Kubra M\u0259hh\u0259r\u0259mova yaz\u0131r…<\/b><\/i>
\nH\u0259r g\u00fcn hans\u0131sa ail\u0259nin da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131, c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259rin bo\u015fanmas\u0131 x\u0259b\u0259rini e\u015fidirik. C\u0259miyy\u0259t \u0259vv\u0259l buna \u00e7ox q\u0259r\u0259zli v\u0259 emosional yana\u015f\u0131rd\u0131sa, indi bu x\u0259b\u0259rl\u0259 he\u00e7 kimi t\u0259\u0259cc\u00fcbl\u0259ndirm\u0259k olmur. S\u0259n dem\u0259, bir-birini sevm\u0259y\u0259n, yola getm\u0259y\u0259n y\u00fczl\u0259rl\u0259 insan s\u0259hv\u0259n evl\u0259nirl\u0259r v\u0259 sonra anlay\u0131rlar ki, bu, onlar\u0131n ist\u0259diyi h\u0259yat v\u0259 ya ist\u0259diyi h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 deyil. Bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259nin bir t\u0259r\u0259fi.
\nM\u0259s\u0259l\u0259nin dig\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259fi is\u0259 bel\u0259 ayr\u0131lan ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 do\u011fulan u\u015faqlard\u0131r. Y\u0259ni c\u00fctl\u00fckl\u0259r ayr\u0131l\u0131r, u\u015faq is\u0259 qal\u0131r. V\u0259 he\u00e7 kim\u0259 sirr deyil ki, bu v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259n h\u0259r zaman u\u015faqlar \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kir. T\u0259bii ki, ail\u0259nin da\u011f\u0131lmas\u0131ndan he\u00e7 kimin z\u0259man\u0259t talonu yoxdur. Ham\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na g\u0259l\u0259 bil\u0259r. Amma \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck z\u0259rb\u0259ni b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259rin anlamad\u0131\u011f\u0131, yaxud da anlamaq ist\u0259m\u0259diyi u\u015faqlar al\u0131r. Ana-atan\u0131n bir-birind\u0259n ayr\u0131 ya\u015famas\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259 q\u0259bul ed\u0259n u\u015faqlar, \u00e7ox t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, daha sonra ikinci z\u0259rb\u0259ni al\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n
Son zamanlar m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259 etdiyim v\u0259 t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf hissi il\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131la\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131m hal odur ki, ki\u015fil\u0259rin \u00e7oxu h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 bo\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 kimi \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131 da bo\u015fay\u0131rlar. M\u0259hk\u0259m\u0259nin qanunla k\u0259sdiyi alimenti min c\u00fcr b\u0259han\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 ya \u00f6d\u0259mir, ya da gecikdirirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n
U\u015faqlarla maraqlanm\u0131r, h\u0259r \u015feyi analar\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 at\u0131rlar. \u018fg\u0259r u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n s\u0259hh\u0259tind\u0259, yaxud psixikas\u0131nda bir problem yaran\u0131rsa, bunda anan\u0131 g\u00fcnahkar g\u00f6r\u00fcr, problemin h\u0259llini d\u0259 anan\u0131n \u00fcst\u00fcn\u0259 at\u0131rlar. Bir daha qeyd edir\u0259m ki, bunu ham\u0131ya \u015famil etmir\u0259m. Amma \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti bel\u0259dir.<\/p>\n
Bel\u0259likl\u0259, c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 \u201cke\u00e7mi\u015f \u00f6vladlar\u201d b\u0259x\u015f olunur. U\u015faq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn is\u0259 \u201cke\u00e7mi\u015f ata\u201d yoxdur. Onun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ata var. O ata ki art\u0131q onun varl\u0131\u011f\u0131na \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259t vermir, onun yan\u0131nda olmaq ist\u0259mir. \u00c7\u00fcnki art\u0131q bu \u00f6vlad ke\u00e7mi\u015f h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131ndan olan u\u015faqd\u0131r. Sanki k\u00f6hn\u0259 oyuncaq kimi.<\/p>\n
N\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r m\u00fcasirlik haqq\u0131nda q\u0131\u015fq\u0131rsaq da, c\u0259miyy\u0259t bo\u015fanan qad\u0131n\u0131n ikinci d\u0259f\u0259 ail\u0259 qurmas\u0131na \u00e7ox pis yana\u015f\u0131r. B\u0259li, b\u0259li. \u018fg\u0259r qad\u0131n bo\u015fan\u0131bsa, xeyir ola ikinci d\u0259f\u0259 \u0259r\u0259 gedir? Camaat subay q\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 \u0259r\u0259 ver\u0259 bilmir. Otursun, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131na baxs\u0131n. Amma bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f ki\u015fi ikinci, h\u0259tta \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc d\u0259f\u0259 d\u0259 rahatl\u0131qla evl\u0259n\u0259 bil\u0259r. C\u0259miyy\u0259timiz buna \u201cokey\u201d verir.\u00a0 T\u0259ki evl\u0259nsin, xo\u015fb\u0259xt olsun. Bununla i\u015fim yox. \u0130\u015fim olan odur ki, bu ki\u015fil\u0259r ikinci d\u0259f\u0259 v\u0259 yenid\u0259n ata olurlar. V\u0259 \u0259ks\u0259r hallarda burada ikinci faci\u0259 ya\u015fan\u0131r. Birinci v\u0259 ikinci arvaddan do\u011fulan u\u015faqlar bir-birin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259n k\u0259silir. M\u0259hz valideynl\u0259rin \u201ck\u00f6m\u0259yil\u0259\u201d.
\nU\u015faqlardan biri \u201cke\u00e7mi\u015f\u201d, dig\u0259ri is\u0259 \u201cindiki\u201d \u00f6vlad olur. V\u0259 onlar aras\u0131nda ya\u015fanan ayr\u0131se\u00e7kilik h\u0259r add\u0131mda sezilir. \u201c\u0130ndiki u\u015fa\u011f\u0131\u201d ata h\u0259r g\u00fcn ba\u011f\u00e7aya, m\u0259kt\u0259b\u0259 apar\u0131r, \u201cke\u00e7mi\u015f u\u015faq\u201d is\u0259 m\u0259kt\u0259b\u0259 anas\u0131 il\u0259 gedir. \u201c\u0130ndiki u\u015fa\u011f\u0131\u201d ata g\u0259zm\u0259y\u0259, \u0259yl\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 apar\u0131r, \u201cke\u00e7mi\u015f u\u015faq\u201d is\u0259 h\u0259ft\u0259l\u0259rl\u0259 atas\u0131n\u0131n yolunu g\u00f6zl\u0259yir. V\u0259 bu siyah\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ox uzatmaq olar.
\n\u0130ndi b\u0259zil\u0259ri yazacaqlar ki, arvad\u0131n a\u011fl\u0131 olayd\u0131, ki\u015fi d\u0259 onu bo\u015famazd\u0131. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u0259 d\u0259, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131na da baxayd\u0131. Biz nec\u0259 d\u00f6z\u00fcrd\u00fck b\u0259s? Bax, buradan bu fikri d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259n k\u0259sl\u0259r\u0259 s\u0259sl\u0259nir\u0259m: u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n burada he\u00e7 bir g\u00fcnah\u0131 yoxdur. H\u0259r bir u\u015faq ana-atas\u0131n\u0131 sevir v\u0259 onlardan da sevgi g\u00f6zl\u0259yir. Ayr\u0131landa u\u015faqlar\u0131 \u201cke\u00e7mi\u015f h\u0259yata\u201d buraxm\u0131rlar. Onlar\u0131 orada girov qoymurlar.<\/p>\n
\u018fziz atalar, u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 \u201cbo\u015famay\u0131n\u201d! \u00c7\u00fcnki h\u0259r birimizin q\u0259bir da\u015f\u0131nda atam\u0131z\u0131n ad\u0131 yaz\u0131l\u0131r. Allah s\u0259n\u0259 min k\u0259r\u0259 r\u0259hm\u0259t el\u0259sin, Oqtay m\u00fc\u0259llim. N\u0259 yax\u015f\u0131 ki, q\u0259bir da\u015f\u0131mda s\u0259nin ad\u0131n yaz\u0131lacaq n\u0259 vaxtsa…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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