Aldatma v\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t insan c\u0259miyy\u0259tinin yarand\u0131\u011f\u0131 ilk zamanlardan g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r aktual olmaqla birlikd\u0259, insan\u0131 x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259 s\u00f6vq ed\u0259n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rin n\u0259l\u0259r oldu\u011fu daima m\u00fczakir\u0259 m\u00f6vzusu olmu\u015fdur.<\/p>\n
Son d\u00f6vrl\u0259rd\u0259 qad\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259rinin bu q\u0259d\u0259r artmas\u0131n\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bi kimi qad\u0131nlar\u0131n i\u015f h\u0259yat\u0131na aktiv \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 daxil olmas\u0131, c\u0259miyy\u0259t i\u015fl\u0259rind\u0259 f\u0259al olaraq i\u015ftirak etm\u0259si, ki\u015fil\u0259rin ictimai-sosial hegemoniyas\u0131n\u0131n z\u0259ifl\u0259m\u0259si, qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6z ayaqlar\u0131 \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 dura bilm\u0259si, ki\u015fil\u0259rin qar\u015f\u0131 cinsl\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259t qurmas\u0131n\u0131n asanla\u015fmas\u0131 kimi faktorlar g\u00f6st\u0259ril\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n
X\u0259yan\u0259tin konkret d\u0259qiql\u0259\u015fmi\u015f t\u0259rifi olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259, bu v\u0259ziyy\u0259t h\u0259r insan\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259 t\u0259rzind\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olaraq d\u0259yi\u015fir. B\u0259zil\u0259ri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yaln\u0131z cinsi m\u00fcnasib\u0259t aldatma say\u0131lsada, kimil\u0259ri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcns\u0259 gizli bir g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f, qar\u015f\u0131 cinsl\u0259 olan adi bir online s\u00f6hb\u0259t v\u0259 ya emosional yax\u0131nl\u0131q aldatma kimi q\u0259bul edil\u0259 bilir.<\/p>\n
Psixoloji \u0259d\u0259biyyatlarda x\u0259yan\u0259tkar insanlar ad\u0259t\u0259n\u00a0\u0259sas\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t tipin\u0259 malik olan insanlar kimi xarakteriz\u0259 edilirl\u0259r. H\u0259l\u0259 u\u015faq ya\u015flar\u0131ndan yanl\u0131\u015f t\u0259rbiy\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259sind\u0259 valideynl\u0259ri t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n narsist (\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc h\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q sev\u0259n v\u0259 oldu\u011fundan y\u00fcks\u0259k qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndir\u0259n) \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t kimi formala\u015fd\u0131r\u0131lan u\u015faqlar, yetkin olduqdan sonra x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259 daha cox meylli olurlar. Bunun \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259bi kimi bu tipl\u0259rin, \u00f6zl\u0259rini dig\u0259rl\u0259rind\u0259n daha \u00fcst\u00fcn g\u00f6rm\u0259si, h\u0259r zaman bir alternativl\u0259rinin oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259l\u0259ridir .Bu tip \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259r x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259kl\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259r, h\u0259yatda yaln\u0131z qalmaqdan \u00e7ox qorxduqlar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u00f6vcud ail\u0259l\u0259rini v\u0259 ya sevgi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rini \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259d\u0259 olsa qoruyub saxlama\u011fa v\u0259 davam etdirm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n
Qad\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 h\u0259m fiziki, h\u0259m d\u0259\u00a0emosional s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r m\u00fch\u00fcm rol oynay\u0131r. Qad\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259rinin ki\u015fi x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259ri il\u0259 b\u0259zi ortaq n\u00f6qt\u0259l\u0259ri olsa da, \u00fcm\u00fcmi g\u00f6t\u00fcrd\u00fckd\u0259 qad\u0131nlar bir ne\u00e7\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n dolay\u0131 x\u0259yan\u0259t edirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n
\u018fn geni\u015f yay\u0131lm\u0131\u015f s\u0259b\u0259b kimi, qad\u0131n\u0131n intiqam almaq hissl\u0259ri g\u00f6st\u0259rilir.\u00a0<\/strong>Y\u0259ni h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir xan\u0131m yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n ona x\u0259yan\u0259t etdiyini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcy\u00fc andan etibar\u0259n, intiqam almaq v\u0259 ac\u0131q \u00e7\u0131xmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn x\u0259yan\u0259t edib, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259r statusda olduqlar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcbut etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. B\u0259z\u0259n qad\u0131n bunu yaln\u0131z bir d\u0259f\u0259 etm\u0259kl\u0259 kifay\u0259tl\u0259ndiyi halda, b\u0259z\u0259n is\u0259 yolda\u015f\u0131 x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 davam etdiyi m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259, o da x\u0259yan\u0259ti davam etdirir.<\/p>\n Dig\u0259r bir s\u0259b\u0259b is\u0259 yolda\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n q\u0131sqan\u0131lmaq v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 diqq\u0259t \u00e7\u0259km\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn edil\u0259n aldatmalard\u0131r.\u00a0<\/strong>Yolda\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n q\u0131sqan\u0131lmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259n qad\u0131n, yenid\u0259n diqq\u0259t \u00e7\u0259km\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bu vasit\u0259y\u0259 \u0259l ata bilir.<\/p>\n B\u0259zi hallarda is\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6z partyorundan yet\u0259rli s\u0259viyy\u0259d\u0259 cinsi h\u0259zz ala bilm\u0259m\u0259si d\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t s\u0259b\u0259bi kimi \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6st\u0259rir.\u00a0<\/strong>Y\u0259ni yataqda \u00f6z partnyoru t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n qane edilm\u0259y\u0259n qad\u0131n\u0131n, ba\u015fqa ki\u015fil\u0259r\u0259 \u00fcz tutmaq ehtimal\u0131 b\u00f6y\u00fckd\u00fcr.<\/p>\n Qad\u0131n\u0131 x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 s\u00f6vq ed\u0259n bir ba\u015fqa s\u0259b\u0259b is\u0259 ya\u015flanma qorxusudur.\u00a0<\/strong>Ya\u015fland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259n qad\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 cavan, arzulanan, \u0259vv\u0259lki t\u0259k ist\u0259nil\u0259n qad\u0131n oldugunu s\u00fcb\u00fct etm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259 bilir. Buda \u0259sas\u0259n ke\u00e7id ya\u015f d\u00f6vrl\u0259rind\u0259, y\u0259ni 30 – 35 – 40 ya\u015f aral\u0131qlar\u0131nda daha \u00e7ox \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6st\u0259rir. Bunu etdikd\u0259n sonra h\u0259m\u0259n qad\u0131nda g\u00fcnahkarl\u0131q v\u0259 pe\u015fmanl\u0131q hissl\u0259rinin olmas\u0131 m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259 olunur \u00e7ox zaman.\u00a0Qad\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259rinin bir s\u0259b\u0259bi kimi<\/strong>\u00a0<\/strong>d\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n yeni mac\u0259ralar axtarmaq h\u0259v\u0259si g\u00f6st\u0259ril\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/strong>\u00a0B\u0259z\u0259n biz \u015fahidi olub, g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck ki, h\u0259r bir ist\u0259yi t\u0259min olunan, maddi v\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259vi olaraq s\u0131x\u0131nt\u0131 ya\u015famayan qad\u0131nlar sad\u0259c\u0259 monotonluqdan uzaqla\u015fmaq v\u0259 h\u0259yatlar\u0131na r\u0259ng qatmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn x\u0259yan\u0259t edirl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 olan qad\u0131nlar \u00f6zl\u0259ri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u0259nc, vaxt\u0131n\u0131 yax\u015f\u0131 ke\u00e7ird\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259yi, mac\u0259ra\u00e7\u0131 partnyorlar tapma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Bu s\u0259b\u0259b x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck t\u0259\u015fkil etm\u0259s\u0259 d\u0259 bu tipd\u0259 olan x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259r m\u00f6vcuddur.<\/p>\n H\u0259yatdan he\u00e7 bir g\u00f6zl\u0259ntisi olmayan, daima m\u0259n\u0259vi bo\u015fluq i\u00e7\u0259risind\u0259 ya\u015fayan, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc dig\u0259rl\u0259rind\u0259n f\u0259rql\u0259ndirm\u0259k ist\u0259y\u0259n qad\u0131nlarda da x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259k potensial\u0131 daha y\u00fcks\u0259kdir.<\/strong><\/p>\n D\u00fcnyada \u0259n qar\u0131\u015f\u0131q v\u0259 anla\u015f\u0131lmaz m\u0259ntiq qad\u0131n m\u0259ntiqi say\u0131l\u0131r. Bu s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259ndir ki, qad\u0131n davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n alt\u0131nda yatan s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rin n\u0259l\u0259r oldu\u011funu qabaqcadan t\u0259xmin etm\u0259k v\u0259 anlamaq \u00e7ox \u00e7\u0259tindir. Buna g\u00f6r\u0259dir ki, psixoanalizin yarad\u0131c\u0131s\u0131, m\u0259\u015fhur psixoloq Z. Freyd qad\u0131nlar haqda bel\u0259 demi\u015fdi: “M\u0259n 30 ildir ki, qad\u0131n psixologiyas\u0131n\u0131 ara\u015fd\u0131r\u0131ram, ama h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 cavabland\u0131ra bilm\u0259diyim bir sual var – qad\u0131n n\u0259 ist\u0259yir?”\u00a0 X\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259rin say\u0131n\u0131 azaltmaq v\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 almaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ail\u0259 institunu g\u00fccl\u0259ndirm\u0259k, eqoist olmayan v\u0259 \u00f6zg\u00fcv\u0259ni y\u00fcks\u0259k olan n\u0259sill\u0259r yeti\u015fdirm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u018fks halda u\u015faqlar yar\u0131m\u00e7\u0131q ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcm\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259cbur qald\u0131qlar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 onlar\u0131n xo\u015fb\u0259xt ail\u0259, sevgi, yax\u0131nl\u0131q, ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131q kimi emosional hissl\u0259ri t\u0259min edilm\u0259mi\u015f qalacaqd\u0131r.<\/p>\n R\u00f6v\u015f\u0259n H\u00fcmb\u0259tov<\/p>\n Psixoloq<\/p>\n Dushunce.az<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Aldatma v\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t insan c\u0259miyy\u0259tinin yarand\u0131\u011f\u0131 ilk zamanlardan g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r aktual olmaqla birlikd\u0259, insan\u0131 x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259 s\u00f6vq ed\u0259n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rin n\u0259l\u0259r oldu\u011fu daima m\u00fczakir\u0259 m\u00f6vzusu olmu\u015fdur. Son d\u00f6vrl\u0259rd\u0259 qad\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259rinin bu q\u0259d\u0259r artmas\u0131n\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bi kimi qad\u0131nlar\u0131n i\u015f h\u0259yat\u0131na aktiv \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 daxil olmas\u0131, c\u0259miyy\u0259t i\u015fl\u0259rind\u0259 f\u0259al olaraq i\u015ftirak etm\u0259si, ki\u015fil\u0259rin ictimai-sosial hegemoniyas\u0131n\u0131n z\u0259ifl\u0259m\u0259si, qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6z ayaqlar\u0131 \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":55393,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-55392","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-cmiyyt"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t