Bu g\u00fcn 30 ya\u015fdan sonra \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259k v\u0259 bu ya\u015fdan sonra \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259yin \u00e7\u0259tinlik\u0259rind\u0259n dan\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131q. Qad\u0131n olmaq \u00e7\u0259tindir. X\u00fcsusil\u0259 d\u0259 \u0259g\u0259r sizin 30 ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131z varsa v\u0259 siz h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 ail\u0259li deyilsinizs\u0259. \u018fslind\u0259, bu b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 sizi he\u00e7 narahat etmir. Lakin sizin m\u0259n\u0259vi rahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 tez-tez pozan insanlar tap\u0131l\u0131r. Bu insanlar sizin qay\u011f\u0131ke\u015f ail\u0259niz v\u0259 dostlar\u0131n\u0131z da ola bil\u0259r. Onlar sizin niy\u0259 ail\u0259 qurmaq ist\u0259m\u0259diyinizi soru\u015facaq, sizi m\u00fcxt\u0259lif insanlarla tan\u0131\u015f etm\u0259y\u0259 v\u0259 sizi \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259cbur ed\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r. Siz\u0259 tez-tez bel\u0259 sual \u00fcnvalanacaq “S\u0259n \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259k ist\u0259yirs\u0259n ya yox?”. \u018fvv\u0259ll\u0259r 20 ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131z olanda bu sual sizi sad\u0259c\u0259 g\u00fcld\u00fcr\u00fcrd\u00fcs\u0259, indi h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 z\u0259h\u0259rl\u0259yir. M\u00f6vzunu ba\u011flamaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn “B\u0259li \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259k ist\u0259yir\u0259m, ist\u0259yir\u0259m, ancaq h\u0259l\u0259 \u0259r\u0259 ged\u0259c\u0259yim insana rast g\u0259lm\u0259mi\u015f\u0259m” dey\u0259 \u0259s\u0259b v\u0259 ac\u0131qla cavab verirsiniz.<\/p>\n
1. 30 ya\u015fdan sonra \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259k \u00e7ox \u00e7\u0259tindir. \u00c7\u00fcnki 30 ya\u015fl\u0131 q\u0131zlar art\u0131q d\u00fcnya g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fc daha \u00e7ox v\u0259 m\u0259lumatl\u0131d\u0131rlar. Bu ya\u015fda q\u0131zlar art\u0131q h\u0259yatdan n\u0259 ist\u0259dikl\u0259rini bilir v\u0259 ideal insan axtr\u0131rlar. \u018fg\u0259r bu vaxta q\u0259d\u0259r \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259yibl\u0259rs\u0259, dem\u0259li problem var. B\u0259zil\u0259ri \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259kd\u0259n qorxur. Ail\u0259 v\u0259 u\u015faq m\u0259suliyy\u0259tini tam d\u0259rk etmir v\u0259 g\u0259l\u0259n b\u00fct\u00fcn t\u0259klifl\u0259r\u0259 xeyir cavab\u0131 verir. Ancaq bu o dem\u0259k deyil ki, 30 ya\u015fdan sonra siz\u0259 layiqli namiz\u0259d olmayacaq. \u00d6m\u0259r X\u0259yyam\u0131n bel\u0259 bir k\u0259lam\u0131 var: “Sevm\u0259diyin bir insanla olmaqdansa, t\u0259nha olmaq daha yax\u015f\u0131d\u0131r”. Q\u0259rbd\u0259 \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259 30 ya\u015fdan tez ail\u0259 quranlar azl\u0131q t\u0259\u015fkil edir. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 bu nigahlar daha uzun\u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fc v\u0259 m\u00f6hk\u0259m olur. \u0130nsanlar daha \u00e7ox m\u0259lumatl\u0131 olur, i\u015fini, karyeras\u0131n\u0131 qurur, \u00f6z ayaqlar\u0131 \u00fcz\u0259rind\u0259 m\u00f6hk\u0259m durma\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259nir, sonra ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qururlar. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 siz narahat olmay\u0131n. Siz h\u0259l\u0259 g\u0259ncsiniz v\u0259 uzun m\u00fcdd\u0259t d\u0259 bel\u0259 qalacaqs\u0131n\u0131z.<\/p>\n
2. Bu ya\u015fda bir problem d\u0259 sizi narahat edir. “30 ya\u015fdan sonra u\u015faq d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tirm\u0259k \u00e7ox \u00e7\u0259tindir” deyib siz\u0259 tez-tez h\u0259y\u0259can ya\u015fad\u0131rlar. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259, bu s\u00f6zd\u0259 h\u0259qiq\u0259t var. 20-25 ya\u015flar\u0131nda kimi asan olmur 30 ya\u015fda u\u015faq d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tirm\u0259k. Ancaq art\u0131q tibb \u00e7ox ir\u0259lil\u0259yib v\u0259 inki\u015faf edib. Y\u0259ni bunun \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn d\u0259 narahat olma\u011fa d\u0259ym\u0259z. Bu g\u00fcn h\u0259kiml\u0259r bel\u0259 bir q\u0259na\u0259t\u0259 g\u0259libl\u0259r ki, \u0259g\u0259r qad\u0131nda he\u00e7 bir potologiya yoxdursa, o tam sa\u011flam u\u015faq d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tir\u0259 bil\u0259r. Amerikal\u0131 professor Con Mirovski deyir ki, qad\u0131n\u0131n \u0259n yax\u015f\u0131 u\u015faq d\u00fcnyaya g\u0259tir\u0259n d\u00f6vr\u00fc 34 ya\u015fd\u0131r. T\u0259ki \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu ya\u015fayacaq adam\u0131 d\u0259qiq se\u00e7in v\u0259 onunla bir \u00f6m\u00fcr s\u00fcr\u0259c\u0259yinizi bil\u0259r\u0259k onu daha yax\u015f\u0131 tan\u0131ma\u011fa \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n.<\/p>\n
3. 30 ya\u015fda a\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 v\u0259 cazibadar ki\u015fi olmur. Daha dorusu fikirl\u0259\u015firsiniz ki, bu zamana q\u0259d\u0259r art\u0131q b\u00fct\u00fcn ki\u015fil\u0259r ail\u0259 qurur. Sizin \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259yiniz real deyil. Lakin bu tamamil\u0259 yaln\u0131\u015f fikirdir. 19 ya\u015fda olan q\u0131zlar 20-25 ya\u015fl\u0131 o\u011flanlarla ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131 qurduqda onlar\u0131 h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 tan\u0131m\u0131rlar. \u00c7\u00fcnki insan 30 ya\u015fad\u0259k b\u00f6y\u00fcy\u00fcr v\u0259 d\u00fcnya g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fc \u00e7oxal\u0131r. 30-dan \u00e7ox ya\u015f\u0131 olan ki\u015fil\u0259rin 99 faizi art\u0131q yax\u015f\u0131 i\u015fl\u0259 t\u0259min olur v\u0259 ail\u0259 h\u0259yat\u0131n\u0131n m\u00fcq\u0259dd\u0259sliyini v\u0259 vacibliyini d\u0259rk edir. Sad\u0259c\u0259 olaraq 19-20 ya\u015fda olark\u0259n se\u00e7im v\u0259 zaman \u00e7ox olur. 30 ya\u015fdan sonra is\u0259 se\u00e7iminiz v\u0259 zaman\u0131n\u0131z az olur. Ona g\u00f6r\u0259 d\u0259 evd\u0259 oturub xo\u015fb\u0259xtliyin g\u0259lib sizi tapaca\u011f\u0131na inanmay\u0131n. \u00c7\u0131x\u0131n, g\u0259zin, insanlar\u0131n gur oldu\u011fu yerl\u0259r\u0259 gedin v\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u0259 inan\u0131n.<\/p>\n
4. Ki\u015fil\u0259r 30 ya\u015f\u0131 ke\u00e7mi\u015f xan\u0131mlardan qorxur. Sizin q\u0131z\u0131l xasiyy\u0259tiniz olsa da, siz \u00e7ox g\u00f6z\u0259l olsan\u0131z bel\u0259, onlar bildikd\u0259 30 ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131 ke\u00e7misiniz, t\u0259r\u0259dd\u00fcd etm\u0259y\u0259 ba\u015flay\u0131rlar. Bu n\u00f6vb\u0259ti a\u011f\u0131ls\u0131zl\u0131qd\u0131r. A\u011f\u0131ll\u0131 ki\u015fi bunu \u00f6z\u00fcn\u0259 problem etm\u0259z. Bu bar\u0259d\u0259 q\u0259ti d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259k. Bel\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u0259n ki\u015fi is\u0259 biz\u0259 he\u00e7 d\u0259 laz\u0131m deyil.<\/p>\n
5. Qad\u0131n t\u0259k olma\u011fa v\u0259rdi\u015f edib.
\nBel\u0259 bir stereotip d\u0259 var ki, qad\u0131n t\u0259k olma\u011fa v\u0259rdi\u015f edir. Ona he\u00e7 kim n\u0259yi nec\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259yini demir. M\u00fc\u0259yy\u0259n qada\u011falar v\u0259 m\u0259suliyy\u0259tl\u0259rl\u0259 qar\u015f\u0131la\u015fm\u0131r. V\u0259 kimins\u0259 paltarar\u0131n\u0131, corablar\u0131n\u0131 yumaq m\u0259cburiyy\u0259tind\u0259 deyil. Buna g\u00f6r\u0259 \u00e7ox qad\u0131nlar art\u0131q 30 ya\u015fdan sonra \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259k ist\u0259mirl\u0259r. Lakin bu yaln\u0131\u015f fikirdir. Siz bunu da asanl\u0131qla h\u0259ll ed\u0259 bil\u0259c\u0259k ya\u015fdas\u0131n\u0131z. \u0130lk \u00f6nc\u0259 texnologiya o q\u0259d\u0259r inki\u015faf edib ki, art\u0131q b\u00fct\u00fcn i\u015fl\u0259ri sizin yeriniz\u0259 ed\u0259c\u0259k ma\u015f\u0131nlar var. Sevdikd\u0259n, sevildikd\u0259n sonra bunu siz problem etm\u0259y\u0259c\u0259ksiniz. \u0130nsan \u00f6m\u00fcr boyu t\u0259k ya\u015faya bilm\u0259z. Siz\u0259 yan\u0131n\u0131zda olacaq bir insan, dost m\u00fctl\u0259q laz\u0131md\u0131r. Lakin ictimai q\u0131naq siz\u0259 t\u0259sir etm\u0259sin. Bir h\u0259yat\u0131 ya\u015fayacaq insan\u0131 yax\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7in. Qar\u015f\u0131n\u0131za \u00e7\u0131xan insan\u0131 tan\u0131y\u0131n. Onunla g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn, dan\u0131\u015f\u0131n xasiyy\u0259tin\u0259 b\u0259l\u0259d olun. B\u00fct\u00fcn xan\u0131mlara xo\u015f v\u0259 g\u00f6z\u0259l h\u0259yat dil\u0259yi il\u0259.\/publika\/<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Bu g\u00fcn 30 ya\u015fdan sonra \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259k v\u0259 bu ya\u015fdan sonra \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259yin \u00e7\u0259tinlik\u0259rind\u0259n dan\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131q. Qad\u0131n olmaq \u00e7\u0259tindir. X\u00fcsusil\u0259 d\u0259 \u0259g\u0259r sizin 30 ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131z varsa v\u0259 siz h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 ail\u0259li deyilsinizs\u0259. \u018fslind\u0259, bu b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 sizi he\u00e7 narahat etmir. Lakin sizin m\u0259n\u0259vi rahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 tez-tez pozan insanlar tap\u0131l\u0131r. Bu insanlar sizin qay\u011f\u0131ke\u015f ail\u0259niz v\u0259 dostlar\u0131n\u0131z da ola bil\u0259r. Onlar sizin niy\u0259 ail\u0259 qurmaq ist\u0259m\u0259diyinizi soru\u015facaq, sizi m\u00fcxt\u0259lif insanlarla tan\u0131\u015f etm\u0259y\u0259 v\u0259 sizi \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259y\u0259 m\u0259cbur ed\u0259c\u0259kl\u0259r. Siz\u0259 tez-tez bel\u0259 sual \u00fcnvalanacaq “S\u0259n \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259k ist\u0259yirs\u0259n ya yox?”. \u018fvv\u0259ll\u0259r 20 ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131z olanda…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":85553,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1547064168__askasu_47581825_217026119236043_8640766224203189156_n.jpg",550,296,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1547064168__askasu_47581825_217026119236043_8640766224203189156_n.jpg",550,296,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1547064168__askasu_47581825_217026119236043_8640766224203189156_n.jpg",550,296,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1547064168__askasu_47581825_217026119236043_8640766224203189156_n-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1547064168__askasu_47581825_217026119236043_8640766224203189156_n-300x161.jpg",300,161,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1547064168__askasu_47581825_217026119236043_8640766224203189156_n.jpg",550,296,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1547064168__askasu_47581825_217026119236043_8640766224203189156_n.jpg",550,296,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1547064168__askasu_47581825_217026119236043_8640766224203189156_n.jpg",550,296,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1547064168__askasu_47581825_217026119236043_8640766224203189156_n-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/1547064168__askasu_47581825_217026119236043_8640766224203189156_n.jpg",550,296,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"Bu g\u00fcn 30 ya\u015fdan sonra \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259k v\u0259 bu ya\u015fdan sonra \u0259r\u0259 getm\u0259yin \u00e7\u0259tinlik\u0259rind\u0259n dan\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131q. Qad\u0131n olmaq \u00e7\u0259tindir. X\u00fcsusil\u0259 d\u0259 \u0259g\u0259r sizin 30 ya\u015f\u0131n\u0131z varsa v\u0259 siz h\u0259l\u0259 d\u0259 ail\u0259li deyilsinizs\u0259. \u018fslind\u0259, bu b\u0259lk\u0259 d\u0259 sizi he\u00e7 narahat etmir. Lakin sizin m\u0259n\u0259vi rahatl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 tez-tez pozan insanlar tap\u0131l\u0131r. Bu insanlar sizin qay\u011f\u0131ke\u015f ail\u0259niz v\u0259 dostlar\u0131n\u0131z da…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85552"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=85552"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/85552\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/85553"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=85552"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=85552"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=85552"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}