Amerikal\u0131 psixoloq Harv Eker c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 insanlar\u0131n maraql\u0131 m\u0259qamlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xaracaq m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259l\u0259r apar\u0131b. Alim m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259l\u0259ri n\u0259tic\u0259sind\u0259 insanlar\u0131 maddi durumuna g\u00f6r\u0259 iki t\u0259b\u0259q\u0259y\u0259 b\u00f6l\u00fcb v\u0259 bel\u0259 q\u0259na\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259lib ki, bu, n\u0259inki insanlar\u0131n g\u00fcnd\u0259lik h\u0259yat\u0131na, eyni zamanda, psixologiyas\u0131na t\u0259sir g\u00f6st\u0259rir. O, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn \u201cMilyoner kimi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u201d kitab\u0131nda da bu bar\u0259d\u0259 maraql\u0131 m\u0259qamlara toxunub.<\/p>\n
\u201cD\u00fcnya \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 varl\u0131lar\u0131 birl\u0259\u015fdir\u0259n m\u0259qamlar b\u0259nz\u0259r oldu\u011fu kimi, kas\u0131blar\u0131n da probleml\u0259ri ox\u015fard\u0131r. Varl\u0131lar \u0259mindir ki, h\u0259yatlar\u0131 \u00f6z \u0259ll\u0259rind\u0259dir. Kas\u0131blar is\u0259 bir q\u0259d\u0259r pessimist d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259r\u0259k, h\u0259yatda he\u00e7 n\u0259yin onlardan as\u0131l\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r.<\/p>\n
Varl\u0131lar s\u0259rv\u0259tin\u0259 s\u0259rv\u0259t qatmaq, kas\u0131blar is\u0259 daha da yoxsul olmamaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Varl\u0131lar b\u00fct\u00fcn probleml\u0259ri qlobal d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, kas\u0131blar is\u0259 h\u0259r \u015fey\u0259 s\u0259thi yana\u015f\u0131r. Varl\u0131lar b\u00fct\u00fcn m\u00f6vcud imkanlar\u0131 n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259n ke\u00e7irdiyi halda, kas\u0131blar \u0259n ki\u00e7ik probleml\u0259rd\u0259 bel\u0259 ili\u015fib qal\u0131rlar\u201d, – dey\u0259 Harv Eker yaz\u0131b.<\/p>\n
B\u0259s Az\u0259rbaycanda varl\u0131 v\u0259 kas\u0131b insanlar psixoloqlara hans\u0131 probleml\u0259rl\u0259 m\u00fcraci\u0259t edirl\u0259r?<\/p>\n
Psixoloq Ayt\u0259n \u018fl\u0259kb\u0259rova Oxu.Az-a bildirib ki, bu g\u00fcn insanlar\u0131n \u00fcmumi problemi sevgisizlikd\u0259n yaranan etinas\u0131zl\u0131qd\u0131r. Onun fikrinc\u0259, sevgisiz insan \u0259n yax\u015f\u0131 ehtimalda pis v\u0259rdi\u015fl\u0259r\u0259 yiy\u0259l\u0259nir.<\/p>\n
Onun s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, bu g\u00fcn t\u0259b\u0259q\u0259 f\u0259rqi olmadan b\u0259yl\u0259rd\u0259 \u201cPiter Pen\u201d sindromu, qad\u0131nlarda is\u0259 daha \u00e7ox depressiv v\u0259ziyy\u0259t m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259 edilir:<\/p>\n
\u201cBu g\u00fcn ki\u015fil\u0259rin \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259tind\u0259 q\u0259rars\u0131zl\u0131q var, sanki n\u0259 ist\u0259dikl\u0259rini bilmirl\u0259r. \u00dcmumi bir bo\u015fluq i\u00e7\u0259risind\u0259dirl\u0259r. Bu is\u0259 qad\u0131nlar\u0131n narahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b olur. Bu sindrom m\u00fcxt\u0259lif ya\u015f kateqoriyalar\u0131 \u00fczr\u0259 b\u00f6l\u00fcn\u00fcr.<\/p>\n
Sindrom 10-15 ya\u015f aras\u0131 u\u015faqlarda xarici al\u0259ml\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259nin pozulmas\u0131na, 16-22 ya\u015f qrupunda olan insanlarda \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n raz\u0131l\u0131q hissinin itirilm\u0259sin\u0259, 23-25 ya\u015f aras\u0131 \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rd\u0259 is\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n m\u0259nas\u0131zla\u015fmas\u0131na, narahatl\u0131q hissinin d\u0259rinl\u0259\u015fm\u0259sin\u0259 g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r. 26-30 ya\u015f aras\u0131 \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rd\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259t daha da g\u0259rginl\u0259\u015fir, art\u0131q 45 ya\u015fdan ba\u015flayaraq is\u0259 onlar h\u0259tta u\u015faql\u0131q ill\u0259rin\u0259 qay\u0131tmaq ist\u0259yir v\u0259 arzuolunmaz h\u0259yat \u015f\u0259raitind\u0259n uzaqla\u015fma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. H\u0259tta dey\u0259rdim ki, qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r aras\u0131nda b\u0259rab\u0259r s\u0259viyy\u0259d\u0259 yay\u0131lan ipoxondriya sindromu da bu g\u00fcn \u0259n \u00e7ox \u015fikay\u0259t edil\u0259n m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259ndir. Statistikaya g\u00f6r\u0259, \u0259halinin 7-14 faizi bu sindromdan \u0259ziyy\u0259t \u00e7\u0259kir\u201d.<\/p>\n
Psixoloqun fikrinc\u0259, kas\u0131blar varl\u0131lar\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131na, varl\u0131lar da m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n m\u0259nada kas\u0131blar\u0131n h\u0259yat\u0131na h\u0259s\u0259d apar\u0131r:<\/p>\n
\u201cNec\u0259 dey\u0259rl\u0259r, Allah bir qap\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7anda, o biri qap\u0131n\u0131 ba\u011flay\u0131r. \u00c7ox q\u0259rib\u0259 bir paradoks var. \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, \u00f6z t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259md\u0259n dey\u0259 bil\u0259r\u0259m ki, varl\u0131lar kas\u0131blar\u0131n sevgisin\u0259, bir-birin\u0259 olan qay\u011f\u0131s\u0131na h\u0259s\u0259d apar\u0131r. Onlar\u0131n problemi sevgisizlikdir. Milyonlar\u0131, biznesi olan insanlar var ki, bir ovuc sevgiy\u0259, qay\u011f\u0131ya m\u00f6htac olduqlar\u0131n\u0131 deyirl\u0259r. \u018ftraflar\u0131ndak\u0131 insanlar sad\u0259c\u0259 pula, \u015f\u0259xsi n\u00fcfuzlar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 onlar\u0131n yan\u0131ndad\u0131r. Seanslarda onlara qulaq asd\u0131qca h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n d\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt olan imkanl\u0131 \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rin az oldu\u011funa inanma\u011fa ba\u015flam\u0131\u015fam.<\/p>\n
Kas\u0131blarda is\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259t f\u0259rqlidir. Onlar, sad\u0259c\u0259, maddi \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259rl\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131la\u015f\u0131rlar ki, bunun da h\u0259lli var. Onlar\u0131n \u0259traf\u0131ndak\u0131 insanlar\u0131n d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ri f\u0259rqlidir. \u00c7\u00fcnki onlar\u0131 bir-birin\u0259 ba\u011flayan t\u0259m\u0259l s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r sevgi v\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. Varl\u0131lar\u0131n milyonlara sahib oldu\u011fu halda \u201csevgini, qay\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ala bilm\u0259m\u0259l\u0259ri\u201d onu s\u00fcbut edir ki, \u201cpulsuz xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik olmur\u201d ifad\u0259si yanl\u0131\u015fd\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n
A.\u018fl\u0259kb\u0259rovan\u0131n s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, s\u0131rf xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn kas\u0131b olma\u011f\u0131 arzu ed\u0259n imkanl\u0131 pasiyentl\u0259r d\u0259 olub:<\/p>\n
\u201c\u0130mkanl\u0131 \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259r \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t qurmaq bax\u0131m\u0131ndan problem ya\u015fay\u0131r. Varl\u0131lar \u00f6zl\u0259rini kas\u0131blardan daha imkans\u0131z hesab edir, \u00e7\u00fcnki s\u0259rv\u0259tl\u0259rinin b\u00f6y\u00fck \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259tini milyonlarla d\u0259y\u0259rind\u0259 olan kredit hesab\u0131na \u0259ld\u0259 edibl\u0259r. Onlar bu s\u0131x\u0131nt\u0131 \u00fcz\u00fcnd\u0259n ail\u0259 \u00fczvl\u0259ri il\u0259 oturub s\u00f6hb\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259, d\u0259rdl\u0259\u015fm\u0259y\u0259 bel\u0259 vaxt tapa bilmirl\u0259r. Biznesl\u0259 \u0259laq\u0259dar daim i\u015fg\u00fczar s\u0259f\u0259rl\u0259rd\u0259 olduqlar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bel\u0259 insanlarda ail\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ri formala\u015fmam\u0131\u015f qal\u0131r. H\u0259tta b\u00fct\u00fcn var-d\u00f6vl\u0259tini mehriban m\u00fcnasib\u0259t, qay\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn qurban verm\u0259k ist\u0259y\u0259nl\u0259r var.<\/p>\n
Kas\u0131blar\u0131n is\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn probleml\u0259ri pessimist, neqativ d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n qaynaqlan\u0131r. Bu, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 g\u00fcv\u0259nm\u0259m\u0259k sindromudur. Onlar h\u0259v\u0259sd\u0259n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr, \u00f6zl\u0259rini c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259n t\u0259crid etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. Bu is\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259ki qeyri-sa\u011flam yana\u015fmalarla v\u0259 maddi durumla ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n
G\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr, b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fcn\u00fc m\u00fcxt\u0259lif g\u00f6z\u0259llik salonlar\u0131nda, bahal\u0131 geyim ma\u011fazalar\u0131nda al\u0131\u015f-veri\u015f etm\u0259k d\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik g\u0259tirmir. Psixoloq deyir ki, imkanl\u0131 qad\u0131nlar\u0131n probleml\u0259ri daha \u00e7ox olur:<\/p>\n
\u201cB\u0259z\u0259n imkanl\u0131 ki\u015fil\u0259r h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131ndan ba\u015fqa bir qad\u0131na a\u015fiq olduqlar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn psixoloq yard\u0131m\u0131na ehtiyac duyurlar. Xan\u0131mlar is\u0259 daha \u00e7ox \u00f6vladlar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 narahatd\u0131rlar. \u0130mkanl\u0131 \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rin d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nl\u0259ri, konflikt ya\u015fad\u0131qlar\u0131 insanlar \u00e7ox oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn qad\u0131nlar u\u015faqlar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 qorxurlar. Pasiyentl\u0259rimd\u0259n biri deyirdi ki, h\u0259min insanlar\u0131n u\u015faqlar\u0131na z\u0259r\u0259r yetir\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rind\u0259n narahatd\u0131r. B\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 bel\u0259 bir m\u0259qam yoxdur, ancaq bu hal onlar\u0131n psixologiyas\u0131na t\u0259sir ed\u0259n m\u0259qamlardan biridir.<\/p>\n
Maddi durumu yax\u015f\u0131 olmayan qad\u0131nlar\u0131n s\u0131x\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 is\u0259 ail\u0259 b\u00fcdc\u0259sin\u0259 d\u0259st\u0259k olmaqla ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Onlar\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcr\u0259n \u0259sas \u015fey \u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 normal i\u015f tap\u0131b ail\u0259 b\u00fcdc\u0259sin\u0259, yolda\u015f\u0131na d\u0259st\u0259k olmaqd\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Amerikal\u0131 psixoloq Harv Eker c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 insanlar\u0131n maraql\u0131 m\u0259qamlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00fcz\u0259 \u00e7\u0131xaracaq m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259l\u0259r apar\u0131b. Alim m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259l\u0259ri n\u0259tic\u0259sind\u0259 insanlar\u0131 maddi durumuna g\u00f6r\u0259 iki t\u0259b\u0259q\u0259y\u0259 b\u00f6l\u00fcb v\u0259 bel\u0259 q\u0259na\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259lib ki, bu, n\u0259inki insanlar\u0131n g\u00fcnd\u0259lik h\u0259yat\u0131na, eyni zamanda, psixologiyas\u0131na t\u0259sir g\u00f6st\u0259rir. O, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn \u201cMilyoner kimi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u201d kitab\u0131nda da bu bar\u0259d\u0259 maraql\u0131 m\u0259qamlara toxunub. \u201cD\u00fcnya \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 varl\u0131lar\u0131 birl\u0259\u015fdir\u0259n m\u0259qamlar b\u0259nz\u0259r…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":71790,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-71789","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-cmiyyt"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t