{"id":818025,"date":"2025-07-29T11:08:32","date_gmt":"2025-07-29T07:08:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=818025"},"modified":"2025-07-29T11:08:32","modified_gmt":"2025-07-29T07:08:32","slug":"ideal-gorunm%c9%99k-namin%c9%99-itiril%c9%99n-h%c9%99qiq%c9%99tl%c9%99r-musahib%c9%99","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=818025","title":{"rendered":"\u0130deal g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259k namin\u0259 itiril\u0259n h\u0259qiq\u0259tl\u0259r… – M\u00dcSAH\u0130B\u018f"},"content":{"rendered":"

“Ki\u015fi g\u00fccl\u00fc, qad\u0131n sakit v\u0259 anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r”… C\u0259miyy\u0259tin biz\u0259 zorla geyindirdiyi bu k\u00f6hn\u0259 rollar bu g\u00fcn m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nin\u0259 \u00e7evrilir. Biz h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259nmi bu c\u00fcr yana\u015fmal\u0131y\u0131q, yoxsa art\u0131q f\u0259rqli d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259yin vaxt\u0131d\u0131r? Psixoloq\u00a0P\u0259rvan\u0259 K\u0259rimova<\/strong>\u00a0m\u00f6vzu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 \u201c\u0130ki sahil\u201d TV-y\u0259 m\u00fcsahib\u0259sind\u0259 bu suala ayd\u0131nl\u0131q g\u0259tirdi.<\/p>\n

-Biz qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fini \u201cnec\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r?\u201d dey\u0259 q\u0259lib\u0259 salmaqla \u0259slind\u0259 onlar\u0131n kim ola bil\u0259c\u0259yin\u0259 mane oluruqmu? Bu rollar f\u0259rdi xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyin qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 k\u0259sirmi?<\/strong><\/p>\n

-B\u0259li, biz qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fini \u201cnec\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r?\u201d dey\u0259 q\u0259lib\u0259 sald\u0131qca, onlar\u0131n kim ola bil\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rin\u0259 qap\u0131 ba\u011flam\u0131\u015f oluruq. \u00c7\u00fcnki \u201colmal\u0131” s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn arxas\u0131nda \u00e7ox zaman qorxu, n\u0259zar\u0259t v\u0259 tabe etm\u0259 niyy\u0259ti yat\u0131r. Bu, ifad\u0259 azadl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 deyil, uy\u011funla\u015fman\u0131 t\u0259\u015fviq edir. N\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 qad\u0131n da ki\u015fi d\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc ya\u015famaq \u0259v\u0259zin\u0259 t\u0259sdiql\u0259nm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ya\u015fama\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. T\u0259s\u0259vv\u00fcr edin: O\u011flan u\u015fa\u011f\u0131 ki\u00e7ik ya\u015flar\u0131ndan \u201ca\u011flama, s\u0259n ki\u015fis\u0259n\u201d mesaj\u0131 al\u0131r. Zamanla hissl\u0259rini gizl\u0259tm\u0259y\u0259, daxili d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 susdurma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r. H\u0259ssasl\u0131q ona z\u0259iflik kimi \u00f6yr\u0259dilir v\u0259 bir g\u00fcn ail\u0259 qurur, amma bu adam duy\u011fular\u0131n\u0131 ifad\u0259 ed\u0259 bilmir. \u018fzab \u00e7\u0259kir, amma susur. D\u0259rdini dem\u0259k ist\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259 bo\u011faz\u0131 d\u00fcy\u00fcnl\u0259nir. \u00c7\u00fcnki o, \u201cki\u015fidir\u201d v\u0259 g\u00fccl\u00fc olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Eyni \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 bir q\u0131za \u201csakit ol, ip\u0259-sapa yat\u201d deyilir v\u0259 o,\u00f6z ehtiyaclar\u0131n\u0131 bo\u011faraq ba\u015fqalar\u0131n\u0131n ehtiyac\u0131na uy\u011funla\u015fma\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259nir. Yetkin ya\u015fa \u00e7atanda is\u0259 “niy\u0259 h\u0259r \u015fey\u0259 d\u00f6z\u00fcrs\u0259n?\u201d, \u201c\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc niy\u0259 ifad\u0259 etmirs\u0259n?\u201d deyilir. Halbuki O, bel\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcd\u00fcl\u00fcb. O, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc yox, ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131 raz\u0131 salma\u011f\u0131 sevgi say\u0131r. B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar f\u0259rdi xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyi nec\u0259 pozmur ki? Biz i\u00e7imizd\u0259ki s\u0259s\u0259 qulaq asma\u011f\u0131 yox, \u00e7\u00f6l\u00fcn s\u0259sin\u0259 uy\u011funla\u015fma\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259nmi\u015fik. Sonra t\u0259\u0259cc\u00fcbl\u0259nirik: \u201cNiy\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz ola bilmirik?\u201d – ona g\u00f6r\u0259 ki, he\u00e7 vaxt biz\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz olma\u011fa icaz\u0259 verilm\u0259yib v\u0259 biz d\u0259 bu icaz\u0259ni \u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 verm\u0259yi unuduruq. \u018fslind\u0259 qad\u0131n v\u0259 ya ki\u015fi m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n \u00e7\u0259r\u00e7iv\u0259y\u0259 yerl\u0259\u015fdiril\u0259 bilm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k q\u0259d\u0259r \u00e7oxqatl\u0131 v\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015fk\u0259ndir. B\u0259z\u0259n qad\u0131n g\u00fccl\u00fc olur, b\u0259z\u0259n ki\u015fi z\u0259if d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. B\u0259z\u0259n anlay\u0131\u015f g\u00f6st\u0259r\u0259n ki\u015fidir, b\u0259z\u0259n qoruyan qad\u0131nd\u0131r. Bu, n\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n qad\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, n\u0259 d\u0259 ki\u015finin ki\u015filiyini azald\u0131r. Bu, sad\u0259c\u0259 insan olma\u011f\u0131n m\u00fcxt\u0259lifliyidir. Biz m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri rollara deyil, insana \u0259saslansaq daha sa\u011flam v\u0259 d\u0259rin \u0259laq\u0259l\u0259r qura bil\u0259rik. \u00c7\u00fcnki sevgi iki rolun deyil, iki f\u0259rdin rastla\u015fmas\u0131d\u0131r. Bu rastla\u015fma ancaq azad olduqda ger\u00e7\u0259k olur.<\/p>\n

-M\u00fcasir qad\u0131n h\u0259m m\u00fcst\u0259qil olmaq ist\u0259yir, h\u0259m d\u0259 yan\u0131nda onu ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015f\u0259n bir f\u0259rd arzulay\u0131r. B\u0259s ki\u015fil\u0259r bu d\u0259yi\u015f\u0259n qad\u0131n obraz\u0131na uy\u011funla\u015fma\u011fa haz\u0131rd\u0131rm\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n

-M\u00fcasir qad\u0131n art\u0131q t\u0259kc\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259l g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259k, ita\u0259tkar olmaq v\u0259 ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n t\u0259sdiqini qazanmaq ist\u0259mir. O, h\u0259m m\u00fcst\u0259qil d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259k, h\u0259m \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc ifad\u0259 etm\u0259k, h\u0259m d\u0259 bir m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 sevilm\u0259k, anla\u015f\u0131lmaq, h\u00f6rm\u0259t g\u00f6rm\u0259k ist\u0259yir. Bu d\u0259yi\u015fiklik t\u0259kc\u0259 qad\u0131nda ba\u015f vermir, \u0259slind\u0259 bu, c\u0259miyy\u0259tin b\u00fct\u00f6vl\u00fckd\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015f\u0259n \u015f\u00fcurudur. Amma bu d\u0259yi\u015fiklik qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259n, y\u0259ni, ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259n d\u0259 uy\u011funla\u015fma, yenil\u0259nm\u0259 v\u0259 daxili \u00e7evrilm\u0259 t\u0259l\u0259b edir. \u018fn\u0259n\u0259vi ki\u015fi obraz\u0131 – “M\u0259n t\u0259min edir\u0259m, qad\u0131n ita\u0259t edir\u201d modeli getdikc\u0259 g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc itirir. \u00c7\u00fcnki art\u0131q qad\u0131n \u00f6z ayaqlar\u0131 \u00fcst\u00fcnd\u0259 durur, hissl\u0259rini ifad\u0259 edir, q\u0259rar verir v\u0259 b\u0259z\u0259n t\u0259min ed\u0259n t\u0259r\u0259f d\u0259 olur. Bu is\u0259 b\u0259zi ki\u015fil\u0259rd\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc laz\u0131ml\u0131 hiss etm\u0259m\u0259k, g\u00fccs\u00fczl\u00fck, kimliyini itirm\u0259k qorxusu yarada bil\u0259r. Bir \u00e7ox ki\u015fi bu yeni qad\u0131n obraz\u0131n\u0131 anlaya bilmir, \u00e7\u00fcnki \u00f6yr\u0259\u015fdikl\u0259ri qad\u0131n modeli susurdu, d\u00f6z\u00fcrd\u00fc, uy\u011funla\u015f\u0131rd\u0131. \u0130ndi is\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda h\u0259m sevgi ist\u0259y\u0259n, h\u0259m s\u0259rh\u0259d qoyan, h\u0259m d\u0259 fikrini a\u00e7\u0131q \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 bildir\u0259n bir qad\u0131n var. Bu onlar\u0131 qorxuda bil\u0259r, \u00e7\u00fcnki yeni m\u00fcnasib\u0259t modelind\u0259 ki\u015fid\u0259n t\u0259kc\u0259 \u201cg\u0259tir, apar\u201d yox, emosional yetkinlik, empati v\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259r m\u00fcnasib\u0259t bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131 t\u0259l\u0259b olunur. Bir \u00e7ox ki\u015fi h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 m\u00fcst\u0259qil qad\u0131n\u0131 \u201ct\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259\u201d kimi g\u00f6r\u00fcr, yoxsa orta\u011f\u0131 kimi deyil. Amma yax\u015f\u0131 x\u0259b\u0259r budur ki, d\u0259yi\u015f\u0259n, inki\u015faf ed\u0259n, \u00f6yr\u0259n\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259r d\u0259 var. Psixoloji olaraq \u00f6z \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 i\u015fl\u0259y\u0259n, duy\u011fular\u0131n\u0131 tan\u0131yan v\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndak\u0131 qad\u0131n\u0131 r\u0259qib yox, yol yolda\u015f\u0131 olaraq g\u00f6r\u0259n ki\u015fil\u0259r bu transformasiyaya uy\u011funla\u015fa bilir. Bu uy\u011funla\u015fma asan deyil, \u00e7\u00fcnki \u00e7\u00f6k\u0259n bir patriarxal sistemin k\u00f6lg\u0259sind\u0259 yeni bir b\u0259rab\u0259rlik formas\u0131 qurulur. H\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259f qorxularla \u00fcz-\u00fcz\u0259 g\u0259lir. Qad\u0131n \u00e7ox \u015fey ist\u0259diyi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u201c\u00e7ox\u201d adland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131r, ki\u015fi is\u0259 duy\u011fusal a\u00e7\u0131q oldu\u011fu \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u201cz\u0259if\u201d dam\u011falan\u0131r. Amma \u0259slind\u0259 bu, sa\u011flamla\u015fman\u0131n ba\u015flan\u011f\u0131c\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fn sa\u011flam m\u00fcnasib\u0259t iki g\u00fccl\u00fc f\u0259rdin bir-birin\u0259 s\u00f6yk\u0259nm\u0259d\u0259n, amma bir-birini d\u0259st\u0259kl\u0259y\u0259r\u0259k var olmas\u0131d\u0131r. M\u00fcasir qad\u0131n art\u0131q bunu ist\u0259yir. B\u0259s ki\u015fi? \u018fg\u0259r o da sevgi \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259y\u0259, \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 v\u0259 azad bir qad\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131nda dayanma\u011fa haz\u0131rd\u0131rsa, o m\u00fcnasib\u0259t h\u0259m sa\u011flam, h\u0259m d\u0259 qal\u0131c\u0131 ola bil\u0259r.<\/p>\n

-\u0130nsan \u00f6z\u00fc il\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt deyils\u0259, m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri niy\u0259 \u201cxilas vasit\u0259si\u201d kimi g\u00f6r\u00fcr? Bu yanl\u0131\u015f g\u00f6zl\u0259nti qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi aras\u0131nda n\u0259yi z\u0259h\u0259rl\u0259yir?<\/strong><\/p>\n

-\u0130nsan \u00f6z\u00fc il\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt deyils\u0259, i\u00e7ind\u0259 bir bo\u015fluq, d\u0259y\u0259rsizlik, t\u0259k qalmaq qorxusu varsa, \u00e7ox zaman bu bo\u015flu\u011fu m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rl\u0259 doldurma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Y\u0259ni, sevgini se\u00e7mir, sevgid\u0259n \u00e7ar\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259yir. M\u00fcnasib\u0259t onun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn bir ba\u011f deyil, xilas vasit\u0259sin\u0259 \u00e7evrilir. \u018fslind\u0259 bu, \u00e7ox inc\u0259 v\u0259 t\u0259hl\u00fck\u0259li bir hald\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki insan \u201cyar\u0131mam, biri g\u0259lib m\u0259ni tamamlas\u0131n\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259sind\u0259 olanda, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f\u0259 real insan kimi yox, \u201cm\u0259ni d\u00fcz\u0259ltm\u0259li olan q\u0259hr\u0259man\u201d kimi yana\u015f\u0131r. Bu is\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 b\u0259rab\u0259rlik v\u0259 sa\u011flaml\u0131q deyil, ehtiyac v\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259nti m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti yarad\u0131r. Bu tip g\u00f6zl\u0259ntil\u0259r x\u00fcsusil\u0259 qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi aras\u0131nda d\u0259rin psixoloji u\u00e7urumlar a\u00e7\u0131r. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n, qad\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc t\u0259nha, d\u0259y\u0259rsiz hiss edirs\u0259, m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259n daim t\u0259sdiq, diqq\u0259t, sevgi g\u00f6zl\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k. Ki\u015fi is\u0259 bu y\u00fck\u00fcn alt\u0131ndan \u00e7\u0131xa bilm\u0259dikd\u0259 uzaqla\u015facaq. Ya da \u0259ksin\u0259-ki\u015fi daxild\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00fccs\u00fcz, natamam hiss edirs\u0259, qad\u0131n\u0131n sevgisi onun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn \u201cvar olma s\u00fcbutu\u201d olacaq v\u0259 n\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 o, as\u0131l\u0131 m\u00fcnasib\u0259t quracaq. Bu is\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259ri z\u0259h\u0259rl\u0259yir. Niy\u0259? \u00c7\u00fcnki sevgi art\u0131q bir-birini ba\u015fa d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259k, birg\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fcm\u0259k deyil. “S\u0259n m\u0259nim bo\u015flu\u011fumu doldurmal\u0131san\u201d yar\u0131\u015f\u0131na \u00e7evrilir. He\u00e7 kim he\u00e7 kimin i\u00e7ind\u0259ki bo\u015flu\u011fu doldura bilm\u0259z. \u018fn sa\u011flam m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r iki b\u00fct\u00f6v insan\u0131n bir yerd\u0259 xo\u015fb\u0259xt olmaq se\u00e7imidir. Y\u0259ni, \u201cs\u0259n olmasayd\u0131n, ya\u015faya bilm\u0259zdim\u201d yox, \u201cs\u0259ninl\u0259 h\u0259yat daha g\u00f6z\u0259ldir\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259si. M\u00fcnasib\u0259t he\u00e7 vaxt insan\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fc il\u0259 \u00fcz-\u00fcz\u0259 g\u0259lm\u0259sind\u0259n qa\u00e7maq vasit\u0259si olmamal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fks halda, m\u00fcnasib\u0259t d\u0259 insan\u0131n i\u00e7ind\u0259ki narahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131 da\u015f\u0131ma\u011fa ba\u015flayacaq. Bu da zamanla q\u0131r\u0131lmalar, inciklikl\u0259r v\u0259 d\u0259rin naraz\u0131l\u0131qlar do\u011furacaq. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc sev\u0259n, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc tan\u0131yan, \u00f6z\u00fc il\u0259 bar\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f bir insan m\u00fcnasib\u0259t\u0259 ehtiyacla yox, se\u00e7iml\u0259 daxil olur. V\u0259 m\u0259hz bel\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r sa\u011flam, d\u0259y\u0259rli v\u0259 davaml\u0131 olur.<\/p>\n

-M\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 sakit qalmaq h\u0259r zaman s\u0259bir \u0259lam\u0259tidirmi, yoxsa \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc bo\u011fma\u011f\u0131n ba\u015fqa bir formas\u0131d\u0131r?<\/strong><\/p>\n

-M\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 sakit qalmaq h\u0259r zaman s\u0259bir g\u00f6st\u0259ricisi deyil. B\u0259z\u0259n bu, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc ifad\u0259 ed\u0259 bilm\u0259m\u0259yin, qorxunun, yaxud incikliyin i\u00e7\u0259 y\u00f6n\u0259lmi\u015f formas\u0131na \u00e7evrilir. \u018fg\u0259r bir insan m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 narahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131, incikliyi v\u0259 ehtiyaclar\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131q \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 dil\u0259 g\u0259tirmirs\u0259, bu s\u0259ssizlik zamanla emosional y\u00fckl\u0259nm\u0259y\u0259 v\u0259 passiv aqressiyaya yol a\u00e7a bil\u0259r. S\u0259ssiz qalmaq b\u0259z\u0259n s\u00fclh yaratm\u0131r, \u0259ksin\u0259 i\u00e7imizd\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259n bir sava\u015f ba\u015f verir v\u0259 bu sava\u015f t\u0259dric\u0259n m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti i\u00e7\u0259rid\u0259n z\u0259d\u0259l\u0259yir. \u018fsl s\u0259bir hissl\u0259rini bo\u011fmaq yox, onlar\u0131 sa\u011flam \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 ifad\u0259 ed\u0259 bilm\u0259k bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131d\u0131r. S\u0259bir qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fi anlamaqla yana\u015f\u0131 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc qoruma\u011f\u0131, duy\u011fular\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fcr\u00fcst \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 payla\u015fma\u011f\u0131 t\u0259l\u0259b edir. Sakit qalmaq yaln\u0131z o zaman faydal\u0131d\u0131r ki, bu, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f\u0259 vaxt verm\u0259k, v\u0259ziyy\u0259ti d\u0259rk etm\u0259k v\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti qorumaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn se\u00e7ilmi\u015f \u015f\u00fcurlu bir q\u0259rard\u0131r. Amma \u0259g\u0259r insan daim susursa, \u201cnaraz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 dey\u0259c\u0259m, amma narahatl\u0131q yaranacaq\u201d dey\u0259 qorxursa v\u0259 ya \u201consuz da he\u00e7 n\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015fm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259si il\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc bo\u011fursa, bu art\u0131q s\u0259bir deyil, emosional t\u00fck\u0259nm\u0259 \u0259lam\u0259tidir. Uzunm\u00fcdd\u0259tli s\u0259ssizlik m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 yax\u0131nl\u0131\u011f\u0131 yox edir. Sevgi varsa, orada s\u00f6z d\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r, s\u0259mimiyy\u0259t d\u0259, duy\u011fular\u0131n ax\u0131\u015f\u0131 da. Susmaqla m\u00fcnasib\u0259t qoruya bilmirik, sad\u0259c\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259n u\u00e7urumlar yarad\u0131r\u0131q. \u018fn sa\u011flam m\u00fcnasib\u0259t bel\u0259 dan\u0131\u015fa bil\u0259c\u0259yimiz, e\u015fidil\u0259c\u0259yimiz v\u0259 cavabs\u0131z qalmayaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z m\u00fcnasib\u0259tdir. \u018fg\u0259r bir insan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc bo\u011faraq sakit qal\u0131rsa, bu art\u0131q t\u0259kc\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259t problemi deyil, \u00f6z d\u0259y\u0259rini, \u00f6z s\u0259sini itirm\u0259k riski da\u015f\u0131yan psixoloji bir hald\u0131r.<\/p>\n

-Sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 ideal m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r g\u00f6r\u00fcr\u00fck. Reall\u0131q is\u0259 sevgi yerini \u201crol oynama\u011fa\u201d verir. Qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259 bu \u201cg\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259k ist\u0259yimiz\u201d bizi nec\u0259 d\u0259yi\u015fir?<\/strong><\/p>\n

-Sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259r biz\u0259 sanki bir \u201cideal m\u00fcnasib\u0259t\u201d s\u0259hn\u0259si t\u0259qdim edir. \u00c7i\u00e7\u0259kli s\u00fcrprizl\u0259r, t\u0259b\u0259ss\u00fcml\u00fc, romantik qeydl\u0259r\u2026 Biz baxd\u0131qca inanma\u011fa ba\u015flay\u0131r\u0131q ki, m\u00fcnasib\u0259t bel\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259lidir. \u00c7ox vaxt bu \u201cg\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259k\u201d ehtiyac\u0131, “H\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n nec\u0259 hiss edirik” sual\u0131n\u0131 susdurur. M\u00fcasir m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rd\u0259 qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi birlikd\u0259 nec\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259rin\u0259 fokuslan\u0131rlar. Bu is\u0259 sevginin mahiyy\u0259tini d\u0259yi\u015fir. Sevgi payla\u015fmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yox, g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ya\u015fan\u0131r. H\u0259r \u015fey vitrin \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnd\u00fcr: xo\u015fb\u0259xt g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u0259k, t\u0259qdir toplayaq, \u201cq\u00fcsursuz c\u00fctl\u00fck\u201d t\u0259siri yaradaq. Bu \u201crol oynamaq\u201d ehtiyac\u0131 is\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti s\u0259mimiyy\u0259td\u0259n uzaqla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r. \u0130nsan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc oldu\u011fu kimi yox, b\u0259y\u0259nil\u0259n biri kimi g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259yi\u015fir. Qad\u0131n anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r, ki\u015fi m\u00fck\u0259mm\u0259l g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259k ist\u0259yir. Amma bu zaman h\u0259r ikisi \u00f6z i\u00e7ind\u0259ki h\u0259qiqi \u201cm\u0259n\u201di basd\u0131r\u0131r. Bu basd\u0131r\u0131lm\u0131\u015f \u201cm\u0259n\u201d zamanla naraz\u0131l\u0131q, yor\u011funluq v\u0259 soyuqluq kimi geri d\u00f6n\u00fcr. Sosial \u015f\u0259b\u0259k\u0259l\u0259rd\u0259 g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fcy\u00fcm\u00fcz q\u0259d\u0259r xo\u015fb\u0259xt deyilik, amma buna baxmayaraq ba\u015fqas\u0131n\u0131n xo\u015fb\u0259xt g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fcy\u00fc ill\u00fcziyas\u0131na inanaraq \u00f6z m\u00fcnasib\u0259timizi d\u0259qiq olmayan standartlarla m\u00fcqayis\u0259 edirik. B\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fi m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259 bir t\u0259zyiq yarad\u0131r: Real olmaq yox, t\u0259qdir olunmaq \u00f6n\u0259 \u00e7\u0131x\u0131r. Halbuki, sevgi g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn deyil, ya\u015famaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn olmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u018fn d\u0259rin v\u0259 sa\u011flam m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r \u015f\u0259kil \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn rol oynamayan, amma h\u0259r rolun arxas\u0131nda ger\u00e7\u0259k v\u0259 duy\u011fu olan m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rdir. \u00d6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259y\u0259 deyil, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin hissl\u0259rini g\u00f6rm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r daha m\u00f6hk\u0259m olur.<\/p>\n

-G\u00f6z\u0259l g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u0259n, amma i\u00e7i bo\u015f m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r d\u00f6vr\u00fcnd\u0259 biz nec\u0259 ger\u00e7\u0259k sevgini tan\u0131ya bil\u0259rik?<\/strong><\/p>\n

-M\u00fcasir d\u00f6vrd\u0259 m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r \u00e7ox vaxt xarici g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015f\u0259, t\u0259qdimata v\u0259 dig\u0259rl\u0259rinin qiym\u0259tl\u0259ndirm\u0259sin\u0259 \u0259saslan\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar tez-tez m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti ya\u015famaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn yox, g\u00f6st\u0259rm\u0259k v\u0259 t\u0259sdiql\u0259nm\u0259k \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn qururlar. Bu da bizi d\u0259rinlikd\u0259n uzaqla\u015fd\u0131r\u0131r v\u0259 b\u0259z\u0259n i\u00e7i dolu olmayan, amma vitrin kimi b\u0259z\u0259dilmi\u015f m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r\u0259 y\u00f6n\u0259ldir. Ger\u00e7\u0259k m\u00fcnasib\u0259ti is\u0259 forma yox, mahiyy\u0259t m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n edir. Qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259t, anla\u015fma, s\u0259rh\u0259dl\u0259rin tan\u0131nmas\u0131 v\u0259 insan\u0131n oldu\u011fu kimi q\u0259bul edilm\u0259si, sa\u011flam m\u00fcnasib\u0259tin \u0259sas g\u00f6st\u0259ricil\u0259ridir. \u018fg\u0259r bir m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 insanlar \u00f6zl\u0259rini ifad\u0259 ed\u0259 bilir, dinl\u0259nilir, d\u0259y\u0259rl\u0259ndirilir v\u0259 rahatl\u0131qla fikir b\u00f6l\u00fc\u015f\u0259 bilirl\u0259rs\u0259, bu m\u00fcnasib\u0259t art\u0131q dayan\u0131ql\u0131 v\u0259 reald\u0131r. Amma \u0259g\u0259r iki insan daim \u201cn\u0259 dey\u0259c\u0259yimi \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcb-bi\u00e7im\u201d, \u201c\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc nec\u0259 g\u00f6st\u0259rim\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnc\u0259si il\u0259 ya\u015fay\u0131rsa, bu, art\u0131q s\u0259mimi m\u00fcnasib\u0259t deyil. Bu, g\u0259rgin bir n\u00fcmayi\u015fdir. Unutmayaq ki, g\u00f6z\u0259l g\u00f6r\u00fcnm\u0259k ist\u0259y\u0259n m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r \u00e7ox ola bil\u0259r, amma g\u00f6z\u0259l i\u015fl\u0259y\u0259n m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259r qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 z\u0259hm\u0259t, d\u00fcr\u00fcstl\u00fck v\u0259 daxili sabitlik \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulanlard\u0131r.<\/p>\n

S\u0259bin\u0259 Qorxmaz,\u00a0<\/strong>“\u0130ki\u00a0sahil”<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

“Ki\u015fi g\u00fccl\u00fc, qad\u0131n sakit v\u0259 anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 olmal\u0131d\u0131r”… C\u0259miyy\u0259tin biz\u0259 zorla geyindirdiyi bu k\u00f6hn\u0259 rollar bu g\u00fcn m\u00fcnasib\u0259tl\u0259rin \u0259n b\u00f6y\u00fck d\u00fc\u015fm\u0259nin\u0259 \u00e7evrilir. Biz h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259nmi bu c\u00fcr yana\u015fmal\u0131y\u0131q, yoxsa art\u0131q f\u0259rqli d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259yin vaxt\u0131d\u0131r? Psixoloq\u00a0P\u0259rvan\u0259 K\u0259rimova\u00a0m\u00f6vzu il\u0259 ba\u011fl\u0131 \u201c\u0130ki sahil\u201d TV-y\u0259 m\u00fcsahib\u0259sind\u0259 bu suala ayd\u0131nl\u0131q g\u0259tirdi. -Biz qad\u0131n v\u0259 ki\u015fini \u201cnec\u0259 olmal\u0131d\u0131r?\u201d dey\u0259 q\u0259lib\u0259 salmaqla \u0259slind\u0259 onlar\u0131n kim ola bil\u0259c\u0259yin\u0259 mane oluruqmu? 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