259nin \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck mentoru s\u0259hvl\u0259ridir. O m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259l\u0259ri ke\u00e7m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259r, n\u0259yin onlar\u0131 sa\u011flam tutdu\u011funu \u00f6yr\u0259n\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r. H\u0259r g\u00fcn yax\u015f\u0131 olacaq dey\u0259, v\u0259d verilm\u0259yib. B\u0259z\u0259n insanlar sevgili m\u0259rh\u0259l\u0259sind\u0259 bir-birin\u0259 v\u0259dl\u0259r verir. O v\u0259dl\u0259r realla\u015fmayanda problem olur\u201d.<\/p>\n

C\u00fctl\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fcz bu g\u00fcn bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259binin d\u0259 psixoloji uy\u011funsuzluq oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr. R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n deyir ki, insanlar bir-birini tan\u0131madan ail\u0259 qururlar: \u201cD\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r ki, evl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259 d\u00fcz\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k, d\u00fcz\u0259lmirs\u0259, \u00f6vlad olanda d\u00fcz\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k. \u00d6vlad ail\u0259nin se\u00e7imi olmal\u0131d\u0131r, k\u0259nardak\u0131lar\u0131n deyil. Ail\u0259 qurmazdan \u00f6nc\u0259 psixoloji uy\u011funluq testi g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fclm\u0259lidir. Bizim ail\u0259l\u0259rin h\u00fcquqi v\u0259 psixoloji maarifl\u0259ndirm\u0259y\u0259 ehtiyac\u0131 var\u201d.<\/p>\n

S\u0259ma ail\u0259nin sevgi \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulmas\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259r\u0259fdar\u0131d\u0131r: \u201cBa\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n fikri il\u0259 insan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7m\u0259z. Ail\u0259 qurmaq ist\u0259y\u0259nl\u0259r\u0259 t\u0259hrik ed\u0259nl\u0259r\u0259 s\u0259sl\u0259nir\u0259m ki, he\u00e7 kimin h\u0259yat\u0131na qar\u0131\u015fmay\u0131n. B\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259r \u00f6vladlar\u0131na s\u0259hv etm\u0259y\u0259 imkanlar tan\u0131s\u0131nlar. \u0130nsan \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolunu v\u0259 yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fc se\u00e7m\u0259lidir. O se\u00e7im olmayanda h\u0259r zaman x\u0259yan\u0259t olacaq. M\u0259cburiyy\u0259t v\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik eyni anda ola bilm\u0259z\u201d.<\/p>\n

C\u00fctl\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fcn Alparslan N\u0259c\u0259fsoy ad\u0131nda o\u011flu var. Onlar\u0131n \u0259sas m\u0259qs\u0259di onunla daha \u00e7ox vaxt ke\u00e7irm\u0259kdir. R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n deyir ki, u\u015faqla vaxt ke\u00e7irm\u0259y\u0259 \u0259rin\u0259n, bundan yorulan insanlar d\u00fcnyaya u\u015faq g\u0259tirm\u0259sinl\u0259r: \u201cBizim ail\u0259l\u0259rin problemi odur ki, u\u015faqla ya\u015famaq ist\u0259mir, yorulurlar. B\u0259z\u0259n valideyn el\u0259 bir h\u0259dd\u0259 \u00e7at\u0131r ki, u\u015fa\u011fa \u015fidd\u0259t t\u0259tbiq edir. Valideynliy\u0259 haz\u0131r olmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u00d6vlad \u00a0d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tirm\u0259k m\u0259suliyy\u0259t t\u0259l\u0259b edir. S\u0259n t\u0259kc\u0259 \u00f6z ail\u0259n\u0259 yox, h\u0259m d\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 sa\u011flam insan yeti\u015fdirm\u0259lis\u0259n. Biz bu g\u00fcn \u00f6z \u00f6vlad\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 yax\u015f\u0131 b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u0259k, amma qon\u015fuda u\u015faq q\u0131\u015fq\u0131r\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u0259lirs\u0259, bilin ki, orada bir cinay\u0259tkar b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcr. Bigan\u0259 qald\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z h\u0259r \u015fey v\u0259 h\u0259r k\u0259s bizim qar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131xmasa da, \u00f6vladlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131na \u00e7\u0131xacaq. Biz anlaml\u0131y\u0131q ki, u\u015faq bizim \u015f\u0259xsi m\u00fclk\u00fcm\u00fcz deyil. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131 da c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259, d\u00f6vl\u0259t\u0259 haz\u0131rlamal\u0131y\u0131q. X\u00fcsus\u0259n d\u0259 psixologiyas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flam formala\u015fd\u0131rmal\u0131y\u0131q ki, ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131na v\u0259 azadl\u0131\u011f\u0131na mane olmas\u0131n. \u00d6vlad zaman ist\u0259yir. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n zaman\u0131 yoxdursa, \u00f6vlad d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tirm\u0259m\u0259lidirl\u0259r. \u00d6vlada d\u0259rsl\u0259rind\u0259n yox, h\u0259yatdan \u201c5\u201d alma\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259tm\u0259liyik\u201d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sevgi hekay\u0259l\u0259ri zaman\u0131 ifad\u0259 ed\u0259n simvolik kitabla ba\u015flay\u0131b. \u201cZaman bizimdir. \u0130st\u0259s\u0259k, o kitab he\u00e7 vaxt bitm\u0259z, h\u0259r g\u00fcn birlikd\u0259 v\u0259r\u0259ql\u0259y\u0259rik\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc bir ail\u0259nin qurulmas\u0131 il\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259nib. O ail\u0259 ki, \u0259sas meyarlar\u0131 bir-birinin azadl\u0131qlar\u0131na mane olmamaq, fikirl\u0259rin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t etm\u0259k, b\u0259zi mental qanunlardan uzaq durmaqd\u0131r. \u201cKaspi\u201d\u00a0q\u0259zetinin \u201cAil\u0259\u201d rubrikas\u0131n\u0131n bud\u0259f\u0259ki qonaqlar\u0131 Ail\u0259, Qad\u0131n v\u0259 U\u015faq Probleml\u0259ri \u00fczr\u0259 D\u00f6vl\u0259t Komit\u0259sinin \u0259m\u0259kda\u015f\u0131, psixoloq, t\u0259lim\u00e7i, \u201c\u0130nsan M\u00fch\u0259ndisliyi\u201d proqram\u0131n\u0131n m\u00fc\u0259llifi R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n N\u0259c\u0259fov v\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 S\u0259ma Qurband\u0131r. R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n deyir ki, S\u0259man\u0131 \u015f\u0259xsi inki\u015fafla ba\u011fl\u0131 t\u0259lim ke\u00e7\u0259rk\u0259n tan\u0131y\u0131b. \u0130\u015ftirak\u00e7\u0131 il\u0259 t\u0259lim\u00e7i aras\u0131nda k\u00f6rp\u00fc olsa da, o, k\u00f6rp\u00fcn\u00fc y\u0131xma\u011f\u0131…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":534300,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/seC0CarHLOQ47JvRNEqlisSMruZpNngQpgGr7HRB.jpg",620,413,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/seC0CarHLOQ47JvRNEqlisSMruZpNngQpgGr7HRB.jpg",620,413,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/seC0CarHLOQ47JvRNEqlisSMruZpNngQpgGr7HRB.jpg",620,413,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/seC0CarHLOQ47JvRNEqlisSMruZpNngQpgGr7HRB-500x280.jpg",500,280,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/seC0CarHLOQ47JvRNEqlisSMruZpNngQpgGr7HRB-548x365.jpg",548,365,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/seC0CarHLOQ47JvRNEqlisSMruZpNngQpgGr7HRB.jpg",620,413,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/seC0CarHLOQ47JvRNEqlisSMruZpNngQpgGr7HRB.jpg",620,413,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/seC0CarHLOQ47JvRNEqlisSMruZpNngQpgGr7HRB.jpg",620,413,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/seC0CarHLOQ47JvRNEqlisSMruZpNngQpgGr7HRB-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/seC0CarHLOQ47JvRNEqlisSMruZpNngQpgGr7HRB.jpg",620,413,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"Sevgi hekay\u0259l\u0259ri zaman\u0131 ifad\u0259 ed\u0259n simvolik kitabla ba\u015flay\u0131b. \u201cZaman bizimdir. \u0130st\u0259s\u0259k, o kitab he\u00e7 vaxt bitm\u0259z, h\u0259r g\u00fcn birlikd\u0259 v\u0259r\u0259ql\u0259y\u0259rik\u201d s\u00f6z\u00fc bir ail\u0259nin qurulmas\u0131 il\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259nib. O ail\u0259 ki, \u0259sas meyarlar\u0131 bir-birinin azadl\u0131qlar\u0131na mane olmamaq, fikirl\u0259rin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t etm\u0259k, b\u0259zi mental qanunlardan uzaq durmaqd\u0131r. \u201cKaspi\u201d\u00a0q\u0259zetinin \u201cAil\u0259\u201d rubrikas\u0131n\u0131n bud\u0259f\u0259ki qonaqlar\u0131 Ail\u0259, Qad\u0131n v\u0259 U\u015faq Probleml\u0259ri \u00fczr\u0259 D\u00f6vl\u0259t…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/534298"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=534298"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/534298\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/534300"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=534298"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=534298"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=534298"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}