{"id":762947,"date":"2024-10-19T22:01:23","date_gmt":"2024-10-19T18:01:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=762947"},"modified":"2024-10-19T22:01:23","modified_gmt":"2024-10-19T18:01:23","slug":"ail%c9%99l%c9%99r%c9%99-sizan-t%c9%99hluk%c9%99-yegan%c9%99-cixis-yolu-budur","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=762947","title":{"rendered":"Ail\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 s\u0131zan t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259: Yegan\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f yolu budur&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>\u201cAil\u0259 m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259sdir, onun sa\u011flam, b\u00fcn\u00f6vr\u0259li v\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmas\u0131 c\u0259miyy\u0259t v\u0259 d\u00f6vl\u0259tin m\u00f6hk\u0259mliyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259sasd\u0131r. Lakin bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259timizd\u0259 ail\u0259 institutuna y\u00fckl\u0259n\u0259n bir \u00e7ox kodlamalar da ill\u0259r uzunu v\u0259 bu g\u00fcn\u0259 kimi bir \u00e7ox ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 \u00f6z s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 dem\u0259kd\u0259dir. S\u0259n etm\u0259lis\u0259n, borclusan, d\u00f6zm\u0259lis\u0259n, ail\u0259n olmasa, c\u0259miyy\u0259t i\u00e7ind\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tsiz v\u0259 laz\u0131ms\u0131zsan kimi kimi kodlamalar bir \u00e7ox insanlar\u0131n sevm\u0259diyi, ist\u0259m\u0259diyi, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131 v\u0259 m\u0259cbur oldu\u011fu \u015feyl\u0259r\u0259 d\u00f6zm\u0259si m\u00fcasir c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 insan haqlar\u0131n\u0131n qorunmas\u0131 v\u0259 m\u00fcdafi\u0259sind\u0259n v\u0259 psixologiyan\u0131n inki\u015faf\u0131ndan v\u00fcs\u0259t alaraq partlay\u0131\u015f yaratd\u0131\u201d.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Bu fikirl\u0259ri psixoloq \u0130lham\u0259 Mustafayeva \u201cYeni Sabah\u201da a\u00e7\u0131qlay\u0131b. C\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259ki bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n uzunm\u00fcdd\u0259tli evlilikl\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259 yans\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131na toxunan ekspert vur\u011fulay\u0131b ki, bu g\u00fcn bo\u015fanan ail\u0259l\u0259r sa\u011flam dediyimiz o ail\u0259l\u0259rin \u00f6vladlar\u0131d\u0131r:<\/p>\n<p>\u201c\u018fg\u0259r o ail\u0259l\u0259r do\u011frudan da sa\u011flam olsayd\u0131lar, bu g\u00fcn u\u015faqlar\u0131 \u015f\u00fcuralt\u0131 olaraq \u00f6z a\u00e7\u0131q qalm\u0131\u015f ge\u015ftaltlar\u0131n\u0131 (Ge\u015ftalt-terapiya humanistik d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ri \u00f6n plana \u00e7\u0259k\u0259n,insanlar\u0131n ke\u00e7mi\u015fd\u0259ki yox,bu andak\u0131 duy\u011fu v\u0259 davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na diqq\u0259ti y\u00f6nl\u0259ndir\u0259n bir terapiya texnikas\u0131) ba\u011flama\u011fa m\u0259hkum olmazd\u0131lar. T\u0259bii ki xo\u015fb\u0259xt ail\u0259l\u0259r h\u0259r c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 olmu\u015fdur v\u0259 olacaq. G\u0259ncl\u0259rin bu g\u00fcn ail\u0259d\u0259 d\u00f6z\u00fcms\u00fczl\u00fck g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259sinin s\u0259b\u0259bi v\u0259 yaxud evl\u0259nm\u0259m\u0259l\u0259rinin bir s\u0259b\u0259bi d\u0259 onlar\u0131n \u00f6z ail\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259,yax\u0131nlar\u0131n\u0131n ail\u0259l\u0259rind\u0259 g\u00f6rd\u00fckl\u0259ri xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z hallarla ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>Bu onlarda \u00e7\u0259king\u0259n davran\u0131\u015flar yarad\u0131r, \u201cm\u0259n d\u0259 travma almam\u0131\u015f, \u00fcz\u00fclm\u0259mi\u015f, u\u015faqlar\u0131m buna \u015fahid olmam\u0131\u015f\u201d dey\u0259 bo\u015fanma\u011f\u0131n \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f yolu oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrl\u0259r. \u018fdal\u0259tsizlik bir g\u00fcn \u00fcsyana m\u0259ruz qal\u0131r v\u0259 bu g\u00fcn biz o \u00fcsyan\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck. \u0130nsan\u0131n psixoloji olaraq \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc d\u0259y\u0259rli v\u0259 laz\u0131ml\u0131 hiss etm\u0259si onun emosional t\u0259l\u0259batlar\u0131ndan ir\u0259li g\u0259lir. Bu t\u0259l\u0259batlar \u00f6d\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259 ya h\u0259kim, ya da hakim qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda oturmal\u0131 olursan. Bizim \u0259vv\u0259lki insanlar\u0131n qat\u0131 psixoloji kodlamalar\u0131ndan dolay\u0131, qon\u015funun, c\u0259miyy\u0259tin bir \u00e7ox hiss\u0259sinin eyni v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 olmas\u0131ndan ,b\u00f6y\u00fckl\u0259rin basq\u0131s\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 v\u0259 s. o vaxtki g\u0259ncl\u0259r daha \u00e7ox d\u00f6z\u00fcm g\u00f6st\u0259rirdil\u0259r. Lakin bu g\u00fcn ya\u015fl\u0131 n\u0259slin n\u00fcmay\u0259nd\u0259l\u0259ri aras\u0131nda da bo\u015fanma hallar\u0131 var. Bu daha da \u00e7ox olard\u0131, lakin insanlar uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t bir yerd\u0259 \u0259ld\u0259 etdikl\u0259rini itirm\u0259m\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn v\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259vi psixoloji kodlamalardan dolay\u0131 yen\u0259 d\u0259 d\u00f6zm\u0259yi se\u00e7irl\u0259r. H\u0259min add\u0131m\u0131 atmaq \u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259rinin \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259n x\u0259tt \u00e7\u0259km\u0259k kimidir. \u0130nsan bunu asanl\u0131qla ed\u0259 bilmir. \u00c7\u00fcnki bu psixoloji faktorlarla \u0259laq\u0259dard\u0131r. O zaman ,enerji v\u0259 maddiyyat ay\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015feyl\u0259rd\u0259n asanl\u0131qla \u0259l \u00e7\u0259k\u0259 bilmir. Bu g\u00fcnki c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 g\u0259ncl\u0259rin d\u00f6z\u00fcms\u00fczl\u00fck g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259sinin bir s\u0259b\u0259bi d\u0259 onlara h\u0259r \u015feyin haz\u0131r verilm\u0259sidir. \u018fvv\u0259lki g\u0259ncl\u0259r m\u0259nzil, avtomobil almaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t bir yerd\u0259 \u00e7aba g\u00f6st\u0259rirdil\u0259r. O zaman onlar zaman olaraq da m\u0259\u015f\u011ful idil\u0259r, bir yerd\u0259 m\u0259qs\u0259dl\u0259ri \u00e7ox idi v\u0259 bu m\u0259qs\u0259di onlar bir yerd\u0259 yarad\u0131b bir yerd\u0259 gedirdil\u0259r. \u0130ndikil\u0259r is\u0259 daha \u00e7ox g\u00fcnl\u0259rinin bir yerd\u0259 xo\u015f ke\u00e7irm\u0259k v\u0259 s\u0259yah\u0259t arzular\u0131nda v\u0259 m\u0259qs\u0259dl\u0259rind\u0259 oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn onlar\u0131n ittifaq\u0131 adi bir z\u0259rb\u0259d\u0259n, m\u0259nas\u0131z bir \u015feyd\u0259n q\u0131r\u0131la bilir\u201d.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Psixoloq dig\u0259r bir m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259nin d\u0259 \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259b oldu\u011funu qeyd edib:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u201cBu g\u00fcn qad\u0131n \u00f6z ail\u0259sinin x\u0259rcl\u0259rini \u00f6z\u00fc \u00e7\u0259k\u0259 bildiyi v\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131na \u00f6z\u00fc baxd\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn kims\u0259y\u0259 d\u00f6zm\u0259k ist\u0259mir. \u0130nsanlar \u0259vv\u0259lki c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 daha \u00e7ox kollektiv xo\u015fb\u0259xtliy\u0259 y\u00f6nl\u00fc idil\u0259r, Onlar bel\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259nmi\u015fdil\u0259r. \u00c7\u00fcnki, c\u0259miyy\u0259tin, ail\u0259l\u0259rin da\u011f\u0131lmamas\u0131, m\u00f6hk\u0259m olmas\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bir f\u0259rd olaraq \u00f6z h\u00fczur v\u0259 ist\u0259kl\u0259rini qurban verirdil\u0259r. \u0130ndiki c\u0259miyy\u0259t is\u0259 insanlar\u0131 daha \u00e7ox bir f\u0259rd olaraq xo\u015fb\u0259xtliy\u0259 s\u0259sl\u0259yir, bir f\u0259rd olaraq xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmaq h\u0259m u\u015faqlar\u0131n xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn, h\u0259m d\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259tin m\u0259hsuldarl\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259sas say\u0131l\u0131r.<\/p>\n<p>G\u0259ncl\u0259rin d\u00f6z\u00fcms\u00fczl\u00fck v\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259t ala bilm\u0259m\u0259si d\u0259 \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259n biridir Dediyim kimi, indi bir \u00e7ox g\u0259ncl\u0259r haz\u0131ra nazir olduqlar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn onlar valideynl\u0259r olmadan \u00f6zl\u0259rini aciz hiss edirl\u0259r. Atas\u0131n\u0131n nazl\u0131 q\u0131z\u0131na he\u00e7 kim he\u00e7 n\u0259 dey\u0259 bilm\u0259z v\u0259 anas\u0131n\u0131n \u0259rk\u0259s\u00f6y\u00fcn o\u011flu m\u0259suliyy\u0259t ala bilm\u0259diyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259 g\u0259ncl\u0259r d\u00f6z\u00fcms\u00fczl\u00fck g\u00f6st\u0259rirl\u0259r. D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, \u0259vv\u0259lki n\u0259sil daha \u00e7ox \u00f6z basd\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f arzular\u0131ndan v\u0259 q\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f \u00f6zg\u00fcv\u0259nind\u0259n dolay\u0131, indiki g\u0259ncl\u0259r is\u0259 daha \u00e7ox m\u0259suliyy\u0259t ala bilm\u0259dikl\u0259ri v\u0259 psixoloji yeti\u015fk\u0259n olmad\u0131qlar\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n say\u0131 art\u0131r. \u018fvv\u0259lki n\u0259sil daha \u00e7ox c\u0259miyy\u0259t y\u00f6n\u00fcml\u00fc, kollektiv y\u00f6n\u00fcml\u00fc idil\u0259rs\u0259, indikil\u0259r d\u0259 daha \u00e7ox narsist y\u00f6n\u00fcml\u00fcd\u00fcrl\u0259r. Balans olmad\u0131qda h\u0259r iki halda da partlay\u0131\u015f yaran\u0131r. \u018fsas olan bu balans\u0131 tutmaq, qat\u0131 m\u0259n v\u0259 biz prizmas\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131x\u0131b ist\u0259k v\u0259 \u00f6hd\u0259likl\u0259ri uzla\u015fd\u0131rmaqd\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cAil\u0259 m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259sdir, onun sa\u011flam, b\u00fcn\u00f6vr\u0259li v\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmas\u0131 c\u0259miyy\u0259t v\u0259 d\u00f6vl\u0259tin m\u00f6hk\u0259mliyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259sasd\u0131r. Lakin bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259timizd\u0259 ail\u0259 institutuna y\u00fckl\u0259n\u0259n bir \u00e7ox kodlamalar da ill\u0259r uzunu v\u0259 bu g\u00fcn\u0259 kimi bir \u00e7ox ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 \u00f6z s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 dem\u0259kd\u0259dir. S\u0259n etm\u0259lis\u0259n, borclusan, d\u00f6zm\u0259lis\u0259n, ail\u0259n olmasa, c\u0259miyy\u0259t i\u00e7ind\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tsiz v\u0259 laz\u0131ms\u0131zsan kimi kimi kodlamalar bir \u00e7ox insanlar\u0131n sevm\u0259diyi, ist\u0259m\u0259diyi, a\u015fa\u011f\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131 v\u0259 m\u0259cbur oldu\u011fu \u015feyl\u0259r\u0259 d\u00f6zm\u0259si m\u00fcasir c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259 insan haqlar\u0131n\u0131n qorunmas\u0131 v\u0259 m\u00fcdafi\u0259sind\u0259n v\u0259 psixologiyan\u0131n inki\u015faf\u0131ndan v\u00fcs\u0259t alaraq partlay\u0131\u015f yaratd\u0131\u201d. Bu fikirl\u0259ri psixoloq \u0130lham\u0259 Mustafayeva \u201cYeni Sabah\u201da a\u00e7\u0131qlay\u0131b. C\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259ki bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n uzunm\u00fcdd\u0259tli evlilikl\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":762948,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[26],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/ddd7c88ee66820c68aa742fb9483f481.jpg",750,422,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/ddd7c88ee66820c68aa742fb9483f481.jpg",750,422,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/ddd7c88ee66820c68aa742fb9483f481.jpg",750,422,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/ddd7c88ee66820c68aa742fb9483f481-500x280.jpg",500,280,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/ddd7c88ee66820c68aa742fb9483f481-649x365.jpg",649,365,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/ddd7c88ee66820c68aa742fb9483f481.jpg",640,360,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/ddd7c88ee66820c68aa742fb9483f481.jpg",750,422,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/ddd7c88ee66820c68aa742fb9483f481.jpg",750,422,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/ddd7c88ee66820c68aa742fb9483f481-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/10\/ddd7c88ee66820c68aa742fb9483f481.jpg",750,422,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"<a href=\"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?cat=26\" rel=\"category\">Sosial<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"\u201cAil\u0259 m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259sdir, onun sa\u011flam, b\u00fcn\u00f6vr\u0259li v\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmas\u0131 c\u0259miyy\u0259t v\u0259 d\u00f6vl\u0259tin m\u00f6hk\u0259mliyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259sasd\u0131r. Lakin bizim c\u0259miyy\u0259timizd\u0259 ail\u0259 institutuna y\u00fckl\u0259n\u0259n bir \u00e7ox kodlamalar da ill\u0259r uzunu v\u0259 bu g\u00fcn\u0259 kimi bir \u00e7ox ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 \u00f6z s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 dem\u0259kd\u0259dir. S\u0259n etm\u0259lis\u0259n, borclusan, d\u00f6zm\u0259lis\u0259n, ail\u0259n olmasa, c\u0259miyy\u0259t i\u00e7ind\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tsiz v\u0259 laz\u0131ms\u0131zsan kimi kimi kodlamalar bir \u00e7ox insanlar\u0131n&hellip;","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/762947"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=762947"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/762947\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":762950,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/762947\/revisions\/762950"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/762948"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=762947"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=762947"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=762947"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}