{"id":709334,"date":"2024-04-06T10:07:01","date_gmt":"2024-04-06T06:07:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=709334"},"modified":"2024-04-06T10:07:01","modified_gmt":"2024-04-06T06:07:01","slug":"psixoloqdan-valideynl%c9%99r%c9%99-ev-tapsirigi-az-bal-yigan-ovladinizi-qucaqlayin","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=709334","title":{"rendered":"Psixoloqdan valideynl\u0259r\u0259 \u201cev tap\u015f\u0131r\u0131\u011f\u0131\u201d &#8211; az bal y\u0131\u011fan \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 qucaqlay\u0131n!"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3><strong>\u201cEl\u0259 edin ki, h\u0259r etdiyi s\u0259hvd\u0259 u\u015faq sizin yan\u0131n\u0131za g\u0259lsin, \u0259ks halda&#8230;\u201d<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>X\u0259b\u0259r verildiyi kimi, Ab\u015feron rayonunda 17 ya\u015fl\u0131 g\u0259nc itkin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcb. Bu bar\u0259d\u0259 sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 m\u0259lumat yay\u0131l\u0131b. Bildirilib ki, 21 avqust 2007-ci il t\u0259v\u0259ll\u00fcdl\u00fc Hilal Hiday\u0259t o\u011flu Mustafayev aprelin 3-d\u0259 ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 Ceyranbatan q\u0259s\u0259b\u0259sind\u0259ki evd\u0259n \u00e7\u0131x\u0131b v\u0259 geri qay\u0131tmay\u0131b. Hilal m\u0259ktub yazaraq evi t\u0259rk etm\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bi kimi imtahanda az bal toplamas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259rib (art\u0131q tap\u0131l\u0131b &#8211; red.)<\/p>\n<p>B\u0259llidir ki, tibbi t\u0259snifata g\u00f6r\u0259, 15-18 ya\u015f aras\u0131 (yeniyetm\u0259lik d\u00f6vr\u00fc) u\u015faqlar \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tin, \u201ceqo\u201dnun formala\u015fmas\u0131 bax\u0131m\u0131ndan ke\u00e7id d\u00f6vr\u00fc ya\u015fay\u0131r. O s\u0259b\u0259b\u0259 h\u0259r \u015fey, x\u00fcsus\u0259n d\u0259 t\u0259nqid\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 \u00e7ox h\u0259ssas, q\u0131c\u0131ql\u0131 olurlar. H\u0259tta \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 buna g\u00f6r\u0259 x\u0259sar\u0259t d\u0259 yetir\u0259 bil\u0259rl\u0259r. Qar\u015f\u0131dan is\u0259 imtahan d\u00f6vr\u00fc g\u0259lir.<\/p>\n<p>Yada salaq ki, zaman-zaman imtahandan az bal toplad\u0131\u011f\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 q\u0259sd ed\u0259n abituriyentl\u0259r d\u0259 az olmay\u0131b. El\u0259 \u00f6t\u0259n il imtahandan bel\u0259 bir hadis\u0259 X\u0131rdalan \u015f\u0259h\u0259rind\u0259 ba\u015f vermi\u015fdi. 2006-c\u0131 il t\u0259v\u0259ll\u00fcdl\u00fc S.S\u0259limov (\u015f\u0259rti soyadl\u0131) \u015f\u0259h\u0259rin Heyd\u0259r \u018fliyev prospektind\u0259 yerl\u0259\u015f\u0259n 12 m\u0259rt\u0259b\u0259li binan\u0131n 8-ci m\u0259rt\u0259b\u0259sind\u0259n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc at\u0131b. 17 ya\u015fl\u0131 o\u011flan hadis\u0259 yerind\u0259 v\u0259fat edib. Ara\u015fd\u0131rmalar zaman\u0131 m\u0259lum olub ki, S.S\u0259limov orta m\u0259kt\u0259bin 11-ci sinif \u015fagirdi olub v\u0259 bir ne\u00e7\u0259 g\u00fcn \u0259vv\u0259l burax\u0131l\u0131\u015f imtahan\u0131 verib. \u0130mtahan\u0131n n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259ri a\u00e7\u0131qlanark\u0259n o, g\u00f6zl\u0259diyind\u0259n az bal toplay\u0131b. Daha sonra h\u0259yat\u0131na q\u0259sd edib.<\/p>\n<p>B\u0259s valideyn y\u00fcks\u0259k bal toplamayan \u00f6vlad\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 hans\u0131 davran\u0131\u015fa \u00fcst\u00fcnl\u00fck verm\u0259lidir?<\/p>\n<p><img src=\"https:\/\/7times.az\/public\/cloud\/2023\/03\/seventimes_c703ce26e0b4f0c4bb76466792830da1_ms97to1xae2phvj53zq6.jpg\" alt=\"\u0130ntim M\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 Psixalogiyan\u0131n Rolu \u2013 Psixoloq \u00dclviyy\u0259 Murtuzova -  7Times.Az \u2013 Son X\u0259b\u0259rl\u0259r, D\u00fcnya X\u0259b\u0259rl\u0259ri v\u0259 Multimedia\" width=\"700\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Psixoloq \u00dclviyy\u0259 Murtuzova m\u00f6vzu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 \u201cYeni M\u00fcsavat\u201da dedi ki, \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t tipinin formala\u015fmas\u0131 \u0259slind\u0259 13-18 ya\u015flar aras\u0131nda ba\u015f verir:<\/strong>\u00a0\u201cBurada stress g\u00f6st\u0259ricisi v\u0259 pozuntusu var. Sonda is\u0259 posttravmatik stress pozuntusu var. H\u0259r k\u0259s \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn individual yana\u015fma var. H\u0259min d\u00f6n\u0259mi ya\u015fayan 13-18 ya\u015f yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n dan\u0131\u015f\u0131r\u0131qsa, onlar\u0131n h\u0259r biri \u00f6z d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259sin\u0259 v\u0259 t\u0259f\u0259kk\u00fcr\u00fcn\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 bunu q\u0259bul edir. T\u0259bii ki, valideynin \u00f6vlad\u0131na m\u0259cazi minada dediyi s\u00f6z onlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn real, h\u0259qiq\u0259ti \u0259ks etdir\u0259n, bundan ba\u015fqa yol yoxdur dey\u0259 q\u0259bul ed\u0259n g\u0259ncl\u0259r var. T\u0259bii ki, bunu g\u00f6rm\u0259zd\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259n, \u00f6z yoluna davam ed\u0259n g\u0259ncl\u0259r d\u0259 var. Y\u0259ni bu, \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t tipin\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 olan m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rdir. \u00d6vladlarda bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 iki formada yana\u015fma olur. Valideynin onu h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n d\u0259 c\u0259zaland\u0131raca\u011f\u0131, &#8220;imtahanda y\u00fcks\u0259k n\u0259tic\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259s\u0259n, ev\u0259 g\u0259lm\u0259, s\u0259ni \u00f6vladl\u0131qdan \u00e7\u0131xaraca\u011fam&#8221; kimi ifad\u0259l\u0259r \u00f6vladlar t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n real, ger\u00e7\u0259k kimi q\u0259bul edilir. B\u0259zil\u0259ri is\u0259 isterik \u00f6vladlar\u0131n verdiyi h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rdir. Bunlar sad\u0259c\u0259 diqq\u0259ti \u00f6z \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 \u00e7\u0259km\u0259k, isterik \u015f\u0259kild\u0259, \u201cbunu etm\u0259s\u0259niz bunu ed\u0259c\u0259m\u201d dem\u0259si, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc evd\u0259n qa\u00e7m\u0131\u015f kimi g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259si, intihara c\u0259hd etm\u0259l\u0259ri kimi \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 tablo yaratmalar\u0131, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc d\u0259rman i\u00e7irmi\u015f kimi g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259l\u0259r &#8211; bunlar ham\u0131s\u0131 valideyn \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 avtoritar rejim yaratmaq, diqq\u0259ti \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 \u00e7\u0259km\u0259k dem\u0259kdir. Bunu da ed\u0259n \u00f6vladlar\u0131m\u0131z var. Bu hadis\u0259l\u0259rin ya\u015fanmamas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn valideyn \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda olmal\u0131, ona d\u0259st\u0259k olmal\u0131d\u0131r. S\u0259hv v\u0259 yanl\u0131\u015flar\u0131nla, toplad\u0131\u011f\u0131n bal\u0131n n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r olmas\u0131ndan as\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq h\u0259r zaman yan\u0131ndayam dey\u0259 d\u0259st\u0259yini g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259lidir. B\u0259z\u0259n bel\u0259 hallar ya\u015fananda \u00f6vlad k\u00f6m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yad yer\u0259, qon\u015fuya deyil, \u00f6z ata-anas\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131na \u00fcz tutmal\u0131d\u0131r. O d\u00f6vrl\u0259rd\u0259 yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 sosial \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t pozuntusu ola bil\u0259r, ona g\u00f6r\u0259 valideyn el\u0259 etm\u0259lidir ki, h\u0259r etdiyi s\u0259hvd\u0259 u\u015faq valideynin yan\u0131na g\u0259lsin&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p><img src=\"https:\/\/cdn.demokrat.az\/uploadedfiles\/custom\/2021\/11\/18\/1\/a8520a7b-da10-446f-9b08-3f6e071dc0b3\/elcin-efendi.jpg\" alt=\"El\u00e7in \u018ff\u0259ndi: \u201cDistant t\u0259hsil m\u00fctl\u0259q b\u0259rq\u0259rar olmal\u0131d\u0131r\u201d\" width=\"700\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>T\u0259hsil eksperti El\u00e7in \u018ff\u0259ndi d\u0259 m\u00f6vzu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 fikrini bildirib:<\/strong>\u00a0\u201cQar\u015f\u0131dan imtahanlar g\u0259lir. H\u0259r bir valideyn \u0259lb\u0259tt\u0259 \u00f6vlad\u0131ndan u\u011fur g\u00f6zl\u0259yir. Amma unutmayaq ki, he\u00e7 bir imtahan \u00f6vlad\u0131m\u0131zdan daha art\u0131q deyil, n\u0259inki imtahanda \u0259ld\u0259 etdiyi bal, h\u0259tta ar\u0131 bal\u0131 bel\u0259 \u00f6vlad\u0131m\u0131z q\u0259d\u0259r \u015firin deyil. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 bu uy\u011fun m\u00fcqayis\u0259 deyil, amma b\u0259zi valideynl\u0259r\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 m\u0259cburam anla\u015f\u0131lan formada izah edim. \u0130mtahanda az bal y\u0131\u011fsan, g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259 dem\u0259y\u0259k, \u0259sas can\u0131n sa\u011flam olsun, g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 d\u00f6n\u00fcm dey\u0259k. Onlara \u00f6zg\u00fcv\u0259n ver\u0259k v\u0259 dey\u0259k ki, s\u0259ni sevir\u0259m, s\u0259n\u0259 \u00e7ox g\u00fcv\u0259nir, inan\u0131ram. \u018fmin\u0259m ki, s\u0259n bacaracaqsan\u201d.<\/p>\n<p><img src=\"https:\/\/files.modern.az\/articles\/2019\/01\/11\/322820.jpg\" alt=\"H\u0259ddini a\u015fm\u0131\u015f bu adam...\u201d \u2013 M\u0259kt\u0259b direktorundan Kamran \u018fs\u0259dova s\u0259rt  \u0130TT\u0130HAMLAR\" width=\"700\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>T\u0259hsil eksperti Kamran \u018fs\u0259dov da bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 narahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bildirib:<\/strong>\u00a0\u201cU\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131n imtahandan yax\u015f\u0131 qiym\u0259t almas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn valideynl\u0259r narahatd\u0131rlar. Amma onu n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almaq laz\u0131md\u0131r ki, imtahanda oturan u\u015faqlar\u0131n da i\u00e7\u0259risind\u0259 r\u0259ssam var, he\u00e7 onun riyaziyyat\u0131 bilm\u0259yi vacib deyil. Orada sahibkar var, hans\u0131 ki tarix, ingilis dili v\u0259 ya \u0259d\u0259biyyat\u0131 bilm\u0259yin\u0259 ehtiyac\u0131 yoxdur. Orada musiqi\u00e7i var, onun kimyadan alaca\u011f\u0131 qiym\u0259tin f\u0259rqi yoxdur. Orada idman\u00e7\u0131 var, onun fiziki sa\u011flaml\u0131\u011f\u0131 fizika bilm\u0259yind\u0259n daha vacibdir. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259, u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131z yax\u015f\u0131 qiym\u0259t alacaqsa bu \u0259lad\u0131r. Yox, \u0259g\u0259r almasalar onlar\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 inam\u0131n\u0131 v\u0259 q\u00fcrurunu \u0259ll\u0259rind\u0259n almas\u0131nlar. Desinl\u0259r ki, h\u0259r \u015fey yax\u015f\u0131 olacaq, bu sad\u0259c\u0259 imtahand\u0131r. S\u0259n h\u0259yatda daha b\u00f6y\u00fck \u015feyl\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yaranm\u0131san&#8230; Bunu etsinl\u0259r, o zaman onlar b\u00fct\u00fcn d\u00fcnyan\u0131 f\u0259th ed\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r. Bir imtahan v\u0259 ya a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 qiym\u0259t onlar\u0131n arzusunu v\u0259 istedad\u0131n\u0131 \u0259lind\u0259n almayacaq. Bir d\u0259 xahi\u015f edir\u0259m, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259sinl\u0259r ki, h\u0259kim v\u0259 m\u00fch\u0259ndisl\u0259r d\u00fcnyada yegan\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt insanlard\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cEl\u0259 edin ki, h\u0259r etdiyi s\u0259hvd\u0259 u\u015faq sizin yan\u0131n\u0131za g\u0259lsin, \u0259ks halda&#8230;\u201d X\u0259b\u0259r verildiyi kimi, Ab\u015feron rayonunda 17 ya\u015fl\u0131 g\u0259nc itkin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcb. Bu bar\u0259d\u0259 sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 m\u0259lumat yay\u0131l\u0131b. Bildirilib ki, 21 avqust 2007-ci il t\u0259v\u0259ll\u00fcdl\u00fc Hilal Hiday\u0259t o\u011flu Mustafayev aprelin 3-d\u0259 ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 Ceyranbatan q\u0259s\u0259b\u0259sind\u0259ki evd\u0259n \u00e7\u0131x\u0131b v\u0259 geri qay\u0131tmay\u0131b. Hilal m\u0259ktub yazaraq evi t\u0259rk etm\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bi kimi imtahanda az bal toplamas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259rib (art\u0131q tap\u0131l\u0131b &#8211; red.) B\u0259llidir ki, tibbi t\u0259snifata g\u00f6r\u0259, 15-18 ya\u015f aras\u0131 (yeniyetm\u0259lik d\u00f6vr\u00fc) u\u015faqlar \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tin, \u201ceqo\u201dnun formala\u015fmas\u0131 bax\u0131m\u0131ndan ke\u00e7id d\u00f6vr\u00fc ya\u015fay\u0131r. O s\u0259b\u0259b\u0259 h\u0259r \u015fey, x\u00fcsus\u0259n d\u0259&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":709335,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[19],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/3c007ae1f2a6e88851bc778be2b0318c.jpg",637,400,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/3c007ae1f2a6e88851bc778be2b0318c.jpg",637,400,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/3c007ae1f2a6e88851bc778be2b0318c.jpg",637,400,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/3c007ae1f2a6e88851bc778be2b0318c-500x280.jpg",500,280,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/3c007ae1f2a6e88851bc778be2b0318c-581x365.jpg",581,365,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/3c007ae1f2a6e88851bc778be2b0318c.jpg",637,400,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/3c007ae1f2a6e88851bc778be2b0318c.jpg",637,400,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/3c007ae1f2a6e88851bc778be2b0318c.jpg",637,400,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/3c007ae1f2a6e88851bc778be2b0318c-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/3c007ae1f2a6e88851bc778be2b0318c.jpg",637,400,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"<a href=\"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?cat=19\" rel=\"category\">G\u00fcnd\u0259m<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"\u201cEl\u0259 edin ki, h\u0259r etdiyi s\u0259hvd\u0259 u\u015faq sizin yan\u0131n\u0131za g\u0259lsin, \u0259ks halda&#8230;\u201d X\u0259b\u0259r verildiyi kimi, Ab\u015feron rayonunda 17 ya\u015fl\u0131 g\u0259nc itkin d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcb. Bu bar\u0259d\u0259 sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 m\u0259lumat yay\u0131l\u0131b. Bildirilib ki, 21 avqust 2007-ci il t\u0259v\u0259ll\u00fcdl\u00fc Hilal Hiday\u0259t o\u011flu Mustafayev aprelin 3-d\u0259 ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 Ceyranbatan q\u0259s\u0259b\u0259sind\u0259ki evd\u0259n \u00e7\u0131x\u0131b v\u0259 geri qay\u0131tmay\u0131b. 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