Bu g\u00fcnl\u0259rd\u0259 11-ci sinifl\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn burax\u0131l\u0131\u015f imtahan\u0131ndan az bal toplayan paytaxt m\u0259kt\u0259blisinin evd\u0259n qa\u00e7mas\u0131 hadis\u0259si il\u0259 yadda qald\u0131. 11-ci sinif \u015fagirdi evi t\u0259rk ed\u0259rk\u0259n m\u0259ktub yazaraq imtahandan az bal toplad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u0259b\u0259b kimi g\u00f6st\u0259rib.<\/p>\n
Median\u0131n v\u0259 sosial platformalar\u0131n g\u00fcnd\u0259min\u0259 \u00e7evril\u0259n hadis\u0259d\u0259 valideyni d\u0259, m\u0259kt\u0259bi d\u0259 q\u0131nayanlar oldu. \u201cSon q\u0259piyimi d\u0259 s\u0259n\u0259 x\u0259rcl\u0259mi\u015f\u0259m\u201d, – dey\u0259n valideynin g\u00f6zl\u0259ntisi il\u0259 \u201cm\u0259kt\u0259bimizin \u201cplanka\u201ds\u0131n\u0131 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 salmamal\u0131y\u0131q\u201d t\u0259l\u0259bi yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259rin h\u0259yat\u0131nda emosional t\u0259zyiq yarad\u0131r. Bu bax\u0131mdan, u\u015faqlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn imtahan s\u00f6z\u00fcn \u0259sl m\u0259nas\u0131nda \u00f6l\u00fcm-dirim m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259sin\u0259 \u00e7evrilir: \u201c\u018fg\u0259r ke\u00e7dims\u0259, m\u00f6vcud olmaq h\u00fcququm var, yoxsa, yox…\u201d<\/p>\n
T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, yeniyetm\u0259l\u0259ri emosional h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259n qorumaq h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmur. T\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki, b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259r d\u0259h\u015f\u0259tli bir add\u0131m atma\u011fa q\u0259rar verm\u0259y\u0259 haz\u0131r olan bir yeniyetm\u0259nin \u0259hval-ruhiyy\u0259sind\u0259ki d\u0259yi\u015fikliyi h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 hiss etm\u0259yi bacarm\u0131rlar…<\/p>\n
\u201cU\u015faqlar\u0131 vaxt\u0131nda d\u00fczg\u00fcn haz\u0131rlam\u0131r\u0131q\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n Yaz\u0131\u00e7\u0131-pedaqoq Reyhan Yusifq\u0131z\u0131 hesab edir ki, bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259d\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259tin d\u0259, valideynin d\u0259, m\u0259kt\u0259bin d\u0259 \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 eyni m\u0259suliyy\u0259t d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr: \u201cU\u015faqlar\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259sin\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn yana\u015fm\u0131r\u0131q. Biz h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 onlar\u0131n yan\u0131nda olmayaca\u011f\u0131q. Sabah onlar onsuz da probleml\u0259rl\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015f\u0259nd\u0259 onu t\u0259k h\u0259ll etm\u0259li olacaqlar. Biz onlar\u0131 bu situasiyaya haz\u0131rlam\u0131r\u0131q. \u018ftraflar\u0131nda \u00e7\u0259hray\u0131 bir ortam yarad\u0131r\u0131q: m\u0259nfi \u015feyl\u0259ri onlara demirik ki, pis olarlar, qorxulu kitablar\u0131 oxumuruq ki, bird\u0259n \u00fcr\u0259kl\u0259rind\u0259 fikir ed\u0259rl\u0259r. U\u015faqlar\u0131 qucaqlay\u0131b bir q\u0259f\u0259s\u0259 sal\u0131r\u0131q v\u0259 onlar\u0131 b\u00fct\u00fcn pis x\u0259b\u0259rl\u0259rd\u0259n, m\u0259nfi emosiyalardan qoruyuruq. U\u015faq da el\u0259 bilir ki, h\u0259yat da na\u011f\u0131llardak\u0131 kimidir, sonu h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 bitir, \u0259dal\u0259t, xeyir qalib g\u0259lir. Bird\u0259n g\u00f6r\u0259nd\u0259 ki, h\u0259yat he\u00e7 d\u0259 na\u011f\u0131llardak\u0131 kimi deyil, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc itirir, d\u00fczg\u00fcn q\u0259rar q\u0259bul ed\u0259, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc qoruya bilmir\u201d.<\/p>\n Valideynin u\u015faqdan imtahan g\u00f6zl\u0259ntisi<\/strong><\/p>\n “\u00dcmidli G\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k Sosial T\u0259\u015f\u0259bb\u00fcsl\u0259r” \u0130ctimai Birliyinin icra\u00e7\u0131 direktoru K\u0259mal\u0259 A\u015fumovan\u0131n fikrinc\u0259, m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 yana\u015fmada daha \u00e7ox u\u015fa\u011fa k\u00f6kl\u0259nm\u0259m\u0259li, \u201cb\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259r n\u0259 etm\u0259lidir ki, u\u015faq yax\u015f\u0131 olsun?\u201d sual\u0131n\u0131 qoymal\u0131y\u0131q: \u201cU\u015faq m\u0259ktub yaz\u0131b v\u0259 evd\u0259n gedib. Bu m\u0259ktubun yaz\u0131lmas\u0131, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n evd\u0259n getm\u0259 fikri n\u0259d\u0259n formala\u015f\u0131r? Niy\u0259 rahat evin\u0259 g\u0259lib dey\u0259 bilmir ki, m\u0259n bu g\u00fcn 80 bal y\u0131\u011fd\u0131m, 200 bal y\u0131\u011fa bilm\u0259dim… \u00c7\u00fcnki biz bala k\u00f6kl\u0259nirik. Valideynlik borcu y\u00fcks\u0259k s\u0259viyy\u0259d\u0259 qal\u0131r, amma valideynlik qay\u011f\u0131s\u0131 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 s\u0259viyy\u0259d\u0259 olur\u201d. QHT s\u0259drinin fikrinc\u0259, problemin yaranmas\u0131na t\u0259k valideyn deyil, t\u0259hsil m\u00fchiti, imtahan sistemi d\u0259 t\u0259sir g\u00f6st\u0259rir:<\/p>\n \u201cM\u0259n s\u0259nd\u0259n \u00f6tr\u00fc bu q\u0259d\u0259r pul x\u0259rcl\u0259yir\u0259m\u201d\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cN\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r ki, valideyn v\u0259 m\u0259kt\u0259b u\u015fa\u011fa \u0259\u015fya kimi yana\u015facaq, sovet ideologiyas\u0131n\u0131n insan\u0131 kimi baxacaq, bu kimi hadis\u0259l\u0259r ba\u015f ver\u0259c\u0259k\u201d, – dey\u0259 narahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ifad\u0259 ed\u0259n psixologiya \u00fczr\u0259 f\u0259ls\u0259f\u0259 doktoru Ramid\u0259 Oqtayq\u0131z\u0131 hesab edir ki, bu g\u00fcn t\u0259hsilin verdiyi imkanlar g\u00f6zl\u0259ntil\u0259rl\u0259 \u00fcst-\u00fcst\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u00fcr: \u201cU\u015faqlar b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fcn \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kirl\u0259r – haz\u0131rl\u0131qlara gedirl\u0259r. M\u00fc\u0259llimin u\u015faqdan g\u00fccl\u00fc g\u00f6zl\u0259ntisi var: m\u0259n s\u0259nd\u0259n bu q\u0259d\u0259r bal g\u00f6zl\u0259yir\u0259m, s\u0259n bel\u0259 olmal\u0131san. U\u015faq m\u00fc\u0259llimin g\u00f6zl\u0259ntisini do\u011frultmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr: \u201cM\u0259nd\u0259n g\u00f6zl\u0259nti \u00fcst s\u0259viyy\u0259d\u0259dir, amma bunu ver\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259m\u201d. \u00c7\u00fcnki u\u015faqlar \u00f6z potensiallar\u0131n\u0131 daha yax\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcrl\u0259r. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf \u00a0ki, m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 n\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259lliml\u0259r u\u015faqlar\u0131n potensial\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n yana\u015fa bilir, n\u0259 d\u0259 valideynl\u0259r. Valideyn pul x\u0259rcl\u0259diyini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr: \u201cM\u0259n s\u0259nd\u0259n \u00f6tr\u00fc bu q\u0259d\u0259r pul x\u0259rcl\u0259yir\u0259m. Gec\u0259-g\u00fcnd\u00fcz \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131ram, yeyib-i\u00e7mir\u0259m, toya getmir\u0259m, \u0259yin-ba\u015f alm\u0131ram. X\u0259rcl\u0259yir\u0259m ki, s\u0259n adam olasan\u201d. U\u015faqlar \u00f6zl\u0259rinin \u201cadam olmaq\u201d prinsipini bir k\u0259nara qoyub, g\u00fcnahkarl\u0131q hissi il\u0259 imtahan\u0131n n\u0259tic\u0259sini g\u00f6zl\u0259yirl\u0259r. H\u0259m\u00e7inin bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259d\u0259 valideynin t\u0259kc\u0259 davaml\u0131 olaraq psixoloji basq\u0131s\u0131 deyil, \u201cbabana, qon\u015fuya, qohuma n\u0259 dey\u0259c\u0259yik?\u201d – kimi \u0259traf\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259 basq\u0131s\u0131 da var. Bu kimi psixoloji basq\u0131lar u\u015faqlarda \u00f6zn\u0259 inam hissini a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 sal\u0131r. N\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 g\u00fcnahkarl\u0131q hissi yaran\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n H\u0259r ilin mart v\u0259 iyun aylar\u0131 9-11-ci sinif \u015fagirdl\u0259rinin h\u0259yat\u0131nda \u0259n g\u0259rgin vaxtd\u0131r. Bu zaman onlar g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k yollar\u0131n\u0131 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n ed\u0259n burax\u0131l\u0131\u015f v\u0259 blok imtahanlar\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259y\u0259can\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015fay\u0131rlar. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, h\u0259r \u015fagird bu b\u00f6y\u00fck stressin \u00f6hd\u0259sind\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259 bilmir. M\u00f6vzu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131\u00a0\u201cKaspi\u201d\u00a0q\u0259zeti m\u0259qal\u0259 d\u0259rc edib. Bu g\u00fcnl\u0259rd\u0259 11-ci sinifl\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn burax\u0131l\u0131\u015f imtahan\u0131ndan az bal toplayan paytaxt m\u0259kt\u0259blisinin evd\u0259n qa\u00e7mas\u0131 hadis\u0259si il\u0259 yadda qald\u0131. 11-ci sinif \u015fagirdi evi t\u0259rk ed\u0259rk\u0259n m\u0259ktub yazaraq imtahandan az bal toplad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u0259b\u0259b kimi g\u00f6st\u0259rib. Median\u0131n v\u0259 sosial platformalar\u0131n g\u00fcnd\u0259min\u0259 \u00e7evril\u0259n hadis\u0259d\u0259 valideyni d\u0259, m\u0259kt\u0259bi d\u0259 q\u0131nayanlar oldu. \u201cSon q\u0259piyimi…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":711169,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/QaikJ1CUTAcZezkgL0M15A2dxhvQrZQvRAseo7Fc.jpg",620,413,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/QaikJ1CUTAcZezkgL0M15A2dxhvQrZQvRAseo7Fc.jpg",620,413,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/QaikJ1CUTAcZezkgL0M15A2dxhvQrZQvRAseo7Fc.jpg",620,413,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/QaikJ1CUTAcZezkgL0M15A2dxhvQrZQvRAseo7Fc-500x280.jpg",500,280,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/QaikJ1CUTAcZezkgL0M15A2dxhvQrZQvRAseo7Fc-548x365.jpg",548,365,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/QaikJ1CUTAcZezkgL0M15A2dxhvQrZQvRAseo7Fc.jpg",620,413,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/QaikJ1CUTAcZezkgL0M15A2dxhvQrZQvRAseo7Fc.jpg",620,413,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/QaikJ1CUTAcZezkgL0M15A2dxhvQrZQvRAseo7Fc.jpg",620,413,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/QaikJ1CUTAcZezkgL0M15A2dxhvQrZQvRAseo7Fc-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/04\/QaikJ1CUTAcZezkgL0M15A2dxhvQrZQvRAseo7Fc.jpg",620,413,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"H\u0259r ilin mart v\u0259 iyun aylar\u0131 9-11-ci sinif \u015fagirdl\u0259rinin h\u0259yat\u0131nda \u0259n g\u0259rgin vaxtd\u0131r. Bu zaman onlar g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k yollar\u0131n\u0131 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n ed\u0259n burax\u0131l\u0131\u015f v\u0259 blok imtahanlar\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259y\u0259can\u0131n\u0131 ya\u015fay\u0131rlar. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, h\u0259r \u015fagird bu b\u00f6y\u00fck stressin \u00f6hd\u0259sind\u0259n g\u0259l\u0259 bilmir. M\u00f6vzu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131\u00a0\u201cKaspi\u201d\u00a0q\u0259zeti m\u0259qal\u0259 d\u0259rc edib. Bu g\u00fcnl\u0259rd\u0259 11-ci sinifl\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn burax\u0131l\u0131\u015f imtahan\u0131ndan az bal toplayan paytaxt m\u0259kt\u0259blisinin evd\u0259n…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/711168"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=711168"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/711168\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/711169"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=711168"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=711168"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=711168"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}<\/p>\n
\u201cValideyn u\u015faqdan imtahan g\u00f6zl\u0259ntisini y\u0131\u011f\u0131\u015fd\u0131rmal\u0131d\u0131r. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n t\u0259hsili olmal\u0131d\u0131r, amma ondan bal g\u00f6zl\u0259nm\u0259m\u0259lidir. U\u015fa\u011f\u0131n b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcy\u00fc m\u00fchiti, ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 t\u0259rbiy\u0259 prosesini v\u0259 \u0259trafdan ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 t\u0259sirl\u0259ri qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259liyik. Burada t\u0259kc\u0259 valideyn i\u015ftirak\u00e7\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 deyil, t\u0259hsil oca\u011f\u0131n\u0131n i\u015ftirak\u00e7\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n da rolu var. 15-16 ya\u015fl\u0131 imtahandan qorxmayan v\u0259 s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc dey\u0259 bil\u0259n g\u0259nc b\u00f6y\u00fctm\u0259k ist\u0259yiriks\u0259, onu u\u015faql\u0131qdan emosional v\u0259ziyy\u0259t\u0259 haz\u0131r, g\u00fccl\u00fc yeti\u015fdirm\u0259liyik. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, bunu da h\u0259r valideyn bacarm\u0131r. T\u0259hsil oca\u011f\u0131nda i\u015fl\u0259y\u0259n m\u00fc\u0259llim d\u0259 o yana\u015fman\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259 bilmir\u201d. K.A\u015fumova hesab edir ki, bel\u0259 hadis\u0259l\u0259rin yaranmas\u0131na bir yox, bir ne\u00e7\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bin t\u0259siri var: \u201cOnu da n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almal\u0131y\u0131q ki, h\u0259r u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n repetitora getm\u0259k imkan\u0131 yoxdur. M\u0259kt\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259 veril\u0259n t\u0259hsilin s\u0259viyy\u0259sini d\u0259 n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. H\u0259m\u00e7inin art\u0131q u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259 prosesin\u0259 t\u0259kc\u0259 valideyn deyil, texnologiyalar da m\u00fcdaxil\u0259 edir. \u00c7\u00fcnki u\u015faqlar mobil cihazlardan, sosial platformalardan istifad\u0259 edirl\u0259r\u201d.<\/p>\n
Psixoloqun fikrinc\u0259, valideyn\u00a0anlamal\u0131d\u0131r ki, indiki n\u0259sil tamam ba\u015fqad\u0131r: \u201cT\u0259hsil sistemind\u0259 ciddi d\u0259yi\u015fiklik olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Valideynl\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259llimin he\u00e7 bir ba\u011f\u0131 yoxdur. U\u015faqlar\u0131n da m\u0259kt\u0259bl\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259vi ba\u011f\u0131 qalmay\u0131b. Onlar daha \u00e7ox repetitor yan\u0131na gedirl\u0259r. H\u0259r bir u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n biliyind\u0259n savay\u0131 bacar\u0131qlar\u0131 da \u00f6n\u0259 \u00e7\u0259kilm\u0259lidir. Onlar\u0131n pe\u015f\u0259 v\u0259 sosial bacar\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xarmaq \u00e7ox vacibdir. Bunlar d\u00fcz\u0259lm\u0259dikc\u0259 bu problem qalacaq…\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"