{"id":554327,"date":"2023-01-12T14:19:09","date_gmt":"2023-01-12T11:19:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=554327"},"modified":"2023-01-12T14:19:09","modified_gmt":"2023-01-12T11:19:09","slug":"dogmursansa-niy%c9%99-%c9%99r%c9%99-g%c9%99lirdin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=554327","title":{"rendered":"Do\u011fmursansa, niy\u0259 \u0259r\u0259 g\u0259lirdin?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Kubra M\u0259h\u0259rr\u0259mova yaz\u0131r…<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 ail\u0259-m\u0259i\u015f\u0259t m\u00f6vzular\u0131n\u0131n \u0259n \u00e7ox m\u00fczakir\u0259 olundu\u011fu bir qrup var. Bu qrup m\u0259n\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 Az\u0259rbaycan reall\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 o q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259qiq ehtiva edir ki, he\u00e7 bir ba\u015fqa idar\u0259y\u0259 ehtiyac yoxdur. N\u0259 D\u00f6vl\u0259t Statistika Komit\u0259sin\u0259, n\u0259 Ail\u0259, Qad\u0131n v\u0259 U\u015faq Probleml\u0259ri \u00fczr\u0259 D\u00f6vl\u0259t Komit\u0259sin\u0259, n\u0259 d\u0259 bir ba\u015fqas\u0131na.<\/p>\n

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N\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r q\u0259rib\u0259 s\u0259sl\u0259ns\u0259 d\u0259, bu qrup c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 ba\u015f ver\u0259nl\u0259rin \u0259n d\u0259qiq t\u0259svirini v\u0259 qiym\u0259tini verir. \u0130st\u0259r ail\u0259 m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rini, ist\u0259r qad\u0131n-ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rini, ist\u0259r g\u0259lin-qay\u0131nana v\u0259 s. Ka\u015f ki, \u00fc\u00e7-be\u015f savadl\u0131 sosioloqumuz olayd\u0131, bu \u00fcmmana girib m\u0259lumat \u00e7\u0131xarard\u0131.
\nBu g\u00fcn s\u0259h\u0259r oxudu\u011fum status is\u0259 m\u0259ni bir daha bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 qay\u0131tma\u011fa m\u0259cbur etdi.<\/p>\n

Dem\u0259li alt\u0131 ay\u0131n g\u0259linin\u0259 qay\u0131nana deyir ki, \u201c\u0259g\u0259r do\u011fmursansa, niy\u0259 \u0259r\u0259 g\u0259lmis\u0259n? M\u0259qs\u0259din n\u0259dir?\u201d<\/p>\n

M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 is\u0259 odur ki, g\u0259lin h\u0259l\u0259 \u00f6vlad ist\u0259mir v\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn vasit\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 hamil\u0259 qalmama\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Bunun \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 d\u0259 ail\u0259d\u0259 s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259t yaran\u0131r. Qay\u0131nana o\u011fulla-g\u0259linin aras\u0131nda i\u011fti\u015fa\u015f yarad\u0131r.\u00a0Qad\u0131n da bu bar\u0259d\u0259 post yaz\u0131b qrupa.<\/p>\n

M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 \u015f\u0259rh yazan dig\u0259r qad\u0131nlar da eyni halla \u00fczl\u0259\u015fdikl\u0259rini bildirir, m\u0259cbur\u0259n h\u0259kim\u0259 apar\u0131lmalar\u0131 v\u0259 ail\u0259daxili t\u0259zyiql\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015fdikl\u0259rini qeyd edirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

El\u0259 postun alt\u0131nda bir ba\u015fqa qad\u0131n is\u0259 yazd\u0131 ki, t\u0259sad\u00fcf\u0259n hamil\u0259 qal\u0131b, amma qarn\u0131ndak\u0131na nifr\u0259t edir.\u00a0 Ail\u0259d\u0259 is\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259t el\u0259dir ki, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 ald\u0131ra bilmir.<\/p>\n

\u0130kinci faci\u0259. Qad\u0131n\u0131n se\u00e7imi yoxdur. O ist\u0259m\u0259diyi k\u00f6rp\u0259d\u0259n imtina ed\u0259 bilmir v\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 d\u00fcnyaya sevilm\u0259y\u0259n k\u00f6rp\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k. \u018fn yax\u015f\u0131 halda \u00fcmid ed\u0259k ki, k\u00f6rp\u0259 do\u011fulandan sonra anada anal\u0131q instinkti yaranacaq v\u0259 k\u00f6rp\u0259y\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259c\u0259k. N\u0259 bilm\u0259k olar, b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 sonra sevm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131.<\/p>\n

B\u0259s pis halda n\u0259 olacaq?<\/p>\n

O u\u015faq ona nifr\u0259t ed\u0259n ana il\u0259 nec\u0259 ya\u015fayacaq? Hans\u0131 fiziki v\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259vi travmalara alacaq? Sabah psixoloji c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n b\u00f6hrana d\u00fc\u015f\u0259nd\u0259 kim zamin ola bil\u0259r ki, o, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 q\u0259sd etm\u0259sin? B\u0259li, versiyalar \u00e7oxdur. Hadis\u0259 ist\u0259nil\u0259n t\u0259r\u0259f\u0259 inki\u015faf ed\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Qay\u0131d\u0131ram \u015f\u0259rhl\u0259r\u0259.<\/p>\n

Bu posta dig\u0259r qad\u0131nlar aqressiv \u015f\u0259rhl\u0259r t\u00f6km\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131lar ki, \u201cb\u0259s o u\u015faq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn qap\u0131-qap\u0131 g\u0259z\u0259nl\u0259r var, s\u0259n na\u015f\u00fck\u00fcrl\u00fck edirs\u0259n\u00a0 v\u0259 s.\u201d Amma he\u00e7 kim anlamad\u0131 ki, h\u0259r bir k\u0259s n\u0259 vaxtsa valideyn olaca\u011f\u0131na \u00f6z\u00fc q\u0259rar verm\u0259lidir. \u018fg\u0259r kims\u0259 \u00f6vlad h\u0259sr\u0259tiyl\u0259 ya\u015fay\u0131rsa, bu o dem\u0259k deyil ki, ham\u0131 u\u015faq g\u0259tirm\u0259lidir d\u00fcnyaya.\u00a0V\u0259 \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 bel\u0259 bir qayda harada yaz\u0131l\u0131b ax\u0131? Ham\u0131n\u0131n valideyn olmaq kimi se\u00e7imi varsa, olmamaq se\u00e7imi d\u0259 var. H\u0259yatda \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck nailiyy\u0259t kimi bunu q\u0259l\u0259m\u0259 verm\u0259k n\u0259 d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 do\u011frudur? Eram\u0131zdan \u0259vv\u0259l d\u0259 insanlar do\u011fub-t\u00f6r\u0259nibl\u0259r, eram\u0131zdan sonra da. Y\u0259ni burada f\u00f6vq\u0259lt\u0259bii v\u0259 f\u00f6vq\u0259lad\u0259 bir \u015fey yoxdur.<\/p>\n

Amma qon\u015funun g\u0259lini art\u0131q ikinciy\u0259 hamil\u0259dir, s\u0259n h\u0259l\u0259 birini do\u011fmam\u0131san kimi t\u0259n\u0259l\u0259r e\u015fid\u0259n qad\u0131nlar\u0131m\u0131z t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, az deyil. Buna g\u00f6r\u0259 psixoloji v\u0259 fiziki zorak\u0131l\u0131\u011fa m\u0259ruz qalanlar da az deyil. B\u0259z\u0259n e\u015fidirik ki, q\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n \u0259r evind\u0259 ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131n sakit olmas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn g\u0259linin valideynl\u0259ri m\u00fcalic\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn x\u0259rc \u00e7\u0259kir ki, t\u0259ki q\u0131z\u0131n\u0131n quca\u011f\u0131nda u\u015faq olsun. M\u0259n\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 bu faci\u0259dir. Bir insan\u0131n h\u0259r g\u00fcn zorak\u0131l\u0131qla \u00fczl\u0259\u015fm\u0259si faci\u0259dir.<\/p>\n

M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 ondad\u0131r ki, bu q\u0259d\u0259r inki\u015fafa baxmayaraq, h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 feodalizm d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259l\u0259ri c\u0259miyy\u0259timizd\u0259 hakimlik edir.<\/p>\n

M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, \u0259ks\u0259r ail\u0259l\u0259r ist\u0259yir ki, o\u011fluna savadl\u0131, i\u015fli-g\u00fccl\u00fc q\u0131z \u201cals\u0131n\u201d. Eyni zamanda da qay\u0131nana-qay\u0131natan\u0131n dediyi vaxtda hamil\u0259 qals\u0131n, u\u015faq do\u011fsun.<\/p>\n

\u018fg\u0259r qad\u0131n u\u015faq ist\u0259mirs\u0259 o zaman meydana \u201csuallar\u201d \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. G\u0259lin niy\u0259 do\u011fmaq ist\u0259mir? El\u0259 bil d\u00f6vl\u0259t sifari\u015fidir, m\u00fctl\u0259q icra olunmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fks halda qar\u015f\u0131durma ya\u015fan\u0131r. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 g\u0259linin valideynl\u0259ri d\u0259 qar\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. H\u0259tta b\u0259zil\u0259ri deyir ki, bu, \u0259n\u0259n\u0259dir. \u018fr\u0259 ged\u0259n do\u011fmal\u0131d\u0131r, ba\u015fqa n\u0259 i\u015fi var ki?<\/p>\n

Sonda bu n\u0259tic\u0259y\u0259 g\u0259ldim ki, bizd\u0259 m\u00fctl\u0259qdir ki, bir qad\u0131n \u0259r\u0259 getdis\u0259 9 ay\u0131n tamam\u0131nda u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n bir ya\u015f\u0131 tamam oldusa ikinci u\u015fa\u011fa hamil\u0259 qalmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fks halda \u201cniy\u0259 \u0259r\u0259 g\u0259lmis\u0259n ki?\u201d sual\u0131 s\u0259sl\u0259n\u0259c\u0259k.<\/p>\n

\u0130kincisi, \u0259g\u0259r qad\u0131n deyirs\u0259 v\u0259 ya d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrs\u0259 ki, bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t ke\u00e7\u0259nd\u0259n sonra hamil\u0259 qalma\u011f\u0131 planla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r, onu el\u0259 h\u0259mya\u015f\u0131dlar\u0131, h\u0259mcinsl\u0259ri \u201cala qar\u011fa\u201d kimi da\u015fa tutacaq, \u201cbiz n\u0259 z\u00fclml\u0259 hamil\u0259 qalm\u0131\u015f\u0131q, Allah buna u\u015faq verir bu qudurub\u201d dey\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Bizd\u0259 iki n\u0259f\u0259r ail\u0259 qurmur. Ail\u0259ni qudalar, h\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259fin \u0259mil\u0259ri, day\u0131lar\u0131, xalalar\u0131, n\u0259n\u0259-babalar\u0131, bibl\u0259ri ail\u0259 qururlar. V\u0259 bu \u201cxalq\u0131n\u201d qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda g\u0259lin u\u015faq do\u011fmad\u0131sa, he\u00e7 n\u0259. Sad\u0259c\u0259 biab\u0131r\u00e7\u0131l\u0131qd\u0131r dey\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r.<\/p>\n

Biz h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 ail\u0259 institutunun n\u0259 oldu\u011funu \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n etm\u0259mi\u015fik. Bizd\u0259 \u201cn\u0259n\u0259-baba-n\u0259v\u0259\u201d institutu, \u201cqohum-qon\u015fu n\u0259 dey\u0259r?, \u201cm\u00fcst\u0259qil qay\u0131nana ekspert\u201d institutu var (h\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n, he\u00e7 kim yaxas\u0131n\u0131 k\u0259nara \u00e7\u0259km\u0259sin).<\/p>\n

Biz h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 anlam\u0131r\u0131q ki, \u0259g\u0259r iki n\u0259f\u0259rin bir-birind\u0259n xo\u015fu g\u0259lirs\u0259 bu h\u0259l\u0259 o dem\u0259k deyil ki, qap\u0131ya \u201cel\u00e7il\u0259r\u201d getm\u0259lidir.<\/p>\n

Biz h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 anlam\u0131r\u0131q ki, evliliyin ilk iki-\u00fc\u00e7, h\u0259tta be\u015f ilini c\u00fctl\u00fck sad\u0259c\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fc \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ya\u015faya bil\u0259r. \u0130nsanlar bir yerd\u0259 karyera qurub, iqtisadi c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n m\u00f6hk\u0259ml\u0259n\u0259, s\u0259yah\u0259t ed\u0259 bil\u0259rl\u0259r. Vacib deyil ax\u0131, h\u0259min ev\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n kimi\u00a0 hamil\u0259 qal\u0131b, u\u015faq bezi t\u0259mizl\u0259sin. \u018fg\u0259r c\u00fctl\u00fck valideyn olma\u011f\u0131n m\u0259suliyy\u0259tini anlam\u0131rsa niy\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k k\u00f6rp\u0259nin d\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 m\u0259hv etm\u0259lidir?<\/p>\n

V\u0259 yen\u0259 d\u0259 ona g\u0259lir\u0259m ki, h\u0259r bir f\u0259rd, ist\u0259r qad\u0131n, ist\u0259r ki\u015fi ilk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 \u00f6z ayaqlar\u0131 \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 durmal\u0131, \u00f6z iqtisadi azadl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259min etm\u0259li, \u00f6z olar-olmaz\u0131n\u0131 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n etdikd\u0259n sonra ail\u0259 qurmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ana-atan\u0131n \u0259lin\u0259 baxan o\u011flandan \u0259r, q\u0131zdan da arvad olmaz m\u0259nim \u0259zizl\u0259rim. Ail\u0259ni sa\u011flam d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259li adamlar qurmal\u0131d\u0131r, \u0259ks halda u\u015faqlar da psixoloji travmalarla ya\u015fama\u011fa m\u0259cbur olur.<\/p>\n

M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 is\u0259 \u00e7ox d\u0259rindir. C\u0259miyy\u0259t olaraq i\u015fimiz \u00e7oxdur. \u0130lk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 is\u0259 oxumal\u0131y\u0131q. Gec\u0259-g\u00fcnd\u00fcz kitab-d\u0259ft\u0259r \u0259limizd\u0259n d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259li deyil.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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