Bu g\u00fcn \u0259ks\u0259r g\u0259ncl\u0259rin m\u0259cburiyy\u0259t olmadan nikah ba\u011flamalar\u0131na baxmayaraq, ail\u0259 s\u0259ad\u0259tin\u0259 nadir hallarda rast g\u0259linir.<\/p>\n
X\u0259yan\u0259t v\u0259 bo\u015fanmalar ifrat h\u0259ddin\u0259 \u00e7at\u0131b. B\u0259s, bunun real s\u0259b\u0259bi n\u0259dir? Niy\u0259 se\u00e7diyimiz insanla sevin\u0259r\u0259k ail\u0259 qurur v\u0259 b\u0259db\u0259xt olub bo\u015fan\u0131r\u0131q?<\/p>\n
\u201cFacebook\u201d v\u0259 virtual m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r<\/strong><\/p>\n \u0130ndi insanlar\u0131n \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259hat\u0259 dair\u0259si geni\u015fdir. \u0130nsanlar bir-biri il\u0259 sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olurlar. \u018fvv\u0259ll\u0259r is\u0259 bel\u0259 \u015feyl\u0259r yox idi. Ham\u0131 internetd\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc n\u00fcmun\u0259vi g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Fikir vers\u0259niz, istifad\u0259\u00e7il\u0259rin \u00e7oxu \u00f6z \u015f\u0259klini qoymur. Hans\u0131sa aktrisan\u0131n v\u0259 ya m\u00fc\u011f\u0259ninin \u015f\u0259klini qoyur. Virtual m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 daha \u00fcst\u00fcn g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259k ist\u0259yi bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti maraql\u0131 edir. \u0130nki\u015faf hesab olunsa da, internetin virtual m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 \u015f\u0259rait yaratmas\u0131 bo\u015fanma v\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259rin say\u0131n\u0131n artmas\u0131na s\u0259s\u0259b oldu.<\/p>\n Bo\u015f-bo\u015f x\u0259yal qurmaq<\/strong><\/p>\n Subay vaxt\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u0259 ged\u0259nd\u0259 o\u011flan v\u0259 q\u0131z s\u0259liq\u0259li olur, bir-biri il\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 davran\u0131rlar. Ail\u0259 i\u00e7\u0259risind\u0259 is\u0259 tamamil\u0259 f\u0259rqli olurlar. Xan\u0131mlar yor\u011fun da olur, makiyajs\u0131z da olur. Ail\u0259 qurana q\u0259d\u0259r o\u011flan v\u0259 q\u0131z bir-birini ancaq \u201cqonaq ged\u0259n\u201d v\u0259ziyy\u0259tind\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcbl\u0259r. Evd\u0259ki hal\u0131nda g\u00f6rm\u0259yibl\u0259r. \u00c7ox vaxt da bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri soyudur.<\/p>\n Ail\u0259 qurmam\u0131\u015fdan \u0259vv\u0259l insanlar beyinl\u0259rind\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 haqq\u0131nda m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n fikirl\u0259r formala\u015fd\u0131r\u0131rlar. H\u0259min fikirl\u0259r qurdu\u011fu ail\u0259 il\u0259 \u00fcst-\u00fcst\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259 probleml\u0259r yaran\u0131r. Beyind\u0259 m\u00fcqayis\u0259 ba\u015flan\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki ail\u0259 qurmam\u0131\u015fdan \u0259vv\u0259l beynind\u0259 xo\u015f \u015feyl\u0259r canland\u0131rm\u0131\u015fd\u0131, amma onun \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259 probleml\u0259ri g\u00f6rd\u00fc.<\/p>\n \u018fn \u00e7\u0259tini ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n ilk ill\u0259ridir. Yeni ail\u0259y\u0259 adaptasiya olmaq, onun qaydalar\u0131na uy\u011funla\u015fmaq vaxt t\u0259l\u0259b edir. Bir insan\u0131n buna d\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc yoxdursa, he\u00e7 c\u00fcr yeni qaydalar\u0131 q\u0259bul ed\u0259 bilmirs\u0259, ail\u0259si da\u011f\u0131l\u0131r. Onlar yeni ail\u0259y\u0259 uy\u011funla\u015fmaq \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259 daim \u201cBizim ail\u0259d\u0259 bel\u0259 deyildi!\u201d,\u00a0 \u201cM\u0259nim atam bel\u0259 deyildi\u201d v\u0259 s. d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 v\u0259 \u0259trafdak\u0131lara \u0259zab verirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n \u018fsas probleml\u0259r bundan sonra ba\u015flay\u0131r<\/strong><\/p>\n G\u0259ncl\u0259r \u00f6z aralar\u0131ndak\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti qaydas\u0131na qoya bil\u0259rl\u0259r, amma aralar\u0131na kims\u0259 gir\u0259nd\u0259, y\u0259ni ki, qay\u0131nana v\u0259ziyy\u0259t b\u0259rbad olur. \u0130ndi \u0259ks\u0259r g\u0259ncl\u0259r ayr\u0131 ya\u015famaq ist\u0259yir. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 ki, \u00f6zl\u0259rini m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259r\u0259 haz\u0131r hiss etmir.<\/p>\n Qay\u0131nana g\u0259lin\u0259 do\u011fmal\u0131\u011f\u0131 hiss etdirm\u0259lidir. \u018fg\u0259r qay\u0131nana g\u0259lin\u0259 ail\u0259nin bir \u00fczv\u00fc kimi yana\u015fsa, ona h\u0259r \u015feyi do\u011fmaya ba\u015fa sald\u0131\u011f\u0131 kimi des\u0259, ail\u0259d\u0259 s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259tl\u0259r bit\u0259r.<\/strong><\/p>\n Qay\u0131nana \u0259r v\u0259 arvad aras\u0131ndak\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259t\u0259 qar\u0131\u015fmamal\u0131d\u0131r. Anlamal\u0131d\u0131r ki, art\u0131q ail\u0259min t\u0259rkibind\u0259 ki\u00e7ik bir ail\u0259 var. Qad\u0131n harasa ged\u0259nd\u0259 v\u0259 ya n\u0259s\u0259 etm\u0259k ist\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259 yaln\u0131z h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131ndan icaz\u0259 almal\u0131d\u0131r. Onun qay\u0131nana, qay\u0131nata, evd\u0259 kim varsa, ham\u0131dan icaz\u0259 alma\u011fa ehtiyac\u0131 yoxdur. Onda el\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r ki, h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 bu ail\u0259 q\u0259bul olunmay\u0131b.<\/p>\n Fikir vers\u0259niz, ail\u0259 s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259tl\u0259ri aras\u0131nda qay\u0131natan\u0131n obraz\u0131 k\u0259narda qal\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki qay\u0131nata ail\u0259y\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n qona\u011f\u0131 daha yax\u015f\u0131 ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. Onlar birlikd\u0259 m\u0259tb\u0259xi payla\u015fm\u0131rlar. Bir qad\u0131n\u0131n hakimiyy\u0259ti onun m\u0259tb\u0259xind\u0259 olur. G\u0259lin is\u0259 art\u0131q m\u0259tb\u0259x\u0259 \u015f\u0259rik g\u0259lir.<\/p>\n B\u0259zi ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 m\u0259tb\u0259xi qay\u0131nana idar\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259 davam ets\u0259 d\u0259, bir m\u00fcdd\u0259td\u0259n sonra \u015fikay\u0259tl\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r.<\/p>\n \u201cG\u0259lin evin s\u00fcp\u00fcrg\u0259sidir\u201d kimi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259n ail\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 \u00e7oxdur. H\u0259r i\u015fi g\u0259linin \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 at\u0131rlar. G\u0259lin-qay\u0131nana bir-birini az g\u00f6r\u0259n ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 konfliktl\u0259r daha azd\u0131r.<\/p>\n Ail\u0259 qurark\u0259n ya\u015fa da fikir verm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u00c7ox erk\u0259n ya\u015flarda v\u0259 ya gec qurulan ail\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 tez q\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r. \u00c7ox gec olduqda, art\u0131q \u015f\u0259xs h\u0259r \u015fey\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 dan\u0131\u015fma\u011fa, q\u0131c\u0131qlanma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fcn m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n probleml\u0259ri yaran\u0131r. Orta q\u0131z\u0131l h\u0259ddi tap\u0131b h\u0259min vaxt ail\u0259 qurmaq daha \u00f6n\u0259mlidir.<\/p>\n Sonsuzluq problemi<\/strong><\/p>\n Bu g\u00fcn ail\u0259l\u0259rin \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti sonsuzluq problemin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 da\u011f\u0131l\u0131r. Sonsuzluqdan \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259k\u0259n bir \u00e7ox pasientl\u0259rimiz xarici \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 h\u0259kiml\u0259r\u0259 gedibl\u0259r. H\u0259kiml\u0259rin qoydu\u011fu diaqnoz is\u0259 psixoloji probleml\u0259r olub. \u0130nsan g\u0259rgin v\u0259 narahat olanda, stress ke\u00e7ir\u0259nd\u0259 bu, u\u015faq d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259trim\u0259y\u0259 d\u0259 mane olur.<\/p>\n Ail\u0259nin sonuna \u00e7\u0131xan yoxsulluq<\/strong><\/p>\n Yoxsullu\u011fa g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 bo\u015fanan v\u0259 ya x\u0259yan\u0259ti se\u00e7\u0259nl\u0259r var. B\u0259zi insanlar pulun hesab\u0131na m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n bo\u015fluqlar\u0131 doldurmaq ist\u0259yir. Pula g\u00f6r\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edir v\u0259 ya h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131 kas\u0131b oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn onu at\u0131r.<\/p>\n \u0130ntim m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r<\/strong><\/p>\n Biz pasientl\u0259r\u0259 m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck ki, h\u0259ft\u0259d\u0259 3 d\u0259f\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 olsunlar. Bunu ist\u0259yib-ist\u0259m\u0259m\u0259kd\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 deyil. B\u0259d\u0259nin funksiyas\u0131 bu c\u00fcrd\u00fcr. M\u00fcnasib\u0259t olmad\u0131qda b\u0259d\u0259n \u0259s\u0259bi v\u0259 g\u0259rgin olur. T\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r bir-birinin x\u0259trin\u0259 d\u0259yir, bir-birind\u0259 s\u0259hv axtarma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131rlar. \u018fg\u0259r ail\u0259d\u0259 intim m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r normald\u0131rsa, probleml\u0259r d\u0259 azd\u0131r.<\/p>\n A<\/strong>il\u0259d\u0259 sevgid\u0259ns\u0259 \u00e7ox, bir-birin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259t \u00f6n\u0259mlidir. \u018fr v\u0259 arvad bir-birini ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259li, dost olmal\u0131d\u0131rlar.<\/strong><\/p>\n X\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xaran amill\u0259r var<\/strong><\/p>\n Ki\u015fi qad\u0131nla maraqlanmal\u0131d\u0131r. Qad\u0131n hiss etm\u0259lidir ki, onunla maraqlanan, ona qay\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n bir insan var. Bu eynil\u0259 qad\u0131nlara da aiddir. Qad\u0131n da ki\u015fi il\u0259 maraqlanmal\u0131, \u00e7ox ist\u0259diyini bildirm\u0259li, \u0259zizl\u0259m\u0259lidir. Ki\u015finin evd\u0259 rahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131 olsa, niy\u0259 d\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t etsin?<\/p>\n Lal\u0259 \u018fhm\u0259dova, psixoloq<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Bu g\u00fcn \u0259ks\u0259r g\u0259ncl\u0259rin m\u0259cburiyy\u0259t olmadan nikah ba\u011flamalar\u0131na baxmayaraq, ail\u0259 s\u0259ad\u0259tin\u0259 nadir hallarda rast g\u0259linir. X\u0259yan\u0259t v\u0259 bo\u015fanmalar ifrat h\u0259ddin\u0259 \u00e7at\u0131b. B\u0259s, bunun real s\u0259b\u0259bi n\u0259dir? Niy\u0259 se\u00e7diyimiz insanla sevin\u0259r\u0259k ail\u0259 qurur v\u0259 b\u0259db\u0259xt olub bo\u015fan\u0131r\u0131q? \u201cFacebook\u201d v\u0259 virtual m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r \u0130ndi insanlar\u0131n \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259hat\u0259 dair\u0259si geni\u015fdir. \u0130nsanlar bir-biri il\u0259 sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olurlar. \u018fvv\u0259ll\u0259r is\u0259 bel\u0259 \u015feyl\u0259r yox idi. Ham\u0131 internetd\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc n\u00fcmun\u0259vi g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Fikir vers\u0259niz, istifad\u0259\u00e7il\u0259rin \u00e7oxu \u00f6z \u015f\u0259klini qoymur. Hans\u0131sa aktrisan\u0131n v\u0259 ya m\u00fc\u011f\u0259ninin \u015f\u0259klini qoyur. Virtual m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 daha \u00fcst\u00fcn g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259k ist\u0259yi bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti maraql\u0131 edir.…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":67330,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/xeyanet-sebeb.jpg",460,322,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/xeyanet-sebeb.jpg",460,322,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/xeyanet-sebeb.jpg",460,322,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/xeyanet-sebeb-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/xeyanet-sebeb-300x210.jpg",300,210,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/xeyanet-sebeb.jpg",460,322,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/xeyanet-sebeb.jpg",460,322,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/xeyanet-sebeb.jpg",460,322,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/xeyanet-sebeb-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/xeyanet-sebeb.jpg",460,322,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"Bu g\u00fcn \u0259ks\u0259r g\u0259ncl\u0259rin m\u0259cburiyy\u0259t olmadan nikah ba\u011flamalar\u0131na baxmayaraq, ail\u0259 s\u0259ad\u0259tin\u0259 nadir hallarda rast g\u0259linir. X\u0259yan\u0259t v\u0259 bo\u015fanmalar ifrat h\u0259ddin\u0259 \u00e7at\u0131b. B\u0259s, bunun real s\u0259b\u0259bi n\u0259dir? Niy\u0259 se\u00e7diyimiz insanla sevin\u0259r\u0259k ail\u0259 qurur v\u0259 b\u0259db\u0259xt olub bo\u015fan\u0131r\u0131q? \u201cFacebook\u201d v\u0259 virtual m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r \u0130ndi insanlar\u0131n \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259hat\u0259 dair\u0259si geni\u015fdir. \u0130nsanlar bir-biri il\u0259 sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olurlar. \u018fvv\u0259ll\u0259r…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/67329"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=67329"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/67329\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/67330"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=67329"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=67329"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=67329"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}