{"id":78081,"date":"2019-09-11T08:15:55","date_gmt":"2019-09-11T05:15:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=78081"},"modified":"2019-09-11T08:15:55","modified_gmt":"2019-09-11T05:15:55","slug":"az%c9%99rbaycanda-yayilan-x%c9%99yan%c9%99t-hallarinin-10-s%c9%99b%c9%99bi-daha-cox-qisas-m%c9%99qs%c9%99dil%c9%99-edilir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=78081","title":{"rendered":"Az\u0259rbaycanda yay\u0131lan x\u0259yan\u0259t hallar\u0131n\u0131n 10 s\u0259b\u0259bi &#8211; Daha \u00e7ox qisas m\u0259qs\u0259dil\u0259 edilir"},"content":{"rendered":"<div><b>Son zamanlar Az\u0259rbaycanda bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n artmas\u0131 v\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ril\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 m\u00fczakir\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 \u00e7ox rast g\u0259lm\u0259k olur.<\/b><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Sosial m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259r \u00fczr\u0259 t\u0259hlil\u00e7il\u0259r artan bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri aras\u0131nda yer alan \u0259sas amill\u0259rd\u0259n birinin x\u0259yan\u0259t oldu\u011funu bildirirl\u0259r. B\u0259s, \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r v\u0259 qad\u0131nlar niy\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edirl\u0259r?<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><strong>ARANTV.AZ\u00a0<\/strong> x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, BBC News Az\u0259rbaycancaya dan\u0131\u015fan ki\u015fil\u0259r v\u0259 qad\u0131nlar etdikl\u0259ri x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259ri qisas almaq, mentalitet, irad\u0259 z\u0259ifliyi, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc s\u00fcbut etm\u0259k, maraq v\u0259 dig\u0259r amill\u0259rl\u0259 izah edibl\u0259r.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Evlilikd\u0259n c\u0259mi bir il sonra edil\u0259n x\u0259yan\u0259t<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>29 ya\u015fl\u0131 Samir\u0259 deyir ki, x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259si o\u011flunun do\u011fulmas\u0131ndan sonrak\u0131 vaxta &#8211; evl\u0259ndikd\u0259n c\u0259mi bir il sonraya t\u0259sad\u00fcf edib.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>X\u0259yan\u0259tin s\u0259b\u0259bi kimi o, hamil\u0259lik vaxt\u0131 v\u0259 do\u011fu\u015fdan sonra h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n ona qar\u015f\u0131 olan soyuq r\u0259ftar\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6st\u0259rir.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><i>&#8220;Evl\u0259ndik, bir-iki ay normal ke\u00e7di. El\u0259 ki, hamil\u0259lik v\u0259 h\u0259kimin &#8220;ilk v\u0259 son \u00fc\u00e7 ay risklidir&#8221; x\u0259b\u0259rdarl\u0131\u011f\u0131 oldu, ondan sonra probleml\u0259r ba\u015flad\u0131. Orqanizmimd\u0259ki d\u0259yi\u015fikl\u0259r, \u0259trafa verdiyim f\u0259rqli t\u0259pkil\u0259r, onu yemir\u0259m, bunu yemir\u0259m nazlar\u0131, &#8220;yem\u0259k bi\u015firmir\u0259m, qoxusu g\u0259lir&#8221; s\u00f6hb\u0259tl\u0259ri v\u0259 bunlar\u0131n fonunda qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin anlay\u0131\u015fs\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131 evliliyimiz\u0259 m\u0259nfi t\u0259sir etdi. Daha sonra u\u015faq do\u011fuldu, &#8220;v\u00fccudum d\u0259yi\u015fdi&#8221;, u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n s\u0259si onu narahat etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131 v\u0259 bel\u0259likl\u0259 bu kimi bir \u00e7ox naraz\u0131l\u0131qlar\u0131n fonunda m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rimiz soyudu.<\/i><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Ni\u015fanl\u0131l\u0131q, yeni tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131q d\u00f6n\u0259mind\u0259ki s\u0259ni qoruma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan o adam bu d\u0259f\u0259 &#8220;yen\u0259 oran-buran a\u011fr\u0131y\u0131r&#8221; deyib, s\u0259ni azarlayan yad adama \u00e7evrildi. Gec\u0259l\u0259r h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131m\u0131n telefonuna g\u0259l\u0259n z\u0259ngl\u0259ri g\u00f6rd\u00fckd\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u0259 nifr\u0259t edirdim ki, buna g\u00f6r\u0259mi bu q\u0259d\u0259r \u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259n ke\u00e7dim? H\u0259min z\u0259ngl\u0259rin kimd\u0259n g\u0259ldiyini soru\u015fanda da deyirdi ki, &#8220;s\u0259n\u0259 n\u0259?&#8221;. Bunlar\u0131 g\u00f6r\u0259nd\u0259 ist\u0259r-ist\u0259m\u0259z m\u0259n d\u0259 soyuyurdum. Sonra hiss etdim ki, m\u0259n bu adam\u0131n yan\u0131nda xo\u015fb\u0259xt deyil\u0259m.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Anlatma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fd\u0131m, baxd\u0131m ki, olmur, buraxd\u0131m ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131. Geyinib-b\u0259z\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259, \u00f6z\u00fcm\u0259 baxma\u011fa, \u00f6z\u00fcml\u0259 maraqlanma\u011fa ba\u015flad\u0131m. Axtard\u0131\u011f\u0131m diqq\u0259ti ba\u015fqalar\u0131nda tapd\u0131m. B\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 diqq\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n adam evd\u0259 \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na diqq\u0259t g\u00f6st\u0259rmirdi, amma n\u0259 olsun, s\u0259n b\u0259z\u0259klis\u0259n dey\u0259 s\u0259n\u0259 bax\u0131r, s\u0259ninl\u0259 maraqlan\u0131r. Bir yerinin a\u011fr\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 deyirs\u0259n, deyir d\u0259rman al\u0131m g\u0259tirim. Diqq\u0259tini \u00e7\u0259kir v\u0259 ist\u0259r-ist\u0259m\u0259z x\u0259yan\u0259t qa\u00e7\u0131lmaz olur. Qad\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259t ed\u0259rk\u0259n buna ad qoyurlar, ki\u015fi x\u0259yan\u0259t etdikd\u0259 is\u0259 bu, normal qar\u015f\u0131lan\u0131r. Ancaq &#8220;ail\u0259nin ba\u015f\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 ki\u015fidir&#8221; demirl\u0259rmi? Ki\u015fi ail\u0259sini qorumal\u0131d\u0131r, ax\u0131.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>X\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259mi\u015fd\u0259n bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t \u0259vv\u0259l qaramsall\u0131\u011fa(b\u0259dbinliy\u0259-red.) d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcm, i\u00e7im-i\u00e7imi yedi ki, yox, m\u00fcmk\u00fcn deyil, m\u0259n\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259z. Ancaq getdikc\u0259 \u0259min oldum ki, x\u0259yan\u0259t edir. Art\u0131q onun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn he\u00e7 bir d\u0259y\u0259rimin qalmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlayanda m\u0259n d\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131m.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>M\u0259qs\u0259dim onu q\u0131sqand\u0131rmaq idi.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>\u0130ki-\u00fc\u00e7 ay eyni evd\u0259, amma ayr\u0131 otaqlarda qald\u0131q. Yem\u0259k bi\u015firmirdim. Bi\u015firdiyim yem\u0259yi yemirdi, ev\u0259 gec g\u0259lirdi, m\u0259n\u0259 z\u0259ng vururub soru\u015furdu ki, &#8220;hardasan?&#8221;, deyirdim ki, &#8220;s\u0259n\u0259 n\u0259 var, m\u0259n s\u0259nd\u0259n soru\u015fanda hesabat vermirs\u0259ns\u0259, s\u0259n d\u0259 m\u0259nd\u0259n soru\u015fma&#8221;. Bel\u0259likl\u0259 d\u0259, h\u00f6rm\u0259tsizlikl\u0259r son h\u0259dd\u0259 \u00e7atd\u0131\u011f\u0131nda m\u0259n art\u0131q onu evin i\u00e7ind\u0259 g\u00f6rm\u0259k ist\u0259mirdim. Adam\u0131 evd\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259nd\u0259 iyr\u0259nirdim. X\u0259yan\u0259td\u0259n iki ay sonrayad\u0259k bel\u0259 davam etdi v\u0259 biz bo\u015fand\u0131q. Ancaq h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, bo\u015fanma\u011fa \u0259sas s\u0259b\u0259b onun soyuqlu\u011fu oldu.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Biz evl\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259 on doqquz ya\u015f\u0131m var idi, tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131qdan 4-5 ay sonra evl\u0259nmi\u015fdik. Biz avropal\u0131 olsayd\u0131q, evlilikd\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259 bir evd\u0259 ya\u015fay\u0131b, bir h\u0259yat\u0131 payla\u015fsayd\u0131q bir-birimizi daha yax\u015f\u0131 tan\u0131ya bil\u0259rdik. \u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 bel\u0259 bir \u015fans\u0131m\u0131z olsayd\u0131, b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 \u00f6lk\u0259mizd\u0259 bu q\u0259d\u0259r bo\u015fanma olmazd\u0131. Tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259rl\u0259 evl\u0259nirik, ax\u0131r\u0131 da bel\u0259 olur. Birc\u0259 \u015fey\u0259 heyfsl\u0259nir\u0259m ki, \u00f6vlad\u0131m atas\u0131z b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcr, el-al\u0259m m\u0259n\u0259 &#8220;bo\u015fanm\u0131\u015f&#8221;, &#8220;t\u0259k&#8221; dam\u011fas\u0131 vurub. Bu s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259n dolay\u0131 deyir\u0259m ka\u015f ki, f\u0259rqli olayd\u0131. H\u0259rd\u0259n h\u0259tta d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m v\u0259 pe\u015fmanl\u0131q \u00e7\u0259kir\u0259m ki, ka\u015f bo\u015fanmazd\u0131m. O zaman da d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, o h\u0259yata n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r d\u00f6z\u0259 bil\u0259rdim?&#8221;<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>S\u0259limin 33 ya\u015f\u0131 v\u0259 iki \u00f6vlad\u0131 var. S\u0259lim deyir ki, qarda\u015f\u0131 \u00f6zba\u015f\u0131na evl\u0259nib valideynl\u0259rini m\u0259yus etdiyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn o, valideynl\u0259rinin se\u00e7imi il\u0259 evl\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 &#8220;\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc m\u0259cbur edib&#8221;.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>&#8220;Evlis\u0259n, amma h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n adlanan \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259 aranda q\u0259rib\u0259 bir ciddiyy\u0259t var. G\u00f6z\u0259g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259z divar var. Sanki bir m\u0259cburiyy\u0259tiniz v\u0259 bir-birinizin qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda \u00f6hd\u0259likl\u0259riniz var. Onlar\u0131 yerin\u0259 yetirirsiniz v\u0259 bitdi. Ax\u0131, \u00fcr\u0259yin d\u0259 ist\u0259kl\u0259ri var. \u0130nsan sad\u0259c\u0259 intim t\u0259l\u0259bat yox, m\u0259n\u0259vi ist\u0259yin qar\u015f\u0131lanmas\u0131n\u0131 da ist\u0259yir. Birlikd\u0259 g\u0259zm\u0259k, deyib-g\u00fclm\u0259k, zarafatla\u015fmaq ist\u0259yirs\u0259n. Ancaq valideynl\u0259rinin ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 qad\u0131n buna raz\u0131 deyil. N\u0259s\u0259 ist\u0259yirs\u0259n, zarafat edirs\u0259n, &#8220;m\u0259ni n\u0259 hesab edirs\u0259n, ya da m\u0259ni a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lad\u0131n&#8221; deyir. Halbuki h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131nd\u0131r, \u0259n yax\u0131n\u0131ndak\u0131, \u0259n etibar etdiyin &#8211; ya da etm\u0259li oldu\u011fun qad\u0131nd\u0131r. Ancaq heyf ki, bu qad\u0131nla s\u0259ni birl\u0259\u015fdir\u0259n he\u00e7 n\u0259 yoxdur. N\u0259 ortaq mara\u011f\u0131n\u0131z var, n\u0259 t\u0259hsiliniz uy\u011fundur. D\u00fcnyag\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u0259n he\u00e7 dan\u0131\u015fmayaq. Aran\u0131zdak\u0131 yegan\u0259 ba\u011f u\u015faqlard\u0131r. Bel\u0259 olan halda adam xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyi ba\u015fqa qad\u0131nda axtar\u0131b tap\u0131r.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>B\u0259z\u0259n sad\u0259c\u0259 evd\u0259n uzaqla\u015fmaq, dinc\u0259lm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ba\u015fqa qad\u0131nla g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u0259m. Ancaq o da yetmir. Sevm\u0259diyin adamla evli olanda xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmursan. Bo\u015fanmaq \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f yolu kimi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u0259 bil\u0259r, ancaq deyil, \u00e7\u00fcnki u\u015faqlar var. Ondan da ba\u015fqa valideynl\u0259r var. Bo\u015fanmaq ist\u0259s\u0259n, birinci onlar etiraz ed\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>28 ya\u015fl\u0131 G\u00fclnar\u0131n x\u0259yan\u0259ti is\u0259 &#8220;maraq&#8221; s\u0259b\u0259bil\u0259 ba\u015f verib.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>&#8220;26 ya\u015f\u0131mda h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131m\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcm se\u00e7ib evl\u0259ndim, amma el\u0259 ilk gec\u0259d\u0259n sonra ona olan mara\u011f\u0131m itdi. Toyumuzdan bir ay ke\u00e7mi\u015fdi. Ke\u00e7mi\u015f i\u015f yolda\u015f\u0131m h\u0259l\u0259 toydan bir ne\u00e7\u0259 ay \u0259vv\u0259l m\u0259n\u0259 birlikd\u0259 olma\u011f\u0131 t\u0259klif etmi\u015fdi. O zaman raz\u0131la\u015fmam\u0131\u015fd\u0131m. H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131ma mara\u011f\u0131m itdiyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn q\u0259rara g\u0259ldim ki, i\u015f yolda\u015f\u0131m\u0131n t\u0259klifini q\u0259bul edim. Getdim, bir d\u0259f\u0259 birlikd\u0259 olduq. Bu bir az da \u0259min olmaq ist\u0259yi idi. X\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259kl\u0259 onunla ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n, daha yax\u015f\u0131 oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcy\u00fcm adam\u0131n aras\u0131ndak\u0131 f\u0259rqi bilm\u0259k ist\u0259yirdim. Bizim q\u0131zlar ail\u0259 qurana q\u0259d\u0259r ba\u015fqas\u0131 il\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259r ola bilm\u0259zl\u0259r. M\u0259nc\u0259, bu do\u011fru deyil, \u00e7\u00fcnki s\u0259nin ehtiyaclar\u0131n f\u0259rqli ola bil\u0259r, qar\u015f\u0131ndak\u0131 \u015f\u0259xs s\u0259ni qane etm\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r. Ancaq \u0259n pisi budur ki, biz b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131 evl\u0259ndikd\u0259n sonra anlay\u0131r, ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fck. Onda is\u0259 gec olur.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131n da s\u0259b\u0259bi mentalitetdir. Mentalitet basq\u0131s\u0131 il\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259n, m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n m\u0259nada iqtisadi azadl\u0131\u011f\u0131 olmayan qorxaq qad\u0131nlar qada\u011falar z\u0259ncirini q\u0131ra bilm\u0259dikl\u0259ri \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00f6mr\u00fc boyu g\u00f6zl\u0259ri n\u0259yis\u0259, kimis\u0259 axtar\u0131r.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>D\u00fcz\u00fc, m\u0259nim he\u00e7 vaxt iqtisadi as\u0131l\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131m da olmad\u0131, amma m\u0259n d\u0259 o z\u0259nciri q\u0131ra bilm\u0259dim v\u0259 dey\u0259s\u0259n m\u0259n d\u0259 sanki kimis\u0259, n\u0259yis\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259yir\u0259m.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>&#8220;H\u0259rd\u0259n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u0259m ki, g\u00f6r\u0259s\u0259n, evl\u0259ndiyim bu \u015f\u0259xsl\u0259 \u00f6nc\u0259d\u0259n birlikd\u0259 ya\u015famaq imkan\u0131m olsayd\u0131, nec\u0259 olard\u0131? Onunla evl\u0259n\u0259rdimmi?&#8221;<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>\u00a0X\u0259yan\u0259t ki\u015fil\u0259rin t\u0259bi\u0259tidir?<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>H\u0259s\u0259nin 46 ya\u015f\u0131 var. O deyir ki, \u0259vv\u0259ll\u0259r x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259sin\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b &#8220;g\u0259ncliyin bir n\u00f6v \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc s\u00fcbut etm\u0259k ist\u0259yi, c\u0259hdi&#8221; olub.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>H\u0259s\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259rin x\u0259yan\u0259tinin onlar\u0131n t\u0259bi\u0259tind\u0259n ir\u0259li g\u0259ldiyini deyir.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>&#8220;Biz ki\u015fil\u0259r t\u0259bi\u0259tc\u0259 poliqam\u0131q, y\u0259ni, yaln\u0131z bir partnyorla kifay\u0259tl\u0259nmirik. B\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 buna g\u00f6r\u0259dir ki, h\u0259yat\u0131 boyunca t\u0259k bir qad\u0131n tan\u0131m\u0131\u015f ki\u015fi tapmaq m\u00fc\u015fk\u00fcl m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259dir. Ba\u015fqa s\u00f6zl\u0259 des\u0259k, biz ki\u015fil\u0259r ov\u00e7u t\u0259bi\u0259tliyik v\u0259 bu, genetik yadda\u015fd\u0131r. \u0130btidai icma qurulu\u015fundan b\u0259ri g\u00fccl\u00fc cinsin n\u00fcmay\u0259nd\u0259l\u0259rinin bir n\u00f6v missiyas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>X\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259linc\u0259, m\u0259nc\u0259, bu anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131 da t\u0259snif etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r, y\u0259ni, s\u00f6hb\u0259t m\u0259n\u0259vi, yoxsa fiziki x\u0259yan\u0259td\u0259n gedir? \u018fks\u0259r qad\u0131nlardan f\u0259rqli olaraq, biz ki\u015fil\u0259r he\u00e7 bir hiss, ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131q olmadan fiziki yax\u0131nl\u0131\u011fa yol ver\u0259 bilirik. G\u0259nc ya\u015flarda bu \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fct\u0259sdiqin bir formas\u0131d\u0131r. Daha \u00e7ox sayda q\u0131z\u0131 &#8220;ba\u015fdan \u00e7\u0131xara bilmi\u015f&#8221; g\u0259nc, ya\u015f\u0131dlar\u0131n\u0131n aras\u0131nda se\u00e7ilir v\u0259 daha bacar\u0131ql\u0131 hesab olunur. Bunun m\u0259n\u0259vi t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259rini ara\u015fd\u0131rsaq, tamam f\u0259rqli m\u0259nz\u0259r\u0259 yaransa da, h\u0259min ya\u015fda m\u0259n\u0259vi m\u0259qamlar k\u00f6lg\u0259d\u0259 qal\u0131r. \u0130r\u0259li ya\u015flarda, yetkin insanlarda x\u0259yan\u0259t, yaxud mac\u0259ra axtar\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri ba\u015fqad\u0131r v\u0259 bunun h\u0259m m\u0259n\u0259vi, h\u0259m d\u0259 fiziki \u0259saslar\u0131 var.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Ki\u015fi ail\u0259sind\u0259n naraz\u0131d\u0131rsa, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131ndan yataqda ist\u0259diyini ala bilmirs\u0259, h\u0259min &#8220;ist\u0259dikl\u0259rini&#8221; k\u0259narda axtarma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>\u018flb\u0259tt\u0259, bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259d\u0259 ki\u015finin \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc d\u0259 g\u00fcnahland\u0131rmaq olar, \u00e7\u00fcnki uzun ill\u0259r birlikd\u0259 ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n qad\u0131nla uy\u011funla\u015fmaq, qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 ist\u0259kl\u0259ri ger\u00e7\u0259kl\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaq m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmal\u0131 idi. Lakin b\u0259z\u0259n bu, he\u00e7 c\u00fcr m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmur v\u0259 bizd\u0259 &#8220;sola&#8221; meyllik yaran\u0131r. \u018fvv\u0259l qeyd etdiyim fiziki v\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259vi x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259linc\u0259, bir \u00e7oxlar\u0131 sevgi olmadan fiziki yax\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131 x\u0259yan\u0259t hesab etmir, amma bu, daha \u00e7ox b\u0259han\u0259y\u0259 ox\u015fay\u0131r. Y\u0259ni, h\u0259r bir hala konkret \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259r daxilind\u0259 baxsaq, daha yax\u015f\u0131 olar. Bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259d\u0259 \u00fcmumil\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259 s\u0259hv n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 g\u0259tirib \u00e7\u0131xarar&#8221;.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Haz\u0131rda partnyoru il\u0259 ya\u015fayan H\u0259s\u0259n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, iki \u015f\u0259xs aras\u0131nda sevgi olanda x\u0259yan\u0259t olmur.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Diqq\u0259tsizlik, laqeydlik<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><i><b>Azad\u0259 adl\u0131 xan\u0131m art\u0131q 4-c\u00fc ildir ki, ail\u0259lidir v\u0259 evlilikl\u0259rinin 2-ci ilind\u0259n h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131b.<\/b><\/i><\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>&#8220;X\u0259yan\u0259t etdim, \u00e7\u00fcnki m\u0259n\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 diqq\u0259tsiz v\u0259 laqeyd idi. Qad\u0131n diqq\u0259t t\u0259l\u0259b ed\u0259n, sevgi ist\u0259y\u0259n m\u0259xluqdur. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 sevgilisind\u0259n, ni\u015fanl\u0131s\u0131ndan, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131ndan bunlar\u0131 g\u00f6rm\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259 ba\u015fqas\u0131na qa\u00e7\u0131r, ona s\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131r. M\u0259n d\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t ed\u0259n birini g\u00f6rd\u00fckd\u0259 ona s\u0131\u011f\u0131nd\u0131m. Sevgi g\u00f6rd\u00fcm, qay\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6rd\u00fcm, m\u0259niml\u0259 s\u00f6hb\u0259t etdi, m\u0259n\u0259 qad\u0131n oldu\u011fumu xat\u0131rlatd\u0131.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Evliliyim monoton \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ir\u0259lil\u0259yirdi. Kobud, anlay\u0131\u015fs\u0131z, he\u00e7 bir \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259t qoymayan \u0259r, k\u00f6rp\u0259 u\u015faq, bir s\u00f6zl\u0259, bezmi\u015fdim. Bir g\u00fcn sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259d\u0259 bir o\u011flan yazd\u0131 m\u0259n\u0259, \u0259vv\u0259lc\u0259 cavab verm\u0259dim. Evli qad\u0131n idim ax\u0131. \u018frim h\u00f6rm\u0259t qoymasa da, m\u0259ni qad\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 g\u00f6rm\u0259s\u0259 d\u0259 m\u0259n qad\u0131n idim v\u0259 \u0259rimin namusunu qorumal\u0131 idim.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Sonra nec\u0259 oldusa h\u0259min o\u011flan i\u015f yerimi tapd\u0131. H\u0259r g\u00fcn arxamca d\u00fcz qap\u0131ya kimi g\u0259lirdi. Ax\u0131rda m\u0259cbur olub ona cavab yazd\u0131m. Bu \u0259r\u0259f\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 evd\u0259 v\u0259ziyy\u0259t pisl\u0259\u015fmi\u015fdi. H\u0259r g\u00fcn dava-dala\u015f, s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259t. Sanki m\u0259n\u0259 yazan o\u011flanda rahatl\u0131q tap\u0131rd\u0131m. 3-4 ay sonra m\u0259ni \u00e7ay i\u00e7m\u0259y\u0259 d\u0259v\u0259t etdi. Bel\u0259c\u0259, gizli h\u0259yat\u0131m ba\u015flad\u0131. H\u0259r g\u00fcn ona yazmasam v\u0259 ya o m\u0259n\u0259 yazmasa el\u0259 bil h\u0259min g\u00fcn yem\u0259k yem\u0259mi\u015f kimi olurdum. Ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131q yaranm\u0131\u015fd\u0131 m\u0259nd\u0259. Yolda\u015f\u0131m is\u0259 h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259ki kimi laqeyd, vurdum-duymaz idi. Bir-iki d\u0259f\u0259 d\u0259 q\u0131zla tutdum, t\u0259miz soyudum. V\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flad\u0131m. \u0130ndi m\u0259n d\u0259 \u00f6z h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131 ya\u015fay\u0131ram. H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131m olaraq g\u00f6rm\u00fcr\u0259m he\u00e7 \u0259rimi. M\u0259n onun x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259rinin bils\u0259m d\u0259, o m\u0259ni bilmir&#8221;.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Azad\u0259 deyir ki, \u0259ri x\u0259yan\u0259tini bils\u0259, \u00f6yr\u0259ns\u0259, onun vecin\u0259 olmaz, \u00e7\u00fcnki onu x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 adland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131, \u00f6vlad\u0131n\u0131n atas\u0131 olan \u015f\u0259xs vadar edib.<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>&#8220;Bils\u0259 n\u0259y\u0259 yarayacaq ki?! \u00d6z g\u00fcnah\u0131d\u0131r. M\u0259n x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259yi n\u0259 vaxtsa a\u011fl\u0131m\u0131n ucundan bel\u0259 ke\u00e7irm\u0259mi\u015fdim. \u00d6z\u00fc m\u0259ni buna m\u0259cbur etdi&#8221;<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div><img src=\"https:\/\/www.medicina.az\/file\/pic\/xeber\/2019-09\/1568131752_k-chemu-snitsya-izmena-zheny-1.jpg\" \/><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Son zamanlar Az\u0259rbaycanda bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n artmas\u0131 v\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ril\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 m\u00fczakir\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 \u00e7ox rast g\u0259lm\u0259k olur. Sosial m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259r \u00fczr\u0259 t\u0259hlil\u00e7il\u0259r artan bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri aras\u0131nda yer alan \u0259sas amill\u0259rd\u0259n birinin x\u0259yan\u0259t oldu\u011funu bildirirl\u0259r. B\u0259s, \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r v\u0259 qad\u0131nlar niy\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edirl\u0259r? 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Evlilikd\u0259n c\u0259mi bir il sonra edil\u0259n x\u0259yan\u0259t 29 ya\u015fl\u0131 Samir\u0259 deyir ki, x\u0259yan\u0259t etm\u0259si o\u011flunun do\u011fulmas\u0131ndan sonrak\u0131 vaxta &#8211; evl\u0259ndikd\u0259n c\u0259mi bir il sonraya t\u0259sad\u00fcf edib.&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":78082,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1568131760_capture.jpg",800,500,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1568131760_capture.jpg",800,500,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1568131760_capture.jpg",800,500,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1568131760_capture-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1568131760_capture-300x188.jpg",300,188,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1568131760_capture.jpg",640,400,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1568131760_capture.jpg",800,500,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1568131760_capture.jpg",800,500,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1568131760_capture-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1568131760_capture.jpg",800,500,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"<a href=\"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?cat=1\" rel=\"category\">C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"Son zamanlar Az\u0259rbaycanda bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n artmas\u0131 v\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ril\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 m\u00fczakir\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 \u00e7ox rast g\u0259lm\u0259k olur. Sosial m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259l\u0259r \u00fczr\u0259 t\u0259hlil\u00e7il\u0259r artan bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri aras\u0131nda yer alan \u0259sas amill\u0259rd\u0259n birinin x\u0259yan\u0259t oldu\u011funu bildirirl\u0259r. B\u0259s, \u00f6lk\u0259d\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259r v\u0259 qad\u0131nlar niy\u0259 x\u0259yan\u0259t edirl\u0259r? 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