{"id":8637,"date":"2018-08-23T09:10:59","date_gmt":"2018-08-23T06:10:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=8637"},"modified":"2018-08-23T09:10:59","modified_gmt":"2018-08-23T06:10:59","slug":"onu-bagislamaq-olarmi","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?p=8637","title":{"rendered":"Onu ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamaq olarm\u0131?"},"content":{"rendered":"

ARANTV.AZ<\/strong> x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, h\u0259r bir insan\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259n, \u015f\u0259xsi keyfiyy\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olaraq d\u00fcnyaya bax\u0131\u015f\u0131 formala\u015f\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u0130nsanlar aras\u0131nda m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259r, inciklikl\u0259r yaran\u0131r. \u0130nsan kimd\u0259ns\u0259 inciyir v\u0259 daxilind\u0259 q\u0259z\u0259b hissi oyan\u0131r. \u0130nciklik \u2013 gizl\u0259dilmi\u015f q\u0259z\u0259b dem\u0259kdir.<\/p>\n

H\u0259r birimiz n\u0259 vaxtsa kimins\u0259 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n incidilmi\u015fik, pis r\u0259ftara m\u0259ruz qalm\u0131\u015f\u0131q. H\u0259r birimiz d\u0259 kimins\u0259 x\u0259trin\u0259 d\u0259ymi\u015fik, hans\u0131sa xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z s\u00f6z v\u0259 ya h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t il\u0259 kimis\u0259 narahat etmi\u015fik, q\u0259z\u0259bl\u0259ndirmi\u015fik. El\u0259 olub ki , kiminl\u0259s\u0259 ist\u0259m\u0259d\u0259n pis r\u0259ftar edirik v\u0259 sonra vicdan \u0259zab\u0131 \u00e7\u0259kirik. D\u00fczd\u00fcr, bu hissl\u0259ri h\u0259r k\u0259s\u0259 aid etm\u0259k olmaz.<\/p>\n

Ad\u0259t\u0259n q\u0259lbimizi yax\u0131n, d\u0259y\u0259r verdiyimiz insanlar yaralay\u0131r. Yax\u0131n adam x\u0259trimiz\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259nd\u0259, sanki d\u00fcnyam\u0131z m\u0259hv olur. \u00d6z\u00fcm\u00fcz\u0259 s\u00f6z veririk ki, onu he\u00e7 vaxt ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamar\u0131q.<\/p>\n

Lakin n\u0259z\u0259r\u0259 almal\u0131y\u0131q ki, ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamaq bacar\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7ox vac\u0131bdir. Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama\u011f\u0131 bacaran insan g\u00f6z\u0259l, t\u0259miz daxili al\u0259m\u0259 malikdir.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamaq \u00e7ox \u00e7\u0259tindir. H\u0259r birimiz bilirik ki, bu a\u011f\u0131r bir y\u00fckd\u00fcr. H\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n, m\u0259nfi fikirl\u0259r insan\u0131n \u0259hval-ruhiyy\u0259sin\u0259 t\u0259sir g\u00f6st\u0259rir, \u00fcr\u0259yimizd\u0259 qalan inciklikl\u0259r bir \u00e7ox probleml\u0259r yarad\u0131r. Ba\u015fqa insanlarla \u00fcnsiyy\u0259td\u0259n, ail\u0259d\u0259n, i\u015fd\u0259n yay\u0131nd\u0131r\u0131r. Biz q\u0259z\u0259bin t\u0259l\u0259sin\u0259 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fck. H\u0259min anlarda \u0259traf\u0131m\u0131zdak\u0131 he\u00e7 bir g\u00fcnah\u0131 olmayan yax\u0131nlarla bel\u0259 aqressiv, kobud davran\u0131r\u0131q. Bu hissd\u0259n el\u0259 d\u0259 asanl\u0131qla azad ola bilmirik. Lakin t\u0259cr\u00fcb\u0259l\u0259r g\u00f6st\u0259rir ki, bu hissd\u0259n xilas olmaq insan\u0131n sa\u011flaml\u0131\u011f\u0131na v\u0259 \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, h\u0259yat\u0131na m\u00fcsb\u0259t t\u0259sir g\u00f6st\u0259rir.<\/p>\n

Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama\u011f\u0131 bacarmayan insan m\u0259nfi emosiyalarla dolu olur. N\u0259tic\u0259d\u0259 insan h\u0259r c\u00fcr x\u0259st\u0259likl\u0259rl\u0259 \u00fczl\u0259\u015fir. X\u0259st\u0259likl\u0259rin yaranmas\u0131na stress s\u0259b\u0259b olur. \u0130nsan\u0131n beyni stress hormonlar\u0131 olan kortizol v\u0259 adrenalini art\u0131q dozada yaratmaq \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn endokrin sistemin\u0259 siqnal g\u00f6nd\u0259rir. Bunun n\u0259tic\u0259sind\u0259 \u0259z\u0259l\u0259 g\u0259rginliyi yaran\u0131r v\u0259 qan t\u0259zyiqi art\u0131r. \u00dcr\u0259k d\u00f6y\u00fcnt\u00fcl\u0259rin\u0259 v\u0259 \u00fcmumiyy\u0259tl\u0259, immun sisteminin z\u0259ifl\u0259m\u0259sin\u0259 s\u0259b\u0259b olur.<\/p>\n

Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama\u011f\u0131 nec\u0259 \u00f6yr\u0259n\u0259k? \u0130lk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 incikliyin, naraz\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n s\u0259b\u0259bini ayd\u0131nla\u015fd\u0131rmaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. El\u0259 olur ki, insan \u00f6z\u00fc \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn ara\u015fd\u0131randa incikliyin s\u0259b\u0259binin o q\u0259d\u0259r d\u0259 m\u00fch\u00fcm olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlay\u0131r.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cOnu he\u00e7 vaxt ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamaram\u201d dem\u0259kd\u0259n \u00f6nc\u0259 \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc h\u0259min adam\u0131n yerin\u0259 qoyun v\u0259 onu anlama\u011fa c\u0259hd g\u00f6st\u0259rin. Qeyd etdiyim kimi, el\u0259 anlar olar bil\u0259r ki, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz d\u0259 ist\u0259m\u0259d\u0259n kimins\u0259 x\u0259trin\u0259 d\u0259y\u0259 bil\u0259rsiz. \u0130nsan ilk n\u00f6vb\u0259d\u0259 ona d\u0259y\u0259n z\u0259r\u0259r\u0259 g\u00f6r\u0259 narahat olur. Bu m\u0259qamda k\u0259d\u0259rl\u0259ndir\u0259n hadis\u0259nin t\u0259sad\u00fcf\u0259n v\u0259 ya q\u0259sd\u0259n ba\u015f verm\u0259si onu maraqland\u0131rm\u0131r. B\u0259zi insanlar \u00f6z inciklik hissl\u0259rin\u0259 qalib g\u0259l\u0259 bilmirl\u0259r v\u0259 buna f\u0259rqli yana\u015f\u0131rlar. B\u0259zil\u0259ri h\u0259qiq\u0259t\u0259n m\u0259yus olur, \u00f6zl\u0259rini g\u00fcnahkar hiss edirl\u0259r, b\u0259zil\u0259ris\u0259 qisas plan\u0131 haz\u0131rlay\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n

Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama\u011f\u0131 \u00f6yr\u0259nm\u0259k el\u0259 d\u0259 \u00e7\u0259tin deyil. Lakin ba\u011f\u0131\u015flama\u011f\u0131 ist\u0259m\u0259k, buna qar\u015f\u0131 add\u0131m atmaq \u00e7\u0259tindir. H\u0259min an, h\u0259min o incidiyimiz g\u00fcn ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamaq vacib deyil. Bu n\u0259inki \u00e7\u0259tindir, b\u0259z\u0259n he\u00e7 m\u00fcmk\u00fcn deyil. \u018flb\u0259tt\u0259 bir az zaman laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki h\u0259min an insan h\u0259m q\u0259z\u0259bli olur, h\u0259m ac\u0131 c\u0259kir. N\u0259 q\u0259d\u0259r vaxt\u0131n laz\u0131m oldu\u011funu dem\u0259k \u00e7\u0259tindir, \u00e7\u00fcnki bu bir \u00e7ox amill\u0259rd\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131d\u0131r: sizin x\u0259triniz\u0259 dey\u0259n insanla m\u00fcnasib\u0259td\u0259n, incikliyin ciddiliyind\u0259n v\u0259 s.<\/p>\n

Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flayanda \u00fcr\u0259kd\u0259n ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamaq laz\u0131md\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnki \u0259ks halda incidiyin insana s\u00fcni g\u00fclm\u0259k v\u0259 ya ist\u0259m\u0259d\u0259n, \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc m\u0259cbur ed\u0259r\u0259k onunla dan\u0131\u015fmaq insan\u0131 daxild\u0259n narahat edir.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamaq o dem\u0259k deyil ki, olanlar\u0131 unuduruq v\u0259 ya unutmal\u0131y\u0131q. Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamaq h\u0259m d\u0259 ba\u011f\u0131\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z insan\u0131n \u00f6z davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 d\u0259yi\u015f\u0259c\u0259yin\u0259 z\u0259man\u0259t vermir. Ba\u011f\u0131\u015flamaqla siz daxilinizd\u0259 olan q\u0259z\u0259b, inciklik v\u0259 a\u011fr\u0131dan \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc azad edirsiz.<\/p>\n

\u0130nsan g\u00f6rd\u00fcy\u00fc i\u015fi, etdiyi h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259ti t\u0259hlil etm\u0259lidir. N\u0259yi pis, n\u0259yi yax\u015f\u0131 etdiyini ara\u015fd\u0131rmal\u0131d\u0131r. Pis hesab etdikl\u0259rini d\u00fcz\u0259ltm\u0259y\u0259 \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmal\u0131d\u0131r. \u0130nsan \u00f6z fikirl\u0259rin\u0259, \u00f6z h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259tl\u0259rin\u0259, istifad\u0259 etdiyi k\u0259lm\u0259l\u0259r\u0259 diqq\u0259t yetirs\u0259, \u0259lb\u0259tt\u0259 ki, \u00f6z\u00fcnd\u0259 m\u00fcsb\u0259t keyfiyy\u0259tl\u0259ri formala\u015fd\u0131raraq h\u0259m \u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fcn, h\u0259m d\u0259 \u0259trafdak\u0131lar\u0131n h\u00f6rm\u0259tini qazanar.<\/p>\n

Ayg\u00fcn A\u011fabalayeva<\/p>\n

Psixologiya v\u0259 Konsultasiya M\u0259rk\u0259zinin psixoloqu<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

ARANTV.AZ x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, h\u0259r bir insan\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259n, \u015f\u0259xsi keyfiyy\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olaraq d\u00fcnyaya bax\u0131\u015f\u0131 formala\u015f\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar aras\u0131nda m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259r, inciklikl\u0259r yaran\u0131r. \u0130nsan kimd\u0259ns\u0259 inciyir v\u0259 daxilind\u0259 q\u0259z\u0259b hissi oyan\u0131r. \u0130nciklik \u2013 gizl\u0259dilmi\u015f q\u0259z\u0259b dem\u0259kdir. H\u0259r birimiz n\u0259 vaxtsa kimins\u0259 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n incidilmi\u015fik, pis r\u0259ftara m\u0259ruz qalm\u0131\u015f\u0131q. H\u0259r birimiz d\u0259 kimins\u0259 x\u0259trin\u0259 d\u0259ymi\u015fik, hans\u0131sa xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z s\u00f6z v\u0259 ya h\u0259r\u0259k\u0259t il\u0259 kimis\u0259 narahat etmi\u015fik, q\u0259z\u0259bl\u0259ndirmi\u015fik. El\u0259 olub ki , kiminl\u0259s\u0259 ist\u0259m\u0259d\u0259n pis r\u0259ftar edirik v\u0259 sonra vicdan \u0259zab\u0131 \u00e7\u0259kirik. D\u00fczd\u00fcr, bu hissl\u0259ri h\u0259r k\u0259s\u0259 aid etm\u0259k olmaz. Ad\u0259t\u0259n q\u0259lbimizi yax\u0131n, d\u0259y\u0259r verdiyimiz insanlar yaralay\u0131r.…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":8638,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"gutentor_comment":0,"rttpg_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/bagislamaq.jpg",440,308,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/bagislamaq.jpg",440,308,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/bagislamaq.jpg",440,308,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/bagislamaq-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/bagislamaq-300x210.jpg",300,210,true],"large":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/bagislamaq.jpg",440,308,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/bagislamaq.jpg",440,308,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/bagislamaq.jpg",440,308,false],"post-thumbnail":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/bagislamaq-240x172.jpg",240,172,true],"advps-thumb-one":["https:\/\/arantv.az\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/bagislamaq.jpg",440,308,false]},"rttpg_author":{"display_name":"V\u00fcsal Rafiqo\u011flu","author_link":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/?author=2"},"rttpg_comment":0,"rttpg_category":"C\u0259miyy\u0259t<\/a>","rttpg_excerpt":"ARANTV.AZ x\u0259b\u0259r verir ki, h\u0259r bir insan\u0131n t\u0259rbiy\u0259sind\u0259n, \u015f\u0259xsi keyfiyy\u0259tl\u0259rind\u0259n as\u0131l\u0131 olaraq d\u00fcnyaya bax\u0131\u015f\u0131 formala\u015f\u0131r. \u0130nsanlar aras\u0131nda m\u00fcnaqi\u015f\u0259l\u0259r, inciklikl\u0259r yaran\u0131r. \u0130nsan kimd\u0259ns\u0259 inciyir v\u0259 daxilind\u0259 q\u0259z\u0259b hissi oyan\u0131r. \u0130nciklik \u2013 gizl\u0259dilmi\u015f q\u0259z\u0259b dem\u0259kdir. H\u0259r birimiz n\u0259 vaxtsa kimins\u0259 t\u0259r\u0259find\u0259n incidilmi\u015fik, pis r\u0259ftara m\u0259ruz qalm\u0131\u015f\u0131q. H\u0259r birimiz d\u0259 kimins\u0259 x\u0259trin\u0259 d\u0259ymi\u015fik, hans\u0131sa xo\u015fag\u0259lm\u0259z s\u00f6z v\u0259 ya…","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8637"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=8637"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8637\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/8638"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=8637"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=8637"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/arantv.az\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=8637"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}