{"id":747591,"date":"2024-08-25T10:31:23","date_gmt":"2024-08-25T06:31:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=747591"},"modified":"2024-08-25T10:31:23","modified_gmt":"2024-08-25T06:31:23","slug":"kisil%c9%99r-buna-gor%c9%99-evlilikd%c9%99n-qorxur-maraqli-s%c9%99b%c9%99b","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=747591","title":{"rendered":"Ki\u015fil\u0259r buna g\u00f6r\u0259 evlilikd\u0259n qorxur? – MARAQLI S\u018fB\u018fB"},"content":{"rendered":"

Haz\u0131rk\u0131 d\u00f6vrd\u0259 bir s\u0131ra b\u0259yl\u0259r toy etm\u0259y\u0259, evliliy\u0259 maraq g\u00f6st\u0259rs\u0259 d\u0259, ki\u015fil\u0259rin \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti dem\u0259k olar ki, s\u00f6z\u00fcged\u0259n m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259d\u0259n gen qa\u00e7\u0131r. B\u0259y kimi g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259 q\u0259tiyy\u0259n maraq g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259rin say\u0131 dig\u0259rl\u0259rin\u0259 nisb\u0259t\u0259n daha \u00e7oxdur. Ac\u0131 olsa da reall\u0131\u011fa n\u0259z\u0259r salsaq g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck ki, ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259k ist\u0259mirl\u0259r, x\u00fcsus\u0259n d\u0259 \u201cMillennial N\u0259sil\u201d\u0259 m\u0259nsub olanlar. Yax\u015f\u0131, niy\u0259?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ki\u015fil\u0259rin evl\u0259nm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ayaqlar\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcr\u00fcnd\u00fcrm\u0259l\u0259ri v\u0259 buna m\u00fcqavim\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259l\u0259ri t\u0259kc\u0259 bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259t\u0259 v\u0259 ya m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n n\u0259sl\u0259 aid olan bir v\u0259ziyy\u0259t deyil. Ki\u00e7ik bir ara\u015fd\u0131rma etdikd\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 bil\u0259rsiniz ki, d\u00fcnyan\u0131n bir \u00e7ox f\u0259rqli m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259tind\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259m\u0259k meyli var. S\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r \u0259slind\u0259 \u00e7ox s\u0259thi deyil.<\/p>\n

ARANTV.AZ\u00a0 <\/strong>x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, Yenisabah.az\u00a0bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259nin \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rini ara\u015fd\u0131r\u0131b:<\/p>\n

1) A\u0130L\u018f FAKTORU<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ham\u0131m\u0131z b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fckc\u0259 valideynl\u0259rimiz aras\u0131ndak\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin yax\u0131ndan m\u00fc\u015fahid\u0259\u00e7isi oluruq v\u0259 ilk olaraq, bu model vasit\u0259sil\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti tan\u0131y\u0131r\u0131q. Ana v\u0259 ata aras\u0131ndak\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259t v\u0259 \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 hans\u0131 perspektiv\u0259 sahib olaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259nl\u0259\u015fdirir. Bu s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n ail\u0259d\u0259 \u00e7ox yax\u015f\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tin \u015fahidi olmayan f\u0259rdl\u0259rin, \u0259n az\u0131, evlilikd\u0259n bir az da uzaq oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yl\u0259m\u0259k s\u0259hv olmaz.<\/p>\n

2) T\u018fRB\u0130Y\u018f FORMASI<\/strong><\/p>\n

Bilirik ki, dedikl\u0259rimizin bir \u00e7ox t\u0259r\u0259fi var, lakin biz daha \u00e7ox analar\u0131n o\u011fullar\u0131 il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 b\u0259zi davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 dayanaca\u011f\u0131q. Klinik Psixoloq Tuna T\u00fcmer is\u0259 bu durumu bel\u0259 qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirir: \u201cO\u011flanlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ox sev\u0259n analar… \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, h\u0259r ist\u0259diyini asanl\u0131qla \u0259ld\u0259 ed\u0259n, daha do\u011frusu ist\u0259kl\u0259ri onlara asanl\u0131qla veril\u0259n u\u015faqlar\u0131n g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 daha az m\u0259suliyy\u0259t da\u015f\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr. Lakin ibtidai d\u00f6vrl\u0259rd\u0259n b\u0259ri m\u00f6vcud olan v\u0259 indi d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n bir h\u0259qiq\u0259t var; bir ki\u015finin \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc s\u00fcbut etm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ehtiyac duydu\u011fu \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc var etm\u0259 sah\u0259si v\u0259 onun \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc d\u0259rk etm\u0259si yaln\u0131z m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti \u00f6z \u00fcz\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6t\u00fcrm\u0259kl\u0259 m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 dem\u0259k olar ki, analar\u0131n o\u011fullar\u0131na qar\u015f\u0131 h\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q qoruyucu v\u0259 f\u0259dakar m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti onlar\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc d\u0259rk etm\u0259sin\u0259, m\u0259suliyy\u0259t da\u015f\u0131mas\u0131na m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n m\u0259nada mane olur.<\/p>\n

3) K\u0130\u015e\u0130 V\u018f QADIN ARASINDAKI F\u018fRQ\u0130N AZALMASI<\/strong><\/p>\n

Dey\u0259k ki, yax\u015f\u0131, t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcbke\u015f elan olunmas\u0131n, amma bel\u0259 bir h\u0259qiq\u0259t var; Ki\u015filik v\u0259 qad\u0131nl\u0131q aras\u0131ndak\u0131 x\u0259tt art\u0131q \u0259vv\u0259lki kimi qal\u0131n deyil. Daha \u00e7ox qad\u0131na xas r\u0259ftar v\u0259 obrazlara malik ki\u015fil\u0259r v\u0259 daha \u00e7ox ki\u015fi r\u0259ftarlar\u0131 v\u0259 obrazlar\u0131 olan qad\u0131nlar var. Bununla bel\u0259, bizim h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 primitiv t\u0259r\u0259fimiz var. Elmi n\u00f6qteyi-n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259n g\u00f6rm\u0259k olar ki, ki\u015fil\u0259rin \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc daha \u201cki\u015fi\u201d hiss etm\u0259sinin \u201cpatriarxal\u201d qurulu\u015fla he\u00e7 bir \u0259laq\u0259si yoxdur. \u0130nsan\u0131n m\u00f6vcud olmas\u0131 v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc d\u0259rk etm\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 qoruyucu, sahiblik ed\u0259n v\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259tli bir missiyaya ehtiyac\u0131 ola bil\u0259r. Ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n aras\u0131ndak\u0131 bu tarazl\u0131\u011f\u0131n pozulmas\u0131 evlilik qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndak\u0131 mane\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259n biri ola bil\u0259r. Milyonlarla oxucusu olan blogger Ceyms Maykl Sama burada n\u0259 anlamal\u0131 oldu\u011fumuzu \u00e7ox g\u00f6z\u0259l izah edib:<\/p>\n

\u201cM\u0259nc\u0259, insan\u0131n f\u0259rdi h\u0259yat\u0131nda m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 \u201cg\u00fcc\u201d v\u0259 \u201cm\u00fcst\u0259qillik\u201d anlay\u0131\u015flar\u0131 aras\u0131nda ayd\u0131n f\u0259rq qoymal\u0131y\u0131q. M\u00fcv\u0259ff\u0259qiyy\u0259tli m\u00fcnasib\u0259t komanda i\u015fidir v\u0259 komandalar yaln\u0131z \u00fcmumi m\u0259qs\u0259d \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn birlikd\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259dikl\u0259ri halda qalib g\u0259lirl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 olan halda xo\u015fb\u0259xt h\u0259yat m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olur\u201d.<\/p>\n

4) \u0130QT\u0130SAD\u0130 S\u018fB\u018fBL\u018fR<\/strong><\/p>\n

D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fck ki, evlilik \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ciddi b\u00fcdc\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259b olundu\u011funu he\u00e7 kim inkar etmir. \u00c7\u00fcnki s\u00f6hb\u0259t k\u00fclli miqdarda x\u0259rcd\u0259n gedir. Bu da ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bir az problem yarad\u0131r. H\u0259r m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259td\u0259 f\u0259rqli olsa da, bizim m\u0259d\u0259niyy\u0259timizd\u0259 toy ki\u015fi t\u0259r\u0259fin\u0259 aiddir v\u0259 bu, a\u011f\u0131r y\u00fckd\u00fcr. Ancaq \u00fcmumi d\u00fcnyaya n\u0259z\u0259r sald\u0131qda, t\u0259hsili v\u0259 g\u0259liri y\u00fcks\u0259k olan insanlar\u0131n ail\u0259 qurma ehtimal\u0131n\u0131n daha y\u00fcks\u0259k oldu\u011fu t\u0259\u0259cc\u00fcbl\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr. Bununla bel\u0259, ara\u015fd\u0131rmalar x\u00fcsusil\u0259 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 g\u0259lir s\u0259viyy\u0259sin\u0259 malik olanlar\u0131n evlilik \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r b\u00fcdc\u0259y\u0259 malik olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 da vur\u011fulay\u0131r.<\/p>\n

5) QORXU V\u018f M\u018fSUL\u0130YY\u018fT<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ki\u015fil\u0259r t\u0259bi\u0259tc\u0259 h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 azad yarad\u0131l\u0131\u015f\u0131n h\u00f6kmranl\u0131q etdiyi varl\u0131qlard\u0131r. Bir \u00e7ox ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn evlilik, x\u00fcsusil\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n ail\u0259l\u0259ri, c\u0259miyy\u0259t v\u0259 onlar\u0131n h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n sosial h\u0259yatda m\u0259hdudiyy\u0259t kimi q\u0259bul edil\u0259 bil\u0259r. Azadl\u0131qlar\u0131n\u0131 m\u0259hdudla\u015fd\u0131rmaqla yana\u015f\u0131, h\u0259yatlar\u0131 boyu eyni insana a\u015fiq olmayacaqlar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn daha yax\u015f\u0131 variant\u0131 \u0259ld\u0259n ver\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rind\u0259n d\u0259 qorxurlar. Ail\u0259 qurduqdan sonra artacaq m\u0259suliyy\u0259t d\u0259 dig\u0259r bir amildir: Onlar \u00f6zl\u0259rini yaln\u0131z ata v\u0259 ya himay\u0259\u00e7i kimi t\u0259yin etm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxurlar. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc d\u0259rk etm\u0259k bax\u0131m\u0131ndan bayaq dedikl\u0259rimiz\u0259 zidd g\u00f6r\u00fcns\u0259 d\u0259, bel\u0259 deyil; Qad\u0131nlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259t eynidir. He\u00e7 kim \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc f\u0259rdiliyin\u0259 mane olacaq bir t\u0259rifl\u0259 m\u0259hdudla\u015fd\u0131rmaq ist\u0259mir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Haz\u0131rk\u0131 d\u00f6vrd\u0259 bir s\u0131ra b\u0259yl\u0259r toy etm\u0259y\u0259, evliliy\u0259 maraq g\u00f6st\u0259rs\u0259 d\u0259, ki\u015fil\u0259rin \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti dem\u0259k olar ki, s\u00f6z\u00fcged\u0259n m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259d\u0259n gen qa\u00e7\u0131r. B\u0259y kimi g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259 q\u0259tiyy\u0259n maraq g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259rin say\u0131 dig\u0259rl\u0259rin\u0259 nisb\u0259t\u0259n daha \u00e7oxdur. Ac\u0131 olsa da reall\u0131\u011fa n\u0259z\u0259r salsaq g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck ki, ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259k ist\u0259mirl\u0259r, x\u00fcsus\u0259n d\u0259 \u201cMillennial N\u0259sil\u201d\u0259 m\u0259nsub olanlar. Yax\u015f\u0131, niy\u0259? Ki\u015fil\u0259rin evl\u0259nm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":747592,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-747591","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-sosial"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t