Ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurmazdan \u0259vv\u0259l h\u0259r bir f\u0259rd psixoloji c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n buna haz\u0131r olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ail\u0259nin h\u0259r bir f\u0259rdi-ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n bir-birin\u0259 uy\u011funla\u015fma\u011fa, fikirl\u0259rin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. \u018fn az\u0131ndan bu m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259 d\u0259rk edirl\u0259r.<\/p>\n
T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, h\u0259r bir ail\u0259d\u0259 bu, bel\u0259 deyil. Ail\u0259d\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259n dolay\u0131-diqq\u0259t v\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6st\u0259rilm\u0259m\u0259si, sevgi, h\u00f6rm\u0259t hissinin a\u015f\u0131lanmamas\u0131, u\u015faqlar\u0131n d\u00fczg\u00fcn t\u0259rbiy\u0259 olunmamas\u0131, maddi v\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259vi t\u0259l\u0259batlar\u0131n \u00f6d\u0259nilm\u0259m\u0259si f\u0259rdl\u0259r aras\u0131nda anla\u015f\u0131lmazl\u0131q yarad\u0131r. Bu sayd\u0131qlar\u0131m azm\u0131\u015f kimi, ail\u0259y\u0259 k\u0259nar amill\u0259rin d\u0259 rolu \u00f6z tesirini g\u00f6st\u0259rir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n: qay\u0131nata-qay\u0131nanan\u0131n( bu, h\u0259r k\u0259s\u0259 \u015famil olunmur), qohum-\u0259qrabalar\u0131n ail\u0259nin h\u0259r x\u0131rda problemin\u0259 m\u00fcdaxil\u0259 etm\u0259l\u0259ri, ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n i\u015f \u015f\u0259raitind\u0259 rastla\u015fd\u0131qlar\u0131 \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259ri bir-biril\u0259rin\u0259 yans\u0131tmas\u0131 onlar aras\u0131nda q\u0259lb\u0259n uzaq m\u0259saf\u0259l\u0259r\u0259, soyuqluq yaranmas\u0131na s\u0259b\u0259b olur.. Ve bo\u015fanmalara kimi getirib \u00e7\u0131xar\u0131r.<\/p>\n
M\u00fcasir d\u00f6vrd\u0259 g\u0259nc ail\u0259l\u0259r yeni h\u0259yata ba\u015flamazdan \u0259vv\u0259l bir-birl\u0259rin\u0259 qula\u011fa xo\u015f s\u0259sl\u0259n\u0259n v\u0259dl\u0259r verirl\u0259r, sanki bu d\u00f6vrd\u0259 insan \u00f6mr\u00fcn\u00fcn \u0259n xo\u015f g\u00fcnl\u0259rini ya\u015fay\u0131r. H\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259fin g\u00f6zl\u0259diyi anlay\u0131\u015f, h\u00f6rm\u0259t, sevgi, s\u0259daq\u0259t hisl\u0259ri bu d\u00f6vrd\u0259 asanl\u0131qla verilir. Lakin ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurduqdan sonra v\u0259ziyy\u0259t bir q\u0259d\u0259r m\u00fcr\u0259kk\u0259bl\u0259\u015fir. Maddiyat problemi, m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n anla\u015f\u0131lmazl\u0131qlar, x\u0259yan\u0259t, sa\u011flaml\u0131q problemi bu kimi hallar \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc g\u00f6st\u0259rir. Ail\u0259d\u0259 rast g\u0259lin\u0259n probleml\u0259rd\u0259n biri d\u0259 q\u0131sqancl\u0131qd\u0131r. V\u0259 bunun ail\u0259y\u0259 b\u00f6y\u00fck t\u0259siri var. \u0130lk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 q\u0131sqancl\u0131\u011f\u0131n h\u0259dd\u0259n art\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir-birin\u0259 g\u00fcv\u0259nsizlik dem\u0259kdir v\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259f bunu q\u0259bul etm\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259r. Bir s\u00f6zl\u0259, ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurmam\u0131\u015fdan \u00f6nc\u0259 g\u00f6zl\u0259dikl\u0259rinl\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurduqdan sonrak\u0131 reall\u0131qlar bir-birinin \u0259ksi olur. Bu zaman ail\u0259nin b\u00fct\u00f6vl\u00fcy\u00fcn\u00fc qorumaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259m\u0259xsus v\u0259zif\u0259l\u0259ri olur. \u0130lk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 qad\u0131n h\u0259yat yolda\u015f\u0131 \u00e7\u0259tin v\u0259ziyy\u0259td\u0259 oldu\u011fu zaman ona \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc yaln\u0131z hiss el\u0259tdirm\u0259m\u0259li, h\u0259r d\u0259f\u0259 ona d\u0259st\u0259k olacaq ifad\u0259l\u0259r i\u015fl\u0259tm\u0259li, ruh\u0259n onu motivasiya etm\u0259lidir.. Ki\u015fi is\u0259 \u00f6z n\u00f6vb\u0259sind\u0259 qad\u0131n\u0131n hisl\u0259rini anlamal\u0131, fikirl\u0259rin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fmal\u0131, onlar\u0131n emosional bir varl\u0131q oldu\u011funu n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almal\u0131d\u0131r. H\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259fd\u0259 empatiya hissi g\u00fccl\u00fc olmal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n
\u00dcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, ail\u0259d\u0259 bu kimi hallar\u0131n ba\u015f verm\u0259m\u0259si \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn h\u0259r iki t\u0259r\u0259f m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n m\u00fcdd\u0259t \u0259rzind\u0259 bir-birini d\u00fczg\u00fcn tan\u0131mal\u0131, m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259 yalan olmamal\u0131, onu oldu\u011fu kimi q\u0259bul etm\u0259lidir.. V\u0259 \u0259n \u0259sas\u0131 da ail\u0259 sevgi \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 qurulmal\u0131d\u0131r. O s\u0259b\u0259bd\u0259n ki, h\u0259r hans\u0131 bir \u00e7\u0259tinlikl\u0259 rastla\u015fan zaman m\u0259hz o sevgi h\u0259min \u00e7\u0259tinliyi aradan qald\u0131rma\u011fa k\u00f6m\u0259k edir, qar\u015f\u0131 t\u0259r\u0259fin q\u00fcsurlar\u0131n\u0131 ba\u011f\u0131\u015flay\u0131r.. v\u0259 getdikc\u0259 bu sevgi qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 h\u00f6rm\u0259t\u0259 \u00e7evrilir..<\/p>\n
Sevginin olmas\u0131 vacibdir.. Yuxar\u0131da da qeyd el\u0259diyim kimi. Bu fikriml\u0259 d\u0259 y\u0259qin ki, \u00e7oxlar\u0131 m\u0259niml\u0259 raz\u0131la\u015far. Amma ail\u0259 ba\u015f\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 ail\u0259sinin maddi t\u0259l\u0259batlar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6d\u0259y\u0259 bilmirs\u0259, bir m\u00fcdd\u0259t sonra bu sevgi \u00f6z \u0259h\u0259miyy\u0259tini itir\u0259c\u0259k, ail\u0259d\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n konfliktl\u0259r yaradacaq, onlar\u0131n psixologiyas\u0131nda d\u0259rin izl\u0259r qoyacaq. Dediyim odur ki, sevgi v\u0259 maddiyyat qar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ql\u0131 \u015f\u0259kild\u0259 olsa o ail\u0259d\u0259 probleml\u0259r d\u0259, s\u00f6z-s\u00f6hb\u0259t d\u0259 az olar.. V\u0259 h\u0259min ail\u0259 ideal ail\u0259 kimi hesab olunar. Burada b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u0259n u\u015faqlar da d\u00fczg\u00fcn t\u0259rbiy\u0259 olunacaq, sa\u011flam fikirli, g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259yi parlaq, c\u0259miyy\u0259t i\u00e7\u0259risind\u0259 \u00f6z m\u00f6vqeyini bil\u0259n biri kimi formala\u015facaq.<\/p>\n
Ail\u0259 el\u0259 bir m\u00fchitdir ki, burada t\u0259k he\u00e7 n\u0259y\u0259 nail olmaq m\u00fcmk\u00fcn deyil. H\u0259r iki\u00a0t\u0259r\u0259f bu m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti \u00f6z \u00e7iyinl\u0259rin\u0259 g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcbs\u0259 \u0259g\u0259r, bunu sona kimi davam etdirm\u0259k onlar\u0131n borcudur, ki\u00e7ik problemd\u0259 bel\u0259 ail\u0259ni da\u011f\u0131tmaq, bu a\u011f\u0131r i\u015fi bir n\u0259f\u0259rin \u00e7iyinl\u0259rin\u0259 y\u00fckl\u0259m\u0259k, onu yaln\u0131z qoymaq g\u0259l\u0259c\u0259k n\u0259sill\u0259rin d\u0259 d\u00fczg\u00fcn formala\u015fmamas\u0131na t\u0259sir edir.. Nec\u0259 dey\u0259rl\u0259r, A\u0130L\u018f B\u0130RL\u0130KD\u0130R, A\u0130L\u018f K\u0130\u00c7\u0130K C\u018fM\u0130YY\u018fTD\u0130R..<\/p>\n
Bahar\u00a0<\/b><\/i>Primova\u00a0<\/b><\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurmazdan \u0259vv\u0259l h\u0259r bir f\u0259rd psixoloji c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n buna haz\u0131r olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ail\u0259nin h\u0259r bir f\u0259rdi-ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n bir-birin\u0259 uy\u011funla\u015fma\u011fa, fikirl\u0259rin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. \u018fn az\u0131ndan bu m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259 d\u0259rk edirl\u0259r. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, h\u0259r bir ail\u0259d\u0259 bu, bel\u0259 deyil. Ail\u0259d\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259n dolay\u0131-diqq\u0259t v\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6st\u0259rilm\u0259m\u0259si, sevgi, h\u00f6rm\u0259t hissinin a\u015f\u0131lanmamas\u0131, u\u015faqlar\u0131n d\u00fczg\u00fcn t\u0259rbiy\u0259 olunmamas\u0131, maddi v\u0259 m\u0259n\u0259vi t\u0259l\u0259batlar\u0131n \u00f6d\u0259nilm\u0259m\u0259si f\u0259rdl\u0259r aras\u0131nda anla\u015f\u0131lmazl\u0131q yarad\u0131r. Bu sayd\u0131qlar\u0131m azm\u0131\u015f kimi, ail\u0259y\u0259 k\u0259nar amill\u0259rin d\u0259 rolu \u00f6z tesirini g\u00f6st\u0259rir. M\u0259s\u0259l\u0259n: qay\u0131nata-qay\u0131nanan\u0131n( bu, h\u0259r k\u0259s\u0259 \u015famil olunmur), qohum-\u0259qrabalar\u0131n ail\u0259nin h\u0259r x\u0131rda problemin\u0259 m\u00fcdaxil\u0259 etm\u0259l\u0259ri, ki\u015fi…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":83179,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1570075583_1569916776_790550_03.jpg",607,428,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1570075583_1569916776_790550_03.jpg",607,428,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1570075583_1569916776_790550_03.jpg",607,428,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1570075583_1569916776_790550_03-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1570075583_1569916776_790550_03-300x212.jpg",300,212,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1570075583_1569916776_790550_03.jpg",607,428,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1570075583_1569916776_790550_03.jpg",607,428,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1570075583_1569916776_790550_03.jpg",607,428,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1570075583_1569916776_790550_03-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1570075583_1569916776_790550_03.jpg",607,428,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"Ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurmazdan \u0259vv\u0259l h\u0259r bir f\u0259rd psixoloji c\u0259h\u0259td\u0259n buna haz\u0131r olmal\u0131d\u0131r. Ail\u0259nin h\u0259r bir f\u0259rdi-ki\u015fi v\u0259 qad\u0131n bir-birin\u0259 uy\u011funla\u015fma\u011fa, fikirl\u0259rin\u0259 h\u00f6rm\u0259tl\u0259 yana\u015fma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar. \u018fn az\u0131ndan bu m\u0259suliyy\u0259ti \u00f6zl\u0259rind\u0259 d\u0259rk edirl\u0259r. T\u0259\u0259ss\u00fcf ki, h\u0259r bir ail\u0259d\u0259 bu, bel\u0259 deyil. Ail\u0259d\u0259 m\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n s\u0259b\u0259bl\u0259rd\u0259n dolay\u0131-diqq\u0259t v\u0259 qay\u011f\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6st\u0259rilm\u0259m\u0259si, sevgi, h\u00f6rm\u0259t hissinin a\u015f\u0131lanmamas\u0131, u\u015faqlar\u0131n d\u00fczg\u00fcn t\u0259rbiy\u0259 olunmamas\u0131, maddi…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/83178"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=83178"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/83178\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/83179"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=83178"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=83178"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=83178"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}