Ail\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyi m\u00fcr\u0259kk\u0259b fenomendir, ancaq onun sosial-psixoloji \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259ri \u00e7ox sad\u0259dir. Bu \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259ri \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259k, onlara ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n pozulmaz qaydalar\u0131 kimi \u0259m\u0259l etm\u0259k z\u0259ruridir. G\u0259lin h\u0259min \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259rl\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olaq:<\/p>\n
<\/b>1.\u00a0Ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 il\u0259 ya\u015famaq laz\u0131md\u0131r.\u00a0Bu s\u00f6zl\u0259r eyni d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 \u0259r\u0259 d\u0259, arvada da aiddir. Onlardan he\u00e7 biri \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131ndan, u\u015faqlar\u0131ndan ay\u0131rmamal\u0131, \u00f6z \u00f6mr\u00fcnd\u0259 onlar\u0131n \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fc ya\u015famal\u0131d\u0131r. Bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259r-arvad ail\u0259nin sevinc v\u0259 k\u0259d\u0259rini birlikd\u0259 ya\u015famal\u0131, bir-birinin z\u00f6vq\u00fcn\u00fc, mara\u011f\u0131n\u0131 v\u0259 arzusunu n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almal\u0131, qay\u011f\u0131s\u0131na qalmal\u0131, asud\u0259 vaxtlar\u0131n\u0131 bir yerd\u0259 m\u0259nal\u0131 ke\u00e7irm\u0259li, \u00f6z xo\u015fb\u0259xtlikl\u0259rini u\u015faqlar\u0131n s\u0259ad\u0259tind\u0259 axtarmal\u0131d\u0131rlar.<\/b>
\n2.\u00a0\u018fr-arvad bir-biril\u0259rin\u0259 t\u0259kc\u0259 \u0259r-arvad kimi deyil, birinci n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259, ana v\u0259 ata kimi yana\u015fmal\u0131, u\u015faqlar\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fc il\u0259 baxma\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259lidirl\u0259r. Biz bu yolla h\u0259m d\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n psixi sa\u011flaml\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131qoruyuruq. Ax\u0131 onlar\u0131n \u0259hval\u0131 anan\u0131n da, atan\u0131n da ovqat\u0131ndan as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r. Ata-ana m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti \u0259r-arvad m\u00fcnasib\u0259tind\u0259n daha k\u00f6vr\u0259kdir, \u00fclvi v\u0259 m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259sdir. Arvad kimi b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 qad\u0131ndan k\u00fcsm\u0259k olsa da, ancaq ana kimi ondan k\u00fcsm\u0259k olmaz. K\u00fcs\u0259nd\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 bax\u0131n. Onda s\u0259hvinizi ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u0259c\u0259ksiniz. Ata ev\u0259 gec g\u0259l\u0259nd\u0259 u\u015faqlar yata bilmirl\u0259r. Ham\u0131s\u0131 nigaran olur. Onlarca bl\u0259 misallar g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k olar. Lakin yuxar\u0131da n\u00fcmun\u0259l\u0259r m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259nin mahiyy\u0259tini d\u0259qiqi ifad\u0259 edir: u\u015faqlar min tell\u0259 ana v\u0259 ataya ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Ri\u015f\u0259si u\u015fa\u011f\u0131n q\u0259lbind\u0259 olan bu tel\u0259ri q\u0131rsan\u0131z, onlar\u0131 ancaq b\u0259db\u0259xt ed\u0259rsiniz.<\/b>
\n3.\u00a0Xo\u015f \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t, s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259tsiz, giley-g\u00fczars\u0131z, ixtilafs\u0131z \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t.\u00a0Bu \u0259lam\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 ail\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyinin sirl\u0259rini m\u00fcxt\u0259lif istiqam\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 t\u0259hlil etm\u0259k olar. \u0130ki s\u0259ciyy\u0259vi hala diqq\u0259ti x\u00fcsusil\u0259 c\u0259lb etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r.\u00a0<\/b>
\nAil\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rini x\u0259r\u00e7\u0259ng kimi i\u00e7ind\u0259n did\u0259n-da\u011f\u0131dan birinci hal\u0131 deying\u0259nlik adland\u0131r\u0131blar. Deying\u0259nlik t\u0259kc\u0259 ail\u0259d\u0259 deyil, b\u00fct\u00fcn sosial qruplarda insanlar\u0131 bezikdirir, t\u0259ng\u0259 g\u0259tirir, bir-birind\u0259n soyudur, hissl\u0259rini \u00f6l\u0259zidir, \u015f\u0259xsi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rini d\u0259yi\u015fir. Deying\u0259n adamdan ham\u0131n\u0131n z\u0259hl\u0259si gedir: ondan gen qa\u00e7\u0131r, uzaq dururlar.<\/b>
\nDeying\u0259n v\u0259 \u00e7ox dan\u0131\u015fan arvad \u0259srl\u0259r boyu na\u011f\u0131llar\u0131n, r\u0259vay\u0259tl\u0259rin m\u0259nfi q\u0259hr\u0259man\u0131 olmu\u015fdur. \u00abFatma g\u0259ldi qa\u00e7\u00bb na\u011f\u0131l\u0131n\u0131 xat\u0131rlay\u0131n. Xalq m\u00fcdriklikl\u0259 bel\u0259 bir fikri psixolji c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n tamamil\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn ifad\u0259 etmi\u015fdir ki, qad\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 n\u0259d\u0259ns\u0259 naraz\u0131 olmas\u0131 ail\u0259d\u0259 s\u00fclh\u00fc, sakitliyi, \u0259sl xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyi pozur., ev\u0259 k\u0259d\u0259rli, soyuq, ab-hava g\u0259tirir. Ki\u015fil\u0259r is\u0259 buna \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259t vermir, qad\u0131n\u0131n n\u0259d\u0259n naraz\u0131 olmas\u0131 il\u0259 maraqlanm\u0131rlar. Maraqlansayd\u0131lar ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131nda xo\u015fb\u0259xt, q\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131, s\u00f6zl\u00fc-s\u00f6hb\u0259tli g\u00fcnl\u0259r d\u0259 \u00e7ox olard\u0131. B\u0259s deying\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259r? Onlar da evd\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcn-ki\u00e7iyin g\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fc qara edirl\u0259r. G\u00f6r\u0259s\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259r n\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn deyinirl\u0259r?<\/b>
\nH\u0259sas qad\u0131n h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 bel\u0259 suala cavab axtar\u0131r, evd\u0259 yersiz s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259tin olmamas\u0131na \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Ancaq o, \u00f6z t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259sind\u0259 bir \u0259hqiq\u0259ti gec-tez k\u0259\u015ff edib inan\u0131r ki, ki\u015fi deyinm\u0259y\u0259 sad\u0259c\u0259 olaraq ad\u0259t edib, deyinm\u0259s\u0259 dar\u0131xar. Bel\u0259 hallarda qad\u0131n n\u0259 etm\u0259lidir? H\u00f6vs\u0259l\u0259 il\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r ki, ki\u015finin h\u0259r s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc s\u00f6z etm\u0259sin.<\/b>
\nPsixoloqlar is\u0259 imkan daxilind\u0259 deyinm\u0259m\u0259yi m\u0259sl\u0259h\u0259t g\u00f6r\u00fcrl\u0259r.<\/b>
\n\u0130kinci hal da, \u0259slind\u0259, deying\u0259nlikl\u0259 bu v\u0259 ya dig\u0259r d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Biz \u0259rin v\u0259 ya arvad\u0131n bir-birini danlamas\u0131n\u0131, t\u0259nqid etm\u0259sini n\u0259z\u0259rd\u0259 tuturuq. \u018frin v\u0259 ya arvad\u0131n bir-birini danlamas\u0131 v\u0259 ya t\u0259nqid etm\u0259si \u0259slind\u0259 onun ail\u0259d\u0259ki statusu, ilk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259, ail\u0259 ba\u015f\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 statusu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131or. \u018fn\u0259n\u0259vi ail\u0259d\u0259 hans\u0131 formada olursa-olsun arvad\u0131 danlamaq, m\u0259z\u0259mm\u0259t etm\u0259k, t\u0259nqid etm\u0259k, irad tutmaq h\u00fcququ s\u00f6z\u00fcn \u0259sl m\u0259nas\u0131nda ki\u015fiy\u0259 m\u0259xsus idi. G\u00f6r\u0259s\u0259n, el\u0259 b\u00fct\u00fcn ki\u015fil\u0259r \u00f6zl\u0259rinin bu h\u00fcququndan yerli-yersiz istifad\u0259 edirdil\u0259rmi? \u015e\u00fcbh\u0259siz ki, yox! Arvad\u0131 danlamaq, m\u0259z\u0259mm\u0259tl\u0259m\u0259k, t\u0259nqid etm\u0259k \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259sidir. Yetkin ki\u015fi h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 arvad\u0131n\u0131n insan l\u0259yaq\u0259tin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015f\u0131b, onu u\u015faq yerin\u0259 qoyub yerli-yersiz danlamaq v\u0259 ya m\u0259z\u0259mm\u0259t etm\u0259k yolu tutmay\u0131b. \u018frini yerli-yersiz danlayan, m\u0259z\u0259mm\u0259tl\u0259y\u0259n qad\u0131nlar da az deyildir. Bir sosioloji t\u0259dqiqat zaman\u0131 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n olunmu\u015fdur ki, r\u0259yi \u00f6yr\u0259nilmi\u015f qad\u0131nlar\u0131n 67%-i \u0259rini k\u0259nar adamlar\u0131n yan\u0131nda m\u0259z\u0259mm\u0259tl\u0259yir. Onlar\u0131 yaln\u0131z 13,3%-i buna t\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcfl\u0259nir, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 haqq qazand\u0131rm\u0131r.<\/b>
\nM\u00fcasir ail\u0259d\u0259 qad\u0131n statusunun k\u00f6kl\u00fc sur\u0259td\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015film\u0259si \u00f6zl\u00fcy\u00fcnd\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck sosial nailiyy\u0259t olsa da, onun g\u00f6zl\u0259m\u0259diyimiz \u0259lav\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259l\u0259ri d\u0259 olub. Onlardan biri bizim g\u00fcnl\u0259rimizd\u0259 b\u0259zi qad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u0259rini u\u015faq yerin\u0259 qoyub danlamas\u0131, m\u0259z\u0259mm\u0259t v\u0259 t\u0259nqid etm\u0259si il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. \u00abB\u0259zi\u00bb ifad\u0259sin\u0259 diqq\u0259t yetirin: \u0259sl qad\u0131nlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bel\u0259 hallar s\u0259ciyy\u0259vi deyildir. Onlar \u0259rl\u0259rinin ki\u015fi l\u0259yaq\u0259tin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015f\u0131r, h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131na daha s\u0259m\u0259r\u0259li yollarla t\u0259sir g\u00f6st\u0259rirl\u0259r.<\/b>
\n\u0130lk bax\u0131\u015fda t\u0259\u0259cc\u00fcbl\u00fc olsa da, \u0259rini danlayan, m\u0259z\u0259mm\u0259t ed\u0259n qad\u0131nlara \u0259n \u00e7ox ali t\u0259hsilli qad\u0131nlar i\u00e7\u0259risind\u0259 t\u0259sad\u00fcf olunmu\u015fdur. M\u0259hz onlar\u0131n b\u00f6y\u00fck \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti ki\u015fini danlama\u011f\u0131, m\u0259z\u0259mm\u0259t etm\u0259yi adi hal hesab edir, h\u0259tta b\u0259z\u0259n t\u0259\u0259cc\u00fcbl\u0259 \u00e7iyinl\u0259rini d\u0259 \u00e7\u0259kir: \u00abki\u015fini danlayanda n\u0259 olar ki, z\u0259ri t\u00f6k\u00fcl\u0259r?\u00bb-deyirl\u0259r. Bel\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r ki, \u0259ri danlamaq bu v\u0259 ya dig\u0259r d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 t\u0259hsill\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Lakin m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 sosial-psixoloji bax\u0131mdan yana\u015fsaq bu izahatla raz\u0131la\u015fa bilm\u0259rik. Ali t\u0259hsilli qad\u0131nlar\u0131n b\u00f6y\u00fck \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015f\u0131r, onun ki\u015fi l\u0259yaq\u0259tini uca tutur. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259nin k\u00f6k\u00fc ali t\u0259hsil alm\u0131\u015f b\u0259zi qad\u0131nlar\u0131n \u00f6z h\u00fcquq v\u0259 v\u0259zif\u0259l\u0259rini d\u00fczg\u00fcn ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259m\u0259l\u0259ri il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r.<\/b>
\n\u018fr-arvad bir-birini n\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn danlay\u0131r, n\u0259yi irad tutur? Onlar\u0131n \u00f6z s\u00f6zl\u0259ri il\u0259 des\u0259k, bu zaman guya bir-biril\u0259rini t\u0259rbiy\u0259 etm\u0259k ist\u0259yirl\u0259r. Bu m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcrm\u00fc? \u018fvv\u0259la, \u0259ri v\u0259 ya arvad\u0131 yenid\u0259n t\u0259rbiy\u0259 etm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaq v\u0259 bunun m\u00fcmk\u00fcnl\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00fcman etm\u0259k faydas\u0131zd\u0131r. \u0130kincisi, \u0259r v\u0259 ya arvad \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn m\u0259nfi x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259l\u0259ri il\u0259 n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r se\u00e7ils\u0259 d\u0259, h\u0259r halda b\u00fct\u00fcn insanlar kimi t\u0259krarolunmazd\u0131r. Onlar m\u0259nfi x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259rl\u0259 bah\u0259m m\u00fcsb\u0259t m\u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 d\u0259 malikdirl\u0259r. \u018fr v\u0259 arvadla \u00fcnsiyy\u0259t zaman\u0131 bu m\u00fcsb\u0259t x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 diq\u0259t yetirm\u0259k, onlara arxalanmaq daha d\u00fczg\u00fcn olar. \u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fcs\u00fc adamlar \u00f6zl\u0259ri haqq\u0131ndak\u0131 r\u0259y\u0259 h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 h\u0259ssa olur, onlar\u0131n bar\u0259sind\u0259 pis t\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcr yaradanlar\u0131n h\u00fccumundan \u00f6zl\u0259rini qoruma\u011fa can-ba\u015fla s\u0259y g\u00f6st\u0259rirl\u0259r. Ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131nda da t\u0259sir \u0259ks t\u0259sir\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259rdir, y\u0259ni \u0259r v\u0259 ya arvad \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n yersiz irad\u0131na, m\u0259z\u0259mm\u0259tin\u0259, danla\u011f\u0131na, bir, iki, v\u0259 ya \u00fc\u00e7 d\u0259f\u0259 d\u00f6z\u00fcr, d\u00f6rd\u00fcnc\u00fc d\u0259f\u0259 is\u0259 cavab qaytar\u0131r. Bel\u0259likl\u0259 d\u0259 t\u0259dric\u0259n p\u0259rd\u0259 aradan g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcl\u00fcr. \u018fr v\u0259 ya arvad yaln\u0131z h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na n\u0259zak\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fd\u0131qda ondan da haql\u0131 olaraq n\u0259zak\u0259t g\u00f6zl\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r.<\/b>
\n4.\u00a0H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131nan \u0259hval\u0131na v\u0259 ovqat\u0131na h\u0259ssasl\u0131qla yana\u015fmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r.\u00a0Onun sevincin\u0259 \u015f\u0259rik olmaq, d\u0259rdil\u0259 ya\u015famaq g\u0259r\u0259kdir. Ail\u0259d\u0259 insanlar \u00f6z-\u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 do\u011fmala\u015fm\u0131rlar. Onlar bir-birinin hissl\u0259rini ya\u015fya-ya\u015faya bir-birini d\u0259rk edir, bir bax\u0131\u015fla d\u0259rd-s\u0259rl\u0259rini anlama\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259nirl\u0259r, sevirl\u0259r, sevilirl\u0259r. H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n hissl\u0259rini b\u00fct\u00fcn z\u0259rifliyi il\u0259 ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259k v\u0259 ona h\u0259yan olmaq \u0259slind\u0259 \u0259r-arvadl\u0131q istedad\u0131d\u0131r.<\/b>
\nPsixologiyada ba\u015fqa adam\u0131n sevincini, d\u0259rdi-s\u0259rini sezm\u0259y\u0259, ona \u015f\u0259rik olma\u011fa, bu emosional hallar\u0131n t\u0259siril\u0259 ya\u015fama\u011fa empatiya (empateya \u2013 lat\u0131n s\u00f6z\u00fc olub, \u00abhissl\u0259rl\u0259 ya\u015fama\u00bb m\u0259nas\u0131nda i\u015fl\u0259dilir) deyilir. Onun k\u00f6k\u00fcn\u00fc r\u0259\u011fb\u0259t hissi t\u0259\u015fkil edir. Tan\u0131mad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, ancaq xo\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z, b\u0259y\u0259ndiyimiz adamlar\u0131n hal\u0131na bel\u0259 tez ac\u0131y\u0131r\u0131q. \u018fr-arvad bir-biril\u0259 m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t tell\u0259ri il\u0259 ba\u011fland\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn onlar\u0131n m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 empatiya daha parlaq ifad\u0259 olunmal\u0131d\u0131r. Lakin onlar ill\u0259r ke\u00e7dik\u0259 \u0259r-arvadl\u0131q \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u0259 isini\u015fib \u00f6yr\u0259\u015fir, h\u0259r \u015fey\u0259 adi g\u00f6zl\u0259 bax\u0131r, b\u0259z\u0259n mehrl\u0259rini daha ox u\u015faqlara sal\u0131rlar; bir \u00e7ox halarda is\u0259 \u0259r-avadl\u0131q hissl\u0259ri m\u0259i\u015f\u0259t qay\u011f\u0131lar\u0131 ax\u0131n\u0131nda emosional adaptasiya qanunlar\u0131 \u00fczr\u0259 bu v\u0259 ya dig\u0259r d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 kor\u015fal\u0131r.<\/b>
\nQad\u0131nlar, x\u00fcsusil\u0259 \u00f6z \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259tl\u0259rinin qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirilm\u0259m\u0259si hallar\u0131na son d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259 h\u0259ssasl\u0131qla yana\u015f\u0131rlar. Ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 bu c\u0259h\u0259t x\u00fcsusil\u0259 ayd\u0131n n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 \u00e7arp\u0131r. Ki\u015fil\u0259rin d\u0259 \u00f6z iddia s\u0259viyy\u0259si var; h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 \u00f6z arvadlar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 \u0259n g\u00fccl\u00fc, \u0259n a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 ki\u015fi kimi g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259k ist\u0259yirl\u0259r. Ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6z m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259s qanunlar\u0131 var: sehr\u00e7i, tama\u015fa\u00e7\u0131 m\u00f6vqeyind\u0259 durub \u0259rin v\u0259 ya arvad\u0131n d\u0259rdi-s\u0259rin\u0259 \u015f\u0259rik olmaq \u00e7ox azd\u0131r. Ona g\u00fcnd\u0259lik qay\u011f\u0131,k\u00f6m\u0259k v\u0259 n\u0259vazi\u015f g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r.\u00a0<\/b>
\nV\u0259fal\u0131, sevib-sevil\u0259n \u00f6m\u00fcr-g\u00fcn yolda\u015f\u0131 insan\u0131n evinin dir\u0259yi, k\u00f6nl\u00fcn\u00fcn h\u0259md\u0259mi, q\u0259lbinin h\u0259rar\u0259tidir. Sevildiyini hiss ed\u0259n qad\u0131nan \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtdir, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 da, u\u015faqlar\u0131 da. M\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259ti m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259tl\u0259 qazanmaq olar \u2013 hissl\u0259rin sehri, m\u00f6c\u00fcz\u0259si bel\u0259dir. \u018fr d\u0259, arvad da sevildiyini, ist\u0259nildiyini hiss etm\u0259lidir. Bu, k\u00f6vr\u0259k hissdir \u2013 insan onu itirdikd\u0259 b\u0259xt\u0259v\u0259r ola bilm\u0259z.<\/b>
\n5.\u00a0Etibar.\u00a0\u018fr v\u0259 ya arvad bir-birin\u0259 etibar etm\u0259li, inanmal\u0131d\u0131r. Etibar olmayan yerd\u0259 s\u0259daq\u0259t d\u0259, v\u0259fa da \u00f6z d\u0259y\u0259rini itirir. \u018fr arvada, arvad da \u0259r\u0259 inanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bir-birind\u0259 bu qiym\u0259tli keyfiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri g\u00f6rm\u00fcrl\u0259r, g\u00f6rs\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259 onu ba\u015fqa meyarlarla qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirirl\u0259r.<\/b><\/p>\n
Birg\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n ilk g\u00fcn\u00fcnd\u0259n (daha d\u0259qiq des\u0259k, \u00fclf\u0259t ba\u011flanan g\u00fcnd\u0259n) \u0259r-arvad \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn d\u00fczl\u00fcy\u00fc, do\u011fru\u00e7ulu\u011fu il\u0259 bir-birinin etibar\u0131n\u0131 qazanmal\u0131d\u0131r. H\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 s\u0259mimi olmaq, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131ndan he\u00e7 n\u0259yi gizl\u0259tm\u0259m\u0259k, h\u0259r \u015feyi a\u00e7\u0131q etiraf etm\u0259k, yalan dan\u0131\u015fmamaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u018fr v\u0259 ya arvad gec-tez bir-birinin \u0259m\u0259ll\u0259rini ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr, onlardan hr hans\u0131 birisi h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n add\u0131mba\u015f\u0131 aldad\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131 q\u0259na\u0259tin\u0259 g\u0259lirs\u0259, ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri saxtala\u015fma\u011fa ba\u015fla\u0131r: q\u0131sqancl\u0131q, \u0259r v\u0259 ya arvad\u0131 g\u00fcdm\u0259, telefon s\u00f6hb\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 qulaq asma, cibini v\u0259 ya \u00e7antas\u0131n\u0131 x\u0259lv\u0259ti axtarmaq v\u0259 kim bilir, daha \u0259l\u0259r, ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n ab-havas\u0131n\u0131 t\u0259dric\u0259n z\u0259h\u0259rl\u0259yir.<\/b>
\n6. Bir-birini anlama.\u00a0\u018fr-arvad\u0131n bir-birini ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259si onlar\u0131n s\u0259daq\u0259ti il\u0259\u00a0<\/b>
\nba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Lakin bu iki amili eynil\u0259\u015fdirm\u0259k olmaz. Ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rinin inki\u015faf\u0131nda onlardan h\u0259r birinin \u00f6z yeri vard\u0131r. \u018fg\u0259r insan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n yerin\u0259 qoyursa, onun niyy\u0259ti, hissl\u0259ri, davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 haqq\u0131nda fikir y\u00fcr\u00fctm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r.\u0259rin arvad\u0131 ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259si \u2013 onun \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rini d\u0259rk etm\u0259si dem\u0259kdir. Bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn o, \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rini t\u0259hlili edir, onlar\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rini, motivl\u0259rini \u00f6z\u00fc ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcy\u00fc kimi ayd\u0131nla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r: ya onu do\u011fma adam san\u0131r, inan\u0131r, haqq qazand\u0131r\u0131r, ya da do\u011fma adam hesab etmir, inanm\u0131r, haqqa qazand\u0131rm\u0131r. Birici halda \u0259r-arvad\u0131n \u00fcnsiyy\u0259tin\u0259 x\u0259l\u0259l g\u0259lmir, ikinci halda is\u0259 onlar\u0131n normal \u00fcnsiyy\u0259ti \u00e7\u0259tinl\u0259\u015fir: \u0259r arvad\u0131 v\u0259 \u0259ksin\u0259, arvad \u0259ri q\u0131c\u0131qland\u0131ran s\u00f6zl\u0259r dan\u0131\u015f\u0131r, onun h\u00f6rm\u0259t-izz\u0259tini saxlam\u0131r. \u018frl\u0259 arvad\u0131n bir-birini ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259si v\u0259 anlamas\u0131 ail\u0259nin normal h\u0259yat\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn olduqca z\u0259ruridir. Sosioloqlar m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259nl\u0259\u015fdirmi\u015fl\u0259r ki, insanlar\u0131n dem\u0259k olar, ham\u0131s\u0131 xo\u015fb\u0259xtliy\u0259 psixoloji meyarlarla yana\u015f\u0131rlar. M\u00fcdrik ki\u015fil\u0259r v\u0259 qad\u0131nlar bu c\u0259h\u0259ti qeyd etmi\u015fl\u0259r: xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik odur ki, s\u0259ni i\u015fd\u0259 v\u0259 evd\u0259 ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fs\u00fcnl\u0259r, sevsinl\u0259r, qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirsinl\u0259r.<\/b>
\n7. Normal intim h\u0259yat.\u00a0\u018fr-arvad m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri ki\u015fi il\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n psixologiyas\u0131n\u0131 k\u00f6kl\u00fc sur\u0259td\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015fir. Onlar \u00fclf\u0259t ba\u011flad\u0131qlar\u0131 anlardan \u00f6zl\u0259rinin yaln\u0131z bir-biril\u0259rin\u0259 m\u0259nsub olduqlar\u0131n\u0131 q\u0259bul edirl\u0259r. \u018fr-arvadda q\u0259rib\u0259 h\u0259ssasl\u0131q \u0259m\u0259l\u0259 g\u0259lm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r, onlar ba\u015fqa adamlar\u0131n, h\u0259tta \u00f6z do\u011fma \u00f6vladlar\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda p\u0259rd\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259yir, \u00f6zl\u0259rini \u0259r-arvaddan daha \u00e7ox ata-ana kimi apar\u0131rlar\u2026 Halbuki \u0259r-arvad h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ox m\u00fch\u00fcm bir sah\u0259si onlar\u0131n intim m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. M\u0259hz bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r sah\u0259sind\u0259 \u0259rl\u0259-arvad bir-birini t\u0259min etm\u0259dikd\u0259 ail\u0259d\u0259 s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259t, dava-dala\u015f \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u015f\u0259rait yaran\u0131r, ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri t\u0259dric\u0259n pozulma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r, ki\u015fi v\u0259 ya arvad evd\u0259n soyuyur, h\u0259tta ki\u015finin g\u00f6z\u00fc onun-bunun oca\u011f\u0131nda qal\u0131r. Bu zaman h\u0259kiml\u0259r seksual uy\u011funsuzluqdan dan\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. M\u00fct\u0259x\u0259ssisl\u0259rin hesablamalar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259, bo\u015fanmalar\u0131n t\u0259xmin\u0259n 30%-i m\u0259hz seksual uy\u011funsuzluq z\u0259minind\u0259 ba\u015f verir.\u00a0<\/b>
\n\u018frl\u0259 arvad\u0131n intim h\u0259yat\u0131na adi m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 kimi yana\u015fmaq olmaz. Bu bax\u0131mdan iki c\u0259h\u0259ti x\u00fcsusi qeyd etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r. Bu bax\u0131mdan 2 c\u0259h\u0259ti x\u00fcsusi qeyd etm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/b>
\nBirincisi. B\u00fct\u00fcn adamlarda yem\u0259y\u0259, yuxuya, soyuqdan, yaxud h\u0259ddind\u0259n art\u0131q istid\u0259n qorunma\u011fa v\u0259 s. t\u0259l\u0259bat oldu\u011fu kimi , \u0259ks cins\u0259 d\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259bat var. Bunlar t\u0259biidir. T\u0259bii t\u0259l\u0259batlar\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn n\u00f6vl\u0259ri heyvanlar \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259 s\u0259ciyy\u0259vidir, lakin bir m\u00fch\u00fcm c\u0259h\u0259ti h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almaq laz\u0131md\u0131r: insan\u0131n t\u0259bii t\u0259l\u0259batlar\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn psixoloji m\u0259zmununa v\u0259 t\u0259minolunma formalar\u0131na g\u00f6r\u0259 heyvanlar\u0131n t\u0259bii t\u0259l\u0259bat\u0131ndan k\u00f6kl\u00fc sur\u0259td\u0259 f\u0259rql\u0259nir. Ax\u0131 insan\u0131n t\u0259l\u0259bat\u0131 c\u0259miyy\u0259td\u0259, konkret tarixi \u015f\u0259raitd\u0259 formala\u015f\u0131r v\u0259 inki\u015faf edir. T\u0259l\u0259batlar\u0131n m\u0259zmunu da, t\u0259minolunma vasit\u0259l\u0259ri d\u0259 c\u0259miyy\u0259tin inki\u015faf s\u0259viyy\u0259si il\u0259 \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259nir. M\u0259d\u0259ni v\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259vi t\u0259l\u0259batlar formala\u015fd\u0131qca, t\u0259bii t\u0259l\u0259batlar da insanil\u0259\u015fir, daha \u00e7ox m\u0259n\u0259vi-estetik m\u0259zmun k\u0259sb edir.<\/b>
\n\u0130kincisi. Seksual t\u0259l\u0259bat insan\u0131n t\u0259bii t\u0259l\u0259batlar\u0131 i\u00e7\u0259risind\u0259 x\u00fcsusi yer tutur. Bu is\u0259 t\u0259sad\u00fcfi deyildir. \u0130nsan\u0131n cinsi h\u0259yat\u0131 onun ba\u015fqa bioloji funksiyalardan f\u0259rqli olaraq m\u0259hz ba\u015fqa adama m\u00fcnasib\u0259t sah\u0259si il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130ki adam\u0131n- ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n, \u0259r v\u0259 arvad\u0131n m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti is\u0259 sosial m\u00fcnasib\u0259t m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259sidir.<\/b>
\nAil\u0259nin intim al\u0259mi \u0259r-arvada insan m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rinin \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259m\u0259xsus h\u0259rar\u0259tini b\u0259x\u015f edir. Bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t\u0259 \u0259saslananda daha da g\u00f6z\u0259ll\u0259\u015fir, insan \u00fcnsiyy\u0259tinin f\u0259r\u0259hli anlar\u0131na \u00e7evrilir.<\/b>
\nG\u00f6rk\u0259mli m\u00fct\u0259f\u0259kkirl\u0259r intim m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n roluna b\u00f6y\u00fck m\u0259na vermi\u015fdir. O \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn qad\u0131n g\u00f6z\u0259lliyinin cazib\u0259sini qoruyub saxlamal\u0131d\u0131r. Ya\u015f\u0131, pe\u015f\u0259 sah\u0259si, t\u0259hsil s\u0259viyy\u0259si \u00e7\u0259r\u00e7iv\u0259sind\u0259 s\u0259liq\u0259-sahmanl\u0131, s\u0131\u011fal-tumarl\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130ntim m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin n\u0259cibl\u0259\u015fdirilm\u0259si d\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n davran\u0131\u015f v\u0259 r\u0259ftar\u0131 il\u0259 bilavasit\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. Jan Jak Russo \u0259xlaqi-f\u0259l\u0259fi \u00abYuliya\u00bb v\u0259 ya \u00abYeni Elioza\u00bb roman\u0131nda yaz\u0131rd\u0131: \u00ab\u2026\u0259n s\u0259daq\u0259tli qad\u0131nlar \u0259rl\u0259rinin ixtiyar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6z \u0259ll\u0259rind\u0259 ad\u0259t\u0259n daha \u00e7ox saxlay\u0131rlar, onlar n\u0259 \u015f\u0131ltaql\u0131q edir, n\u0259 d\u0259 \u0259rl\u0259rini r\u0259dd edirl\u0259r, ancaq a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 v\u0259 inc\u0259 t\u0259mkinlilik say\u0259sind\u0259 \u00f6z \u0259rl\u0259ri il\u0259 \u00e7ox z\u0259rif r\u0259ftar edib onlar\u0131 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n m\u0259saf\u0259d\u0259 saxlama\u011f\u0131 bacar\u0131r v\u0259 he\u00e7 vaxt doyma\u011fa qoymurlar\u00bb.<\/b>
\n\u018fr-arvad\u0131n intim h\u0259yat\u0131 \u0259slind\u0259 onlar\u0131n \u00f6m\u00fcr-g\u00fcn yolunun b\u00fct\u00fcn \u00e7alarlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 \u0259ks etdirir. Ki\u015fil\u0259r h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131ndan mehribanl\u0131q, q\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131, z\u0259rif r\u0259ftar g\u00f6zl\u0259yirl\u0259r. Halbuki onlar\u0131n \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015flar\u0131n\u0131 qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndir\u0259 bilm\u0259k v\u0259 sevm\u0259k bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131 ail\u0259nin intim h\u0259yat\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn olduqca z\u0259ruridir. Qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6z g\u00f6z\u0259lliyini qoruyub saxlamas\u0131 da el\u0259 \u0259rin qay\u011f\u0131 v\u0259 mehribanl\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan bilavasit\u0259 as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r.<\/b>
\nAil\u0259nin intim al\u0259mind\u0259 fizioloji v\u0259 psixoloji \u00e7alarlar \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259m\u0259xsus \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 birl\u0259\u015fir. \u018frl\u0259 arvad\u0131n bir \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t kimi x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri onlar\u0131n qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rinin m\u0259hz psixoloji \u00e7alarlar\u0131nda \u0259ks olunur; onlar bu anlarda bir-biril\u0259rin\u0259 n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r yax\u0131n olduqlar\u0131n\u0131 d\u0259rk edir, bir yerd\u0259 \u00f6zl\u0259rini s\u00f6z\u00fcn \u0259sl m\u0259nas\u0131nda xo\u015fb\u0259xt hiss edirl\u0259r. \u018fg\u0259r \u0259r-arvadlar bu k\u00f6vr\u0259k hissi \u00f6m\u00fcrl\u0259ri boyu qoruyub saxlaya bils\u0259l\u0259r, evd\u0259 ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rinin inki\u015faf\u0131 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259lveri\u015fli \u015f\u0259rait yaran\u0131r.<\/b>
\n8. V\u0259\u2026 \u00f6z Evl\u0259rinin olmas\u0131.\u00a0Psixoloqlar bu m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259d\u0259n dan\u0131\u015fark\u0131n Ev s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc b\u00f6y\u00fck h\u0259rfl\u0259 t\u0259sad\u00fcf\u0259n yazm\u0131rlar: burada s\u00f6hb\u0259t h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir ya\u015fay\u0131\u015f\u00a0<\/b>
\nsah\u0259sind\u0259n deyil, ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rini \u00f6z h\u0259rar\u0259ti il\u0259 isid\u0259n do\u011fma evd\u0259n gedir. Bu ocaq b\u0259nz\u0259rsizdir, t\u0259krarolunmazd\u0131r. Onun s\u0259liq\u0259-s\u0259hman\u0131, ab-havas\u0131 il\u0259 bir xalq\u0131n psixologiyas\u0131 bir k\u00fclf\u0259tin psixologiyas\u0131na hopur.<\/b>
\nT\u0259z\u0259b\u0259y v\u0259 t\u0259z\u0259 g\u0259lin \u00e7ox vaxt ail\u0259 qurduqdan sonra valideynl\u0259ri il\u0259 birlikd\u0259 ya\u015fay\u0131rlar. \u018fr-arvad m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rinin formala\u015fd\u0131\u011f\u0131 ilk d\u00f6vrl\u0259rd\u0259 bu, b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 z\u0259ruridir. Ya\u015fl\u0131lar \u2013 t\u0259z\u0259b\u0259y v\u0259 ya g\u0259linin anas\u0131 v\u0259 atas\u0131, h\u0259m\u00e7inin bac\u0131 v\u0259 qarda\u015flar\u0131 onlar\u0131n bir-birin\u0259 isini\u015fm\u0259sind\u0259 az rol oynam\u0131rlar. Lakin \u00abata yurdu\u00bb, \u00abana oca\u011f\u0131\u00bb n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r \u015firin olsa da, bu do\u011fma divarlar aras\u0131nda g\u0259nc \u0259r-arvad \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc psixoloji bax\u0131mdan h\u0259r halda as\u0131l\u0131 hiss edir, s\u0131x\u0131l\u0131r, h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 ist\u0259diyi ikim qura bilmir, ist\u0259r-ist\u0259m\u0259z valideynl\u0259rin h\u0259yat t\u0259rzinin axar\u0131na d\u00fc\u015fs\u0259l\u0259r d\u0259, onunla uyu\u015fmaqda psixoloji c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n \u00e7\u0259tinlik \u00e7\u0259kirl\u0259r: el\u2014el\u0259 s\u0131\u011f\u0131r, ev ev\u0259 s\u0131\u011fm\u0131r.<\/b>
\nM\u00fcdrik ata-analar bu c\u0259h\u0259ti h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 qabaqcadan g\u00f6r\u00fcbl\u0259r. Onlar qonum-qon\u015funun t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259sind\u0259 inan\u0131blar ki, u\u015faqlar b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fckc\u0259 yollar\u0131 da ha\u00e7alan\u0131r. Onlardan h\u0259r biri gec-tez \u00f6z taleyini, \u00f6z ik\u015fi v\u0259 ya qad\u0131n \u00f6mr\u00fcnd\u0259 \u00f6z ail\u0259sinin \u2013 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n v\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131n taleyini ya\u015fayacaqd\u0131r. Bu, \u0259slind\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n \u00f6z m\u0259ntiqidir. G\u0259nc ail\u0259 d\u0259 d\u00fcnyaya yenic\u0259 g\u00f6z a\u00e7m\u0131\u015f u\u015faq kimi n\u0259 vaxtsa b\u0259l\u0259kd\u0259n \u00e7\u0131xmal\u0131d\u0131r, im\u0259kl\u0259m\u0259yi, y\u0131x\u0131la-y\u0131x\u0131la yerim\u0259yi \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259lidir. Ha\u00e7ansa \u00fcz-g\u00f6z olub, inciyib ayr\u0131lmaqdansa, vaxt\u0131nda ayr\u0131 ya\u015famaq, ev-e\u015fik sahibi olmaq yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r. Elimizin-obam\u0131z\u0131n g\u00f6z\u0259l ad\u0259t v\u0259 \u0259n\u0259n\u0259l\u0259ri var: \u00abu\u015faqlara\u00bb vaxt\u0131nda ev-e\u015fik d\u00fcz\u0259ldib, \u0259rs\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7atan kimi b\u00f6y\u00fck \u00abu\u015faqlar\u0131\u00bb ay\u0131rard\u0131lar. Evin ki\u00e7ik o\u011flunu-sonbe\u015fiyini evl\u0259ndir\u0259nd\u0259 is\u0259 onu ay\u0131rm\u0131rd\u0131lar. Ki\u00e7ik o\u011flu ata-anaya h\u0259yan olurdu, ata yurdunda qeyr\u0259tl\u0259 \u00e7\u0131raq yand\u0131r\u0131r, onun ab-havas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6z ail\u0259sinin \u00f6mr\u00fcnd\u0259 ya\u015fad\u0131rd\u0131.<\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ail\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyi m\u00fcr\u0259kk\u0259b fenomendir, ancaq onun sosial-psixoloji \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259ri \u00e7ox sad\u0259dir. Bu \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259ri \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259k, onlara ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n pozulmaz qaydalar\u0131 kimi \u0259m\u0259l etm\u0259k z\u0259ruridir. G\u0259lin h\u0259min \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259rl\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olaq: 1.\u00a0Ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 il\u0259 ya\u015famaq laz\u0131md\u0131r.\u00a0Bu s\u00f6zl\u0259r eyni d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 \u0259r\u0259 d\u0259, arvada da aiddir. Onlardan he\u00e7 biri \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131ndan, u\u015faqlar\u0131ndan ay\u0131rmamal\u0131, \u00f6z \u00f6mr\u00fcnd\u0259 onlar\u0131n \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fc ya\u015famal\u0131d\u0131r. Bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u0259r-arvad ail\u0259nin sevinc v\u0259 k\u0259d\u0259rini birlikd\u0259 ya\u015famal\u0131, bir-birinin z\u00f6vq\u00fcn\u00fc, mara\u011f\u0131n\u0131 v\u0259 arzusunu n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almal\u0131, qay\u011f\u0131s\u0131na qalmal\u0131, asud\u0259 vaxtlar\u0131n\u0131 bir yerd\u0259 m\u0259nal\u0131 ke\u00e7irm\u0259li, \u00f6z xo\u015fb\u0259xtlikl\u0259rini u\u015faqlar\u0131n s\u0259ad\u0259tind\u0259 axtarmal\u0131d\u0131rlar. 2.\u00a0\u018fr-arvad bir-biril\u0259rin\u0259 t\u0259kc\u0259 \u0259r-arvad kimi deyil, birinci n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259,…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":78706,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1506578259_screenshot_1.jpg",584,381,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1506578259_screenshot_1.jpg",584,381,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1506578259_screenshot_1.jpg",584,381,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1506578259_screenshot_1-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1506578259_screenshot_1-300x196.jpg",300,196,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1506578259_screenshot_1.jpg",584,381,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1506578259_screenshot_1.jpg",584,381,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1506578259_screenshot_1.jpg",584,381,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1506578259_screenshot_1-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1506578259_screenshot_1.jpg",584,381,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"Ail\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyi m\u00fcr\u0259kk\u0259b fenomendir, ancaq onun sosial-psixoloji \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259ri \u00e7ox sad\u0259dir. Bu \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259ri \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259k, onlara ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n pozulmaz qaydalar\u0131 kimi \u0259m\u0259l etm\u0259k z\u0259ruridir. G\u0259lin h\u0259min \u015f\u0259rtl\u0259rl\u0259 tan\u0131\u015f olaq: 1.\u00a0Ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 il\u0259 ya\u015famaq laz\u0131md\u0131r.\u00a0Bu s\u00f6zl\u0259r eyni d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 \u0259r\u0259 d\u0259, arvada da aiddir. Onlardan he\u00e7 biri \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131ndan, u\u015faqlar\u0131ndan ay\u0131rmamal\u0131, \u00f6z \u00f6mr\u00fcnd\u0259 onlar\u0131n \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fc ya\u015famal\u0131d\u0131r. 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