“35 ildir ki, evliy\u0259m. Ancaq 15 ildir ki, yolda\u015f\u0131m ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 sevir v\u0259 onunla qal\u0131r. Bir u\u015faqlar\u0131 da var. Biz h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 r\u0259sm\u0259n bo\u015fanmam\u0131\u015f\u0131q. \u0130ki \u00f6vlad\u0131m var, onlar\u0131n x\u0259trin\u0259 d\u00f6z\u00fcr\u0259m. Sad\u0259c\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131m atas\u0131z olmas\u0131n dey\u0259 dost kimi ev\u0259 g\u0259lib-getm\u0259sin\u0259 raz\u0131 oluram. Amma he\u00e7 bir yax\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yoxdur. M\u0259n onun ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 sevdiyini \u00f6z\u00fcm ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcm. Bundan sonra evd\u0259 \u00e7ox dava d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fc. Ancaq m\u0259n g\u00f6rd\u00fcm ki, art\u0131q gecdir. Daha ard\u0131nca getm\u0259dim. \u018fslind\u0259 m\u0259nim\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7ox a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131r. Amma bel\u0259 fikirl\u0259\u015fir\u0259m ki, o, d\u00fcz edib. Y\u0259qin m\u0259n onu bir qad\u0131n kimi qane etm\u0259mi\u015f\u0259m v\u0259 o, ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 sevib. Ancaq m\u0259n c\u0259miyy\u0259t aras\u0131nda \u00e7ox olan insanam, ki\u015fil\u0259rin n\u0259y\u0259 qulluq el\u0259dikl\u0259rini d\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u0259m v\u0259 onlara inam\u0131m qalmay\u0131b. M\u0259n\u0259 el\u0259 g\u0259lir ki, indiki d\u00f6vrd\u0259 ki\u015filik yox d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259sind\u0259dir\u201d.<\/p>\n
Haql\u0131 olan kimdir?<\/p>\n
Bu s\u00f6zl\u0259ri dey\u0259n Nail\u0259 xan\u0131md\u0131r. Y\u0259qin ki, onun taleyini ya\u015fayan, onun yerind\u0259 olan qad\u0131nlara \u00e7oxlar\u0131m\u0131z rast g\u0259lmi\u015fik. T\u0259bii ki, burda ki\u015fi q\u0131naq obyekti olur v\u0259 o, evlidirs\u0259, sevm\u0259y\u0259 haqq\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcl\u00fcr. B\u0259s \u0259slind\u0259 kim haql\u0131d\u0131r? \u00dcr\u0259yin\u0259 h\u00f6km ed\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259n ki\u015fi, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131, yoxsa sevgisin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 onu q\u0131nayanlar? Ax\u0131 sevgi el\u0259 bir qonaqd\u0131r ki, “g\u0259ldim\u201d dem\u0259z, he\u00e7 qap\u0131n\u0131 da d\u00f6ym\u0259z, sad\u0259c\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259r\u2026 Ancaq bu da dan\u0131lmazd\u0131r ki, art\u0131q o a\u015fiqin bir ail\u0259si, m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti, \u00f6hd\u0259likl\u0259ri var. \u00c7ox halda is\u0259 haz\u0131rda sevm\u0259diyi h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131ndan olsa bel\u0259, \u00f6vlad\u0131 v\u0259 ya \u00f6vladlar\u0131\u2026 Dig\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n, ki\u015fi h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 yan\u0131nda ola-ola ba\u015fqa bir qad\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr, x\u0259yal\u0131nda \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc onunla canland\u0131r\u0131r. Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 h\u0259yat v\u0259 yan\u0131nda olan qad\u0131n art\u0131q onun \u00fcr\u0259yinc\u0259 deyil v\u0259 sad\u0259c\u0259 onu s\u0131x\u0131r. \u018fn pisi d\u0259 odur ki, yan\u0131ndak\u0131 arzuolunmaz qad\u0131n onun \u00fcr\u0259yini v\u0259 beynini “oxuyur\u201d. Burda is\u0259 m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259 h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n q\u0259lizl\u0259\u015fir v\u0259 h\u0259m ki\u015finin, h\u0259m ba\u015fqa birin\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015fil\u0259n h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n, h\u0259m d\u0259 sevil\u0259n qad\u0131n\u0131n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259si, se\u00e7imi \u00e7ox \u015feyi h\u0259ll edir. F\u0259rdin f\u0259rqliliyi m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 d\u0259 f\u0259rqli g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f, f\u0259rqli sonluq ver\u0259 bil\u0259r. Ancaq s\u00f6hb\u0259t ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259n gedirs\u0259, kifay\u0259t q\u0259d\u0259r ciddi yana\u015fmaq laz\u0131m oldu\u011fu da ayd\u0131nd\u0131r.
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\nAil\u0259 qurark\u0259n vacib amill\u0259r<\/p>\n
Sosial psixoloq Naib Nift\u0259liyev bildirir ki, evlilik \u2013 ail\u0259 qurmaq, ail\u0259li olmaq \u00e7ox ciddi, m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259s, h\u0259r k\u0259sd\u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck m\u0259suliyy\u0259t t\u0259l\u0259b ed\u0259n add\u0131md\u0131r: “Bu bax\u0131mdan, h\u0259r bir insan ail\u0259 quraca\u011f\u0131 insan bar\u0259d\u0259 h\u0259rt\u0259r\u0259fli g\u00f6t\u00fcr-qoy etm\u0259li, onu tam sevdiyin\u0259, \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fcn sonunad\u0259k t\u0259r\u0259f m\u00fcqabili il\u0259 birg\u0259 ya\u015fayaca\u011f\u0131na \u0259min olduqdan sonra ail\u0259 qurmal\u0131 v\u0259 \u00f6z sevgisini ail\u0259sind\u0259 tapmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ba\u015fqa s\u00f6zl\u0259, ail\u0259d\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 anla\u015fma, qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 sevgi, qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259t, b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131n c\u0259mind\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 s\u0259daq\u0259t \u00e7ox vacib \u015f\u0259rtdir. Bu, he\u00e7 d\u0259 o dem\u0259k deyil ki, insan hissl\u0259rini bo\u011fmal\u0131, duy\u011fular\u0131n\u0131 ail\u0259 m\u00fcst\u0259visind\u0259 qapatmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fksin\u0259, ciddi, m\u0259suliyy\u0259tli, s\u0259daq\u0259tli insan hissl\u0259rini, duy\u011fular\u0131n\u0131 ifad\u0259 etm\u0259kd\u0259 daha azadd\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki o, n\u0259 ist\u0259diyini bilir, hissl\u0259rini, duy\u011fular\u0131n\u0131, sevgisini d\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn y\u00f6nl\u0259ndirm\u0259yi bacar\u0131r.
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\nEvli biri k\u0259narda sevgi axtar\u0131rsa<\/p>\n
Psixoloqun s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, sevgi hissinin \u00e7ox m\u00fcxt\u0259lif t\u0259zah\u00fcr formalar\u0131 var: “Bunlardan \u0259n vacibi insan\u0131n dig\u0259r insanlara olan h\u00f6rm\u0259t, say\u011f\u0131 v\u0259 sevgisidir. Bu, o dem\u0259kdir ki, insan insana kimliyind\u0259n, qad\u0131n v\u0259 ya ki\u015fi olmas\u0131ndan, ya\u015f\u0131ndan, b\u00f6y\u00fck-ki\u00e7ikliyind\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olmayaraq, diqq\u0259t, ehtiram, qay\u011f\u0131 il\u0259, normal insani m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fg\u0259r h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir ki\u015fi v\u0259 ya xan\u0131m sevgisini ail\u0259sind\u0259n k\u0259narda axtar\u0131rsa, ya onun ail\u0259sind\u0259 bir ziddiyy\u0259t, bo\u015fluq, ya da h\u0259min \u015f\u0259xsin xarakterind\u0259 bir natamaml\u0131q, b\u00f6l\u00fcnm\u0259, ikil\u0259\u015fm\u0259 var. Bu m\u0259nada, n\u0259 ki\u015finin, n\u0259 d\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6z h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na x\u0259yan\u0259t edib k\u0259narda sevgi axtarma\u011fa q\u0259ti haqq\u0131 yoxdur. S\u00f6zs\u00fcz ki, m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259n ba\u015fqa \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f yolu qalmay\u0131bsa, t\u0259r\u0259fl\u0259r ayr\u0131l\u0131b yenid\u0259n ail\u0259 qura bil\u0259rl\u0259r. Buna he\u00e7 k\u0259s pis baxm\u0131r v\u0259 qanun da bunu qada\u011fan etmir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, \u0130ngilt\u0259r\u0259d\u0259 evl\u0259n\u0259n h\u0259r iki n\u0259f\u0259rd\u0259n biri on il \u0259rzind\u0259 bo\u015fan\u0131r. T\u00fcrkiy\u0259d\u0259 is\u0259, bo\u015fanma s\u0259viyy\u0259si ild\u0259 1 %-d\u0259n a\u015fa\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. Y\u0259ni, burada m\u0259n\u0259vi-\u0259xlaqi d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259rin f\u0259rqliliyi, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259m\u0259xsuslu\u011fu da \u00f6z s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc deyir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259y\u0259 milli, dini-m\u0259d\u0259ni d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259r m\u00fcst\u0259visind\u0259 yana\u015f\u0131ld\u0131qda bu, h\u0259m d\u0259 etnopsixoloji m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259dir. Ba\u015fqa s\u00f6zl\u0259, bir t\u00fcrkl\u0259 bir ingilisin, bir avropal\u0131 il\u0259 bir az\u0259rbaycanl\u0131n\u0131n evlilik v\u0259 sevgi m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259sin\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti he\u00e7 d\u0259 eyni deyil\u201d.
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\nBa\u015fqa qad\u0131n ail\u0259ni \u0259v\u0259z ed\u0259 bil\u0259rmi?<\/p>\n
Naib Nift\u0259liyevin fikrinc\u0259, burada inc\u0259 bir m\u0259qam\u0131 da n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almaq laz\u0131md\u0131r: “Ail\u0259d\u0259n k\u0259narda n\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r b\u00f6y\u00fck sevgi yaransa v\u0259 ya\u015fansa bel\u0259, bu he\u00e7 vaxt ail\u0259 sevgisini, ail\u0259 s\u0259daq\u0259tini, isti ail\u0259 oca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 \u0259v\u0259z el\u0259mir. H\u0259tta sevgisiz, yaln\u0131z h\u00f6rm\u0259t, b\u0259z\u0259n k\u0259nar t\u0259sirl\u0259r n\u0259tic\u0259sind\u0259 qurulan ail\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 bel\u0259 bo\u015fanma, ayr\u0131l\u0131q, x\u0259yan\u0259tl\u0259r \u00e7ox b\u00f6y\u00fck m\u0259n\u0259vi-psixoloji b\u00f6hrana s\u0259b\u0259b olur. Do\u011frudur, he\u00e7 bir insan tam kamil v\u0259 tam ideal \u015f\u0259xsiyy\u0259t deyil. H\u0259r k\u0259sin \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmayan c\u0259h\u0259tl\u0259ri, az-\u00e7ox m\u0259nfi x\u00fcsusiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri, hardasa z\u0259iflik g\u00f6st\u0259rdiyi anlar var. Bu s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n, he\u00e7 d\u0259 h\u0259r k\u0259s irad\u0259sini i\u015f\u0259 sal\u0131b hissl\u0259rini cilovlama\u011f\u0131, idar\u0259 etm\u0259yi bacarm\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar\u0131n m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n qismi \u00e7ox vaxt ikili hissl\u0259rin \u0259sirin\u0259 \u00e7evrilir. Bu t\u0259may\u00fcl\u00fcn q\u00fcvv\u0259tl\u0259nm\u0259sind\u0259 m\u00fcasir K\u0130V-in, x\u00fcsus\u0259n, m\u0259n\u0259vi-\u0259xlaqi d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259r sistemind\u0259n getdikc\u0259 uzaqla\u015fan televiziya kanallar\u0131n\u0131n, internetin, dig\u0259r informasiya v\u0259 kommunikasiya texnologiyalar\u0131n\u0131n da m\u0259nfi rolu var (S\u00f6zs\u00fcz ki, bu ifad\u0259 i\u015fin\u0259 vicdanla, m\u0259suliyy\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fan media qurumlar\u0131na aid deyil\u201d.
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\n\u00d6t\u0259ri hissl\u0259r v\u0259 sonrak\u0131 pe\u015fman\u00e7\u0131l\u0131q\u2026<\/p>\n
M\u00fcsahibimiz qeyd edir ki, indi m\u00fcxt\u0259lif saytlarda, sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 tan\u0131\u015fl\u0131q adi hal al\u0131b: “Onlar\u0131n b\u00f6y\u00fck bir qismi d\u0259 el\u0259 ail\u0259li xan\u0131mlar v\u0259 ki\u015fil\u0259rdir. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259, h\u0259r bir insan\u0131n m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n bir se\u00e7im azadl\u0131\u011f\u0131 var. Lakin birinin haqq\u0131n\u0131 tapdalamaqla dig\u0259ri il\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtlik tapmaq, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na x\u0259yan\u0259t edib, ail\u0259ni da\u011f\u0131d\u0131b, ba\u015fqa birisi il\u0259 s\u0259ad\u0259t\u0259 \u00e7atmaq m\u00fcmk\u00fcn deyil. Bel\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r \u00e7ox zaman \u00f6t\u0259ri, ke\u00e7ici olur, sonradan yaranan pe\u015fman\u00e7\u0131l\u0131q, g\u00fcnahkarl\u0131q hissi il\u0259 is\u0259 n\u0259 \u0259vv\u0259lki normal, sa\u011flam ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131na qay\u0131tmaq, n\u0259 d\u0259 yenid\u0259n \u00f6z h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131 qurmaq m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olur. Biz insanlar\u0131n \u00f6z hissl\u0259rinin bo\u011fmas\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259r\u0259fdar\u0131 deyilik, hissl\u0259rin d\u0259rk v\u0259 idar\u0259 olunmas\u0131 \u0259n do\u011fru \u00e7\u0131x\u0131\u015f yoludur. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259, insan yeri g\u0259l\u0259nd\u0259, \u00f6z \u00fcr\u0259yin\u0259 d\u0259 h\u00f6km etm\u0259yi bacarmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 ki, biz \u015f\u00fcura, a\u011f\u0131la, d\u0259rrak\u0259y\u0259, idraka malik oldu\u011fumuz \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yer \u00fcz\u00fcnd\u0259 ali b\u0259\u015f\u0259ri varl\u0131q say\u0131l\u0131r\u0131q. Hissl\u0259r aldad\u0131c\u0131 ola, insan\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f yola \u2013 g\u00fcnaha, x\u0259yan\u0259t\u0259 s\u00fcr\u00fckl\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r. Bel\u0259 m\u0259qamlarda insan d\u0259rind\u0259n d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259yi v\u0259 h\u0259yata a\u00e7\u0131q g\u00f6zl\u0259, sa\u011flam bax\u0131\u015fla baxma\u011f\u0131 bacarmal\u0131d\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n
Psixoloq bu hal\u0131n q\u0131na\u011fa s\u0259b\u0259b olmas\u0131na da ayd\u0131nl\u0131q g\u0259tirdi: “Evli oldu\u011fu halda, ail\u0259si m\u00fcqabilind\u0259 sevgisini se\u00e7\u0259n insanlar\u0131 q\u0131nay\u0131b-q\u0131namamaq m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259sin\u0259 g\u0259ldikd\u0259, bu, \u015f\u0259raitd\u0259n, v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130st\u0259nil\u0259n halda bel\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r h\u0259mi\u015f\u0259 ictimai q\u0131naq obyektidir. AB\u015e-da, Avropa \u00f6lk\u0259l\u0259rinin \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259tind\u0259 evli insan\u0131n nigahdank\u0259nar sevgi ya\u015famas\u0131na \u00e7ox da yax\u015f\u0131 baxm\u0131rlar. N\u00fcmun\u0259 \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn AB\u015e-da ba\u015f ver\u0259n m\u0259\u015fhur Bill Klinton \u2013 Monika Levinski qalmaqal\u0131n\u0131 xat\u0131rlatmaq kifay\u0259tdir\u201d.
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\nAil\u0259d\u0259ki gizli v\u0259 ya a\u015fkar b\u00f6hran<\/p>\n
H\u0259ms\u00f6hb\u0259timizin s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, ail\u0259li insanda ba\u015fqa birisin\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 s\u0259mimi r\u0259\u011fb\u0259t, saf, t\u0259m\u0259nnas\u0131z sevgi oyana bil\u0259r: “\u018fg\u0259r bu hiss \u015f\u0259xsil\u0259\u015fmirs\u0259, d\u00fczg\u00fcn y\u00f6nl\u0259ndirilib idar\u0259 olunursa, arada z\u0259ruri m\u0259saf\u0259 saxlan\u0131l\u0131rsa, tam t\u0259bii, normald\u0131r. \u018fg\u0259r bu hissl\u0259r art\u0131q ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rini k\u00f6lg\u0259d\u0259 qoyub yax\u0131nl\u0131q duy\u011fusuna, ist\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7evrilirs\u0259, dem\u0259k, h\u0259min \u015f\u0259xsin ail\u0259sind\u0259 bir natamaml\u0131q, irad\u0259sind\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n z\u0259iflik, xarakterind\u0259 ifrat \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fct\u0259sdiq meyli, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 il\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 gizli v\u0259 ya a\u015fkar ya\u015fanan bir b\u00f6hran var. B\u0259z\u0259n arzulad\u0131\u011f\u0131 sevgisini ail\u0259sind\u0259 tapmayan insan onu \u00f6z\u00fc d\u0259 bilm\u0259d\u0259n k\u0259narda axtar\u0131r, ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259siri alt\u0131nda bunu “d\u0259b, norma, adi hal\u201d kimi q\u0259bul edir. Y\u0259ni bel\u0259 bir sevginin yaranmas\u0131n\u0131n v\u0259 ya\u015fanmas\u0131n\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259ri \u00e7ox f\u0259rqli, m\u00fcxt\u0259lif ola bil\u0259r. \u0130st\u0259nil\u0259n halda bu, h\u0259min \u015f\u0259xsin ail\u0259daxili m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259, el\u0259c\u0259 d\u0259 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 disharmoniya, rahats\u0131zl\u0131q ya\u015famas\u0131ndan x\u0259b\u0259r verir\u201d.
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\nH\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 sevs\u0259, qad\u0131n n\u0259 ed\u0259r?<\/p>\n
G\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fcy\u00fc kimi, eyni m\u0259s\u0259l\u0259ni nec\u0259 q\u0259bul etm\u0259k v\u0259 ya nec\u0259 h\u0259ll etm\u0259k \u015f\u0259xsin \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r. H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015fqa bir qad\u0131n\u0131 sevm\u0259sini normal ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u0259n bir qad\u0131n da ola bil\u0259r v\u0259 ya bu m\u0259qamda \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc al\u00e7alm\u0131\u015f hiss ed\u0259r\u0259k, v\u0259ziyy\u0259tl\u0259 m\u00fcbariz\u0259 aparmaq v\u0259 r\u0259qib qad\u0131na qalib g\u0259lm\u0259k yolunu se\u00e7\u0259n d\u0259 ola bil\u0259r. Yaxud da z\u0259if v\u0259 ya aciz bir qad\u0131n sad\u0259c\u0259 depressiyaya d\u00fc\u015f\u0259r, intihar\u0131 bel\u0259 se\u00e7\u0259 bil\u0259r.
\nEl\u0259 ail\u0259li olan \u00dclviyy\u0259nin s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131na deyib: “Ola bil\u0259r bir g\u00fcn m\u0259nd\u0259n bez\u0259rs\u0259n. B\u0259lk\u0259, ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 sev\u0259rs\u0259n. Bunu m\u0259n\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn de. S\u0259ni m\u0259nd\u0259n yax\u015f\u0131 he\u00e7 kim ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259z.<\/p>\n
Amma d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259nd\u0259 ki, bird\u0259n h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n g\u0259ldi dedi ki, m\u0259n art\u0131q ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 sevir\u0259m\u2026 Fikirl\u0259\u015fir\u0259m ki, y\u0259qin depresiyaya d\u00fc\u015f\u0259r\u0259m, \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc al\u00e7alm\u0131\u015f hesab ed\u0259r\u0259m. \u00c7\u00fcnki m\u0259nd\u0259n yax\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 tap\u0131b ki, a\u015fiq olub. Bu bir qad\u0131n \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7ox a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131r, ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259, b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259, d\u00f6zm\u0259yib \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc bel\u0259 \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u0259r\u0259m\u201d.<\/p>\n
Aynur Namazova da evlidir. O d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, \u0259g\u0259r h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 ba\u015fqa birini h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n sev\u0259rs\u0259, ona qar\u015f\u0131 he\u00e7 sevgisi qalmazsa, ayr\u0131lmaq yolunu se\u00e7\u0259r: “M\u0259n onu sevs\u0259m bel\u0259, n\u0259 m\u0259nas\u0131 olacaq ki? Onun dig\u0259r bir qad\u0131n\u0131 sev\u0259-sev\u0259 m\u0259nim yan\u0131mda olmas\u0131 i\u015fg\u0259nc\u0259d\u0259n ba\u015fqa bir \u015fey olmaz. Ancaq onu da deyim ki, \u0259g\u0259r ortada sevgi yox, sad\u0259c\u0259 bir h\u0259v\u0259s, \u00f6t\u0259ri hissl\u0259r olarsa, buna g\u00f6r\u0259 \u0259sla ail\u0259mi da\u011f\u0131tmaram\u201d.<\/p>\n
M\u0259tan\u0259t xan\u0131m is\u0259 indi sad\u0259c\u0259 “u\u015faqlar\u0131n\u0131n atas\u0131\u201d adland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131 ke\u00e7mi\u015f h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n \u0259vv\u0259l d\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti olan bir qad\u0131nla \u0259laq\u0259d\u0259 oldu\u011funu deyir: “Bu bar\u0259d\u0259 bil\u0259nd\u0259 ona dedim ki, \u0259g\u0259r onu sevirdins\u0259, \u0259laq\u0259ni davam ed\u0259c\u0259kdins\u0259, niy\u0259 m\u0259niml\u0259 evl\u0259nirdin? El\u0259 onunla m\u00fcnasib\u0259tini r\u0259smil\u0259\u015fdir\u0259rdin. Ancaq o dedi ki, onunla evl\u0259n\u0259 bilm\u0259z, \u00e7\u00fcnki o qad\u0131n \u00f6z bac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n \u0259rind\u0259n u\u015faq d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tirib. Bu s\u00f6zl\u0259rd\u0259n sonra o, m\u0259nim g\u00f6z\u00fcmd\u0259 daha da d\u0259y\u0259rini itirdi v\u0259 ona nifr\u0259t etdim. Bununla da, ondan ayr\u0131lmaq q\u0259rar\u0131na g\u0259ldim. \u0130ki ox\u015far insanlar\u0131 bir-biri il\u0259 buraxmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. M\u0259n o vaxt m\u00fcbariz\u0259 aparard\u0131m ki, o, buna layiq olsun\u201d.
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\nSevib olursan “yuvada\u011f\u0131dan\u201d varl\u0131q\u2026<\/p>\n
Bu m\u0259qamda ki\u015finin hissl\u0259ri, sevgisinin n\u0259 d\u0259r\u0259c\u0259d\u0259 t\u0259miz, g\u00fccl\u00fc oldu\u011fu, b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259, n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 al\u0131nm\u0131r v\u0259 ya ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u00fclm\u00fcr. Qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259ki qad\u0131n is\u0259 sad\u0259c\u0259 q\u0131nan\u0131l\u0131r v\u0259 onun haqq\u0131nda “Ev y\u0131xan\u0131n evi olmaz\u201d deyilir. O qad\u0131n sevs\u0259 bel\u0259, sad\u0259c\u0259 k\u0259nardan bir “yuvada\u011f\u0131dan\u201d varl\u0131q kimi q\u0259bul edilir. Ancaq bir d\u0259 evli ki\u015fini sev\u0259n qad\u0131n\u0131n fikirl\u0259rini \u00f6y\u0259r\u0259n\u0259k.
\nJal\u0259 3 ildir ki, evli bir o\u011flanla birlikd\u0259 oldu\u011funu deyir: “Evli insan\u0131n da sevm\u0259k haqq\u0131 var. Biz bir-birimizl\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtiks\u0259, bunu q\u0131namaq olmaz. O axtard\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131nda yox, m\u0259nd\u0259 tap\u0131r. El\u0259 m\u0259n d\u0259 onda. M\u00fcnasib\u0259timiz bizim\u00e7\u00fcn maraql\u0131d\u0131r v\u0259 he\u00e7 k\u0259s\u0259 pislik etm\u0259d\u0259n ya\u015fay\u0131r\u0131q. Onun \u00f6vladlar\u0131 da var, m\u0259n onun ail\u0259sini da\u011f\u0131tm\u0131ram ki. \u201dJal\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, bu hissl\u0259ri, h\u0259yat\u0131 ya\u015famadan fikir bildirm\u0259k \u00e7ox asand\u0131r. H\u0259r \u015feyi, “M\u0259nim ba\u015f\u0131ma bel\u0259 bir \u015fey g\u0259ls\u0259, n\u0259 ed\u0259r\u0259m?\u201d dey\u0259 qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259k laz\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n
G\u0259nc q\u0131zlar\u0131n bu bar\u0259d\u0259 fikirl\u0259rini \u00f6yr\u0259n\u0259nd\u0259 is\u0259, onlar evli birini sev\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rini deyirl\u0259r. H\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015fqa bir qad\u0131n\u0131 sevdiyi halda is\u0259, \u0259ks\u0259riyy\u0259ti bunu q\u0259bul edib, ondan ayr\u0131lacaqlar\u0131n\u0131 bildirdil\u0259r. Nuran\u0259 Abbaszad\u0259nin s\u00f6zl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, bu, h\u0259r bir k\u0259sin \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olan bir davran\u0131\u015f ist\u0259yir: “Ancaq m\u0259n he\u00e7 d\u0259 \u0259ks\u0259r xan\u0131mlar\u0131n etdiyi kimi, onu bu sevgid\u0259n qaytarma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmazd\u0131m. Onun ac\u0131\u011f\u0131na m\u0259n d\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131m\u0131 t\u0259z\u0259d\u0259n qurard\u0131m v\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259r \u015feyi ed\u0259rdim\u201d. Ancaq n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 alaq ki, bu, subay bir xan\u0131m\u0131n fikridir.
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\nB\u0259s ki\u015fil\u0259r n\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr: sevgi, yoxsa ail\u0259?<\/p>\n
Elnur \u0259trafdak\u0131lar\u0131n dili il\u0259 des\u0259k, bir q\u0131za g\u00f6r\u0259 “ail\u0259sini satan\u201d biridir. O sev\u0259r\u0259k ail\u0259 qurmay\u0131b: “\u018fvv\u0259ll\u0259r d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrd\u00fcm ki, ail\u0259 qurmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn he\u00e7 d\u0259 sevm\u0259k laz\u0131m deyil. Evl\u0259ndirdil\u0259r, evl\u0259ndim. Amma h\u0259qiqi sevgini tapanda nec\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck s\u0259hv etdiyimi ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcm. Geciydi onda da. M\u0259ni fikrimd\u0259n \u00e7ox da\u015f\u0131nd\u0131rmaq ist\u0259dil\u0259r, amma \u00fcr\u0259yimd\u0259ki, a\u011fl\u0131mdak\u0131, ya\u015fama\u011f\u0131 arzulad\u0131\u011f\u0131m ba\u015fqa bir qad\u0131n idis\u0259, bu ail\u0259ni davam etdirm\u0259yin n\u0259 faydas\u0131 vard\u0131? Bu, sad\u0259c\u0259 evlilik oyunu, \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u00fc aldatmaq olard\u0131. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259, ayr\u0131lmal\u0131 oldum\u201d.<\/p>\n
Bir ne\u00e7\u0259 ildir evli olan \u0130lqar Kamil d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, sevgi t\u0259bii v\u0259 insanlar\u0131n ist\u0259yind\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olmayan bir hissdir: “M\u0259n bel\u0259 bir \u015fey ya\u015famam\u0131\u015fam, amma hesab edir\u0259m ki, onu kontrol etm\u0259k m\u00fcmk\u00fcnd\u00fcr. Evli bir ki\u015finin ba\u015fqa bir qad\u0131na vurulmas\u0131 prosesi ist\u0259nilm\u0259d\u0259n, ani olaraq ba\u015f ver\u0259 bil\u0259r. Bu, t\u0259biidir. Lakin pey\u011f\u0259mb\u0259rimizin bel\u0259 bir h\u0259disi var: “H\u0259r k\u0259s birin\u0259 a\u015fiq olsa v\u0259 bu e\u015fqini (m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259r\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259) a\u015fkar ed\u0259 bilm\u0259yib \u00f6l\u0259n\u0259d\u0259k tam iff\u0259tl\u0259 q\u0259lbind\u0259 da\u015f\u0131sa, Allah onu \u015f\u0259hid hesab ed\u0259r\u201d. M\u0259nim d\u0259 se\u00e7imim Allah\u0131n se\u00e7imi olar v\u0259 sevgi ya\u015fasam bel\u0259, ail\u0259mi \u00fcst\u00fcn bil\u0259r\u0259m\u201d.<\/p>\n
H\u0259l\u0259 subay olan F\u0259xri \u0130smay\u0131lov evli oldu\u011fu halda bel\u0259 bir sevgi ya\u015fasa, birm\u0259nal\u0131 \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ail\u0259sini se\u00e7\u0259c\u0259yini bildirdi: “\u00c7\u00fcnki bunu ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f bir \u00f6vlad kimi ail\u0259 da\u011f\u0131landa onun ac\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n n\u0259 oldu\u011funu \u00e7ox yax\u015f\u0131 bilir\u0259m. Ancaq burda ba\u015fqa m\u0259qamlar da var. M\u0259n ail\u0259min t\u0259kidi il\u0259 evl\u0259ndirilib, sonra \u00f6z sevgimi tapsam, b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 onu se\u00e7\u0259rdim. Ail\u0259 sevgi \u0259sas\u0131nda qurulubsa, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259kd\u0259 kimis\u0259 sevs\u0259 bel\u0259, ail\u0259ni \u00fcst\u00fcn tutur. H\u0259m\u00e7inin, ail\u0259 t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259n d\u0259 \u00e7ox \u015fey as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r\u201d.<\/p>\n
\u00dcmumilikd\u0259 is\u0259, insanlar evli ki\u015fi v\u0259 ya qad\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015fqa birini sevm\u0259sini x\u0259yan\u0259t v\u0259 utan\u0131lacaq bir h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t kimi qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirirl\u0259r. Y\u0259ni ail\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 sevgi olmasa bel\u0259, h\u00f6rm\u0259t v\u0259 ail\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ri xatirin\u0259 onu qoruyub-saxlamaq laz\u0131m oldu\u011funu bildirirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n
“M\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t 3 il ya\u015fay\u0131r\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n
\u00c7oxlar\u0131 is\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, o\u011flan sevib ail\u0259 qurubsa, o, daha sonra he\u00e7 vaxt ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 sev\u0259 bilm\u0259z. \u00c7\u00fcnki sevgi daima ya\u015fay\u0131r. B\u0259s h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n sevgi \u0259b\u0259di ya\u015fay\u0131rm\u0131? B\u0259\u015f\u0259riyy\u0259t yarand\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00f6vrd\u0259n insanlar\u0131 maraqland\u0131ran v\u0259 cavabs\u0131z suallar\u0131ndan biri d\u0259 budur.
\nBu haqda \u00e7oxlu fikirl\u0259r ir\u0259li s\u00fcr\u00fcl\u00fcb, ara\u015fd\u0131rmalar apar\u0131l\u0131b, h\u0259tta frans\u0131z yaz\u0131\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 F.Beqbeder bu haqda kitab da yaz\u0131b. Beqbeder\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259, “M\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t 3 il ya\u015fay\u0131r\u201d. Kitabda bu g\u00f6st\u0259rilir. \u018fs\u0259rin q\u0259hr\u0259man\u0131 Mark Marronye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr ki, bu, t\u0259bi\u0259tin qanunudur. Ancaq onun fikrinc\u0259, arvad\u0131 il\u0259 bo\u015fanmas\u0131n\u0131n bu t\u0259bi\u0259t qanuna he\u00e7 bir aidiyyat\u0131 yoxdur. Sad\u0259c\u0259 yeni m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259t ba\u015fqa he\u00e7 n\u0259y\u0259 yer saxlamadan onu b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fckl\u0259 \u0259sir edir. Ancaq Mark \u00f6z n\u0259z\u0259riyy\u0259sin\u0259 inan\u0131r v\u0259 qorxu i\u00e7ind\u0259 h\u0259min tarixi g\u00fcn\u00fcn g\u0259lm\u0259sini g\u00f6zl\u0259yir.
\nM\u00fc\u0259llif bildirir: “M\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259tin \u00f6mr\u00fc \u00fc\u00e7 ildir. \u018fvv\u0259l ehtiras, sonra inc\u0259lik v\u0259 n\u0259hay\u0259t s\u0131x\u0131nt\u0131 ili.
\nBirinci il deyirl\u0259r: “Gets\u0259n, \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u0259c\u0259m.\u201d
\n\u0130kinci il deyirl\u0259r: “Gets\u0259n, \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc pis hiss ed\u0259c\u0259m, ancaq ya\u015fayacam.\u201d
\n\u00dc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc il deyirl\u0259r: “Gets\u0259n, bunu \u015fampan \u015f\u0259rab\u0131 il\u0259 qeyd ed\u0259c\u0259m.\u201d<\/p>\n
Onun fikrinc\u0259, uzunboy \u0259sm\u0259r biri olub, a\u011flamaq da olar. Bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn m\u0259h\u0259bb\u0259tin \u00fc\u00e7 il ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 k\u0259\u015ff etm\u0259k kifay\u0259tdir.<\/p>\n
4 il sonra sevgi cinsi ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131qla \u0259v\u0259zl\u0259nir
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\nB\u0259s elm adamlar\u0131 bu haqda n\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr? Meksika Universitetinin aliml\u0259rinin apard\u0131qlar\u0131 ara\u015fd\u0131rmalara g\u00f6r\u0259, sevgi d\u00f6rd ild\u0259n \u00e7ox \u00e7\u0259kmir. E\u015fq beyind\u0259ki b\u0259zi kimy\u0259vi h\u00fcceyr\u0259l\u0259rin aktiv hala g\u0259lm\u0259si il\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131r. \u018fn kor, qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131qs\u0131z sevgi bel\u0259 kimy\u0259vi h\u00fcceyr\u0259 ehtiyatlar\u0131 bitdikd\u0259 sona yetir. H\u0259min h\u00fcceyr\u0259l\u0259rin m\u00fcdd\u0259ti is\u0259 c\u0259mi 4 ildir. Y\u0259ni 4 ild\u0259n sonra sevgi yerini cinsi v\u0259 ruhi ba\u011fl\u0131l\u0131qlara verir.
\nBel\u0259likl\u0259, sevgi he\u00e7 d\u0259 \u0259b\u0259di deyil. Qurulan ail\u0259l\u0259r is\u0259 ist\u0259r sevgi \u0259sas\u0131nda olsun, ist\u0259rs\u0259 d\u0259 \u0259ksin\u0259, bir g\u00fcn da\u011f\u0131la bilir. B\u0259z\u0259n buna s\u0259b\u0259b is\u0259, b\u0259\u015f\u0259riyy\u0259tin s\u0259cd\u0259sind\u0259 oldu\u011fu m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259s sevgi hissi olur\u2026 Ancaq bu m\u0259qamda o sevgi h\u0259r bax\u0131\u015fda bir c\u00fcr g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr. \u00c7\u00fcnki onu ya\u015fatmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bir yuva y\u0131x\u0131l\u0131r v\u0259 gerid\u0259 yerin\u0259 yetirilm\u0259y\u0259n \u00f6hd\u0259likl\u0259r, sahib \u00e7\u0131x\u0131lmayan qad\u0131n v\u0259 \u00f6vladlar qal\u0131r. Ziddiyy\u0259t bir daha \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6st\u0259rir: bir t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyini tapan ki\u015fi, dig\u0259r t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259 t\u0259rk edilmi\u015f bir qad\u0131n\u2026<\/b><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
“35 ildir ki, evliy\u0259m. Ancaq 15 ildir ki, yolda\u015f\u0131m ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 sevir v\u0259 onunla qal\u0131r. Bir u\u015faqlar\u0131 da var. Biz h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 r\u0259sm\u0259n bo\u015fanmam\u0131\u015f\u0131q. \u0130ki \u00f6vlad\u0131m var, onlar\u0131n x\u0259trin\u0259 d\u00f6z\u00fcr\u0259m. Sad\u0259c\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131m atas\u0131z olmas\u0131n dey\u0259 dost kimi ev\u0259 g\u0259lib-getm\u0259sin\u0259 raz\u0131 oluram. Amma he\u00e7 bir yax\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yoxdur. M\u0259n onun ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 sevdiyini \u00f6z\u00fcm ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcm. Bundan sonra evd\u0259 \u00e7ox dava d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fc. Ancaq m\u0259n g\u00f6rd\u00fcm ki, art\u0131q gecdir. Daha ard\u0131nca getm\u0259dim. \u018fslind\u0259 m\u0259nim\u00e7\u00fcn \u00e7ox a\u011f\u0131rd\u0131r. Amma bel\u0259 fikirl\u0259\u015fir\u0259m ki, o, d\u00fcz edib. Y\u0259qin m\u0259n onu bir qad\u0131n kimi qane etm\u0259mi\u015f\u0259m v\u0259 o, ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 sevib.…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":80160,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1523627869_screenshot_5.jpg",577,372,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1523627869_screenshot_5.jpg",577,372,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1523627869_screenshot_5.jpg",577,372,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1523627869_screenshot_5-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1523627869_screenshot_5-300x193.jpg",300,193,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1523627869_screenshot_5.jpg",577,372,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1523627869_screenshot_5.jpg",577,372,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1523627869_screenshot_5.jpg",577,372,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1523627869_screenshot_5-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/1523627869_screenshot_5.jpg",577,372,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"“35 ildir ki, evliy\u0259m. Ancaq 15 ildir ki, yolda\u015f\u0131m ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 sevir v\u0259 onunla qal\u0131r. Bir u\u015faqlar\u0131 da var. Biz h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 r\u0259sm\u0259n bo\u015fanmam\u0131\u015f\u0131q. \u0130ki \u00f6vlad\u0131m var, onlar\u0131n x\u0259trin\u0259 d\u00f6z\u00fcr\u0259m. Sad\u0259c\u0259 u\u015faqlar\u0131m atas\u0131z olmas\u0131n dey\u0259 dost kimi ev\u0259 g\u0259lib-getm\u0259sin\u0259 raz\u0131 oluram. Amma he\u00e7 bir yax\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z yoxdur. M\u0259n onun ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 sevdiyini \u00f6z\u00fcm ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fd\u00fcm. Bundan sonra evd\u0259…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/80159"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=80159"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/80159\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/80160"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=80159"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=80159"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=80159"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}